BS: Kendall's biopsy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 11:04 AM

Kendall, it may not be much consolation to you, right now, but for a long time the only voice of yours many of us knew were your written words, right here on the Mudcat. You will ALWAYS have a voice, regardless of any physical changes. Now that I have head you on CD, your actual spoken voice is indelibly "inked" in my brain. It is so distinctive and easy to conjure up because of its quality, it will never be silent regardless of any physical changes. Just wanted you to know that.

Remember, too, all of the Mudcat love, good thoughts, Light, etc. that have come your way and helped along. They are still there for you to tap into. As much as you can, use your power of visualisation and *see* the best possible outcome...second opinions are always good in such cases!

We are here for you and jacqui,

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: GUEST,bbc at work
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 11:26 AM

Kendall, I'll be praying for wisdom for you & your doctors as you make a decision between 3 choices you'd rather not have. I'm so sorry to hear the results. Best to you, always.

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: CarolC
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 11:37 AM

I'm so sorry to hear this news, Kendall. But I am very glad that you have Jacqui to help you through this time. My best thoughts and wishes to you both, and may you both have all of the help and strength and whatever else you need to get you through this together.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Tinker
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 11:38 AM

Well Mister, I've already told you how much more important you are than a measely communication method. So I won't repeat myself. I'll be sending care and love and perhaps a few distractions...(grin, maybe some inspiration from the lady and the little man???) Continue to listen to your heart as you chose a path....

Love Always
tinker

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: DougR
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 11:39 AM

I'm sorry you didn't get a better report Kendall. Tough choices.

DougR

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 11:50 AM

The info on this page might be of interest, Kendall, fwiw.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Sorcha
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 12:18 PM

Cap'n, this is NOT ALLOWED! Get somebody to do some mojo on that damn thing.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 12:24 PM

Kendall, you've chosen love, and now you're considering your best choice for life. Here's hoping they're both equally successful (they are intertwined, but I've mentioned that before already.)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: fat B****rd
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 12:45 PM

I'm thinking of you, Kendall and wishing you all the best.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Barbara Shaw
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 02:57 PM

Kendall, Frank and I are so sorry to hear your biopsy results. It's a tough choice, but I personally would go for the most aggressive removal of the cancer. You've had a raspy voice since I first met you several years ago, and it's part of your charm now. You (and we) have the recordings to remember your beautiful voice. Most of us never had a beautiful voice to begin with! And now you've got a new path opening up for you with your wedding to a wonderful lady (I'm told by you, and I hear on the Mudcat). With or without a voice, we're happy to have you around, so keep on doing what you have to and keep on being around.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 03:07 PM

Well geeziz Kendall.....I haven't been in much this past week and missed this entirely and I gotta' tell ya', it really bites the big one. I'm trying to think of something light to say but you make it pretty damn hard......I mean coming up with something light to say is the hard thing..... not pretty damn hard as in Viagra........well, you know what I mean.

Lessee here........uh......oh, I got one! A couple of Rabbis are touring a sausage factory and the one notices that.............wait a minute, that one's not all that funny because they end up with trichinosis. Oh, I know! How about the one about the guy with only one ball but he has three scrotums? ....................aw hell, everyone knows that one. .............well crapperdoodles Batman!   I'm drawing a blank here.

While I think about it, you concentrate on doing the best for yourself because we all love you...........uh, that's another one I don't mean in the Viagra sense........but uh, well...you know what I mean.......I hope..............

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Dave Swan
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 03:21 PM

Yeah...what Catspaw said.


Dammit and best wishes.

D

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Deckman
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 04:03 PM

SHIT SHIT SHIT!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 04:15 PM

See that shit and raise you an 'oh bollocks'.

Take care of the rest of you properly now, you hear?

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Deckman
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 04:17 PM

I call you and raise one "SANTANAN PERICOLES!!!) ( my appologies to all Finnish speakers)! Bob

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Kim C
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 05:42 PM

((((((((HUGS))))))))

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: LilyFestre
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 06:16 PM

((((((((((More hugs))))))))))))

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Blowzabella
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 06:35 PM

I sorry to hear your news Kendall. We've never met, so I've felt a bit - not knowing quite what to say - but - if the power of love and friendship means anything at all, then you certainly have it coming towards you in great truckloads, from all the people on here who do know you - and I'll send mine along too, if you don't mind...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Joybell
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 07:33 PM

Kendall, I feel like adding all the **%&&$#@@@**!! ++&&*^ I have here over and over but it won't help will it?   
Blowzabella said it so well. I'd like to send my friendship and thoughts over to you too. Joy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: GUEST,CET (in Virginia)
Date: 15 Sep 04 - 09:11 PM

I am very sorry to hear the news, Kendall. Charmion and I both send our prayers.

From yet another of your Mudcat friends (one who has had the privilege of meeting you).

Edmund

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Roger in Baltimore
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 11:00 AM

Tough choices! I have faith you'll find one that works best for you. Congratulations on the good news. A good woman can carry you through many hard times (voice of experience). Looking forward to seeing you at the Getaway.

Roger in Baltimore

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Mike Regenstreif
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 11:35 AM

Kendall,

My thoughts are with you in this struggle. Keep on fighting.

Mike Regenstreif

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: alanabit
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 02:20 PM

Just to wish you luck and say that I hope you see this bloody thing off again. A speedy recovery Kendall.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: mooman
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 03:09 PM

Dear Kendall,

My sincere thoughts in your direction and wishing you every positive vibe for the difficult decision you have to make.

Very best regards and peace,

moo

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Carly
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 04:36 PM

I agree with Charlie Noble; a second opinion is a good idea, especially when faced with such tough choices. In the meantime, I'm having frequent chats with the Lady Upstairs; I just hope She's paying attention! Much love to both of you, and I look forward to seeing you at the Getaway.

Carly Gewirz

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Annie
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 11:05 PM

Kendall:

Well, this is not good news. My concerns and prayers are with you as you think through the choices. I'm sure you'll finally make the right decision.

Love ya, Annie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: GUEST,Pauline L.
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 02:51 AM

Kendall,

I'm sad that you got bad news but glad that you have the love of a good woman and the caring and support of a lot of Mudcatters to help you. Remember, we love your raspy voice but we love your life more. We'll talk, sing, play, and listen more at the Getaway.

Pauline

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Deckman
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 02:56 AM

Question ...Do you have the title picked for your next book? Bob

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Teresa
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:24 AM

Kendall,

I've only met and talked to you in cyberspace, but I have enjoyed our conversations, and I feel I have gotten to know you a little. I'm sending my positive thoughts out to you and Jacqui. Hang in there, and keep on livin' and lovin'. :)

Teresa

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: fiddler
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:47 AM

Just picked up on this one as I have been very busy lately!

Oh Damm Kendall I can only offer mental and emotional support whatever your decision, I was lucky last time I was tested it was clear and only based on disposal utilities which whilst unpleasant are not as fundamental as the abilities you will have affected.

As I said above boy emotional and mental support completely and unequivicably (b*gg*r the spelling) given.

Andy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Melani
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 05:09 AM

This really sucks, Kendall. Hang in there and be strong.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 05:35 AM

All my sympathy, Kendall. It's a tough call, but think on this: Our voice, or playing, is not what defines us. That's the job of brain, heart, personality, thinking. And Kendall will always be that - Kendall, a valued friend not for his voice or playing, but for himself.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Big Mick
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 09:46 AM

Cap'n, I have been in computer hell for nigh onto two months, and have only just gotten back and reset my cookie. I suspect when I wade through my email I will find one there too. This is the first chance I have had to read through a few threads, before heading off to play three cities in three days, the middle one with Seamus Kennedy.

This news sucks, and I must tell you that it makes me sad. I consider you a dear friend, and I wish I could take this away. You have been in my prayers as this has played out, and will continue to be. I remember being angry with you at how you were dealing with it a year ago. But I must tell you that when I read this, and the thread about you and jacqui c. getting married (that woman must be trying to earn her way into heaven by suffering on earth ...... hahahaha) in the face of this, I was so proud of you. You sure you ain't got some Irish in you somewhere?? It seems like a testament to the both of you that you are embracing this and working your way through. Often we cannot control the cards we are dealt, but we are in firm control of how we play them. I like the way you are playing these. It's a shitty hand, but you will play it well, with the assistance of a good partner. I can't wait to see you in October, and toast the happy event. And don't go getting pissy when I give the new bride a big hug and kiss. This is going to be a grand party. But I have one question. Can she throw a bowline?

Oh ..... and one more thing. "nervous as a Christian Scientist with a severed artery"? Where do you come up with this shit? Computer is back online less than a day and I have spit coffee all over the damned thing.

All the best,

Mick

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: PoppaGator
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 02:45 PM

Kendall,

I've been meaning to send you an encouraging message about my own experience -- I've spent most of 2004 (since discovering a lump in my neck and visting a doctor on New Year's Eve) dealing with my own throat cancer, and I am lucky enough to be healing up nicely now and getting *almost* back to normal.

Now that I'm back from hurricane evacuation and have read this whole thread, I can see that you're facing a tougher set of choices than I had to confront. I'm not even going into any more detail about my own situation, which isn't that much like yours, after all.

I'll say this much: I was always aware of the support, prayers, etc., of many friends and family, and I was always able to maintain such a positive attitude that my doctors and nurses often commented upon it. Did my positive mindset help bring about my eventual recovery, or was I able to maintain that good attitude only because I somehow knew I'd come out of it relatively OK? Who knows? All we can know for sure is that faith and hope can't hurt, so you might as well conjure up as much as you can for yourself.

It's very encouraging to see that you're starting out on a new marriage at the very time that you have to confront this nasty disease. Staying hopeful and orienting yourself to the future rather than to the past is probably the very best medicine for you, so you seem to be on the right path. You've got plenty of good friends, all over the world, sending you all the positive energy they can muster. Hang in there, buddy.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Gorgeous Gary
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:19 PM

Sorry to hear the news. Hugs, best wishes and healthy thoughts!

See 'ya at the Getaway!

-- Gary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: CapriUni
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:31 PM

Adding another string of curses and prayers... Other than that, I'm speechless.

How quickly can you get that cat scan done? It's not being able to answer that big "what if" that drives me so crazy...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: GUEST,jacqui.c
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 06:43 PM

Hi all

Kendall has an appointment for the CAT scan on Friday 24th September - no earlier appointment could be found.

Thanks to everyone for all the kind words and encouragement - it is much appreciated by both of us.

We'll keep you updated.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: wysiwyg
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 07:34 PM

Prayer chain updated. We're pulling for you, both.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Lanfranc
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 07:41 PM

Hi, Kendall and Jacqui

Our thoughts are with you both. You never know, the CAT scan might be encouraging, and radical surgery avoidable.

In the meantime, carpe diem, enjoy yourselves as much as possible. We'll keep the Millstream going 'til you get back over here - we're looking forward to some Jacqui and Kendall duets!

All the very best

Elizabeth & Alan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Fortunato
Date: 18 Sep 04 - 11:28 AM

Kendall,

I don't know you nearly as well as you deserve, and it's going to take some years to remedy that. I hope to see you and tell some lies and sing some songs before to long. I asked the Great Animator to go easy on you from here on.

    chance

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Alaska Mike
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 12:23 AM

Arrggh, Cap'n. "Talk Like A Pirate Day" be's the right time to parlay 'bout this sad, mizzerble perdicament yer in.   Make sure yer sawbones tries all the pirate remedies afore splittin' yer gibbet. There's plank walkin', keel haulin', bilge dippin' just to name a few.

And don't ya go gettin' yer knickers all bound up in a bunch o'er this uncharted course ye seem to be on.   Yer a crusty ol' salt and ye've weathered many a gale afore this. So keep yer eye on the horizon and show yer lovely new shipmate how best to deal with rough waters.

Me and the little woman will keep a shore light burning brightly for ya along with yer many other friends. We'll share us a pint of somethin' dark and foamy when next we cross paths at the Getaway. Arrggh.

Pirate Mike

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: kendall
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 07:51 AM

Ahaaarrr Mike 'tis pleased I be that ye be thinkin' of the old captain.It's true I be sailin' into dangerous waters and may be caught on a lee shore, but damn my eyes the uncontrollable winds are plottin' me course and I can only pray for them to haul around and keep me from foundering. Aye...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Emma B
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 08:52 AM

Just back from the wilds of the Alpujarras,(lots of mules but no computers); so sorry Kendall to hear your news belatedly
Mucha suerte y qué te mejores
un abrazo afectuoso

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Herga Kitty
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 12:43 PM

Kendall, I'm rooting for you too! Best wishes, love Kitty xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Noreen
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 06:17 PM

Shedloads of hugs and positive thoughts for you, Kendall, and for Jacqui.

Enjoy every minute of every day- worrying cures nothing!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: kendall
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 02:48 PM

I just got an appointment with the laser expert in Boston, 17 friggin' days after the biopsy. And that is just a friggin' follow-up!Sometime down the road I'll get the friggin' operation.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: bbc
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 08:52 PM

Waiting--it seems like what we spend most of our lives doing. Hang in there. Keep busy & don't think too much about things you can't change. Great advice, huh? Easy for me to say, but I do sympathize.

best from NY,

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: beardedbruce
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 08:55 PM

Give any thought to asking 2 Bears to work on you? No idea if it would help- but would it hurt?

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: KT
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 09:52 PM

Kendall, I heard the news from another catter before I saw this thread. You have no idea how many times you crept into my thoughts during my set that night, . Still pulling for you, Kendall.

May all of the caring that's evident in this thread, be a source of strength for you. Hang in there, Kendall. Thinking of you and Jacqui as you weather this storm together.

KT

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 11:31 PM

He doesn't need Two Bears--he has Jacqui to work on him. That's the real cure! ;->