Thanks Kim, I have other women friends I hang out with and know that I want nothing more than friendship from them. In this case I wasnt sure myself what I wanted for some time until lately, but it was difficult to communicate that as there was the risk that it would end. And we were a little bit more than just friends, sort of like Gerry and Elaine. Im not one of those people that believe "that we should preserve what we have as friends by not getting involved" if you really want to be with someone you dont want to be around them and watch them be with someone else. And I really wanted to be with her. So sooner or later it had to come to some resolution. Unfortunately, it went the other way. She is respectful of my decision although she is quite sad about it. Who knows, I may just need to back off for a while and Im sure Ill get over it in time.