okay, time for some clarification.



Bob has been playing "bongo drums" with his hands on the "box" (called a cajon, spanish for ...yep, "box") on stage for at least fifteen years.   Not a recent addition.

Haley often accompanied him on his travels.


I'm not saying any of this proves anything, so cool your jets.   Just trying to rein in some of the wilder speculations and theorizing going on.


as to motives: some people on this thread have the best of motives and are genuinely trying to help the victims.   Others are lookieloos at the train wreck, vying with each other to see who can heap the most vitriol on the dead guy.