sorry about the one above - internet at home so much slower than at work - i over clicked.

In a nutshell - its been a massive change over the last two years and it takes all your assumptions away. Its a problem to do what I want ( if I really knew what it was) and make sure that I'm set up for retirement which is a bit off yet.   Not desparate financially after buying my partner out of the house but not so comfortable that I could easily downsize.

The moving centrally will help to stave off loneliness - people have to be reasonably dedicated to come and visit me here. I have met new people over the last year who have made me think that there could be others for me long term.   But i was really just after other people's experiences. I can't help feeling that I have coped for the difficult time - why am i having trouble now?

I think I will have to add Mah Jong tomy list of thing to learn. Is it more logic or strategy as I'm much better at logic