Mom hoarded. They didn't call it that when I was a kid; there was no TV show about it. She was a 'packrat', considered herself a collector.
I would argue with those who aver it is a lesser problem than alcoholism; the negative impact on the hoarder and family is immeasurable.

It wasn't until her house almost burnt down (oh that it would have entirely) due to papers being ignited by a space heater - furnace had broken & she wouldn't allow repairman in - this was after everyone else had moved out & away, that I realized there was a name for her condition. I also realized there was very, very little I could do about it. That was over 15 years ago. She moved back in when the house was repaired and began again. And got much much worse.

The short story is she is now out of her house and in extended care, so problem kinda solved. But this has informed my entire lifetime, and I'm entering the final third.

The difference between Mom and Guest Donna Marie is this, and it is a massive difference: Mom denied she had a problem. Donna Marie thinks she might have one, and is reaching out.

There are resources out there.

The blue clickinator isn't working for me just now. Here is an info page at the OCD foundation:

http://hoarding.iocdf.org/hoarding/about.aspx

Also search for "Children of Hoarders", for links and stories.

The top researchers in the field are Randy Frost and Gail Steketee - a search will yield many papers authoured by them.

Donna Marie, do you have a picture in your head of what you wish your house, or even one room in it looked like?

Wishing you well,
Bardford