BS: What would your 'other' life be like?

Subject: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Donuel
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 12:05 PM

Maybe it exists in a parallel time line or maybe it was just one tiny option/decision/opportunity away, but what is your other like in your imagination?

What tiny thing changed the rest of your timeline?

I played the baritone and tenor sax. The dirty riffs give me a tingly back to this day. On the science side of things I got involved in DNA computer scans and was stymied to find the red rain of India was a cellular life form that only reproduced at 260 degrees F. I fmarried an Asian lady who played piano and had 3 children. For 12 years I lived on the northern west coast of America.

The tiny thing that changed was that my grade school had a Saxophone instead of a Cello to begin my music education.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Amos
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 12:12 PM

In alternate life # 1123, I stayed in San Francisco and began playing guitar with the boys who were going to become the Jefferson Airplane in the near future. I spent a short intense career making millions writing deathless acid-rock lyrics and burned out, retired to an ashram, and later became a writer of New Age spiritual guidance books.

In # 2301, I scrimped and saved at various jobs and bought a schooner, which I run up and down the East coast to tall-ship conventions, holding chanty fests and taking gawkers on overnights beyond the horizon.

In alternate life #1234, I tweaked oscillators and magnetic fields in my garage and discovered a relatively simple, low-energy method of unbonding hydrogen, recovering a lot of the energy stored in the bonds, and made billions re-energizing Western civilization.

How many do you want? :D


A

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Donuel
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 12:17 PM

What small event (tiny thing) happened to change everything from your current life to that "other" life.

I have thought of this concept for years.


A romcom movie once showed how a tiny change on a subway platform was significant. I forget the title.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Donuel
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 12:22 PM

releasing H from water.... been there done that by acoustic vibratory cavitation. But breaking the bonds? Do you realize that the bonds in the atoms in one penny- if released- would be enough energy to toss a Super Aircraft Carrier straight up in the air?

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: MGM·Lion
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 12:35 PM

The film mentioned above by Donuel was Sliding Doors, with Gwyneth Paltrow [1998].

~M~

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Little Hawk
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 12:57 PM

In my alternate life I never heard of Mudcat Cafe and never posted there. ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 01:06 PM

What changed mine? In a sense Christianity although I blame a combination of me and the other one... It went from just get by to oft times sheer hell and badder blunders my me. I've been in a cell accused as a rapist when I had sex when anyone and have to carry no smoke without fire. I've picked up a wrong INO label schizophrenic, I am a chronic alcoholics. When I finally did get to "know" a woman, she had a bf in prison and things got messy, her beaten up and me followed around and so it goes on.

What I'd like is just to be given a break and be allowed for once to lead a "normal" life. And stick with the "normal" life. I do not really care wether that normal life would finally allow me a house away from parents or become a monk. I just want a break.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 01:09 PM

Sorry, when I had not had sex with anyone. I've only ever "known" the one with bf in prison.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Amos
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 01:14 PM

Choose your people wisely, grasshopper. They define your life.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Little Hawk
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 01:21 PM

What you DO defines your life.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Amos
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 01:24 PM

Oh LH, pray do not be so pretentious!!

There are many ways to define your life. Obviously the core is who you are, and thereafter how you create yourself to be in the world. And thence, what you do. But it is also true that if you are connected with dismal souls, your life will gravitate toward the dismal, and conversely if you are connected with positive, energetic, productive souls. You get to choose your matrix of agtreements. That's why you still come here where all the handshakes are a little firmer, and all the smiles a little brighter.

A

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 01:37 PM

No LH....

While there might have eventually been bad reaction on my part, having folkinfo hacked, dropping the rebuilding for fear of turning back to drink, having dvd drive then blow up, then having father going into irrational blazes then when taking solace in music and have a £300 pa amp blo uo on me is largely beyond my control.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Little Hawk
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 01:38 PM

Yes to all if the above. ;-) In your last post, I mean.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Bee-dubya-ell
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 02:09 PM

In my other life, my parents were very supportive of my interest in guitar when I was a young teen. Instead of buying me the cheapest piece of crap guitar and amp they could find, they bought me a Gibson ES-335 and a nice Fender amp and paid for me to take lessons. As a result, I became an electric guitar god, played before stadiums full of adoring fans, had sex with thousands of groupies, and died from an overdose of heroin at age 28.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 02:10 PM

Oh I'd like my final other life to be a place of eternal happiness. In my terms Heaven.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Little Hawk
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 02:25 PM

I'd like a place of eternal youth, constant personal growth and discovery, challenge, friendship, and change, and lots of live music to be played. That would be Heaven to me.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Alan Whittle
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 04:13 PM

I suppose you're right - anybody sane would want their life to be better. It certanly would have been nice to have had early success as a songwriter, and appreciative audiences throughout.

But I wouldn't really like to have written songs other than my own.

Earlier in my life, i would have like to have written 'Blowin' in the wind' and 'Streets of London' - it would have been nice to pay my parents mortgage off , and help out friends more than I've been able to.

However to write other peoples songs - you would have to lead their lives and be those people.

Sod that! I gave it my best shot - still do! If that's not enough, bollocks to immortal hand and eye that wrought me.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: akenaton
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 04:36 PM

I love this life, with all its disappointments and contradictions.

I've been so lucky to be brought up in the middle of a great big loving extended family...To be taught about life by the most wonderful man on earth..to have learned how to do things to help others in a practical way...to be healthy....to know what truth is..to have a good family...to have met some here who have made me a better person(I hope).

Nope....this life is fine, I dont wish for anything.....well maybe to be as good on the guitar as I would like to be   :0)

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 04:48 PM

in my other life.. daughter still alive

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: akenaton
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 04:51 PM

I'm sorry my dear.....that must be one of the very worst things life can throw at you.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Bill D
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 05:23 PM

My 'other' life was going to be as a professor of Philosophy....as I was going thru graduate school, I happened to attend the annual APA (Amer.Phil.Assoc.) meeting (1969, I think). One of the things they do there is interview for jobs. I was not being interviewed, but I heard the statistics....there were 85 or so positions listed..... and 1200 applicants. I was a 'good' student, but not an excellent student, and it was obvious they simply didn't need many philosophers.

Would I have been a better student if I hadn't gotten married at 19 and had to work more than study? **shrug**...maybe..

If I had known I had a talent for woodworking before I was 50....might have been different...

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 07:34 PM

I'd like to start again from the age of eighteen but in possession of my current brain. Not the beer gut or man boobs - just the brain please.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Donuel
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 08:00 PM

Maybe it was 2 seconds that divided your path, maybe it was not asking a question, maybe it was missing that week with flu.

Maybe it was that sperm that was 1/100th of a second behind the winner, but in the life we have that we can change and choose, Woody Allen says 80% of it is determined by just showing up.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,mg
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 08:18 PM

I would be married to Patrick Fantastic and have 8 children and 50 grandchildren and not a trace of guilt over overpopulation (I would have adopted some) and live in a big house with floors that polished themselves and enough money and the Dubliners would call me up and say could they please sing with me and especially John Sheahan would call me up and say could he please play fiddle with me, at my convenience of course. And I would wear all Pendleton clothes except when I was cross-country skiing or deep sea diving. I would have a hearty appetite and not gain weight and my hair would not go frizzy in the rain. And I would do good deeds for the world not wishing to be social parasite. And a good number of my grandchildren would do Irish step dancing. mg

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 08:27 PM

Yeah, I had hair like that. Once.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Donuel
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 08:47 PM

mg, what divided your present path from the one with Patrick Fantastic? Nothing but wishful thinking?

Bill, you could have showed up and found that 1,100 other people didn't show up.

Could haves, should haves and if onlys count in this retrospective flight of fancy but sometimes a meanlingless event like spending 2 minutes looking for your other matching sock may make all the difference. Maybe even between life and death.

The other life you could have had may have been a total disaster, but almost* everyone thinks of the possible alternative to be better than the path they have. The grass isnlt always greener
*******************************************************************

Falling out of the canoe in a whirlpool changed my fingering hand forever. The cahllenge to keep playing music may have been what led to scholorships and student deferments that kept me out of Viet Nam.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 09:10 PM

I'd like to start again from the age of eighteen

That's an interesting one. I think I'd need to go back to the age of 7 though. Am awful lot blew up when my grandmother died... There is so much I'd at least think current brain would have handled better, avoided, etc.

That said I'm not entirely convinced where a succession of IF only gets me

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Janie
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 09:32 PM

What tiny thing changed the rest of your timeline?

Every tiny thing changes the rest of one's timeline. Every one of the infinite choices we make, second-by-second, minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour, day-by-day, changes our timeline.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Janie
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 10:05 PM

AKA "what Amos said."

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Bill D
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 10:08 PM

You mean....if I turn off this PC and go to BED, I might miss something that would alter my life in unforeseen ways? Wow,,,,that's quite a


*click*

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 10:20 PM

We get back to IFs, Bill. Perhaps in your early night sleep you could have a dream that alters your view on something.   

If you stay online, perhaps a thought posted by another would be read in a different way...


Who knows? I don't...

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Janie
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 10:28 PM

LOL!

Wondering how your life has been altered in unforeseen ways by your decision to go to BED!

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 22 Nov 10 - 10:40 PM

To attempt to put it in medical terms, Janie, perhaps your subconscious mind might work on something?

Again, who knows?

From my own personal POV, I have many regrets, etc. but where any different decision I made would have taken me can only be a matter of speculation.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 02:38 AM

The posts above has started the morning so sad. Whoever has had a bad time I hope that you get some happiness.

My other life would be in an animal conservation park, surrounded by people who make great music, good friends and perhaps be an agony aunt kind of person in my spare time.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 02:41 AM

hhmmm could start a counter thread.....

How the internet ruined/saved my life.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 03:02 AM

LOL VT. On that one I could say both...

Internet fall outs (of which I'm not without blame) have certainly played a part in my destruction. Loosing folkinfo in the sense I am too unwell to put it back after the hacking forms part of my (perhaps self) destruction.

OTOH, I can't pretend I've not had happy discussions... with MC in days past not had happy times on Hearme playing and singing with others, etc.

To me, it's been and I veiw it as rather mixed...

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Darowyn
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 03:41 AM

If I had my life again, and knew at 16 all the things I know now....


I'd have made a whole lot of different mistakes and stupid decisions.
Actually the mistakes and stupid decisions that I did make, have brought me to a place and a life that I really like.

So, No regrets, except that I wish that some of the learning processes had not been quite so painful.... but I still got to write some good songs about them, so even that worked out.
Cheers
Dave

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 04:18 AM

Do you think this might be a good idea, a new thread about how glad you didn't take a certain path knowing what you know now. For instance I am glad that I didn't remain married to my ex-husband because I would have stayed a voiceless doormat or something as simple as not putting a fortune on a horse that you were considering.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Shimrod
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 05:13 AM

I suffer from epilepsy. This means that occasionally I experience 'absences' (or 'petit-mal' episodes) which, to me, are of indeterminate duration. Very occasionally I have had a full blown fit which has rendered me unconscious. During the absences I seem to be perceiving a completely different life which is, in some sense, being lived in parallel to the life that I think I'm living on a day-to-day basis. When the absences go away I cannot remember any details of the 'other life'(or, possibly, lives). My Neurologist tells me that this is a common feature of my type of epilepsy. I have often wondered what these experiences mean or signify. The scientific explanation (as I understand it) is that the neurons in the brain are supposed to fire for short, fixed periods (probably microseconds) but in epilepsy they get 'stuck', triggering a sort of cascade. But I do wonder if I'm being afforded a glimpse of some sort of alternate reality or, perhaps, the cascade is allowing me to access earlier, accumulated memories (with all of the emotional trappings that went with them) which would normally be inaccessible. I can only speculate - but will probably never really know.
I suspect that I have always had a mild form of this condition but beyond the age of 50 it got worse and I have had two full-blown fits in the last 10 - 12 years. I am now on medication (my GP tells me that it's a low dose) and the condition now appears to be under control. The 'door' to the 'other world' (or doors to the other worlds) now appears to be shut. To be quite honest, I'm not too unhappy about this - involuntary access to other dimensions is quite scary!

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Donuel
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 10:04 AM

Wow, these ideas are more honest and fascinating than I could have imagined.

To be honest I thought that the ideas in the classic rock song "without Love, where would you be now" would probably have been the fulcrum for tilting between one path or another.
The other side of that coin are the deliberate attacks by individuals and or institutions.

The more I learned about the love life of Einstien or JS Bach the more I saw love as central to their contributions. But then there are odd eggs like Monks or Newton or Aristhene.






I daresay that involuntary access to other dimensions and wonders is the primal experience of all sentient beings. The unasked for realities that have been heaped on you are different than mine but must be shared in order to see a larger cosmos with more eyes in places we ourselves may never go.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: John P
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 10:50 AM

I would have begged and borrowed the extra money I needed to accept the small scholarship Harvard offered me. I'd probably be a lawyer now and maybe a Congressperson. Would I have played as much great music had I done that? Probably not . . . I spent a good chunk of my adult life being under-employed so my job wouldn't interfere too much with my music.

If I hadn't moved to Seattle as a young adult I might not have ever gotten into folk music. I'd probably still be playing keyboards in jazz fusion or progressive rock bands in Michigan.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Ebbie
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 12:01 PM

"The 'door' to the 'other world' (or doors to the other worlds) now appears to be shut. To be quite honest, I'm not too unhappy about this - involuntary access to other dimensions is quite scary!" Shimrod

Fascinating glimpse into the brain. Thanks, Shimrod. Your experience reminds me of the practically split-second glimpse into an ongoing 'other' life during a dip into sleep when one is jerked right back. The teeny experience one often has when exhausted or 'other-worldly' in some sense.


In my own 'other' life, given my upbringing it is hard to dream up a coherent path I would have followed. Little doubt but that I would still have rebelled but how effectively is a matter for reckoning.

But here goes:

In my other life - the road not taken - my family would have remained in Oregon instead of moving to Virginia when I wss not quite 14.

I would have been allowed to stay in school although probably forced to leave at 16. But 16 is quite different from 13 and that difference would have bought me valuable time and insights and, just possibly, a mentor.

Ah, too depressing. Great idea for a thread, though, Donuel.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 12:07 PM

I'm living it. The pivotal moment was when I retired (the first time). I was once an engineer.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Joe Offer
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 09:45 PM

"Clumper," your identity is suspect. By rights, all of your posts should be deleted. I suggest you log in with your regular Mudcat membership, and that you consistently use the same identity every time you post.

-Joe Offer, Forum Moderator-

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 23 Nov 10 - 10:27 PM

Maybe, in my 'other life' I just wouldn't care.

GfS

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Allan C.
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 06:24 AM

MacNamara had called for 64,000 more troops for Vietnam. I was on my way back home from a disappointing interview with the Peace Corps in which they told me there was one more test I would need to take two months from then. As I rode the bus through Alexandria, Virginia, it stopped just opposite the post office which also housed the recruiting station for Army, Navy, and Air Force. Reasoning that I hated bell-bottom trousers and that only a few people in the Air Force carried rifles, I got off the bus. A few days after talking with the Air Force recruiter, he phoned to tell me to be at his office early Monday morning to be inducted. Moments after this phone call the mailman delivered my draft notice from the Army.

Had I not decided to get off the bus I feel sure that I would have become a statistic of soldiers killed in Vietnam.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: MGM·Lion
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 06:58 AM

Oh, as to that: a joke I once made up for my first wife was to the effect that, had I been born to my parents in Warsaw rather than in London, I should not have become a theatre critic, I should have become a lampshade.

She didn't find it funny, for some reason.

~Michael~

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 08:35 AM

A man instead? No thanks as much as I love them.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 09:04 AM

Hmmm, changing sex, Patsy? That would not be one of mine....I'm happy as a man on that one.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 09:10 AM

Although on reflection, I'd be happy being without gender, a sexless creature with no carnal desires - but humans are not built that way...

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 10:15 AM

I've always been happy to have been female with or without women's lib. Male chat is great talking about football or motorbikes etc. but it is nice to have female understanding on things from time to time. But now there are some women who like football too so yes I am happy to stay femme even in the other life.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Joe Moran
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 04:46 PM

I wonder about this one.
A) First alternative: I was adopted as a baby and so I could have had a different life with different parents, different school, different location.
B) Failed 11+ . This was an UK exam which decided - at 11 years of age - whether a child would go to a grammar school or bog standard a secondary school. I often wonder if my life would have taken a very different direction had I passed that exam.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: lefthanded guitar
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 05:07 PM

I would have learned to speak the language of the dolphins, loved younger and more, and be able to play guitar like Chris Smither.

I'd bring my own floor too.   ;)

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Donuel
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 07:29 PM

With the power of a million Hadron colliders we will one day be able to stretch space so quickly that our bodies would become virtually two dimensional in relation to the expanding space field which would allow us several nano seconds to slip into an adjoining dimensional reality. After several 4D weeks most humans adjust their vision to comprehend seeing all sides of 3D objects at once and grow accustomed to be able to pass through any 3D barrier or even a bank vault by just dropping in from the the Z axis. Time is the last major hurltle to understand. In the new dimension, the time we call present includes the past and future so that they both effect the uber present and are as changeable as the normal present from our original 3D universe.

Yeah in my other life I would be a scifi writer.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: MarkS
Date: 24 Nov 10 - 11:01 PM

I once had a dream in which, in an altered state of being, I morphed into a different timeline and ran into my alternate self.
Alternate self looked at me and said, "Don't marry her."

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: LadyJean
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 12:10 AM

If I could have a wish granted, I'd like to have been the daughter my mother wanted.

The learning disability wouldn't be there. I'd be thinner, and better looking. I'd be a lot less like my father, and much more of an extrovert. I'd have a wonderful job, I'm not sure doing what, but it would be wonderful. I'd be a better housekeeper, or else able to pay someone else to do the housework. I suppose I'd be married, though I can't think to who, and I wouldn't be spending my evenings online.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 12:28 AM

Being less like my father is one I'd have liked... We can often be at loggerheads and I used to not want to admit it but Pip/mum is right in that we both have the same Freeman family temperament. A destructive side of which is that while non-violent by nature I hope, we both have explosive tempers. His these days after a fit of rage can drive him into bed unwell. Mine can drive me to the drink that I know (at least in that way) is my enemy...

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 03:15 AM

I love my boys but I would have loved to have had that little daughter.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: Joe Offer
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 03:28 AM

Well, in my other life, I'd be a Catholic priest...but not a celibate one. That not being the case, I'm having a darn good time in my current life, which is quite an adventure.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 03:38 AM

Just asked mother pn that one Patsy. I am one of her 4 sons... But would she have liked a daughter,? Apparently and currently yes. She feels that through some of her own woes, a daughter would have been easier to relate with...

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 04:15 AM

Well I am an only one but the rest of my cousins are male and now I work in a male orientated job so girly chat would have been wonderful. This is probably why I like to read or watch 'Little Women'

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 04:26 AM

Joe to be honest between you and me when I was 15 I was considering taking my vows but looking back it would have been for the wrong reasons.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 04:34 AM

Never really knew my cousins, Patsy. Uncle John and Aunty Pat both RIP never had kids. Uncle Brian and Aunty Elizabeth did have 3 but She became to me on the rare occasion I met her (she in Norfolk and me either N Wales or kent at the times) found her weirdly possessive/ protective.

I think the only one IIRC was cousin Jane. Think she had a bf/husband who topped himself...

And so it goes on....

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 08:07 AM

I would hate to think that I inherited any of the traits from my Grandfather on my Dad's side and I know my Dad would agree with that he was a particularly nasty piece of work. At my Grandmother's funeral, my Dad's mother, who he had been very cruel through their marriage tried to draw me to sit beside him but it was discouraged by my parents. Would my life had been different if I had sat by him forgetting what he was like? I will never know, if I had given him the chance to talk to me I would have been disloyal to my Dad. Despite all that he went on to live right into his 90s ironically living with the daughter he was particularly bad to and inherited everything when he did die. Strange world.

Subject: RE: BS: What would your 'other' life be like?
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 25 Nov 10 - 08:24 AM

I'd in one sense happily take my vows, Patsy but like you, it would be for the wrong reasons. Mine would include running away from my own mind which is also an impossibility...

Like you say, life is strange,,,