Obit: My Dad

Subject: Obit: My Dad
From: SINSULL
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 11:40 AM

The cantankerous, lovable, selfish, generous set of contradictions died sometime this morning. At 91 he still lived alone. His last meal to my knowledge was liverwurst and Saltines. Music is the best gift he gave me after life. I believe he is at peace.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: beardedbruce
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 11:41 AM

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Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: wysiwyg
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 11:48 AM

Well dang. Do him proud, like I am sure you always do.

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Can you tell us more about him, when you feel like it?

~Susan

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: jimmyt
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 11:49 AM

So Sorry for your loss Mary. I wish peace to you as your father has.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Deckman
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 11:58 AM

Mary, I'll PM you later. Judy sends her love. Bob

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Leadfingers
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 12:05 PM

Mary - Commisserations - I hope you can celebrate his life as well as mourn his death .

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 12:09 PM

Condolances, Mary.

If you watch a ship sail to sea it will eventualy drop beyond the horizon. Because we cannot see it we are no longer sure of its whereabouts. We will one day sail beyond the horizon ourselves and who knows what sights we may see then! Until that time remember that even though we cannot see the ship, it is still there.

God bless

Dave

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Amos
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 12:25 PM

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Saltines is a great last meal, come to think of it.


A

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: mg
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 12:25 PM

May he rest in peace. mg

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: fat B****rd
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 12:26 PM

Please accept my sympathies.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Alice
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 01:12 PM

Mary, my deepest sympathy to you in the passing of your Dad. Take care.
Love,
Alice

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST,Obie
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 01:26 PM

There is always sadness with parting , and you have my sympathy in that, but from what you say you still have wonderful memories. Rather than offer you a prayer I will pick up my guitar and sing "The Old Man" for your father and mine.
            Obie

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Micca
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 01:28 PM

Mary, such hugs and comfort as you may need are heading to you from here, Deepest sympathies from CatsPHiddle and me

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: JenEllen
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 01:32 PM

You've got my love on a daily basis as it is, so all I can send is a reminder. I hope your heart finds peace.
~Jen

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Alaska Mike
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 01:34 PM

Fathers are neat people Mary, when my own dad passed away, I wrote a song about him. Pull out my CD "The Sculptor" and play the title song. I hope it makes you feel better.

Mike

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Teresa
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 02:41 PM

My condolences. May you always treasure the memories. :)

T

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: CarolC
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 02:49 PM

Condolences to you and your family, Mary.

Carol and Rob

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: khandu
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 03:13 PM

Mary, your opening paragraph was such a lovely obit for him. Grace & Peace!

ken

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Peace
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 03:33 PM

Condolences, Mary. He had a daughter who loved him and a guy can't ask for much more than that. Beautiful obituary (as khandu said).

Bruce M

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Genie
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 03:37 PM

Yes, Mary, you certainly did write a beautiful eulogy for your dad at the beginning of this thread.   May he live long and well in your music.

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Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Mrs.Duck
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 03:37 PM

Our thoughts are with you, Mary. Cherish those memories.
jane and Geoff

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 04:00 PM

Sorry to hear and of course we are thinking of you....but then again, we think of you a lot.

I read your first sentence and then had to read the title again to be sure I wasn't the one who had died. When I read about the liverwurst and crackers, I knew he was my kind of guy.

Karen and I send you our best thoughts and sincerest sympathies. 91 years amounts to a lot of memories, some good and some bad, but that is the way things are supposed to work. Life amounts to much more than putting on a happy face. Textures and contours no matter the type add the real beauty.

And, uh, say..... if there is any liverwurst left, send it my way, huh?

Pat

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: LilyFestre
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 04:16 PM

Mary,

(((((((((BIGGEST HUGS TO YOU)))))))))))

Lots of love and prayers headed your way.

Love,

Lily

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Sorcha
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 04:35 PM

My deepest sympathy, Mary. Even when they've had a good, long life and it's time, it's never easy to lose a dad. Love, from one Mary to another.

Sorcha

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: *Laura*
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 05:10 PM

Sympathy and Love to you Mary,

Laura

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST,Kendall
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 05:15 PM

Mary, I just want to say you have my deepest sympathy and condolences.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 05:15 PM

Sinsdarlin', I am so sorry. As you know this is something I'm likely to face sometime soon. I hope my dad will still be at home (so far he is) and have had his favourite meal of an onion sandwich or peanut butter. At 87, still eating pb on white bread!

Your dad must've been one heck of an interesting person to have raised a daughter like you. I'd tell him THANKS for YOU and best wishes on the next leg of his journey.

(Also sent you a PM.)

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST,jacqui.c
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 05:16 PM

Mary - so sorry to hear your news. All my sympathy to you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Willie-O
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 06:22 PM

Hugs.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Mudlark
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 06:37 PM

Mary...So sorry to hear of this. His wonderful gift of music will help, I hope. Take great care of yourself.

Nancy

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Rt Revd Sir jOhn from Hull
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 08:08 PM

Sorry to hear this.

john

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 08:19 PM

Oh, Mary, I'm holding you and your father in my heart. Real hugs coming your way soon!

Allison

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Joybell
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 08:26 PM

Our thoughts from over here too. Joy

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: bbc
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 09:22 PM

Oh, Mary. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. At the same time, it sounds as if your dad lived & died well. I hope that will be a comfort to you as time passes.

love,

Barbara

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: LilyFestre
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 09:38 PM

Another BIG HUG....just because.

Thinking of you.......

Lily

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: open mike
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 10:02 PM

Mary--thank you for sharing this news with the mudcat family.
I hope you and others close to him are finding time to spend
with each other, and that you will grow closer thru his passing.
Your caring spirit is a testament to good values that were
inherited from your elders. hugs to you and may you have the
strength to accomplish the tasks which you may be asked to
deal with due to this event in your life. (((sinsull)))

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Bill D
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 10:25 PM

well, durn! Even when you know it's about time, you're never quite ready, hmm? You'll always wonder whether it was the liverwurst that kept him going so long, or whether he did so well in SPITE of the liverwurst! No matter, he gave you music, and he lived HIS way...not many can say that....

take care........

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Homeless
Date: 12 Sep 04 - 11:05 PM

Illegitimi Non Carborundum
- whether it be people or events.

You are in our thoughts, and She send her sympanthy and hugs.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: karen k
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 02:03 AM

Mary,
My thoughts and my love to you at this difficult time. He gave all of us a gift when he gave us you. Think about how many people are better people because they knew him. Hugs coming at the Getaway if not before.

love you,
karen

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: alanabit
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 02:12 AM

Sorry to hear this news. You obviously did your very best for him.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Shanghaiceltic
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 03:57 AM

My condolances to you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:00 AM

Mary, big hugs from over here in Oz too

slainte

alison

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST,Partridge
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:04 AM

Dear Mary,
Thinking of you,
love
Pat x

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Ellenpoly
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:16 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss, Mary. It does sound like he had a good run, and a loving daughter.

..xx..e

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:18 AM

What a beautiful eulogy, our thoughts and prayers are with you, from "across the pond".

John, Beth and Danny, xx

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Steve Parkes
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:35 AM

So sorry, Mary

Steve

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Peter Kasin
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:39 AM

SINSULL, my sincere condolences.

Chanteyranger

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Janie
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:41 AM

Adding my own thoughts, prayers and condolences. Big hugs to you and all who cared about him.

Janie

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Helen
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 06:41 AM

Thinking of you, Mary. Remember the good times.

Helen

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Mooh
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 08:30 AM

He gave us you (with some help), and that is wonderful enough. Our hopes and prayers to you and yours. Take care.

Peace. Mooh.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST,MMario
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 09:06 AM

Hugs to you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Fortunato
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 09:12 AM

Sinsull, I would like to sit and talk with you about our Dads at the Getaway. As you may know my dad died July 7th. For now, I grieve with you.

cheers, chance

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: M.Ted
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 12:40 PM

Sincerest condolences and good thoughts--

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Sabine
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 01:05 PM

I am so sorry to hear that.
I'll light a candle for him.

Take care

Sabine

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: GUEST,amergin
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 01:06 PM

sorry to hear that, Sins....I'm thinking aobut you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 01:19 PM

As was said above, even though you know it's inevitable, there is great pain in losing a parent. His memory is alive for you and through you, so share stories about him with us when you're ready.

SRS

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: SINSULL
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 01:54 PM

I have lost Dad's will but it is a blessing in disguise since I am unearthing gems from the past. Today I found his 3rd grade report card. How many kids do you know who can claim an F-? I will share his teacher's thoughts another time.
Thank you for your thoughts.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 04:50 PM

I'm sure you'll find his better report cards soon. Haven't you seen those ads on TV for the study aids? "Where there's a will, there's an "A" !

I remember finding lots of things that had new significance for me when I went through my father's home as I administered his estate. It's a difficult job, but you learn a lot. Good luck with your work.

SRS

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Tannywheeler
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 06:33 PM

Here's a necessary phrase for you: "Fairly well, considering."
This is your stock answer to all -- the uncaring polites, as well as the loving friends -- who ask how it's going. The true friends may ask "Considering what", and you can tell them if you're having a bad time, 'cause they'll be looking for a way to help you cope. Keep extra tissue. You'll be shocked at the minuteness of what can start the waterworks. You will have already steeled yourself to the big stuff. The only way out is through, but it really becomes a permanent part of your path. He has never not existed for you; physiologically you don't know a world without him. Ask your real friends (you seem to have many) to keep their care-antennae out towards you as you go through this, 'cause shock can rear its head at times in peculiar ways. Voice of experience.

Eat healthy, get some exercise. Accept help from a few of thoe friends to go through effects. Don't spend too much time alone during this. For your own protection.

God bless and comfort you (comfort from 2 Latin words indicating "with strength").
Tw

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Tinker
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 09:04 PM

Hey Lady, love, light and biggest hugs headed out your way. My first thought was all the wonderful songs you've shared with us that came from your Dad's singing. I'll be waiting for you at Getaway and bringing great hugs. Okay, mine are only so so but since Alaska Mike is sharing the ride I can deliver great hugs. Sending my best your way. We'll raise a glass and a song for him at Getaway.

tinker

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Justa Picker
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 09:13 PM

I'm very sorry for your loss, Mary.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: Naemanson
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 09:31 PM

I hope you are doing better since the first news hit you. These losses never stop hurting but the memories lessen the load. Take a long walk down by the ocean and talk to him for a while. It might help.

I can only offer virtual hugs from 8,000 miles away but if you remember my real hugs you can imagine what I am offering you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dad
From: KT
Date: 13 Sep 04 - 10:03 PM

Sinsull,
   My sincere condolences to you in the loss of your father. Take good care of yourself and may there be some comfort for you in knowing that lots of folks the world over are sending lots of love your way.   KT