BS: Obit My Mom

Subject: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Raptor
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:26 PM

She died a little over an Hour ago.

I feel so alone

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Raptor
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:27 PM

She's now with my dad who died Oct 3

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: bobad
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:28 PM

My condolences.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Tig
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:37 PM

((((((((((((((((((Raptor)))))))))))))))

Hang on in there, you are now on Hug Therapy! It's horrible to lose a parent, especially if you had only one left and the other dying so short a time ago. I really feel for you. You are surrounded in hugs to help yourself to - though a lot will just arrive :-)

Accept the fact things are going to get harder before they get better but remember you have a lot of back-up behind you from the Cat. PM me if you think I can be of any help (not sure where you are - I'm in Yorkshire.

Lots of love and hugs
Tig
xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: GUEST,winterbright
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:38 PM

So sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Jeri
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:41 PM

Big hug from me, if you want it, and all my sympathy.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:43 PM

And in that one way you are. No one ever replaces a parent that was deeply loved.

My Mom died 43 years ago. She was only 43 at the time. I arrived back home from college very late in the evening and my Dad and I talked long into the night. He'd lost his own Mother many years before and one thing he said to me that night was the best and truest thing he ever told me was, "Not a day will go past that you won't think of her."   

At the time it seemed almost too painful to consider, but as time passed the cold pain of her loss was replaced by the warm flush of the memory of the person she was. Now at this long distance out I realize that the Ol' Man knew well of what he spoke. He died just a few years later not a day goes past without their memory in my day somewhere

I'm sorry for your loss and you have my best thoughts.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Little Hawk
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:47 PM

This will be my 2nd attempt to post on this thread. The gremlins ate my first post. It was...

I can believe you feel alone. I am sorry for your loss, my friend.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Donuel
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 08:52 PM

Jeez Raptor, Im sorry. That feeling of being an orphan at any age is contradictory. Its empowering its tireing its reminising, its looking ahead, its a time of loss and a time of finding. some people are better and some are bitter.
For me the one thing that didn't pass away was a lifetime of remembered love.
Hoping you are well.
Don

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Beer
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:03 PM

My condolences as well.
Adrien

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Ebbie
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:10 PM

My condolences for your many losses in just a few years. I can't imagine how you will bear it - but you will. Now is a good time to USE your friends- they can't take away the pain but it is good to be reminded of the importance of love in your life also.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:13 PM

You bring so many interesting things to Mudcat, Raptor, and you have shared sorrow here also. Your mother must have been a very interesting woman to have brought up such a son. I hope you'll tell us about her when you're ready.

I agree with Pat, once the huge pain of loss passes you can look back at the person and see the good stuff with a new perspective. You are the keeper of those important things, and you can share them and remember and honor them. This doesn't mean the tough times go away, but you learn perspective. My parents died in 1997 and 1998. Sometimes I still have a moment of surprise that they're gone. And there are so many times when I miss them, always on Thanksgiving, and often on occasions when my kids do things that I know they'd enjoy hearing about.

Take care. And hold your friends and the rest of your family close.

Maggie (SRS)

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: dwditty
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:32 PM

Heartfelf condolences, Raptor. Blessings.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: maire-aine
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:42 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my deepest sympathy.

Maryanne

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Leadfingers
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:46 PM

Commisserations Rap !

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: GUEST,WYS-out
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:58 PM

Raptor, I know that you feel alone; but try to remember that both your parents will always be with you, and will continue to show their presence in your own best attributes. I'm not saying this right-- I just mean that as long as YOU are still here, they are too.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Maryrrf
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 09:59 PM

I am very sorry for your loss, Raptor.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Janie
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 10:07 PM

I'm so sorry, Raptor. It must be especially difficult to have lost both parents within just a few months of one another.   Peace be with you.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Bobert
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 10:11 PM

Man, I am so very sorry for your loss...

Warm thoughts and prayers...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: olddude
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 10:26 PM

In my thoughts and prayers my friend
I am so sorry. Mine just got out of the hospital today. So far so good but she is 86 and starting that slide ... I am so so sorry

Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Tinker
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 10:53 PM

Blessings to one of the dear ones.....

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 11:19 PM

My deepest condolences. There is nothing like losing one's parents. My mom's been gone since 1999 and my dad for five years now and I still find myself talking with them, in my heart and head. May you find comfort in the memories of love and life with them.

In sympathy,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: KT
Date: 14 Jan 10 - 11:26 PM

Raptor, I'm so sorry for your loss.   
KT

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 12:01 AM

I Love You Guys

Thats me and not just the bacardi talking.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Little Robyn
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 12:16 AM

((((((((((((Raptor))))))))))))
You're not alone - we're here, all round the world.
Robyn in NZ

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Rasener
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 12:20 AM

Everything thats been said above.

Keep strong

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: ClaireBear
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 12:31 AM

My post of earlier this evening disappeared into the aether, but Little Robyn said it all, anyway. MudHugs and condolences...so sorry for your loss.

Claire

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Neil D
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 12:37 AM

So very sorry.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: CapriUni
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 12:50 AM

There are no words you can read, I imagine, that will bring you comfort right now.

But maybe they will in the future.

And know that if you ever wish to tell a story of your Mom or Dad, there are open ears (and eyes) to receive it.

((HUG))

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Genie
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 01:37 AM

Yes, there's a deep sense of loss at being an orphan, no matter how old you are - especially when we lose both parents so close together.   Spaw and Stilly have said it so well, Raptor.

I hope we, your friends at Mudcat, can be of some comfort to you in your time of grieving and that you will continue to cherish your parents' love and spirit and connectedness though they are no longer with you in the flesh.

{{{{{{{{{{Hugs]]]]]]]]]]

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Dave Roberts
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 02:13 AM

My condolences.

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From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 06:37 AM

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: My guru always said
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 06:57 AM

So sorry to hear this, Hugs!
Hil

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Andy Jackson
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 07:31 AM

CapriUni, sowed the seed of a lovely idea there.
We often know each other by Mudname only. When the time is right a short story of your lost love one would bring us even closer.
My dad died over 5 years ago, yes I think of him every day. My dear Mother is approaching 90 so I may soon have to face the inevitable.
But they both will have left indelible memories on all who knew them.

Kind thoughts to you Raptor,

Andy

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: GUEST,LTS pretending to work
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 07:32 AM

So sorry to hear this Rap, take care of yourself and please, tell us more about her.

(((Rap)))

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 07:54 AM

Oh, Rap, I'm so sorry. Each loss compounds the next one.
Remember: love never dies.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: maeve
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 08:03 AM

I'm thinking of you, Raptor. Carry your sorrow in a basket of love.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: 3refs
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 08:08 AM

So sorry for your loss Raptor!
50 days after my Mom passed.
There are no words to make the feeling of loneliness go away. My oldest brother said "we're orphans now Richard, but we still have each other!
We, are no replacement for your Mom(or Dad), you'll never be alone!

God Bless!

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: SINSULL
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 08:41 AM

I am sorry.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Lizzie Cornish 1
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 08:44 AM

Dear Rappy,

From the moment your Mum closed her eyes...indeed even before, she'll have been surrounded by many souls who have loved her and who were there to welcome her with hands outstretched.

Neither of you are alone.

Your Mum ain't going to stop loving you, merely because she's passed on to the next phase, and you don't have to ever stop loving her either, nor yattering to her, and your Dad, whenever you feel the need.

I yatter to my Dad all the time...smile at how he'd have laughed about something I'm doing or not doing...

The Pain gets less and the Love gets more....eventually.

Until then, as someone's said already, we're all here to yatter to as well, so don't you DARE feel alone.

And that's an order! :0)

Lizzie x

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: mauvepink
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 08:54 AM

You're not alone... and neither will you ever be. I am sorry for your loss and hope this short anonymous poem will help a little.


Their Journey's Just Begun

Don't think of them as gone away,
their journey has just begun.
Life holds so many facets,
this earth is only one.

Just think of them as resting
from the sorrows and the tears,
in a place of warmth and comfort,
where there are no days and years.

Think of how they must be wishing
that we could know, today,
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.

And think of them as living
in the hearts of those they touched
for nothing loved is ever lost
and they were loved so much.


May she rest in true peace

mp

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: alanabit
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 09:57 AM

This has been happening to you too often over the last couple of years. Like everybody else, I send my condolences. It must be about time for some good stuff to start happening to you now.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 10:50 AM

This is one instance where a lot of us here really do know the same grief. My folks died in 1980 and 1992. They still turn up in my dreams quite regularly, usually taking part in ordinary present-day activities. Wishing you strength and comfort.
                     Dean

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Polly Squeezebox
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 12:54 PM

My mother passed over 35 years ago - but her influence still lives on in my life. I know she would have been proud of the things I have achieved and I take pleasure in that knowledge. I will always miss her - as you will always miss your mother, but it does get easier.

Sending my blessings to you Raptor to ease your grief.

Polly

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Anne Lister
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 03:28 PM

Sending love and sympathy to you from here, too.

Anne

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Shanghaiceltic
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 06:18 PM

Sorry to hear about your loss. Time heals but she will always be in your mind.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: jacqui.c
Date: 15 Jan 10 - 08:43 PM

So sorry Rap. Tell us about your mother when you can.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: fat B****rd
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 05:54 AM

Please accept my condolences and best regards. Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Morticia
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 06:38 AM

So sorry for your trouble Rap, you've been such a constant source of kindness to others when they've looked for comfort here, I hope you find a little in your own right.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 07:02 AM

Calm and comforting thoughts going out to you, from Essex UK.

Don't know what else to say.

tam

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: open mike
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 02:42 PM

blessings and strength to you....to get thru this...
my parents died a week apart, and although many said "how terrible" I believe that it was a beautiful thing, that they were so connected that there were now together....

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Pistachio
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 03:40 PM

Sorrow today and sorrow for some time to come - and Mudcat hugs for as long as you need them. (((((((((((((((((HUGs)))))))))))))))))))).

Heartfelt condolences,
Hazel, in Yorkshire

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Anniecat
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 08:55 PM

So sorry to hear your news. My Mum died in my arms 18 months ago and it seems like yesterday. She is still around me, leaving lamps on and finding things I have lost and we chat all the time, but I have the satisfaction of knowing that she is well and happy. Your Mom is still around you as are all of your Mudcat friends.
Hugs,
Anniecat

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Hawker
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 09:06 PM

So sorry to hear your news, and losing both parents so close together! Lots of hugs and the kindest and gentlest of thoughts go out to you and yours.....and the strength to get through this difficult time. You are definately NOT alone xx
Lots of Love, Lucy

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Sandy Mc Lean
Date: 16 Jan 10 - 09:19 PM

My deepest sympathy, Raptor!

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: paula t
Date: 17 Jan 10 - 12:13 PM

So very sorry to hear your sad news, Raptor. Nothing we say will help, but at least we can send good thoughts to you.

Paula
xx

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 05:48 AM

I've only just seen this thread, but wanted to say that my thoughts are with you. I was far away from my own mother when she passed away - suddenly, though she was old - so there was no chance to say goodbye. I know how this loss feels, and send you my deepest condolences. I hope that you find some peace and comfort (which can come in many surprising forms).

Bonnie

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Raptor
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 09:35 AM

http://www.inmemoriam.ca/announcement-31337-Bernadette-Marie-Bun-Walsh.html

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: maeve
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 09:43 AM

Raptor's link


Thinking of you, Raptor.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 01:02 PM

Thank you for posting that, Rap. Be well.

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: katlaughing
Date: 18 Jan 10 - 03:21 PM

She is very beautiful. I love that her smile shows in her eyes, too. What a lovely write-up and so many obviously loving relatives and friends. She sounds like a very classy, wise, fun woman. Thanks for sharing that with us.

In sympathy,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Mooh
Date: 19 Jan 10 - 08:00 AM

My condolences. Very sorry to hear this.

My own Mum is always in my mind, but I've learned to remember her happily rather than mournfully, as you will for yours.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: GUEST,Linda Kelly at work
Date: 19 Jan 10 - 08:35 AM

my deepest sympathies -my mother is very ill and coming to the end of a long and wonderful life. I hope there was no pain.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: LilyFestre
Date: 19 Jan 10 - 09:57 AM

(((((((((((((((((((((Much Love)))))))))))))))))

Thinking of you,

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Obit My Mom
From: Pistachio
Date: 28 Jan 10 - 06:03 PM

((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs are still around you))))))))))))))))))))))







Hazel.x