I regret this has gone to closure already, but it clearly has. I hope you and yours can take some small comfort on seeing all the good company that he is in! The many others who have been railroaded, for good or ill, before him -- and the many others who will be in the future.
In so many cases, it's not the cream that rises to the top -- it's the scum.
Sympathies and best wishes to you both. I have no doubt that in a few years, it will seem far less crushing than it does today.
Kindest regards -- the canoer.