Wow! five people's opinions on the whole of gay society... glad that's sorted then. I almost missed that one was a former homosexual so he must really know the subject well. I think not somehow.
"Being queer means pushing the parameters of sex, sexuality, and family, and in the process transforming the very fabric of society" can be read several different ways and especially when it comes to changing the minds of those in society who bear a grudge against homosexuals for whatever reason. All the things named above would need some change if a different view is to be taken of gay relationships, marriage, family etc.
I'm afraid I do not see what is wriiten as changing my opinion of fairness and equality in all honesty Akeneton