Hi Guest Fiver and Kendall, THanks for the input!Kendal,what is the exact name and author of the book?Sounds interesting. You have a lot of cool insights to things. Philosophies and metaphors.Thanks it really helped me. As a matter of fact I want to thank all that responded to me and gave me ideas.I hope I can help you someday.Are all of you musicians?I teach music in a public school and play music professionally.I write as well.I mention Roger Mcguinn to be my favorite but I also play a lot of jazz and blues. Kind of like Larry Carlton.Yet I love it all! Guest Fiver you broke the code with the Zappa thing!I can't believe someone out there got the Mudshark thing.(Mothers Of Invention Live At THe Fillmore 71)I'll be damned!Anyway you hit it on the head about supporting her kids.One is 15, the other 17. Both need an exorcist. I tried my hardest to be nice to the these last few years. My wife promised she would pave the way for me and command respect from them.She didn't follow through and as a result we have a power struggle in the house. I swear to God I'm living in hell.This is my second marriage and as a tip for those who get divoced,,,,TAKE YOUR TIME.DON'T RUSH! Ant this advice is for everyone male and female!I jumped trhe gun and didn't look at things from a third person perspective.I'm doing alright though. I'm just not living my life to the fullest.I still have a hot libido but try doing it with an iceberg! (how's that Kendal?)I am practicing not being victimized and she doesn't like it! She just assumes that her kids can get away with being terrorists in the marriage! Enough of this!Anybody out there at anytime needs to talk,I'm here and willin'Take care you guys.Mudshark.....sh sh sh sh sh shark!