Did you mean me, Guest H? I guess I can throw out some info. How long did you date your SO before deciding to become exclusive? Who initiated the exclusivity? Don't have an SO now. Haven't had one in 4+ years. The last one was so sweet, intelligent, considerate, and caring that I have a hard time putting up with anything less. Unfortunately my parents disapproved (though they'd never met him), because he was from a foreign country (here as a student). At the time I was too scared to stand up to them. The guy I'm seeing now is nice, considerate, intelligent, and attractive but I am not sure if he wants to be exclusive or not. I'm not sure if I want to be either. But I have not found anyone else I want to date. How long did you go without communicating between dates before becoming exclusive? Always in the past it was daily, or near daily, contact. Current guy could be 4-5 days. What is the age gap between you and your SO? Current guy is 11 years. He has made comments about being so much older than me, and I try to tell him I don't care, but I don't think it's sinking in. What traits did you not like about your SO but felt were worth overlooking? He drinks more than I think I'm comfortable with. He's forgetful about things sometimes. Those things I can stand, because I do like him quite a bit. It's just I can't figure out if I really mean something to him or if he's just stringing me along. Do you think you'd be happier single? Well, have been fairly content as a single person for many years now, but I do get lonely. Thanks again for all the replies.
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