Older/Middle Aged Woman..we must somehow educate younger women (and I am totally aware this works m/f, f/m, other nonbinary situations) on how to not engage with pestilential buzz flies. I have been by and large not bothered so I have not had too much personal experience, but I have seen the ruination of so many younger women. You have to head them off at the pass. You have to take responsibility for your own abuse if you are physically safe doing so. You have to tell others of their behavior. You have to know the signs of abuse, and some are subtle.

Here is a really really good one. Leave. Leave everything behind except your children and for God's sake try to not have children with creepy creeps. If they blow hot and cold..he only hits me when he is drunk...usually he is nice but he is under stress...if he is up and down with how he treats you, get tf out. They ..abusers of any gender/sex know how to keep you wondering. They will temporarily reform. take their worst behavior, and use it as what you always are dealing with. Don't take their best behavior if it goes up and down a lot. And of course watch your own behavior. There is no man, not the last man on earth, that is worth taking abuse from. Don't take my personal advice because I have not experienced it...just witnessed and gone what are you thinking of staying with him. HE/SHE IS NOT WORTH IT.