LilyFestre-Mommy+Daddy+Baby...now on to Life!

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Fri. Surgery- comfort etc welc
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 05:35 PM

Forgot to mention that at 12:30 UK time (7:30 EST) My outlook popped up a reminder to think on Michelle and the surgical team. Conveniently my lunch time so I could dedicate about 45 solid mintues to this project.

I searched for google images of healing thoughts and healing hands.

Every good one I found, I contemplated and wished it into Michelle's mind and the surgeons hands.

http://img03.picoodle.com/img/img03/8/5/9/f_healinghandm_ab57f27.jpg

http://www.fredpayne.com/healing/images/pages/thoughts_are_things.jpg

http://www.massagemag.com/cms/images/stories/healingpowerofbreath.jpg

http://theserviceconnection.org/tsc/media/UserFiles/image/handsincircle(1).jpg

http://userserve-ak.last.fm/serve/252/25659751.jpg

http://static.squidoo.com/resize/squidoo_images/-1/draft_lens3594402module233215

http://c2.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/79/l_b6a347d07ab84a23a598430b6072ae4

I hoped it worked.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Fri. Surgery- comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 06:12 PM

Never came across those sets of images. I have kids in the house, so I'm more likely to see stuff like this.

I wouldn't call before late tomorrow at the soonest, and only then if we haven't heard anything. It was important enough to get her in for this vital surgery that no one said much to her about the first couple of days after such surgery. But it isn't any fun, and calls from relative strangers, even well-meaning ones, probably should wait a while.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Fri. Surgery- comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 07:34 PM

I can tell you from personal experience that Michelle will probably be virtually knocked out for the next twenty four hours and will be unlikely to be taking any phone calls, unless things have changed dramatically in the last six years.

Good thoughts coming from Boston.

Jacqui.c on Kendall's session on the laptop.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Fri. Surgery- comfort etc welcome
From: ClaireBear
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 07:48 PM

From my experience I can add that it seemed too much trouble to look at flowers, read cards, turn over...in fact, about all I could manage was to listen to music on my Walkman (it'd be an iPOD these days I guess), which helped drown out the hospital sounds. (They stuck me in a maternity ward for my cancer-related hysterectomy, so as I lay there in physical and mental distress I was surrounded by new mothers and streams of their jubile visitors.)

I was in for about a week.

Does she have an iPOD, or, if it would help, is there someone who could lend her one? I don't have one (still using the Walkman) plus I'm too far away, but maybe someone back there could help?

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Fri. Surgery- comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST,WYS-out
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 07:51 PM

Still no calls or voicemails here. I can tell you tho that her last voicemail, from ydy afternoon EST when she left word on the surgery time, was very upbeat, well-breathed, and looking fwd to being "cancer free by this time tomorrow" (which is now today and hours ago).

Of course, flowers are always appropriate and can be delievered promptly-- if anyone cares to send them who already has the hospital info-- and I'm sure that she would appreciate knowing in a tangible way about the recovery ward party going on already. I suspect she'd rather not have missed that-- and she does love to decorate.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Fri. Surgery- comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 09:05 PM

Husband here.

I just got home. Everything went OK. They do not have a room for her yet so she was still in the recovery room when I left sleeping. She had stag 2 ovarian cancer and uterine cancer. They are confident that they got it all but want to follow up with some chemo to make sure.

Pete

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Fri. Surgery- comfort etc welcome
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 09:09 PM

Thank you, Pete. Really appreciate your letting us know.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: maeve
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 09:24 PM

Thank you, Pete. I'm checking this thread before bed. Best wishes for a smooth recovery...for both of you.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 09:43 PM

Thank you, Pete. I know how big a shock this is for you, also, and we appreciate your taking the time to fill us in. Take care of yourself. I'm glad they caught it.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 09:49 PM

Sending lots of white light and positive thoughts.

Arghh! Let's get everybody cancer-free -- this is getting a bit overwhelming.

Linn

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 09:54 PM

How is Cancer Staged.

FYI.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: wysiwyg
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 11:30 PM

Good to hear the recov. rm news.

Hardi also got a call from Bonnie (still near hosp), pretty upbeat. Plans underway to try to go see Michelle, maybe Monday-- Bonnie and she are aware weekend is overfull with a big funeral we must attend tmrw before the Sat. svc.

Husband-- SRS wanted to know if Michelle desires a phone call. If she wants that and has her cell with her, pls follow up with Stilly River Sage. (I think she does not have M's cell number nor does M have SRS's.)

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 11:47 PM

Michelle has my phone numbers, and has a bonus number that was a typo (someone named Stephanie, she tells me). Oops!

They're all going to be so wrung out for a while.

I think I need to get out another bear to keep the first one company. Actually, I have a lovely large rabbit here that would work like one of those big long pillows used for sleeping alongside someone, for resting a leg on, etc. He'd like to come down off the top of the cabinet that appeared in a recent declutter thread.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: open mike
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 02:09 AM

best wishes...and hope you come thru with flying colors...

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc wel
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 04:34 AM

Good to hear from Michelle's Pete. SRS that info link... thought provoking, scary and damned good to know.

Still here wishing healing thoughts at Michelle.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST,WYS-out
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 08:03 AM

SRS-- good. I'd brain-farted.

Let's slow down on what we think the docs said/meant and what is ahead for LF. It's early days, yet. Next challenge she is most likely to face is path report-- the waiting for the more in-depth post-surg path-- and the immediate post-surg practical stuff (as I know many of you know lots about).

Michelle's own posts (when she gets back to them) will be our best guide as to how she needs us to respond, and I think it will be most realistic to expect her to be all over the map as she settles into whatever treatment plan the docs send her home with. Small steps.


Pete-- please, be extra careful with the long drives back and forth. And if you are not already boarding the critters, we can highly recommend the lady near you at Woodbine. If you can use any other kind of help, please know that you are welcome to contact Hardi thru the parish office or home phone, both of which I believe give his cell#.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Bobert
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 08:44 AM

Stage 2, as far as camcer goes, is a good thing so I guess a...

...hooray is in order here!!! Hooray!!!

Now, Pete, here's the hard part... Ya' gotta do all the housework and cookin' and other yucky womenz things fir a couple weeks and, oh yeah... Ya' gotta be nice, too... Sorry, pal... Thouhgt you'd rather hear that from another guy... Kinda hard takin' them kinds of things from a womenz 'cause they sound too much like orders... Know what I mean???

Anyway, just do 'um an' yer lovely wife will love ya' for it an' all the goopy stuff and...

...tell her that all the Mudders is wishin' her a speedy recovery and a happy gardening season... Oh yeah... She can get all her seeds ordered while she's recoverin'... It's time anyway for them...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 09:34 AM

Its all good news and thanks Pete for bringing it. I know both of you needed some real info and now you know........Knowing is always better!!!

I know......then again, I ain't always better......'course that's a personal problem and one the Docs can't fix............well, maybe a shrink.........................

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: SINSULL
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 10:20 AM

Pete,
Thank you for the update. It was kind of you to take the time given all you have on your plate. Michelle is physically and emotionally spent right about now. But the cancer is gone and the chemo will slam the door hard.
SRS - thanks for the link. Michelle is going to be OK.
That is good news.
January 16 and I am wishing 2010 away already. All you sick people get well NOW!
Love and good thoughts, Michelle,
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 10:48 AM

Thanks, so much, Pete, for taking the time to update us. Take care of yourself, ok?

Still holding Michelle and all of us in a circle of light .

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 12:29 PM

It's a bright sunny day here today--that's a great mood lifter. I hope it's bright for your part of PA. Michelle, get up and walk around a little. They put wheels on those poles if you're still attached to anything. My daughter complained that I kept making her hike through the floor after her spleen surgery, but with each walk she felt better.

My only other advice, if you're wearing a hospital gown - Mind the Gap!

;-D

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: gnu
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 12:46 PM

I missed this thread completely! Darn.

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Peace
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 12:52 PM

Sometimes a guy's prayers ARE answered.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: jacqui.c
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 01:03 PM

Thanks for the update Pete.

Michelle - I am so glad that the surgery went well. Remember that we are all here and watching your progress.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: SINSULL
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 01:29 PM

The most painful part of that first walk is the five o'clock shadow. OUCH!
Sorry if that made you laugh. Laughing hurts too.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: alanabit
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 03:13 PM

Thanks for the update. Here is another hoping you see off that cancer and get on with living normally. Best wishes to both of you.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 03:13 PM

Ah laughing ain't so bad..........but don't sneeze.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 05:05 PM

That's what the bear is there for, to hold on tight.

Story on myself, and don't hurt yourself laughing:

I had surgery in early fall, right after the height of swimming season, and of course one wants to keep the pubic from being public, so I'd trimmed and edged the delta down to a short half-moon. My surgery was vaginal, so they did a trim upward from down below. When I got a look at myself in my first shower I know the glow of embarrassment must have shown through the curtain, and I could imagine the operating room chuckle at the short goatee the prep nurses left in place, just like in Playboy. Oy.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 05:45 PM

You do have a way with words when speaking of delicate matters, esp., SRS!*bg**

Mine was done the same way, but I don't remember any goatee, nor does Rog!LOL!

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 03:34 AM

Apropos of nothing, here's a Paula Poundstone routine. Good for a few chuckles. :)

(I'm up late, drank too much caffeine this evening).

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc wel
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 05:21 AM

I was at a festival this weekend & came back to the good news.

hugs to Michelle (gentle ones & only when appropriate) & Pete.

I never thought to take one of my multitude of teddies to hospital last year. Last week I had my 12 month CT scan for my cancer op last year & only scar tissue can be seen - apart from the very interesting stuff like bones & other bits that belong there!

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 07:25 AM

Husband here again,

Was pretty tired so I did not post last night. She was in good spirits yesterday. She is eating and drinking good. I walked with her up and down the halls. She is on some good pain meds so she is sleeping a lot. We talked and think it's best if people wait to Monday afternoon to call so she can get her rest. The weather is suppose to be bad today so I am not sure if I will make it down. Her mom is there so I will post what I am told tonight if I do not make it down.

Take care,

Pete

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 07:43 AM

Thanks, again, Pete! Just keep giving Michelle our abundant love- hope she can feel it! Keep taking care of yourself, too.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 11:17 AM

Pete, thanks again for the update.

If you want to print this thread out and take it to Michelle, the way to do it to save paper is to look at that line between each post. It has links for "Post - Top - Forum Home - Printer Friendly - Translate" in each instance. Click on Printer Friendly and it scrapes out a lot of the intervening stuff, and gives you a document that can be carried to the hospital for sharing, if she doesn't have a laptop there.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: SINSULL
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 12:02 PM

Walking is the best thing. Hard at first but it gets easier each time. All good news. Thanks, Pete.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST,WYS-out
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 02:26 PM

Oh, no worries, Maggie. Pete's an old hand at Mudcat. He knows his way around here, well.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 04:28 PM

I could hardly wait to get out of the hospital to get some decent food. And sleep through the night without someone coming in every couple of hours to take blood. When Moonglow was in the hospital we took turns sleeping down there to keep an eye on the comings and goings. Even though they have the best of intentions, it still helps to have an advocate present. I'm glad Michelle has Pete and her mother trading off on this.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 06:23 PM

If "local" snow conditions hereabouts permit, Hardi and I are def going to go see her tomorrow (unless word of early discharge surprises us), so if there are any offthread messages to convey, feel free to PM them to me by, oh, I think I can log in around noon and print if the church puder is free.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: gnu
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 06:38 PM

Just say HI & best wishes.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: GUEST,WYS-out
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 07:25 PM

Oh yes, of course-- that we will do.

~S of earlier guest post~

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 09:10 PM

Oh yeah....By all means Susan. And ask her if she has a goatee......and tell her we're all getting a bikini wax in her honor........Tell her we'll pay for one for Pete and Mom too..................


Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc wel
From: GUEST,Tinker
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 10:37 PM

'Spaw there are some limits to my commitment to declutter.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 10:55 PM

I can understand that Tink, but try to look at it more as an Artisitic Exercise................

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Tinker
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 11:13 PM

Spaw, I've deleted two posts prior to posting.....

It's still the Sabboth.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 01:34 AM

Spaw, she's going to hurt herself laughing if you don't watch it.

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc wel
From: Janie
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 06:43 AM

Coming to this thread very late, Michelle. Sending all good thoughts your way.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: Leadfingers
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 07:36 AM

Glad to hear that things are progressing satisfactoraly

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: SINSULL
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 08:22 AM

New day. One day closer to going home and getting on with life.
Michelle, If you want me to smack Spaw for you, just say the word.
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 08:28 AM

I think a group smacking is very much in order. Think how cathartic it will be.


Meanwhile....

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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -Surgery UPDATE comfort etc welcome
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 08:31 AM

Spaw will love that!