Patsy, I'm so sorry for your losses! I've lost both of my folks in the past 6 years. Grieving is a very difficult, time-consuming process, but it does get easier, eventually. As time goes on, you'll start to remember more happy times with your loved ones, rather than just experiencing their loss. I'm glad, if this information has helped you. From what I read, listening to music or recorded books should be fine, but, like you, I'm trying to stay away from my computer, Kindle Paperwhite, & iPad after 9 PM.