I still say let Mom handle it. Since she wants the girl to stay on the band, she has probably ALREADY had a talk with her daughter. Be sure to keep Mom on your side.

A nice looking girl THAT CAN SING is a big plus for a band, and not so easy to find. You are lucky. TRY to keep her if you can! Are you sure you are doing enough of HER favorite songs? That will improve her attitude too. Don't be too quick to fire someone with such potential. You might discover she was a bigger "attraction" than you had realized. As the saying goes, It's cheaper to keep her.

If you absolutely have to let her go, try to get her into another band, so she can "move up". This way, when you get a new girl, it won't look like you DUMPED girl #1 in favor of girl #2.

-- Or, help her start HER OWN band. Anything to preserve the peace.

The great Henry Kissinger said the most important single factor in foreign policy is to act in such a way that IN THE FUTURE, it will look as though America did the right thing. Same goes for bands.

I'm not too crazy about the idea of breaking up your band and then reforming it. It won't fool anyone in the long run. Why should your other players become part of a phony conspiracy? Breaking up is always a bummer, and you might lose one or two of them along the way.

Oh well, you said comments are welcome so that's my two bits. Good Luck!

== Johnny in Oklahoma City