Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: harpmaker Date: 07 Apr 02 - 08:32 PM Why not try some Oxytocin , others seem to think it works!! John. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Mickey191 Date: 07 Apr 02 - 05:06 PM Guest, aren't you going to tell us which advice really helped? Did you get a job,meet a new girl, kick the booze? We don't know who you are-so if we really did help, I'd like to know the specifics. So the next poor bloke will get proven wisdom. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST Date: 07 Apr 02 - 07:00 AM huggy huggy hugs |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Susanne (skw) Date: 06 Apr 02 - 05:01 PM These things happen! A song full of hugs ... |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Morticia Date: 06 Apr 02 - 05:35 AM Nice of you to feed back, hope your life is going a little better these days. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST Date: 06 Apr 02 - 12:42 AM Thank you ALL
It got me through tough times. Forever, greatful. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Steve in Idaho Date: 04 Dec 01 - 09:25 AM Ah Carol - My mood is in a very good spot and I am quite content with myself. Just finding it hard to take much seriously - and for me that is a good thing. *G* All the best - Steve (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))) |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST,Patrish Date: 04 Dec 01 - 09:07 AM Hug |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Gervase Date: 04 Dec 01 - 05:34 AM Maybe the old Waterboys number would be appropriate - I send her my love, and a bang on the ear! |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: CarolC Date: 03 Dec 01 - 05:19 PM Well then, (((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))) for you, Steve. Hope your mood gets the way you want it to be soon. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Steve in Idaho Date: 03 Dec 01 - 05:14 PM You're right Carol - the hurt is when we forget that we have a choice. And to forget one must immerse oneself in that risk of deep intimacy and trust (cannot have one without the other). What I always tell the couples that I see is that if you are truly partners you each have the ability to hurt the other worse than anyone else in the whole world. Simply because of that same trust - and to abuse it is not good for the relationship. To instead nurture it and attend to each other as well as they can in their particular circumstance. I'm just in this inane mood of late - Steve |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: CarolC Date: 03 Dec 01 - 05:07 PM I'd like to make a very subtle tweak to your postulation and Amos', if I may, Steve. While I think you're both right that giving others the power to hurt one is a choice we make, and we have control over whether or not we make that choice, I also think that in order for true intimacy to take place with another, one has to be willing to make oneself vulnerable to that person.
Hopefully, one has chosen carefully whom to trust in this way, and the other person will never willingly take advantage of this vulnerability in a way that causes hurt. And hopefully, if one finde that the other is, in fact, taking advantage of it and is causing hurt, one would remove oneself from harm's way. And hopefully one can take responsibility for having made the decision to trust, and not blame the other person if hurt does take place. However, in order for a relationship to be healthy and viable, it is necessary for there to be intimacy and trust. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Steve in Idaho Date: 03 Dec 01 - 04:55 PM Amos is correct. gnu Ween - short for weeny - a little dick/penis that one is feeling sorry for them self over because no one else has one like that. It was one of our favorite saying in the Marines - Like "What a weeny." "You bein a weeny or what?." "Quit being a weeny ya asshole." So for me being a ween makes perfect sense in the context given here by yourself to guest. Whether it is true or not who cares! It is in the giving that we find ourselves I believe - so here's another for you all {{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}} Steve If you'd like more Marine Corps verbage from my era - simply send $50 to me and I'll enclose a copy of my book, "A Dictionary of Terms Indigenous to The Viet Nam War", by Steve A. Neff Special discounts to catters - with a portion going to support the cat. Geezzzz Neff - you are a shameless hussy at times - I think I'll go out and spank myself. OHHH BABBBBBYYYYYY MMAAAKKKKKEEEEE MEEE CRYYYYYY! |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: SharonA Date: 03 Dec 01 - 01:52 PM Sorry this is so late in coming, Guest-who-needs-a-hug: ((((((((hug)))))))) Now the lecture: Alcohol is a depressant. It's not going to make you feel any less depressed; it'll just keep you from feeling much of anything for a while (until the hangover... and the injuries from the drunk-driving accident... and the cirrhosis). So go do things you know will make you happy and will keep you pain-free in the long run! Besides, you'll want to be sober for those job interviews and those dates with the new girlfriends (making a good impression, and all that...) Here's hoping for all the best for you! another Sharon |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Uncle_DaveO Date: 03 Dec 01 - 01:10 PM John from Hull: What, who, how, or why is Tesco? Dave Oesterreich |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST,MC Fat Date: 03 Dec 01 - 10:28 AM Try getting one of these new Country & Western records guest. You put them on the turntable and they play backwards and that way your dog comes back to life, you get your farm back and your girlfriend comes back from the arms of another !!! |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Genie Date: 03 Dec 01 - 02:13 AM Well, here's a big hug from me and my family, too. (Hey, take two -- they're free!)) (((HUG)))*!*(((HUG)))*!*(((HUG)))*!*(((HUG)))*!*(((HUG)))*!*(((HUG))) And, since it's especially good for those of us with your sort of blues* -- or any sort of blues, for that matter, here's a special comfort gift from my cat: P-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r.... Genie [*I don't even have a girlfriend, though I do have a job and I don't think I drink too much, except for beer making me fat. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: DancingMom Date: 02 Dec 01 - 11:29 PM ...sure... ((((((hug)))))))) ((((pat, pat))))) ...hang in there... pull yourself up now, and get going. Sharon |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Sorcha Date: 02 Dec 01 - 10:34 PM I don't give hugs to things without names........you know who I am and where I am......... |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST Date: 02 Dec 01 - 10:19 PM Post your address and a fifth of "Gentital" Jack Daniels Kentucky Bourbon Whiskey will be sent to lighten your load.
Better yet, "Don't Bogart That Joint My Friend, Pass It Over to ME."
Come on MAN!!! Get off the pity-pot. You don't need a hug, you need a good-solid Kick-In-The-Ass. Get yourself over to AA and get over it, and get on with your life.
YOU ARE PATHETIC!!!! |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Joe_F Date: 02 Dec 01 - 07:17 PM A proper {{{{{embrace}}}}}, where m=5. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST,A Date: 01 Dec 01 - 10:05 PM Hugs guest, from another guest. Trying desperately to find a job I halfway enjoy, haven't had a boyfriend in 3 years, don't drink but do eat too much. Good advice here on making yourself feel better. Wish they were less temporary solutions. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST,andrew Date: 01 Dec 01 - 09:31 PM Same shit here mate. No advice I'm afraid, but if you find the solution, bottle it and I'll buy a crate.... Take care |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Don Firth Date: 01 Dec 01 - 06:19 PM Knew a couple of identical twins once. They were identical, except that one of them was bow-legged and the other was knock-kneed. When they walked down the road, they spelled OX. small joke. very small. Don Firth |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Biskit Date: 01 Dec 01 - 01:24 PM It is better to have Loved and Lost then never to have Loved at all,....KENDALL! Your heart will mend guest, soo here's a hug((((HUG)))) now then quit mopin' around and lettin' that gal ride your heart down slow. Get busy! about a month after my second divorice I ran into my x wife and she sceamed HOW DARE YOU BE HAPPY!(I was) So I told her to tell me next time she was comin' aroun' and I'd try to be bummmed out....just for her! peace! ~Biskit~ |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Mickey191 Date: 01 Dec 01 - 01:05 PM Here's a big hug from one whose been there. If you're able to put one foot in front of the other, go for a nice long walk. Think of all the good things in your life, and know that time helps. Booze doesn't! It only makes you more depressed. Play some great music! Can't hurt. Mickey191 |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: waterdragon Date: 01 Dec 01 - 11:20 AM Here's another bunch of hugs for everyone who needs one.Hope the ankle bone's feeling better Tig,take care!! (((HUG)))(((HUG)))(((HUG)))(((HUG)))(((HUG)))(((HUG))) |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Art Thieme Date: 01 Dec 01 - 10:35 AM Here's the HUG-----now give me that JUG ---- !!! Too much o' that can't be too good for ya. Art---------P.S.--There, I just drank it for ya. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Alice Date: 01 Dec 01 - 09:39 AM Hi, Guest, here's a hug, and may I suggest that you PASS IT ON to someone who rarely gets hugs, like an old person in a rest home. Visit your local old folks home and talk to the people who never get company. I hope you feel better. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Tig Date: 01 Dec 01 - 07:58 AM Hope you are absorbing all these hugs Guest. They are what is known as 'Zen Hugs' in the Ship that Searched by Anne McCaffery - the hugs we would give you if we were there and could but we aren't and can't. No, I didn't fall off my broomstick. It just went over walking home from the pub. I thought I'd just sprained it but Magician was staying earlier in the week and told me he thought I'd cracked it. Somehow I found myself and the doctors and then the hospital.... One day I'll find out how he manages to get people to do things they don't really want to!!!!!! |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Mr Red Date: 01 Dec 01 - 07:36 AM An ex girl-friend used to sign her letters OXOXOXOXOXOXOX X's are obvious but the O is symbolic of arms around U. Hugs and kisses. an old friend in NZ said his mum told him "Women are like busses, there will be another along in a minute". He is now married the ex-girlfriend I left in NZ! Back to thread no letters twixt W & Y from me PALLLLLLL SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO............ |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: John MacKenzie Date: 01 Dec 01 - 06:13 AM They don't have Tesco's in the US they have something ten times better, it's called, da da..............wait for it,......."WalMart", and it's great for everything except your credit card. Jock |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Amos Date: 01 Dec 01 - 05:27 AM Kendall's spot on, as usual. Well, you can share all the heart space you want; but giving people power to hurt you is still an elective, one best left unexercised. At best, what you're doing anyway is agreeing to hurt yourself under conditions of thier choosing which is pretty odd behaviour. Thus apake Zarathustra, anyway! A.
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Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Roger in Sheffield Date: 01 Dec 01 - 05:15 AM John (in Hull) don't join the Samaritans, don't think they would approve of telling someone who is already drinking too much, that they should brew their own ! Guest things will get better, if you are going to drink, then go out and drink with other people Things will get better but for now you can have a {{{{{{{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}}}}Roger |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Dead Horse Date: 01 Dec 01 - 04:28 AM To John from Hull, how do you brew a hamster? Pickled squirrels I'm familiar with (wotch it) but Hamster Brew sounds like a pretty good name for a real ale. Do you add hops, or does the hamster provide his own? |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Rt Revd Sir jOhn from Hull Date: 30 Nov 01 - 10:17 PM Do they have Tesco in USA, Guest? |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Jon Freeman Date: 30 Nov 01 - 08:54 PM Sure guest. {{{{{{{{{{HUGGGGGGGGSSSSSS}}}}}}}}}} and best wishes, Jon
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Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Rt Revd Sir jOhn from Hull Date: 30 Nov 01 - 08:49 PM Guest-Buy a hamster, they are only a couple of quid.& Check out Tesco's they have currently got some good special offers on their beer, or brew your own, it's even cheaper. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Amergin Date: 30 Nov 01 - 07:45 PM because if we don't...we are fools... |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Morticia Date: 30 Nov 01 - 07:45 PM Because "it's better to have tripped than never danced at all". {{{HUGS}}}to Guest and to Tig...you must be very stoic to have walked around with that for week! |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: CarolC Date: 30 Nov 01 - 07:41 PM It's either that or wall ourselves off completely, kendall. Hell of a choice, innit? I guess people just have to practice selective trusting and hope for the best. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: kendall Date: 30 Nov 01 - 07:37 PM Why do we give other people the power to hurt us? |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: bill\sables Date: 30 Nov 01 - 06:15 PM Did you fall off your broomstick Tig? I know a witch who is very good at healing things like that. Bill |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: gnu Date: 30 Nov 01 - 06:07 PM How'd you do that ? |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: Tig Date: 30 Nov 01 - 06:04 PM Tell you what - let's just swop hugs. I discovered today I've been walking round with a cracked ankle bone for over a week, waah!!! |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: gnu Date: 30 Nov 01 - 05:50 PM CC... you would enjoy meeting a true "Bayman" from the Granite Planet. Women are addressed as "Maid" and men as "Love". Took me aback the first time. Thought the old lad at the construction camp fancied me. But you catch on quickly and the old language and sayings are a treasure. Guest... tis worse to show ire misplaced than to ween. Go back to weening. It suits your intellect. |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: CarolC Date: 30 Nov 01 - 05:39 PM I don't know. I rather like "Maid", though.
Here's another hug for GUEST... ((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))) |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: GUEST Date: 30 Nov 01 - 05:37 PM gnu = wanker |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: gnu Date: 30 Nov 01 - 05:36 PM "Ween" is specific, near as I know, to one of my best buds, from the Codroy Valley of Newfoundland. He is the only one I have ever heard use the term. Rather appropriate, wouldn't ya say, Maid ? |
Subject: RE: BS: A hug? Please! From: gnu Date: 30 Nov 01 - 05:31 PM Yeah, I know. Been through a bunch of girlfriends and a wife of fourteen years that was just along for the ride... never really loved me when I added it all up. I know that doesn't stop the hurt but you just need to keep your focus on the fact that it will eventually heal, like a hangover... have a hot cup of tea... or a thousand... it will get better. Just DON'T WEEN !!! |