Allan - in my case, I was approached by somebody I don't know well (I've met them three or four times), after a song which I thought had gone well & which had been well received, and told I'd screwed it up. True, there was a recommendation with the criticism, but (assuming there was a problem) I don't believe it would actually have helped.

Part of what's bugging me about the whole episode is that I was too taken aback to say any of this at the time. Another part of it has to do with what Heck says. As it happens, I was feeling tired & low that evening, & I'd been in two minds about going out at all; I decided it would do me good because I'd enjoy the singing, but most of all because in a singaround you feel you're among friends - they're happy to see (and listen to) you and you're happy to see (and listen to) them.

Anyway, I've moaned on about this long enough. In future I'll do a Desiderata and find somebody else to sit next to.