OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: gnu
Date: 20 Mar 09 - 04:48 PM

Me too , SINS.... which is why I have been also Googling "Ezra Milan" often.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 20 Mar 09 - 11:42 PM

Me too, but I am pretty sure that when there is news, a mod will adjust the thread title.

I just want it up near the top so Becca et al can see it easily when they want it.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Becca72
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 09:43 AM

Thanks to everyone. We're still in a holding pattern at this point. This morning the Coast Guard divers are searching the bay, the police have the dogs out and this afternoon they're bringing in the SONAR helicopter from Cape Cod. This has been a horrible, horrible week.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: billybob
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 09:58 AM

loving thoughts from England,lighting a candle
wendy

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 10:12 AM

I have to type words because Mudcat is all about text. But what I MEAN is just: I'm loving you all, from here-- hurt or no. So if you see a "blank" post from me here, just take it as one person holding one end of the line, softly but firmly, in fair weather or foul.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 12:27 PM

From here in Colorado...you have never been far from my thoughts this week and always in my heart.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 01:47 PM

There are no words Becca. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.Stay strong.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: maeve
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 02:08 PM

What Susan said, Becca.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Janie
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 02:31 PM

And from here, continuing to hold all of you to the light.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Bobert
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 03:23 PM

Ditto...

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: catspaw49
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 04:15 PM

Yeah........I'm rarely without words but like the others all I can do is keep you all in my thoughts............

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Hollowfox
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 04:19 PM

Oh my. I just found out. Much prayer now, and of course, a %$#!-reduction candle as soon as I get home.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 10:17 PM

Nights can be so long. But we're in this one, with you.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: meself
Date: 21 Mar 09 - 10:39 PM

I don't know how I missed this thread earlier. Very sad and of course disturbing. You have all my sympathy at this trying time ...

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: maeve
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 08:07 AM

Daylight again, and we are here thinking of you all.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: GUEST,Kendall
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 04:48 PM

I'm waiting for that shoe to drop, and dreading it too.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: maeve
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 05:22 PM

Hi, Kendall. I know. We're thinking of you as well.

love,

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 05:38 PM

Yup.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Neil D
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 05:58 PM

Still saying prayers and hoping for good things. Also praying for strength for you and your loved ones during this trying time.

                                    Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: My guru always said
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 06:11 PM

Still sending positive thoughts!

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Fortunato
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 06:25 PM

Kendall and friends,

I just learned of this when speaking to Sinsull. I'm very sorry and I add my hopes for a positive outcome.

cheers,
chance

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: maeve
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 08:53 PM

Goodnight friends.
maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Ebbie
Date: 22 Mar 09 - 08:57 PM

I keep hoping...

May you all find the strength to keep on keeping on.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 12:36 AM

Can't sleep. Bet it's not just me. We're here.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 08:05 AM

Still praying and putting up posters. i have enlisted the various religious types of the Sullivan clan to join in the watch. For Meghan's sake, I hope he is found soon. Today's What Is is too painful.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 08:52 AM

Yes

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Tinker
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 09:36 AM

Lit a candle, raised the prayers, seems like there should be something else I could do....I'll pass along some extra hugs to all I love today and send each one to all of you.


tinker

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Becca72
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 10:50 AM

The "Big" search over the weekend turned up nothing. We're still holding. Thanks again for all the good thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 01:06 PM

Becca,
The waiting is wearing me out. I can't imagine what it is doing to all of you. Stay strong.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 02:32 PM

And remember that letting go (getting mad, falling asleep in the middle of a sentence, tears, etc.), is also, sometimes, for some people, part of strength. Be gentle with yourselves and take all the room you need, to encompass this impossible thing.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: skarpi
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 05:05 PM

Becca , sending lights and thoughts over the ocean.

all the best Skarpi

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: GUEST,saulgoldie
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 06:49 PM

Sending my best thoughts and prayers up your way.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Hawker
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 07:01 PM

Still holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Lucy x

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: GUEST,Marie and Joe
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 08:18 PM

Meghan, Elaine, Becca, Debba, and Papa Kendall
I am watching for updates daily from Rhode Island, I am praying that Ezra is found, safe and sound. I am keeping all of you in my thoughts and hoping that the Police, Coast Guard and all the searchers find him. I love you all so very much, and it pains me that I am here and not there helping you somehow. I sent the post to everyone I know, and hopefully God will hear the prayers of so many. Meghan, keep strong happy thoughts, (I know its hard during this time of unknowing), know that your family and friends far and wide support you right now. Air kisses oxoxoxo (Fern) Marie and Joe

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: open mike
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 09:09 PM

may there be a solution to this mystery soon...

and a good one, as well..

the not knowing is harder than anything..

hugs to all who wait for news....

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 10:15 PM

C'mon, Mudcat Magic...let's give this an extra boost tonight and tomorrow and give thanks for an immediate solution and, as open mike says, may it be a good one. This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. SO mote it be!

Love and hugs to all involved.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 10:32 PM

Sins just told me of the young man's identity.....Becca, Kendall and Jacqui - my thoughts are with you all...and my love.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Mar 09 - 10:58 PM

Even when I sleep well, I wake often. When I do, tonight, I'll be thinking of you.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: maeve
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 06:58 AM

Again we see the new morning, and again renew our hopes. May kindness surround you.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 09:06 AM

I have run out of platitudes. This sucks. Pure and simple - this sucks. Maybe anger will be less stressful than grief and fear.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: LilyFestre
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 11:48 AM

Still thinking of you and your family.

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 12:16 PM

This might be a good time for one of my favs. when all else has been done:

To Ezra:

"I fully and freely release you to your highest good."

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 12:41 PM

I give thanks for and bless the life of Ezra, a person I do not know but who clearly who can inspire such energy of caring and concern. It is always a blessing to have such a one in our midst.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 02:42 PM

Morse Clan: I love you all, holding Ezra and the rest of you in my heart and soul. Let me know if any of you need anything.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Becca72
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 02:52 PM

Kat and Susan, you've brought tears to my eyes.
Thank you all so much for your good thoughts. When she's ready I'll pass this all on to Meghan. She is extremely fragile right now, though, and isn't ready to deal with anything more than minute to minute.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Janie
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 03:01 PM

I just had lunch with Kendall and Jacqui, and gave them a Mudcat hug that I should have told them to pass on to the whole family.

Meghan, you are surrounded by light and support in this terrible, terrifying time of uncertainty. Wish we could take this from you. We can't. But we stand with you.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 03:41 PM

Becca, thanks, darlin'...sometimes it is the only thing I can think of to do. It can be a tough one, though. We never want to even think about letting go of our loved ones even when they are around, let alone when they are missing. The "highest good" bit eventually sinks in and helps, but it can still be tough.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Becca72
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 04:05 PM

It has been tough, but we are all pretty sure, barring a miracle, what the outcome will be from this one. Letting him go will be a big step to healing our family, when that time comes.
I have to share a story. My sister Deb was at Meghan & Ezra's apartment last Wednesday (7 days after he went missing) and went outside for something. When she came back in she happened to look down at the stoop because there was dog shit near it that she was trying to avoid. She found a small silver charm in the shape of a sneaker, which she brought in to Meghan. Meghan said that it had fallen off Ezra's keychain about 2 weeks prior and they'd been looking for it. Deb is adament that it WAS NOT THERE the 4 or 5 other times she passed over that stoop that day, nor was it there for the 2 weeks Meghan and Ezra had been looking. She had looked down each time to make sure she was clear of the poop and there was no charm. I have chosen to take that as a sign that Ezra was checking in on Meghan from where ever he is and while I'm sad he's not here with us, I'm glad to know he's still near is some sense.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 04:24 PM

Whooo, thank you, Ezra, blessed be.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 04:52 PM

Becca, I can gather from your posts just in this one thread that you will know how to support Meghan, be it via celebration or consolation, as events continue to unfold. Just remember that you, too, can be lifted up, supported, etc., right here-- so that you can be reminded of your own strength even as you expend it. PM anytime, continue to use this thread, or run any other thread-- you will know what you need to do. Don't hesitate to do it.

love,

~Susan