"hurtful to people who just wanna be happy in their own skin"
If you ARE happy in your own skin, you won't CARE what I think about it... If you do care, then you probably aren't, no matter how much you think you are...
I've found that no matter how 'together' people are, including me, we are all connected to each other and internalise lots of stuff that impacts. In other words, in my humble opinion, we all do care because humanity has a gentleness and a fragility to it as well as a toughness and an 'I don't care-ness'. What would one call it - 'family of man (woman)'? 'tree of life'? 'no-one be an island'? Silly things like clothing does matter - it's our face to the world. Woman cop it worse I think because there are such stereotypes going on, but men also get it nowadays with the 'bee-oo-diful pecs and buns' crap. In the most good-humoured of ways I am simply saying leave people to be what they wanna be and celebrate the diversity and silliness of all of us. As a great(!!) Australian boxer said, "I luv yoos all". And ain't we all marvelous, particularly Giok and Sandra 'cos they flatter me and I will in return - "Yoos is gorgeous". I remember seeing Sandra at St. Albans festival and hadda tell her how grand and stately and just glorious she looked. For what she was wearing but also 'cos she was being 'her'. xx all (it's Saturday, sunny and I'm going to town so feeling damn good and in love with the world)