BS: Dreams can make you sad

Subject: BS: Dreams can make you sad
From: Fossil
Date: 20 Apr 11 - 06:55 AM

Unsettling experience: I was woken by the alarm at 0630 from a very vivid and "real" dream, in which I was sitting in the bar of "de Engel" (a bar in Brussels, Belgium - where I used to live)with a group of people, amongst whom was John Warren (a very good friend).

He had just said to me, "Well, what have you been up to, me old mate, let's go and have a talk". And we were about to go to another table when the alarm went.

I woke up and was desolated to realise that it was in fact a dream and that I never will ever again get the chance to do that (John died suddenly in June last year).

How sad life is sometimes.

Subject: RE: BS: Dreams can make you sad
From: Lizzie Cornish 1
Date: 20 Apr 11 - 07:48 AM

Maybe it was John just asking you to have a talk with him, Fossil...I believe we don't lose those whom we love, ever. I often natter to my Dad and he died 21 years back now..

Always good to 'keep in touch' and those who appear in dreams have a strange way of making you do just that sometimes.

Talk to him. He'll hear. xx

Subject: RE: BS: Dreams can make you sad
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 20 Apr 11 - 07:58 AM

Yes life can be sad and the older I get the worse it feels. My cousin died who I was very close to, he was 3 months younger than me. His mum and mine were both close as sisters so it was like an extended family spending the majority of time doing the usual family things together. all through my teens I always took it for granted that we would grow up and support each other later should anything happen to our parents I didn't bank on him goimg at 47 years old 18 months after his father died. Just after that I just couldn't even picture his face anymore. Then one night I had a dream that I knocked at the door of a house they used to live at and as he opened the door smiling he was in the middle of making toast like he used to do when we were in our teens. Then I said 'I thought you were gone,' He joked and laughed, 'It wasn't as bad as all that bad passing through' and then shut the door. I felt a little bit better because I actually saw his face smiling albeit from the end of the 70s style of clothes but still sad because I will never get to have a drink with him again or tell him how things are going like we used to do.

Subject: RE: BS: Dreams can make you sad
From: Mrrzy
Date: 20 Apr 11 - 10:25 AM

For a long time after daddy was killed I didn't dream about him, and I wished I would because he couldn't be alive in real life so I wished he were alive in my dreams... then after several years I awoke suddenly from a dream and *saw* daddy turn into someone else, so I think I *had* been dreaming about him but my mind turned it into someone else when I woke up, to keep me from the shock of him being dead *again* (which I did have every morning for a long, long time)...

Then I dreamed about him showing up places unexpectedly, still alive, with stories of the CIA hiding him...

Now when he shows up in my dreams I know he's dead but he's there anyway, sometimes I have to explain that to people...

But it's been 28 years as of the day before yesterday. I am still looking forward to having a regular dream in which he appears normally. It would be nice just to have coffee with him or something.

Subject: RE: BS: Dreams can make you sad
From: Charmion
Date: 20 Apr 11 - 01:04 PM

Like most people, I occasionally I dream of deceased or long-vanished friends and relatives. I usually experience these dreams as refreshing visits.

Subject: RE: BS: Dreams can make you sad
From: GUEST,mauvepink
Date: 20 Apr 11 - 01:19 PM

I have a friend who wrote a song some while ago. Only yesterday I heard it for the first time. In there is a line that knocked me flying...

"I can't sleep for dreaming..."

Totally floored me

Dreams can be our best friends and our worst nightmares. There are many people I would hate to see in a dream. Never want to ever see them again. But those I love and want to see I never see enough of


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Subject: RE: BS: Dreams can make you sad
From: KT
Date: 20 Apr 11 - 02:20 PM

The first song I ever wrote was entitled "Sad Dreams," written upon waking from a dream of a friend who'd just died, very suddenly, in an accident. The song acknowledges that the dream provided an opportunity for a visit which could be achieved in no other way. Sad as they can be, I welcome those dreams.