Hi

I'm a member but I'm going for the anonimity here.

I find that I'm at a bit of a crisis point in my life and I just wanted to know how many people had been here and see what they had done to move on.

A couple of years ago my long term partner left me for a woman who was nearly 20 years his junior. They very quickly had a child and live farily close by. His relationship with our daughter is somewhat fraught - largely due to the emotional immaturity of the woman involved. But we've coped with that. The last two years I have devoted ( emotionally mainly ) to getting my daughter through her education and she is now settled , studing at university and living at home. With help I am sorting out the house, aiming to sell and move to a more central location to reduce travelling and widen my circle of friends.   There you are, all sensibly handled and under control.

But ....

Because I no longer have to worry about my daughter, I know find I have to think about what I'm doing. It's always been sort of laid out and suddenly, given the odd family responsibilty I could do what I want. When I sell the house I'm going to rent for a lttle bit and have told my parents that I will then look to buy another house. But I'm not sure I want to take a large mortgage on. I am unengaged by what I'm doing at work and feel that I'm not putting anything back into society at large.

Anyone want to comment on how they coped with something similar themselves.