BS: Should I Tell ?

Subject: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 09:20 AM

Seriously just before dark on Sunday I had to go to my clients office down the street to look at a software issue. I came in the office through the loading dock. Between the buildings, I saw my neighbors daughter 15 or 16 having sex with her boyfriend the same age on the grass between the buildings.

Should I

1) Tell the parents
2) Talk to the kids directly (I know them)
3) Do nothing

I really don't know what to do.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 09:23 AM

If there is a garden hose handy......

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 09:34 AM

LOL, I never thought of that Jack, that would have worked

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,livelylass
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 09:42 AM

You could have a word with the young guy I suppose, make sure he's using protection. Encourage him to take her elsewhere too, by the house is plain skanky..

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,Bizibod
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 09:44 AM

What is it that you want to say to them ? :)

Offer of a room ?
Contraceptive advice ?

Tricky.
I think maybe say nothing to anyone.
Think how they'd feel to know what you'd seen, and keep schtum.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 09:55 AM

My inclination is to say nothing, not my business. But had it been the police who do check that building on their regular rounds ... ahhhh would not have been good for the kids at all ...

got to think about this one

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Lox
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 09:58 AM

What they do is their business.

However, they take a risk by doing it it the yard and they would be mortified to think that they had been seen.

Thankfully it was by someone sensible and not by a wierdo or by a policeman.

On that Basis, I might, at the right opportunity, state "What you do with your private life is your business, but you need to be more careful in case the wrong person sees you".

Apart from that, teenagers sneaking around has been par for the case since long before romeo and juliet did it.

These will probably be the most magical days of their lives so don't interfere would be my advice.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:09 AM

I'd mind my own business, but I do like the hose suggestion. You should have been whistling or something as you approached.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:16 AM

I think cold water is the only moral option in this case.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:23 AM

I think you are in the USA. I think the USA has a very backward looking attitude to such things and still uses expressions like "statutory rape". I would stay very, very stumm.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: MikeL2
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:36 AM

hi dan

I would keep out of it. "Interfering" could bring you grief. Good intentions are fine but can be often misunderstood.

Stay away is my advice.

Regards

MikeL2

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,Patsy
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:40 AM

I would just make the kids aware that if you were able to catch sight of them someone not so nice might be able to as well including the law. This is a difficult time especially as the long school summer holidays are approaching some schools might have broken up for summer already, all that free time the hot summer weather. Oh I wish I was that young again.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Ebbie
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:49 AM

If the youngsters are the same age, is it still statuatory rape? Don't see how. On the other hand, if the boy was/is 18 and the girl 15/16 and it were discovered he would have to register as a sex offender. Which I also don't understand.

How well do you know the parents? If I knew them quite well, I might say something to them on the order of "Judging by what I saw I think your daughter and her boyfriend may be at the brink of something serious."

In other words, pretend you didn't see the actual activity.

But I don't know. I have never known, either, whether I would tell a good friend that her/his SO was cheating.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:49 AM

Leave it.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,livelylass
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 10:50 AM

I dunno, if I knew them I'd have a word. As I'm female myself and the girl was (potentially?) underage, I'd probably at least ask the teenage girl if she was protected. Teenage pregnancies ain't funny and not worth being coy about IMO. I still think by the house is a bit skanky tho', ain't he got a car?

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Bettynh
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:00 AM

I'm with livelylass on this one. I'd be sure they each had a handfull of condoms, and the message "don't be stupid about sex." Whether you just slip them into their pocket with a note, or have a discussion is up to you. Actually having the condoms is the importan part, though. They are embarrassing/potentially dangerous for them to buy (might be seen, etc.).

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:05 AM

I certainly would not me offering someone else's naked and under-aged daughter condoms or sexual advice.

A bucket of cold water with toilet bowl cleaner would remind them or their indiscretion for a very long time.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Bill D
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:09 AM

You are unlikely to affect their behavior, no matter what you do or say....and 'telling' their parents just complicates it all. Unless you know one of the kids well enough to feel that they would TAKE your advice, it's probably best to just shrug...

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:12 AM

I am with the consensus here, I am just going to stay out of it. I don't think anything good would become of it. Maybe if they keep using the place I will give the boyfriend a short talk but nothing good can come out of it just hurt feeling and embarrassment I think.

Thanks for the advice for sure. I just turn away immediately but in this cell phone age those kids could be seeing themselves in action on youtube had it been some creep that saw them

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:19 AM

Don't kids today have plenty of chances for privacy? I suspect that they were doing it outside for the "thrill."

If it happens again, cloroform them and tattoo "don't be stupid" on their buts. Preferably in chinese characters.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Silas
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:23 AM

What the hell has it to do with anyone but themselves?
I can't even believe that you would even consider telling anyone about it, let alone their parents!

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:27 AM

It is irresponsible and self-destructive behavior. If you think it will help, you have a moral obligation to do something.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Smedley
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:44 AM

Why is it 'self-destructive' ???

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,livelylass
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:44 AM

Gotta edit this for you Olddude:

"in this cell phone age those kids could be seeing themselves in action on youtube had it been [one of their mates] that saw them"

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 11:46 AM

If you can't see that from reading this thread, then I can't explain it.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 12:16 PM

Before you post the movie on you tube you ask the parents how much money... no no

Make a vacation video of many edited scenes and invite the parents over... naw

Ask Jack he knows all the new ins and outs...

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: alanabit
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 12:18 PM

No.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 12:20 PM

Water laced with saltpeter and blue dye

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 12:52 PM

I liked your flame thrower post on the other thread ... You make me laugh Jack thanks

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Smokey.
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:01 PM

Say nothing to them or their parents, just mention it discreetly on an international forum for the amusement of us more enlightened folk. How do we find this place on Google Earth?

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:03 PM

nasty.teen.porn.satelite.net

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:05 PM

Smokey
LOL, do you want me to have the CIA point the Surveillance Satellite for ya ... ya can get close up that way LOL

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,livelylass
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:34 PM

I hear tell that Jack is planning to be in the bushes with a flamethrower ready to singe their arse hairs at a crucial moment too..

Olddude are you going to make this next event pay per view? Not that I'm a weirdo like you lot or anything, just asking in the interest of research for my blog on "American folk-customs", you know I hear they do some pretty strange things over in the colonies..

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: gnu
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:38 PM

It never happened.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Smokey.
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:40 PM

Do they have a loud-hailer on that thing? We could bellow encouragement and useful advice at them.. "Haven't you heard of foreplay, lad?" - "Steady on pet, someone could slip on that."

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,leeneia
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:47 PM

Somebody here said that what the kids do with their private lives is their business.

Excuse me? Would anyone here want to be the parent of a pregnant 15-year old? Or a teenager with VD? If this goes haywire, it's the adults who will bear the brunt, and that makes the kids' behavior their parents' business.

Also, I seriously question the morals and wisdom of a boy who would have sex with a girl in such a risky location. Doesn't he know that alleys are a good place for alkies and druggies to hang out?

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,livelylass
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:50 PM

'The seX Factor': our young lusty contestants get rated on their 'talents' by a panel of vacuous celebrity judges before the decider where they have sex with a powerful music industry mogul in order to secure a contract which will enable them become a vacuous celebrity too!

I know, it sounds strangely familiar..

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:51 PM

Oh fuck, here come the fundies...

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Smokey.
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 01:57 PM

It's probably a bit unreasonable to be making assumptions about their character..

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:03 PM

Pay per view, now that is a good money making idea. We would have to come up with a catchy name for the website.

so Gnu you are saying let it be ... that is what I am going to do ...

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: GUEST,livelylass
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:05 PM

And did she even come? Teenage boys can be pretty fundamental anyway, get it in one of the holes, make a mess, go home for tea..

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:06 PM

catchy name for the website

"yougotojailifyouwatchunberagesex.com?

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:08 PM

And did she even come? Teenage boys can be pretty fundamental anyway, get it in one of the holes, make a mess, go home for tea.

It is not like that in the US, not at all. They drink Mountain Dew instead of tea.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Smokey.
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:13 PM

Ah, the post-coital brew.. best drink of the day.

So, OldDude - what exactly did you see?

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:16 PM

Did u read this in Pemthouse?

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:33 PM

Ya know what, I think they may already be busted. That building is very secure. I need a special card key to get in and then a code to get into the data center and offices. I never thought about it but there maybe cameras on the outside between buildings. If so Dave the building manager got an eye full this morning.

pretty stupid place actually to do such ....

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: Jim Dixon
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:35 PM

Here I am asking myself

Should I

1) Give olddude some advice
2) Make a joke of it
3) Do nothing

I don't know what to do, either.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: kendall
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:38 PM

Years ago I had occasion to witness such an event, and I told the girl's Father, "If you don't want that halfwit next door for a son in law you should speak to your Daughter."
No questions, no interest and he never spoke to me again.

I admit it wasn't very diplomatic, but my lack of diplomacy was not the issue.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: gnu
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:52 PM

Well, IF ya talked to the kid and told him not to be so stupid, it would continue and if they are found out you will be suspected to be an informant.

IF ya talk to the parents (one a neighbour), you could end up in shit... with the parents OR even with the kids as mentioned above. Kids THESE days are not to be trusted. Same with parents, even if you KNOW them. This is 2011 and civility and such just seems to have evaporated.

Sex happens. Even the birds and the bees do it.

It never happened.

Subject: RE: BS: Should I Tell ?
From: olddude
Date: 25 Jul 11 - 02:52 PM

Very good point Captain. I am just keeping my mouth shut and pretend nothing happened like Gnu suggested. It will only cause issues and I got enough of my own to deal with..

Hey the street dept is replacing water lines on my street. They just left their Kubota back hoe in my yard. Wonder what I can get on ebay for it ... anyone need anything dug up ... I got just the ticket here.