women do talk about sex, but usually with each other, not in front of men. Talking frankly about sex with a man is a risk - men can divide women so easily into good girls and whores.

some women are turned on by looking at naked men, and do find men's specific bits attractive. women are socially indoctrinated to think/say men are animals, but women have the same urges, needs and impulses.

what initially turns on a woman? intelligence, humour, kindness, and interest will get a man through the door. and showing an understanding and enjoyment of women's physical needs and stimulation points can transform the experience for any woman. just as, for a man, any woman who enjoys turning him on can transform it for him. when it's mutual, it's perfect.