I think everybody who has worked in bands of one sort or another has got a story about this issue--the longer you've been playing, the more stories you have--

jonm reminded me of a dance band that I once played with--I was the lowly rhythm guitar player, and always got blamed by the banjo player whenever he dropped a beat(which, to the irritation of the dancers, was quite often)--he was one of those people got where he was because of who, and not what, he knew, and soon moved on to a prestigious stage band--I attended one of his first gigs with them, and, as usual, he was dropping beats left and right, even in his featured solos--ever the tactful one, I went up afterwards and loudly said something to the effect that he couldn't blame me for his bad performance this time--