Way to double down there, Steve! I sense a strong self righteous tone in your verbiage which IMO does not make your point go down any better. I have discussed, in friendly terms, the unfortunate inter ethnic conflicts in Israel with some local Palestinians and the R word didn't occur, although it became clear that among their grievances against the current regime was that Israel had allowed in Africans (Falashas) and was very open to LGBTQs.

I'm not sure what the equivalent -ist word to use against the homophobic. Here and now I'll coin these folks as homophobists. But using it against them wouldn't have made them feel any better or more understood. Probably the reverse.Their feelings against Shia Muslims were if anything more combustible than their feelings against Jews, so they were anti-semitic, too. But that would not have brought clarity.

Maybe leave your family out of it and give the other poster a break, eh?