Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-Apr 29, 2011

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: Partridge
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 02:42 PM

Oh Mick, such sad news. I'm glad you and your daughter are getting support. I am sending my positive and loving thoughts to you, yours, and Terras family.

When things like this happen it makes us all hold our loved ones a little closer. An extra hug, telling your family and friends that you love them.

In this community there is a lot of love, and its there for you.
You are loved and you are never alone.

love

Pat xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: Micca
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 12:15 PM

Mick, I have searched for any words that might contribute anything to this and found none, my heart goes out to you, Ciara, Mary Lou and to Terras family also.
All I can offer is the words of a gifted friend that have brought me comfort at such times.
"Now is the Dark Time
and the cold time too
Gather round Circle of Friends
The comfort of singing voices
will see us through
until the Dark Time ends"
Alouette Iselin

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: catspaw49
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 11:39 AM

Just a quick correction to Sinsull's post above.......The funeral for Terra is scheduled for Thursday, not today.

Whenever it is, they all need our thoughts and prayers..............

Spaw

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 11:28 AM

Sorry, also meant to include the link to the story in the local newspaper:

http://www.mlive.com/grandrapids/stories/index.ssf?/base/news-42/1215436533146250.xml&coll=6

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 11:19 AM

The online obit w/link to the Guest Book is here:

http://obits.mlive.com/GrandRapids/DeathNotices.asp?Page=SearchResults

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: Dave Swan
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 10:46 AM

All warm and kind thoughts on this and every other tough day.

D

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: catspaw49
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 10:32 AM

Special thoughts for all today..........I am still unbelievably without any more meaningful words.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33
From: GUEST,saulgoldie
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 10:24 AM

Words fail me. Thoughts and prayers out to you and all of those close to the girl.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: Willie-O
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 10:09 AM

Oh man, what a tragedy.

I can only repeat that we are holding Ciara, Terra and their families in our hearts. What a difficult time for you all, especially today. Hold the love for those who have lost so much, and we will send more.

I only hope that you will all soon be able to appreciate happy memories of your young friend and family member Terra, whom we all wish could have stayed longer.

Special extra hugs to Ciara and MaryLou.
love
Bill

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: alison
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 09:43 AM

My dear friend Mick,

I just arrived back in Belfast after a few weeks in Spain to read your news.

I am so very sorry for your loss. Ciara is a strong girl - look at the genes - she has her Dad's strength, even though its difficult for you to see your strength at the minute.

love, hugs, prayers and whatever you need winging its way to you and those around you.

check your PMs

slainte

alison

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: BusyBee Paul
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 09:13 AM

More hugs and love from across the pond.

Deirdre in Lincolnshire.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: gnu
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 08:14 AM

Thoughts and prayers... keep the faith, buddy.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: SINSULL
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 08:13 AM

Today is Terra's funeral. My heart is with you and yours, Mick. One day at a time.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: GUEST,Lizzie Cornish
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 06:58 AM

Much love to you, Mick.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: GUEST,KT
Date: 09 Jul 08 - 02:31 AM

Mick, I've been away and without computer access until today. I am so, so sorry. I'm holding all of you in my heart and my prayers.
KT

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33
From: Amos
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 11:42 PM

A big enough man to let his tears show to the world is aman who can weather every storm. SOmetimes a problem won't choke; sometimes the only resolution is to let yourself be with it and feel it fully.

I am with you in spirit, and you can call any time, should you wish; meanwhile, all my love and support, big guy. We're rooting for you and for yours. Thanks for that beautiful communique on community; it restores my faith in human kind.


A

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33
From: Celtaddict
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 11:01 PM

I am so glad that you and Terra's family are able to share your love and concern and grief for both your daughters.
Love and hugs,
Janet

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: Uncle Phil
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 10:51 PM

Michelle and I extend our condolences to both families. I hope the thoughts and prayers reflected in this thread continue to provide you with some measure of comfort.
- Phil

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33
From: Alice
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 09:01 PM

Love to you and all there with you, Mick.

Alice

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33
From: GUEST
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 08:10 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss. Just know that our thoughts are with you and your daughter.

JAB

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-7/8@9:33am**
From: Little Hawk
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 06:27 PM

Good on you, Mick. We are all with you in spirit.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-8/8@9:33am**
From: irishenglish
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 04:48 PM

Don't know how on earth this slipped by me, but Mick-all the best for these tough times....all the best.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-8/8@9:33am**
From: Barry Finn
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 04:44 PM

Hi Mick, you don't need to say much, just let us know how you & yours are doing from time to time, we all want to see this through with you & your family, lean on us, as much as you'd like. Best of luck buddy. Glad to hear that you're weathering the storm as best you can. If it helps to know all our are hearts are acking right along with you.

Barry

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-8/8@9:33
From: jacqui.c
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 04:40 PM

Love to you all Mick - we will be here, every day, checking the thread.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-8/8@9:33am**
From: Zen
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 11:52 AM

My thoughts are with you, your daughter and your family, and also with Terra's too.

Strength to you all.

Zen

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: katlaughing
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 11:16 AM

What Sinsull said and the others. Thank you for coming back to catch us up, Mick, and rest assured we are here for you and all concerned.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Wesley S
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 10:59 AM

I'm glad to hear that you're getting the support you need now. It will continue for some time to come. We're here for you too.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Barbara Shaw
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 10:49 AM

Mick, I too have shed many a tear on reading this thread and hearing about the burdens so many people have to bear. What is heartening is the evidence of so much love and so much caring in this world, during a time when all seems hopeless and we all feel helpless. Here's my own little offering of love and caring...

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Trevor
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 10:19 AM

Mick - I've only just spotted this. I've been on the receiving end of love lately, from all over the world, channelled through this place - the warmth is tangible, and it worked for Hollie, Helen and me.
Don't know what else to say, but...(((((((((((()))))))))))) from Shropshire.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Ferrara
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 10:02 AM

Oh, Mick. Obviously both Ciara and Terra are very, very well loved. Thank you for taking the time to let us know a bit more.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: SINSULL
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 09:47 AM

Mick,
None of us expected a visit to this thread or a response to our PMs. It is a relief to know that you and Mary Lou are surrounded by good, supportive people. It is a bigger relief to know that Terra's parents will support Ciara through her mourning.
You and your family have earned your place in that loving community. Let them continue to help you.
Be well, my friend.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Big Mick
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 09:33 AM

I am sorry I haven't revisited or responded to all of you. I have been living in a hospital, and trying to make sense out of all this.

Ciara is a wonderful kid, with a very big heart, and loved by all who know her. This tragedy is going to take a toll, but my baby has enough heart to spare some.

I must tell you about some remarkable people. Terra's family, shattered at the loss of their baby, and yet they are concerned about Ciara. We will grieve the loss of this daughter together. They have made special time for us to come and grieve together. There are no recriminations, nothing but love and concern for the little girl left behind. I am almost overcome by my grief for them, and for our own loss of the little girl who claimed our guest room and left the blanket that Ciara now will not sleep without.

Community. I have spent a lifetime working in communities around this country. They have names, like Phoenix, Houston, Sioux Falls, Philadelphia. Or so I thought. Those are just place names. Community is the 15 kids that showed up yesterday from a little town 40 miles away to tell my daughter they are here for her. Community is the little girl and her Mother who loved Terra, and showed up in the intensive care unit at almost midnight and asked the nurse if they could just check on her. Community are the 6 mothers that show up every day from such a long way away just to be here for our family. Community is the Protestant and Catholic churches both praying and rallying the kids to my kids support.

Community is a bunch of good folks, from all over the world that come to this site each day and check if there is anything new. It is prayers and good thoughts from Christians, Jews, Moslems, Pagans, agnostics and atheists for my little girl. It is old friends and old antagonists, all laying it aside to care about my little girl.

I am a big man, and I usually am the one who grabs a problem by the throat and chokes the life out of it. But today, I am just a guy who could not cope, and might have broken in the face of all this .... were it not for community. I am choking on tears for what my sweet kid has to face. But we will face it together ... strengthened by the love, prayers, and good wishes or our friends and family ..... our loving community.

Thank you...... its all I can think to say.

Love,

Mick

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: Peg
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 09:29 AM

I'm very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. This kind of thing is always devastating. I have been through it myself more than once. Losing someone suddenly, especially someone young, is just about the hardest thing to go through in this life, in my opinion. Time does heal but it is not an easy road. My thoughts and well wishes go out to you and the families and friends involved.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: Andrez
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 08:06 AM

Mick,

I dont know you or even what country you are in but with so much that is sad and tragic in our world today I just dont have enough tears for all of that but reading your story and the posts above in response I can shed tears for you and your family as well as the family of Ciara's friend. I dont really have any words I can offer despite being someone who did 14 years working with damaged and hurt children in child protection.

I had a very near miss road accident the other night that could have involved a vehicle hitting the passenger door where my 14 year old daughter was sitting. The error was mine, a moment of inattention, but three days later I'm still shaking at even the thought of what might have happened if I'd been a little slower on the brakes.

So I'd just like to add some tears to the love and warmth already flowing out to you and your daughter Ciara and the family of Ciara's friend too because somethings are just too big for words.

Hugs, thoughts and prayers,

Andrez

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: Mooh
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 07:07 AM

Very, very sorry to hear of this. What heartache! Be strong in the face of it all.

Have been away for a few days and without highspeed or a reliable phone line, so I'm late to the thread as usual. With two daughters, one of them still a teen and still at home, my home is often populated with kids that aren't mine in the conventional sense, but are all "ours". We try to love them all, however fleeting their acceptance, and it's wonderful when they tell us how comfortable they feel in our home.

Once in a while we are hurt by life, but we go on living. When the particulars of the aftermath of loss are past, we are left with the good memories, the warm feelings, and the knowledge that we did our best for those we love.

Our thoughts and prayers.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Bryn Pugh
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 04:50 AM

Thanks for the update, Spaw. Blessings, to you and to Mick from Erica and Bryn

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Hawker
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 04:19 AM

Mick! been off line, and came back to this! So sorry, kindest thoughts and love for you, your daughter, your family and your daughter's friends family. We are all here for you.
love, Lucy

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: eddie1
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 03:03 AM

Hi Mick

We've never "met" on the pages of Mudcat but I feel for you. Time does not take the pain away but it does blunt it. The day will come when you and your daughter can look back at memories, appreciate the times you all had together, and smile. May this day not be too far off and may there be lots of these memories.

Eddie

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: JennieG
Date: 08 Jul 08 - 02:07 AM

Mick, I'm so sorry. Ciara has you to help her through, and you have us.

Love and hugs
JennieG

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Little Hawk
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 11:09 PM

We will all soar like that someday. Love never dies.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: Janie
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 09:54 PM

We call to the East, the dawn, the place of beginnings, birth, renewal

To all the creatures of the East, the two leggeds, the four leggeds, the creepycrawlies
those that walk, or crawl on the ground, burrow in the earth, or fly up in the air
The plant people, the insect people
We call on all the creatures of the East to join us now in this sacred circle
for Mick, Ciara, Terra, Mary Lou, and all their circle of kin and loved ones.

We call on all the creatures of the East.

To the South, the land of light, warmth. The place of growing.
To all the creatures of the South, the plant people, the insect people
The two-leggeds and the four leggeds. The six leggeds and the no leggeds.
To all the creatures of the South
Come join us now in this circle of sorrow and healing.

To the West, the land of death, harvest, the place of crossing over to the spirit world.
To all our relations in the West
The creepy-crawlies, the insect people, the two-leggeds, the four leggeds
To all that walk or crawl upon or within the ground, or fly up in the air.
To all the creatures of the West, we invite you now to come join our sacred circle.

And to the North, the land of dark, cold, the place of rest, of sleep, of dormancy
To all the creatures of the North, those that fly, those that crawl
Those that walk upon the earth or tunnel underground.
To all who dwell in that sacred place of rest, darkness, dormancy
To all our relations in the North, come join us now to make this sacred circle.

To all the creatures of the earth and in the four directions,
Join us now in this great circle
All the creatures of the East, the South, the West, the North
The two-leggeds, the four-leggeds, the winged ones, the legless ones
Those that walk, those that crawl, those that fly, those that live beneath the ground.
To All Our Relations, join us in this circle, sacred. Whole.
From all the four directions, come now and sit with us as we encircle
Terra. Ciara. Mick. Mary Lou. The Mother of Terra. The Father of Terra.
The brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, grandparents of Terra.
Brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, grandparents of Ciara.

To all our relations, join us now in this circle that is the great web of life.

Mick, I don't generally get a 'sense' about these things, but am getting clear images that Terra is soaring on long-wing feathers,

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: Fortunato
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 09:08 PM

Dear Mick,

I'm sorry to be late is seeing this thread. First I'm very, very sorry to hear of the accident and the sad news about your daughter's friend.

I cannot help being glad, however, that you're daughter will recover physically and mentally, at least in time.

I send you encouragement and good thoughts.

Use your good mind and strong heart to put unproductive thoughts behind you. Feel it completely and then let them go.

cheers,
chance

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: katlaughing
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 08:41 PM

Jaze, I hope you don't mind and this isn't too painful of a reminder. I thought this old post of yours might be helpful for Mick and the families:

To quote the priest at my daughter's funeral, "It's a pain you 'll always carry. But know that you'll never have to carry it alone. There are many who will walk with you and remember with you".

Indeed, we are here, Mick.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: karen k
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 08:35 PM

Mick, I've been putting off posting because I just have no words. My heart aches or both your families. Mick, Ciara, Mary Lou and Terra's family, you are all in my heart and my thoughts. How I wish there was more that I could do.

You all have my love,
karen kobela

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: GUEST,Jaze
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 07:29 PM

Mick, I'm so sorry to hear of this awful news. Eight years ago my 15 yo daughter and 2 friends were killed in an awful wreck. The people here at Mudcat, whom I hardly knew, helped me more than they'll ever know. They're here for you now. My thoughts and prayers to you and the famiies involved.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: Sorcha
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 06:37 PM

Thank you Sins.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: Charley Noble
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 06:01 PM

Sinsull-

Thanks for the update.

Charley Noble

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 05:58 PM

Sorcha...

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: catspaw49 - PM
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 11:25 AM

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/8
From: SINSULL
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 05:57 PM

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: catspaw49 - PM
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 11:25 AM

I had a short conversation with Mick yesterday.......just checking in and trying to show support. He's a strong man with great spirit but to say he is low right now is understatement. He knows as we all do what a life altering thing this is and how hard it will be to move on.

He has contacted support people within the hospital for help in dealing with it all. The beauty of Mick is that he knows they need that help and is not "toughing it out alone" as many often do. I see Harpy's list and I'm sure he will. I also offered sister Connie who has done tons of work in grief counseling. Its still early on and very hard for him to do much except to work through moment to moment (my take anyway).

Ciara has a lacerated liver and lacerated spleen which the MD's feel will heal as well as a concussion and assorted bruising.

As I read this thread I once again wish we were a true geographical community to be together physically at times like these. I know many of you feel the same. I am also struck at how difficult it is for so many generally "wordy" people to find anything to say. I know I can't..................

Keep sending the best you have. I am sure all those thoughts and prayers have helped me in the past......maybe even the reason I'm still here. I know Mick and all the families involved will need whatever we can do.

Pat

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick SeeSpawUpdate-7/
From: Sorcha
Date: 07 Jul 08 - 05:44 PM

So, where is this Spaw Update? I'm not finding it.