BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote

Subject: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: MGM·Lion
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 05:01 AM

AN ANECDOTE REGARDING BEAUTY

When I taught 50 years ago at a big South London comprehensive school with a huge staff, I had a colleague, good-looking young man whose name I have forgotten [if indeed ever knew it] who had an exceptionally beautiful fiancée, one of those real head-turners, whose name I don't think I ever even knew, but who would sometimes, when not doing whatever it was she did do, come in with him & sit in the Staffroom. Don't think I ever even spoke to her; nearest acquaintance we had was sitting in same Staffroom drinking tea at break, but of course we couldn't help sometimes seeing one another across the room.

Well, some months later, waiting for a tube train, I happened to catch the eye of a young woman waiting alongside, & who should it be but? & so, as any acquaintances howsomever distant will on such occasions, it was, 'O hello, how you? how things at Peckham Manor? what you doing these days?' &c. That was all: most formal & phatic of conversations with someone I barely knew. But the looks of resentment-tinged but o-so-respectful greengreengreen envy, that I got from every man who passed because I was privileged to be permitted to exchange words with this angelic·creature·treading·momentarily·on·this·sordid·earth, are something I have never forgotten.

~M~

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: GUEST,Lizzie Cornish
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 08:38 AM

TRUE Beauty - Another Anecdote

When I was 19, working in a chemist shop a young woman came in one Saturday morning. She was looking for shampoo, and she came to ask for my advice.

She had *severe* cerebral palsy, but we got chatting and we sorted out some shampoo for her. I bid her farewell and thought that was that.

She came in many Saturdays to follow, sometimes just to talk to me about all sorts of things under the sun...We laughed when I couldn't quite get what she said, or when her body went off into spasms for a few moments and she lost her train of thought,but always, we'd find our way through to the conversation again...

Then, one morning, she came in with a friend...and she waited until I was free. She introduced me to John, her fiancee...and she told John that she loved to come in and talk with me as I was one of the few people who spoke to her as if she was normal.

John shook my hand and smiled...

Then, she told me John was blind....

And I smiled....

For here was a man who would never judge this young woman by her face filled with, to some, off-putting, uncontrollable ticks and grimaces, nor be ashamed to be with her, ever, for John saw only her Soul...

And he knew that Her Soul was one of the Most Extraordinary Beauty...

The man who owned the chemist shop told me, after that day when John came in, that he no longer wanted this young woman to come in to the shop, as he felt she was 'putting the customers off'....I just looked at him, stared hard...said not a word and walked away. I left, shortly after...for no way would I ever work for a man who could say such a thing...



It must be hard to be a beautiful woman to know that some men judge you on the Outer Surface of your Being, never seeing beyond, to the Person Who Lies Within.....

Likewise, it must be hard to be a plain woman to know that some men judge you on the Outer Surface of your Being, never seeing beyond, to the Person Who Lies Within...........

We are all Souls, at the end of the day..and what lies on top is of little consequence.

It is What Lies Within which matters...
Nothing Else....

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Ed T
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 09:03 AM

Years ago I was single and living in another province and town and knew few people,except the mostly married staff at work.

To meet people, I spent many hours at pubs after work. One pub had four gorgeous female servers. Since I was a frequent visiter and was mostly sitting alone, I developed a close friendship with all the girls.Along with physical beauty, they were beautiful in all ways.

When the bar closed up for the evening, they often invited me to join them in exploits to late night dance bars. Not only was it fun, almost every guy in the bar seemed to look at me with envy. As their popularity wore off on me, I frequently got invited to late parties (with an offer to bring the girls along, of course).

One evenibng at the pub two of the girls confided to me that they were moving in together to a new apartment. They asked if I wanted to sare in the rent with them, as there was an extra bed room. They assured me that it would be completely on a platonic-friendship basis. However, they laughed and added, but if one of us comes home "frisky and lonely", we reserve the right to jump in bed with you to "cuddle".

Because I had an existing apartment lease, I was not in a position to take them up on the rare and attractive offer. But, I often wondered what would have been the case if the cards had have played out differently?

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 10:30 AM

It's a double edged sword. I had the pleasure of goung out for about 18 months witha really beautiful girl, a part time fashion model, and a head turner.
Several of my so called mates asked her out behind my back, at different times during the time we were together. It showed me who my real friends were, and it also shows that the loins lead the head.
Learn this song , and be happy!

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 11:40 AM

I had a colleague at the school where I taught who was an Adonis. He had blond hair, blue eyes and a sexy smile. But he was a horrid person, I disliked him intensely.

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Bill D
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 11:48 AM

If I had majored in psychology in college, I would have been tempted to do a study in which I interviewed many 'beautiful' women about what it was like to be on that end of the 'admiration'. I'm sure it must be really difficult to navigate life wondering if attention was based on looks or the person.

I have known... slightly... 2-3 women who seemed to cope pretty well, but never asked them about it.

I suppose 5 million years of evolution has designed the situation, but it sure causes stress and confusion.

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: gnu
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 04:41 PM

My "beauty" wasn't. Plain Jane. But she was intelligent, personable, respectful, well mannered... the good stuff. And, when I made her laugh, when I made her smile, when I... you know... my entire mind and soul felt joy and peace.

Lizzie... "It is What Lies Within which matters... Nothing Else.... "

Indeed.

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Charley Noble
Date: 09 Nov 12 - 09:03 PM

I don't think I've ever felt at ease with "beautiful people." My shields go up automatically as if they were a danger to me. I do admire them and I'm supportive when they do positive things but I don't really trust them. It must be weird to be at the receiving end of so much ambiguous attention.

Charley Noble

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Nov 12 - 01:48 AM

Beauty is only skin deep.

Beauty is as beauty does.

Cliches, I know, but I think they are worth remembering.

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Micca
Date: 11 Nov 12 - 05:21 AM

yeah
" and turn away, the way girls
at a party turn away
from the kid with the harelip
that no one wanted to kiss
and each time a small
but tangible part
dies so that now
there is
almost nothing more
left to feel
with at all"

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: GUEST,BobL
Date: 11 Nov 12 - 02:33 PM

Why did I first read the thread title as "Beauty - an antidote?"

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Jim Dixon
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 01:43 PM

Many years ago, after I divorced my first wife and before I met my second, I was single for several years. Being rather shy and introverted, I didn't date much. If I wanted to see a movie, most of the time, I went alone. One of the places I went frequently was the U Film Society, which showed mainly foreign films, indie films, and documentaries that the commercial theaters didn't want. Sometimes the films would be long, or there would be a double bill, with an intermission between. I always made use of the intermissions to stretch my legs and maybe get a cup of coffee, but since I had no one to talk to, there was nothing else to do but stand around in the lobby and people-watch. Usually I would pick out the most attractive woman in view and watch her, from a discreet distance. I wouldn't try to speak to her, because she would most likely be already involved in conversation with a companion. Sometimes I would see the same woman on more than one occasion. A few of the women I watched this way became strongly imprinted on my memory.

In fact, I did meet one of them again many years later, and I instantly recognized her, but I said nothing about that. Because of common interests, she and her husband have become good friends of me and my wife. They have been in our house many times, and vice versa. As far as she knows, she met me for the first time about 10 years ago. She doesn't know that I remember her from about 20 years before that.

My question is: should I tell her? I'm pretty sure I could recall enough details to prove that I am correct. I could describe the film, though I have forgotten its title. (It was a documentary.) I could describe the venue. I could even describe her male companion at the time. (He had a rather distinctive appearance, and I think I saw him on more than one occasion, too. I don't know who he was; I'm certain he wasn't her current husband.) But I suppose it's possible she will remember none of this.

My fear is: She might find this experience rather creepy. I don't want her to think I'm a stalker. (But the experience of knowing me for the last 10 should have convinced her I'm a pretty decent guy.) The other odd thing is: On the whole, I'm not a person with a phenomenal memory. It's not easy to explain, even to myself, why I remember this one experience so clearly.

I suppose this kind of thing happens all the time to people who have been performers for many years: Someone approaches you and says, "Hey, I remember you from way back when...." It probably wouldn't bother you at all. But the woman I am speaking of has never been a performer, so can I trust that it won't creep her out?

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Lizzie Cornish 1
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 01:46 PM

Keep it your secret, Jim...
No need to risk a good friendship..

Once you tell her she may feel awkward in your company, knowing you fancied her so long ago and her husband may also get to hear and he too would feel perhaps different towards you...

And that's not to mention how your wife might feel....

It's in the past and you get to share her as a good friend.

Let Sleeping Infatuations Sleep.....

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Jim Dixon
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 02:28 PM

Thanks, Lizzie. I'm inclined to think you're right. But at least I had the pleasure of telling the story to you!

By the way, something similar happened between my wife and me. I remember meeting her about a month earlier than the earliest occasion on which she remembers meeting me. We were both doing volunteer work for the same organization. Maybe I'm just the kind of guy that doesn't make a big first impression!

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: olddude
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 03:12 PM

well Mike how about me being friends with supermodels? And I am. I could less however of their look though I admit really easy on the eyes. I think I told you about the last time I had dinner and all the guys were looking .. I politely said "not bad for an old guy huh" could not stop laughing afterwords But the work they do for sick kids .. now that is something else for sure

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: olddude
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 03:35 PM

one of my best friends after she gave birth to her son, three weeks later had a swim suite photo shoot. all the girls hated her, no stretch marks .. LOL what a profession, ya gotta eat lettuce

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: MGM·Lion
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 03:43 PM

Ah yes, OD ~~ but in my original story I was still a young man!

~M~

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 03:47 PM

Oh to be young again my dear friend ..who said youth is wasted on the young .. some Hollywood type

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 03:47 PM

In Boston one day at noon I saw a woman so beautiful I felt embarrased for the entire human race that would never even approximate the physical beauty within her form let alone ever see her in a lifetime.

My stunned expression could not reasonably be understood by anyone especially her, which led her to hurriedly leave the establishment.

A trick of oxytocin or hormones perhaps, but that peculiar embarrassment for the universe and human race stands alone and unique in my memory.

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 03:52 PM

Lettuce. Yup. If ya wanna keep yer weight down, eat lettuce. Full of nasty bugs that'll clean out yer colon and not let yer guts process calories.

Sorry, Dan, for that "image".

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: olddude
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 03:58 PM

Ya can't believe how tall those models are ... my family and I call our one dear friend "our giraffe with boobs" They are so dang beautiful but tower over you .. well maybe I shrunk over the years. I tell ya what though it is a tough profession, all they do is tell you how ugly you are and to shape up .. then they have to hold the same twisted pose for hours ... I went to one photo shoot one time .. hell of a profession .. pays obscene money but one hell of a profession. My daughters modeled for triathlon magazine several time .. glad they didn't do it as a profession .. I hate it actually

anyway sorry for the thread creep Mike

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Ed T
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 04:22 PM

Anyone feeling lost and eager to reconnect with the body?

Curious about the extreme physical practice of backbends, splits, and gravity defying poses?

Just wondering?

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: olddude
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 04:24 PM

not only that ED, they photoshop the shit out of those photo's so no they are not real when they get done. It gives the young people a false sense of beauty cause even the models are not the end result in allure magazine or in victoria secrets and stuff

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Ed T
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 05:34 PM

Now ain't this job a beaut (from a few years back)?

""Please apply if you are a female who can shape their bodies to resemble a turkey. Nudity is preferred but will be tasteful and we will respect your comfort level.Females, aged 18 to 99 from New York, United States"".

Job Opening in NYC

Subject: RE: BS: Beauty ~ an anecdote
From: Ed T
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 05:51 PM

Many contortionists turn me off. But, this one (IMO) is different, and has it all captured.

Don't let the title scare you away, it is not erotic.

Exotique contortion