OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: GUEST,kendall
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 04:53 PM

Becca, we are headed home tomorrow.I can't stay any longer.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Hawker
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 08:27 PM

Still sending love, healing and prayers from Cornwall to you all. Keep strong,
Lucy x

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 09:25 PM

Not here but elsewhere, garg. His mother was the first to realize he was gone.
Let the family mourn in peace.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Tinker
Date: 24 Mar 09 - 11:28 PM

Sharing in the waiting -- waiting for the peace....
Holding all of you close


tinker

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 12:09 AM

Not religious, nor Roman Catholic, but in thinking about this, tonight, and listening to Tom Russell's song, Guadeloupe, (scroll down to it) I find some solace in the words and poignant tune.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 08:33 AM

Another day. One day closer to finding Ezra.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 09:30 AM

Yes. One day closer to bringing him home.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Hawker
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 06:49 PM

Still thinking, praying and sending healing to you all
Much Love, Lucy

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Janie
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 07:17 PM

Still holding vigil in North Carolina....

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: ClaireBear
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 07:39 PM

And in California.

Peace be with Ezra, and with all who seek him.

Once again, I wish that I could do something more than pray and visualize, but so be it. My love to all my dear Maine friends in need of comfort--Kendall, Jacqui and Mary--and my support to you, Becca and Meghan, whom I've not met yet. So sorry for your trouble.

Claire

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 08:03 PM

Becca,

Again, I am not religious nor Christian, but I do find this Prayer of Protection by James Dillet Freeman very helpful. One of the astronauts who walked on the moon took it with him. I would substitute "me" with "Ezra."

The Light of God surrounds me.
The Love of God enfolds me.
The Power of God protects me.
The Presence of God watches over me.
The Mind of God guides me.
The Life of God flows through me.
The Laws of God direct me.
The Power of God abides within me.
The Joy of God uplifts me.
The Strength of God renews me.
The Beauty of God inspires me.
Wherever I am, God is!

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 08:21 PM

I just found this thread - Kendall, Becca - I'm so sorry to hear this. Somebody earlier said that the waiting and not knowing is extremely tough, and I'd agree. At least with bad news, there's an emotional place to go with it. It's hard to grieve when some are still holding out hope.

All my good thoughts are with you, and I hope and pray that you all find good and joyful ways to remember him.

Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 25 Mar 09 - 10:49 PM

I don't understand why there is no news in the local paper -- no update - nothing? Thinking of you all......

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 26 Mar 09 - 08:27 AM

Because there is no news, TB. Maybe we need to plan a candlelight vigil in Old Port and get some publicity just to keep Ezra in the public eye. Any thoughts, Becca

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Becca72
Date: 26 Mar 09 - 09:30 AM

My sister Elaine (Meghan's mother) called the local news station that covered the original story and asked why there have been no updates. She was told that they are watching the police blotter and there has been no news, therefore nothing to report.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 26 Mar 09 - 10:07 AM

And Elaine will know what she needs to do, just as you do, Becca. (It's up to us to just sit back, respect that, and share the wait as calmly as we can.)

And we're still here. Take what you need and leave the rest, and know that we're here at your disposal.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: katlaughing
Date: 26 Mar 09 - 10:48 AM

Thanks, Becca.

No harm in offering suggestions. Sins, a vigil sounds like a good way to keep the attention on this and may be helpful to those involved. Still sending good thoughts and thanks givings from Colorado.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 26 Mar 09 - 09:50 PM

Thinking of you all.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Micca
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 07:49 AM

I am thinking of you all, My Dear friends in Maine, in these troublesome times , and thinking and waiting along with you.
Micca

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Hollowfox
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 10:03 AM

Good thoughts and prayers still flowing from Ohio (as well as $@#!-reduction candles).

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: open mike
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 01:22 PM

best wishes to all who are waiting for news abouot Ezra.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 01:51 PM

I keep dropping in to this thread, possibly over hopeful. Still thinking about Ezra and his loved ones.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Becca72
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 02:35 PM

Thanks to all for continuing to come back. We still have no news...

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 02:39 PM

That's not going to mean we forget that you are all still living it, every day and every night... or that we need updates if there is no news... or anything from you if you just want space.

We'll just keep letting you know we are here, holding one end of the line.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: gnu
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 02:40 PM

I have not been coming back, simply because I have no words. I check this thread at least a half dozen times a day and the same for Googling Ezra Milan.

If I did have words......

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 03:21 PM

We spoke to Meghan on the phone a couple of hours ago. She's holding on but it is hard. We're arranging a family dinner for next week, all coming to our house for the evening.

Meghan knows that she can call on us any time, day or night. It is so frustrating to not be able to do anything substantial when someone you love very much is going through so much pain. All we can do is be here for her.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 03:51 PM

It is so frustrating to not be able to do anything substantial when someone you love very much is going through so much pain. All we can do is be here for her.

I understand how you feel; I think we all do, here, to the lesser extent that is appropriate for the lesser role/closeness we have... but I want to say this very clearly:


You ARE doing something substantial, to stay close to someone you love very much, when they are going through pain. It IS substantial just to be there-- for anyone.

I could tell you a million stories where real people have told me, deeply moved, how it mattered in practical ways as well as in "heart"-ways, just to know someone-- even just one person, even just for a moment-- was really there for them.

I know that will not stop the powerless-to-help feeling, but remember that support is huge help (and also can mean the supporters need to take occasional, short, step-back breaks).

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: ranger1
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 05:53 PM

Nothing to add, just that I check this thread and the news on a daily basis and I hold you all in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 06:33 PM

***sigh***................I am so sorry to have absolutely no wonderful words of encouragement and compassion. Like most of the rest here I send you all whatever good thoughts I have in the hope that as they pass over Youngstown, Hollowfox can give them an added boost..........

There are some things that life can sometimes bring that no one should have to endure. This is one.......

All My Very Best....


Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Maryrrf
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 06:43 PM

Also checking and hoping for resolution.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Bobert
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 07:45 PM

Still here...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: LilyFestre
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 09:23 PM

I'm still here too...thinking of you all.

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Mar 09 - 11:05 PM

I haven't posted to this before; we've had a rough few days here ourselves, with a tragedy involving close friends.(that situation is as least resolved, though painfully). But I have been following this, and my heart is with you.
                               Dean

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: maeve
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 01:53 AM

You have my first thought in the morning, my last thought before sleep, and each day more often than I can count.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: My guru always said
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 05:47 AM

Still hoping, sending positive thoughts!

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: SINSULL
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 10:27 AM

Tonight, when the lights go out worldwide, I will light a candle and pray for Ezra's return. As I do every night.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 10:46 AM

This is the latest from the free paper this morning.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 10:52 AM

Noted. And still here.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Megan L
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 10:55 AM

Aww jacqui my heart cries for that girl and all of you keep putting one foot in front of the other and know that folk are sending all the lovestrength and peace they can find.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Janie
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 11:12 AM

Thanks Jacqui. Still holding Ezra and all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Neil D
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 01:54 PM

What can we say? Still here, still hoping...


                                           Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: GUEST,E
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 02:45 PM

-Been following since I found out.. endlessly hoping and praying-

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: freda underhill
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 04:32 PM

beck,jacqui, kendall and all I too have been reading this thread since it started, hoping for good news. I had a relative go missing fifteen years ago and experienced the tension, anxiety and exhaustion of hoping.

freda, thinking of you all the way from sydney

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Tinker
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 05:54 PM

Sitting still and waiting ... like so many of you it is not the mode that comes most naturally to me ... but I'm checking here daily. And I'm holding all of you in my prayers.

Blessings and Light

tink


.....Thanks for posting the newspaper link

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: ClaireBear
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 06:03 PM

Ezra will be in my church community's prayers tomorrow, and so will his distressed family and friends. I ache for you all.

Claire

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: Janie
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 07:08 PM

Becca, if you are in contact with Ezra's parents, sibs., etc., and it is appropriate, please pass along to them our care and concern.

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 28 Mar 09 - 09:54 PM

For those posting their own parallel experiences, I'm thinking of you, too.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: GUEST,Marie and Joe
Date: 29 Mar 09 - 01:24 PM

Meghan, Elaine, Becca, Debba and Papa Kendall,
Still watching the thread and updates, I am still uncertain as to why the papers are not updating daily or at least every other day. I am still hopeful that Ezra is found, and safe. I pray for the strengh that Meghan needs right now. How she must be suffering inside while trying to remain strong, during this unknowing state of the situation. I love you all very much, and I remain as ever a concerned friend. Air kisses oxoxox Marie and Joe

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: open mike
Date: 29 Mar 09 - 10:11 PM

Why was the news about the bridge not included in earlier accounts?
Please let this be solved soon!

Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 29 Mar 09 - 10:49 PM

Waiting, with you.

~S~