What becomes of the broken hearted?

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Hollowfox
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 05:40 PM

Take heart, *he* gummed up, not you. It is better to have it end now, before the possibility of him seeing someone else without telling you, and the feeling of betrayal htat comes with -that!-. This is small comfort at the moment, though. Let yourself cry, the catharsis really does help get things better. Not to wallow in sorrow, mind, but to prevent bottling all that junk up inside you. Like baking a cake, the passage of time is one of the essential ingredients here, so roll with the punch, and don't be too hard on yourself. In the end, it's better to keep your standards high and lose a lot of boyfriends than be stuck with a real bowser. "You gotta kiss a buncha frogs before you find the prince." (sometimes; you don't want to take up frog-kissing as a major hobby though.) {{((Firecat))}}

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: SINSULL
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 05:17 PM

gnu - you're right. I should have clarified that. I meant that when the right one comes along, this will have been a worthwhile learning experience. Firecat (and I believe this is not a necessary statement) DO NOT SCREW AROUND! It will only make things worse.

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: chip a
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 05:13 PM

Don't let the bastards get ya down, Firecat! Remember the feeling that comes with newfound love? That filled up to bursting, just gotta tell someone, feels good just to speak their name, feeling? Well, now you'll have the chance to feel it again!

(((((((((((((((((((((((FC)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Chip A.

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:58 PM

One more thing. I don't wanna seem like I'm preaching, but promise yourself that, NO MATTER WHAT, you won't speak to this person for at least a month (better a year, but... it depends). I'm serious - do not speak to this person or "through" anyone else. If this person begs you in any way, just say you need time to think. Take that time. When something like this happens, the absolute WORST thing is to get back together without time in between. The simple fact of the matter is that your trust in this person will always be suspect and that's worse than any solace you could ever gain by getting back together.

As for booze or food or whatever, don't use it as a crutch. You may not be able to walk again after the required amount of time goes by.

Good luck. I know a lot of broken hearts out there are pulling for you. You'll be okay.

Subject: LYR ADD _ Ferron's "Ain't Life A brook"
From: Clinton Hammond
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:49 PM

from Ferron

I watch you reading a book
I get to thinking our love's a polished stone
You give me a long drawn look
I know pretty soon you're going to leave our home
And of course I mind,
especially when I'm thinking from my heart
But life don't clickety clack down a straight line track
It comes together and it comes apart.

You say you hope I'm not the kind
To make you feel obliged
To go ticking through your time
With a pained look in your eyes
You give me the furniture, we'll divide the photographs
Go out to dinner one more time
Have ourselves a bottle of wine
And a couple of laughs

And when first you left
I stayed so sad I wouldn't sleep
I know that love's a gift, I thought yours was mine
And somethng that I could keep
Now I realize that time is not the only compromise
But a bird in the hand could be an all night stand
Between a blazing fire and a pocket of skies

So I hope I'm not the kind
To make you feel obliged
To go ticking through your time
With a pained look in your eyes
I covered the furniture, I framed the photographs
Went out to dinner one more time
Had myself a bottle of wine and a couple of laughs

And just the other day
I got your letter in the mail
I'm happy for you, its been so long
You've been wanting a cabin and a backwoods trail
And I think that's great...me...
I seem to find myself in school
It's all Ok, I just want to say
I'm so relieved we didn't do it cruel
But ain't life a brook

Just when I get to feeling like a polished stone
I give me along drawn look
It's kind of a drag to find yourself alone
And sometimes I mind
Especially when I'm waiting on your heart
But life don't clickety clack down a straight line track
It comes together and it comes apart.

Cause I know you're not the kind
To make me feel obliged
To go ticking through my time with a pained look
In my eyes
I sold the furniture, I put away the photographs
Went out to dinner one more time
Skipped the bottle of wine
Had a couple of laughs
And wasn't it fine....

;-)

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Clinton Hammond
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:44 PM

Time wounds all heels...

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:39 PM

FC... time IS the only healer of the heart. As for a lover ( see SINSULL above), I don't think it's a good idea, but, if you do, make abslutely sure you tell him that it's lust and not love. No need of two broken hearts.

Justa Picker... I'll be right over. But I'll bring more wine and some ales. Action movies, right ?

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:38 PM

Bugger wrong thread. Soddit.

Sorry, hope it was useful anyway!!!

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:36 PM

Whatever you do, if he has been a bastard to you, don't let his behaviour influence you to act the same way... read this thread - sorry, can't do the blue clicky thing, but if you refresh for 14 days and go nearly to the bottom, it's there. Or just double click on my name above this posting and check out what I've posted to.....

BS: Does it get better when STRESS is gone?

There's lots of good stuff there about reducing stress, causes of stress, and something about a relationship I was involved with..... basically his partner treated him like dirt so he thought that was a good way to treat others. Still mopping that one up.

And if you want to write to or phone him, think and wait an hour. If you still want to do it, wait another hour. If, after 2 - 3 hours you still want to, you need to go and do something else.

LTS

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Matt_R
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:23 PM

Well, FC is a college student, so I'm sure there'll be some substitutions all right!

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Justa Picker
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:21 PM

A doob, a half a bottle of dry white wine, cold peeled shrimp on a plate with some dipping sauce, a good instrument to play, a cat on your lap to stroke and a bunch of movies to watch at your leisure.

Pamper and indulge yourself.


Note: The above is only my personal recipe. Make whatever substitutions work for you.

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: kendall
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 04:14 PM

You have now reached adulthood! You cant expect a one legged man to win an ass kicking contest, and, he cant give you what he does not have. It is true that men cant commit, but, there is more to it than that, if he cant commit, then he has serious reservations about whether or not it is the right relationship. Look at it this way, he did you a favor. Why would you want to stay with a guy who doesn't want you? It's his loss, not yours.

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Matt_R
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 03:22 PM

WHAT??? After all that? Dammit! Any minute now I'm gonna be firing up my Sawzall, and make sure I have the scrotum-cutting blades on it.

I know how you are feeling right now, FC...I've been there before. Sometimes it feels like it will never end. But be comforted...you have friends here who will stick by you always, and let nothing harm you. They say "it will pass" and "you will heal in time" but in all reality, it's very hard to see it that way in the beginning. Please, take care of yourself....and remember, if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm always around here.

A good suggestion for now is to find some good music that doesn't remind you of his sorry ass, and turn it up as loud as it will go. And get ice cream, as suggested above. LOTS of ice cream.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{FC}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

--Matt

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: lady penelope
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 03:21 PM

" So dear friend , a love is gone Only Tears to dwell upon, I dare not say as the wind may blow, so a love is lost , a love is found

Go to sleep and dream again, Soon your hopes will rise and then, Through all this gloom life will start anew, And there'll be no crying soon"

Freddie Mercury / Queen - Sheer Heart Attack

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{FIRECAT}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

TTFN M'Lady P.

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: SINSULL
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 03:09 PM

Firecat,
Time will make it better. A new lover will make it worthwhile. Meantime, feel free to commiserate with people who still love you and rarely get fed up.
Mary

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Walking Eagle
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 03:08 PM

Firecat,

I'll see ya down on Lonely Street at the Heartbreak Hotel. Just look for the most beautiful big woman in the lobby and that will be me. Big Hug! Just think what it would of been like if you had married Mr. Fed Up!

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: MMario
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 03:06 PM

{{{{{hugs}}}}

double chocolate fudge ripple couldn't hurt.

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Kim C
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 03:04 PM

Oh, Firecat! Been there and done it but usually it was me who got fed up. Doesn't make it any better though.

I second Alex's motion.

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: mousethief
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 03:00 PM

Firecat, I'm so sorry to hear that! Broken hearts suck, I know. Buy yourself something really creamy and yummy, put on a sad old movie, and just in general take care of yourself. And remember that we all think very highly of you! Love and hugs.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Firecat}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Alex

Subject: RE: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: sophocleese
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 02:59 PM

BIG HUG! Firecat. No words just silent sympathy.

Subject: What becomes of the broken hearted?
From: Firecat
Date: 27 Jun 01 - 02:57 PM

It's official. I'm single. My ex-fiance finished with me today. His excuse? "I'm fed up."
Now I know what a broken heart feels like.

PLEASE send hugs. They would be much appreciated.