BS: Adoption & New Mommy

Subject: RE: BS: Adoption & New Mommy
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Dec 08 - 07:01 PM

I posted and it seems to have gone away. Darn!

Books. You have to get books early and read to them every day for years. You'll be amazed at their reading and verbal skills when you do this, and don't stop just because they go to school or can read themselves.

Even if you're not nursing, The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche League is a great book for a lot of issues like feeding, making your own baby food, and the family bed (as has been discussed above).

And I suggested that maybe we should do a virtual baby shower.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Adoption & New Mommy
From: LilyFestre
Date: 15 Dec 08 - 07:29 PM

Books? WOOO HOOOO, now THAT I have!! I have been collecting children's books for YEARS! We have a great library nearby too, so if I don't have it, chances are they will!!!!!!

We do hope to make at least SOME Of our own baby food as we grow a great deal of the produce that we eat, as well as raise some of our own meat. I wouldn't have thought to look in a book about breast feeding for this subject, but hey, why not? I'll check it out!!!

I'm sure the name thing will evolve as it should and really just looking SO forward to meeting our children!! I am loving hearing from all of you about it....that's the interesting thing about becoming a parent, we are hearing SO much and are learning even more!!! If we go with Bodhi, we will be pronouncing it Bo-di (Long o & long i). As for the girl's name, that is the name of my great, great aunt and I have loved this name forever...Annzinette, Anzie for short. I also really like Gracie and Sadie...all of which are family names. The male family names...well....let's just say we don't like them...Harold, George, Richard....not that there's anything wrong with these names...they just aren't what WE like. DH keeps saying if we get a boy, he wants to name him Elmore. *eyeroll & laugh* Um. No. I know he likes the musician but um, no...just NO! LOL It certainly has led to some interesting and FUNNY conversations!

And naming a child so they won't get picked on...man...that's tough. Kids pick on everything. They make rhymes that don't rhyme, they sing songs, they tease, taunt, etc...they can just be plain mean. I'm off to check out the link you posted to the Ethiopian names...I've seen a few of these sites but can't figure out how to say the names...maybe this one will have a cheat sheet to help me figure it out!!!

I met one couple and their absolutely stunning Ethiopian baby girl and they had pictures of her taken in the outfit she arrived at JFK in....it was the most beautiful little outfit, complete with headband...traditional wear from her country...I love that!!!!!!!

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Adoption & New Mommy
From: SINSULL
Date: 16 Dec 08 - 09:38 AM

I recently read an article in our local paper about a woman who adopted a child from China. She wanted her daughter to retain a working knowledge of her native culture. She was able to find other adoptive parents of Chinese children and togehter theystarted a school/play group with a Chinese teacher who taught them music, dance, Mandarin Chinese, etc. Eventually it grew into an accredited school which is still made up of 70% Chinese adoptees.

An interesting approach.

Subject: RE: BS: Adoption & New Mommy
From: Azizi
Date: 16 Dec 08 - 11:04 AM

Here's another website that has a larger selection of Ethiopian names. That website also includes this link to an Australian article on changing the names of adopted children"

http://www.smh.com.au/articles/2003/10/22/1066631507546.html
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As I mentioned earlier in this conversation, I think what you name your child should be your choice. I believe that there are pros and cons about giving a child a name from his or her biological heritage, particularly in the case of transracial adoption when the name given is very different from the names of other children that child will interact with.   

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Regarding how to pronounce Ethiopian names, I'm no expert, though I have met some Ethiopian men and women in Pittsburgh, PA and I known some African Americans who have Ethiopian names. However, I don't think you'll go far wrong if you use the vowel sounds that you may have learned in Spanish or Italian.
a-ah
e-a
i=e
o-o
u-oo

Also, with many African names, usually the emphasis appears to be placed on the next to the last syllable.

Fwiw, that's how my KiSwahili name is pronounced ah-Zee-zee {not that I'm suggesting "Azizi" as a name for your child}. Also, for what it's worth, I love the girl's name Annzinette, Anzie" that you're thinking of selecting. The fact that this is the name of your great, great aunt, makes it an extra special name for your child.

Btw, I'm not saying that I like the name Annzinette just because I'm partial to names that have a "z" in them.

:o)

Subject: RE: BS: Adoption & New Mommy
From: GUEST,Lilyfestre
Date: 17 Dec 08 - 10:00 AM

LOL!!!

Sure Azizi, suuurrree...LOL   ;o) *Big Grin*

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Adoption & New Mommy
From: Azizi
Date: 17 Dec 08 - 10:33 AM

;o)