Obit: My Dear Wife

Subject: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: jeffp
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 06:45 PM

My wife of 6 1/2 years, Bonnie, passed away from this world this morning. She had dealt with gallbladder cancer since February 2003. The average life span for someone diagnosed with gallbladder cancer is 6 months. She lived with great joy and exited peacefully and gracefully.

I will miss her greatly.

Jeff

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Alice
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 06:49 PM

Jeff, my sympathy to you and your family in the passing of Bonnie. Take care. - alice

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: alanabit
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 06:55 PM

From me too. I hope you take comfort from some hapy memories.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: bobad
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:01 PM

My condolences Jeff, take comfort in the time you had together and the joys you shared.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:04 PM

Oh, Jeff...the Grace you both had through this inspires me, but I still regret Bonnie had to make this journey so soon. My love and good thoughts for you both continue. Please call if you need/want to...and, thanks for sharing with us.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Menolly
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:08 PM

It is now 4 years since I lost my husband, Nick, to rectal Cancer. You have my every sympathy. It is hard but always remember that though your loved one did not want to die, they also wanted you to live after what they could not escape. I went somewhat manic in the first year but I made a lot of new memories and I celibrate what we had and who he was.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: wysiwyg
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:08 PM

You have both been very much in my thoughts and prayers, especially the last few days. I am so happy that you had each other and always will, and I am so sorry that the earthly pilgrimage was so short. Please write or call if you feel like it; I will continue to hold you in the soft spot in my heart.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Little Hawk
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:11 PM

My condolences, Jeff. I send you my good wishes and I hope you find whatever sources of strength you most need at this time.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Beer
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:17 PM

My deepest sympathies.
Adrien

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: open mike
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:19 PM

hugs to you and may you find peace...
thank you for sharing this with the
mudcat family. Laurel

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: GUEST,Ralphie
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:46 PM

Being English, I'm obviously rubbish at this sort of thing.
Don't know you, But Hey!
Good Luck and Bugger. What a shame.
Thats the English for you. Stiff Upper Lip, (but a quivering heart)
May your future be bright..
Love Ralphie xx

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: JennyO
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:48 PM

So sad to hear this - you had her for so little time. We're here for you when you need to talk.

Jenny, in Oz

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Naemanson
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:48 PM

So sorry to hear about that. You have my thoughts and hopes.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:49 PM

Sorry to read this, Jeff.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Barry Finn
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:52 PM

My sympathies & condolences to you jeffp & to you too, Menolly. My niece called my his afternoon to ask me to sing at her husband's funeral service when he goes, which will be any day now, it's heart breaking. Thank you for giving me an insite from your prospectives. My heart goes out to you both.
Barry

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:52 PM

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss and my thoughts are with you. That she was able to triumph for so long over this horrible illness is inspiring.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Alba
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 07:58 PM

My Thoughts are with Bonnie and with You, Jeff.
Very sad News.
If there is anything I can do please do not hesitate to let me know.
With Love,
Judi

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: MaineDog
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 08:07 PM

I know that this is not fun. Been there, done that. With prayer, and music and friends, you will come thru the tunnel. May the light be even brighter for you when you come out!
MD

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 08:16 PM

My sympathies, Jeff. May her memory never fade and your heart rejoice at the good times you had together. They are yours for keeps.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: kendall
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 08:36 PM

This is a real bummer, and I'm sorry to see it here. You have my sympathy.

I lost an old shipmate a week ago. He was 84 and ready to move on. Still, it's a loss, and there are no words that help very much.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: jeffp
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 09:10 PM

Kendall, I read her your book while she was in the hospital. She got quite a kick out of it. kat, she loved your writing as well. Thank you everybody for your support. The family was here most of the day and it was really beautiful in its own way. It felt very traditional as we gathered around and shared memories and then helped the crew carry her out of the house and to the van. Reminded me of an old-fashioned wake. I am satisfied that all of us did the right thing and honored her in life as well as death.

May she rest in peace.

Jeff

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: GUEST
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 09:34 PM

Jeff,
I am very sorry.
Take care of yourself now. Rely on family and friends to help you through this.
And always celebrate her life.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: SINSULL
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 09:35 PM

Above was from me.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: GUEST,bassic
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 09:54 PM

jeffp, amen, lovely words. I celebrate with you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Willie-O
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 10:18 PM

Sort of what Ralphie said, cept from a Canadian perspective.

Hold her in your heart--she'll live there forever and that is the best kind of afterlife.

Bill

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Janie
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 10:24 PM

I'm so sorry Jeff. Peace and comfort to all of you.

Janie

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 11:14 PM

What a wonderful story, about reading Kendall's book to her.

I'm so sorry to read of her passing. Thank you for taking the time to share this sad news with us.

Maggie

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: CarolC
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 11:18 PM

Deepest condolences on your loss, jeffp.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: jacqui.c
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 11:31 PM

So sorry to hear this Jeff. All my good wishes to you and your family.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: catspaw49
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 11:35 PM

Words are pretty inadequate but they are all we have. You and Bonnie have been in my thoughts Jeff and I am sorry she has gone.....but you know well she will never really leave you.

Take great care of yourself......You have our best thoughts and deepest sympathy.

Pat and Karen

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: JedMarum
Date: 04 Jul 06 - 11:35 PM

I am so very saddened at your loss. I wish you the very best in picking up the pieces and moving on, alone. I cannot even imagine - but I hope you will find solace in the years you had with her and the life she left in you heart.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: frogprince
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 12:11 AM

I'm just another stranger to you, out here somewhere, but I also have lost family members and friends to cancer, some much to young. I wish you strenghth, and the comfort of your family and friends, to see you through the pain of your loss.
                   Dean

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Amos
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 12:12 AM

Dear Jeff:

One step at a time,mate; keep breathing. This is sad news indeed, and no easy thing. My thoughts are with you

A

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 04:36 AM

Take care, we're thinking of you.

LTS

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: GUEST,Kingbrill
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 04:43 AM

So sorry to hear of your loss. Take care of yourself and hold on to the loving memories.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: redsnapper
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 05:02 AM

My deepest condolences and thoughts.

RS

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Brakn
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 05:09 AM

Sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: The Barden of England
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 05:47 AM

So heartbreaking to lose a loved partner. My thoughts go with you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: greg stephens
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 05:53 AM

Very sorry to hear this sad news, Jeff
Greg

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 06:26 AM

Condolances from me as well. Hope that knowing you are in so many thoughts will help.

Dave.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 06:34 AM

Thinking of you both.
Keith.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Hawker
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 06:40 AM

So sorry to hear your sad news. Much love to you and kind thoughts
Cheers, Lucy

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Azizi
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 07:45 AM

I'm sorry about your loss. Your wife sounds like a wonderful lady. And it sounds as though you two had a love supreme. You are blessed to have experienced that.

Please remember to take care of yourself. I'll continue to hold you in prayer.


-Azizi

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Mr Red
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 07:49 AM

FWIW the Queen Mum said of breavement

It doesn't get any better - you get better at it.

My father died when I was six months old and I observed, though poorly understood, grief for 35 years. Just remember that you have a community here and don't avoid doing the things you enjoyed before. I have seen people cut themselves off and it is not a good idea.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: kendall
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 07:58 AM

Jeff, thanks so much for that piece of information. I really don't know how to respond except to say that I'm pleased that my feeble attempt at writing served such a worthwhile purpose.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: GUEST
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 08:03 AM

So very sorry to hear this Jeff....love and blessings to you and your family...

Suzi....x

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 08:20 AM

I'm sorry to hear of your loss

sandra

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: skipy
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 08:32 AM

I have tears in my eyes for a lady I didn't even know.
Take good care of yourself she would have wanted that!
Skipy

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: SharonA
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 09:23 AM

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Jeff. My deepest condolences to you and to the family.

Sharon

Subject: RE: Obit: My Dear Wife
From: Essex Girl
Date: 05 Jul 06 - 10:07 AM

My sincere condolences. Having been through this 8 months ago I can imagine how you feel. The mudcat family will laugh and cry with you.
Linda