thanks marty and Liz Its great to hear other peoples comments on this. An earlier comment above on some fellow suffering in silence but unable to act for fear of jeopardizing the friendship I had been feeling that way for months but I really needed to make it known, because otherwise it really prevents one from moving on and meeting other people. Part of my problem is that her behaviour didnt help, lately she had been flirting with me on occassion so that only made things worse. Even now Im not entirely sure how she feels, even though she says shed like to keep it platonic she admits that I would be a more suitable partner for her but she wishes she could change her feelings.