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Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

12 Jan 12 - 12:27 PM (#3289359)
Subject: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Just found out that our eldest daughter has been diagnosed with a grade 4, inoperable tumour in her lung. She lives in Dubai...we in London, which adds an extra layer of logistical problems to sort out. Prayers, thoughts, meditations...whatever you do in a crisis, spare us a minute or two in your 'quiet times', we really do need all the help we can get,
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann Paterson.


12 Jan 12 - 12:31 PM (#3289362)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Nigel and Ann, I don't know what to say. But good thoughts and prayers will be in my heart for you and your daughter.


12 Jan 12 - 12:32 PM (#3289363)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Maryrrf

I'm so sorry to hear this - I will keep you in my prayers and meditations.


12 Jan 12 - 12:35 PM (#3289366)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Pete Jennings

I'm here with you.


12 Jan 12 - 12:54 PM (#3289373)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: saulgoldie

Very sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers to you.

Saul


12 Jan 12 - 01:26 PM (#3289401)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Ebbie

And from me.


12 Jan 12 - 01:30 PM (#3289404)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Eliza

So sorry, Nigel and Ann, to hear this. Will offer up heartfelt prayers for you all at Holy Communion. God keep you. Eliza


12 Jan 12 - 01:46 PM (#3289420)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Oh dear! Thoughts and prayers.


12 Jan 12 - 01:48 PM (#3289421)
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From: Raptor

Thoughts and Prayers on your way.


12 Jan 12 - 02:03 PM (#3289438)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: SINSULL

You have my thoughts and prayers.
Mary


12 Jan 12 - 03:37 PM (#3289511)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

All of the above and kindest regards from Charlie in Dunfermline.


12 Jan 12 - 03:41 PM (#3289516)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Good thoughts coming from Maine for all of you.


12 Jan 12 - 06:09 PM (#3289584)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ranger1

More good thoughts from Maine.


12 Jan 12 - 07:09 PM (#3289616)
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From: LilyFestre

And from Pennsylvania too.

xoxoxoxo


Michelle


12 Jan 12 - 07:29 PM (#3289632)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie

Also from North Carolina, Nigel. Holding all of you in my thoughts and meditations.

Janie


12 Jan 12 - 08:10 PM (#3289654)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: W y s i w y G !

<3


12 Jan 12 - 09:41 PM (#3289696)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

And, from Colorado, too. Thanks givings for peace, comfort, and a way through what may come.

kat & my Rog


12 Jan 12 - 09:46 PM (#3289697)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Bobert

Good thoughts from North Carolina...

Bobert


12 Jan 12 - 10:01 PM (#3289703)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ragdall

Nigel & Ann,
Good thoughts for your daughter and for you, from Northern Canada.


rags


12 Jan 12 - 10:17 PM (#3289707)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: catspaw49

Geeziz Nigel..........I am so sorry and you can be assured you have all my best for your family. And I can offer you the extra kick-ass power of the second "T" which will bring more good mojo!


Spaw Patterson


12 Jan 12 - 10:39 PM (#3289714)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Prayers from RI, too, for the best possible outcome and the ability for all to accept whatever lies ahead.


12 Jan 12 - 11:04 PM (#3289719)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,olddude

you have my prayers my friend. I am so so sorry to hear this new
so sorry


12 Jan 12 - 11:37 PM (#3289729)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Stilly River Sage

"Inoperable" doesn't mean nothing can be done, it means they won't do surgery. My best wishes are that they are able to help your daughter in some other way.

SRS


13 Jan 12 - 04:20 AM (#3289776)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

Good thoughts from France



David


13 Jan 12 - 05:46 AM (#3289803)
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From: GUEST,Dharmabum

From us also.

DB.


13 Jan 12 - 06:22 AM (#3289847)
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From: billybob

Love and healing thoughts from me too (((( xx ))))


13 Jan 12 - 07:17 AM (#3289865)
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From: Monique

Good thoughts from me too.


13 Jan 12 - 07:25 AM (#3289869)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: My guru always said

So sorry to hear this, sending positive thoughts.
Hil


13 Jan 12 - 10:42 AM (#3289979)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, email me when you can. No parent or child should have to go through this.

BM

PS Said some prayers last night. I hope they help.


13 Jan 12 - 11:20 AM (#3290007)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I are overwhelmed by your Love, Care & Concern. Mudcatters at their very best.
We send you all our Love, Hugs & Kisses & a million thankyous,
                               Nigel & Ann Paterson xxxxx


13 Jan 12 - 11:46 AM (#3290026)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: open mike

sending best wishes winging their way to Dubai...and to you!


13 Jan 12 - 03:28 PM (#3290161)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

as, im sure with others,prayer offered with yearning heart and moist eyes.
we have a friend who we really thought would not survive some years back but last year was given the all clear.i wish it was always like that but sometimes it is.God is gracious,keep hoping.


13 Jan 12 - 05:47 PM (#3290241)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Crowhugger

Warmest healing thoughts to her.


14 Jan 12 - 11:13 AM (#3290561)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Frug

All things are possible. Healing vibes on transmit.....be strong the Mudcat Mojo is a powerful medicine.

Frank xx


14 Jan 12 - 01:27 PM (#3290614)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: VirginiaTam

Trying to hope this is not devastating news. Sending some good energy to your daughter and those caring for her.


15 Jan 12 - 02:35 AM (#3290806)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

adding my bit to the Mudcat mojo

love from sandra


15 Jan 12 - 10:25 AM (#3290906)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: John J

What a dreadful weight to bear.

My very best wishes and kind thoughts to you all.

JJ


19 Jan 12 - 04:14 AM (#3292631)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Doing our best to remain positive...not always succeeding...our lives 'on hold' for the moment whilst the doctors do what they need to do. Taking it a day at a time. Much Love to all Mudcatters who are supporting us...it's good to know you're out there,
                                                       Nigel & Ann Paterson xx


19 Jan 12 - 04:43 AM (#3292643)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Keith A of Hertford

May you all find the strength to come through this trial.
You have my prayers too.
keith.


19 Jan 12 - 07:11 AM (#3292700)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

The power of prayer can work miracles and we pray for one for your daughter.
Pete


19 Jan 12 - 07:26 AM (#3292707)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: W y s i w y G !

Watch close for the blessings. You will see things we can only see in these challenges, and they will mean so much to you, later.

Love,

~Susan


19 Jan 12 - 11:42 AM (#3292860)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Still praying, hoping. and sending love.


19 Jan 12 - 01:39 PM (#3292922)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Ditto that.


20 Jan 12 - 12:47 PM (#3293446)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Our Daughter, Jane, begins her chemotherapy treatment this coming Monday. Six sessions, spread over 18 weeks. She is very upbeat & positive...We're all very proud of her. And we're all very proud of The Mudcatters too...where would we be without you. Ann & I would love to meet you all one day. Probably be the biggest 'Group Hug' in history!
         I won't be able to post over the next month...would anyone be willing to keep the thread active in my absence? Maybe, one or two of you could take it in turns. Jane's treatment enters a critical phase now, so she really does need as much Love & Support as you can spare.
         From the Bottom of our Hearts, Ann & I thank you & trust that your lives are free from pain & distress,
                      Nigel & Ann Paterson xxxxx


20 Jan 12 - 12:55 PM (#3293450)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

I'll take care of that for you, Nigel. No thanks necessary.

We'll keep Jane, Ann and you in our thoughts and prayers.

Bruce


20 Jan 12 - 03:13 PM (#3293528)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

Best thoughts and regards as always from Charlie in Scotland.


20 Jan 12 - 06:28 PM (#3293626)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Take care of you and yours.


20 Jan 12 - 06:33 PM (#3293628)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,olddude

Nigel
You daughter and your family are in my prayers every night. Please know that you folks are very much loved. Anything we can do just let us know

God Bless
Dan


20 Jan 12 - 10:56 PM (#3293713)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Well, I'm going to thank you, Bruce! It helps me remember to pray when threads are refreshed, even though I don't always add a comment. Nigel, Ann, I'll continue to pray and hope for the best possible outcome for your daughter and strength for all of you.


20 Jan 12 - 11:04 PM (#3293719)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Stilly River Sage

All our best to Jane. Let every speck of cancer be eradicated by these treatments.

SRS


21 Jan 12 - 04:40 AM (#3293792)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Thanks Bruce...now we know things are in good hands. And continuing thanks to all of you who are staying with this thread. Jane starts her chemo this coming Monday. Six sessions spread over 18 weeks. She remains incredibly positive which is a great credit to her. I would be falling apart by now!
                                  Much Love to All,
                                                             Nigel & Ann Paterson.


21 Jan 12 - 10:15 AM (#3293903)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Keeping the good thoughts going.


21 Jan 12 - 02:36 PM (#3294005)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

More thoughts and thanks givings from here, too. I *see* the good cells flowing through her body, leaving room only for good health and relief.

kat in Colorado


21 Jan 12 - 03:36 PM (#3294032)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

continued prayer.God bless. pete


21 Jan 12 - 08:48 PM (#3294162)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Every night before I fall asleep I say a prayer for Jane.

Sounds like you have one incredibly strong gal there.


21 Jan 12 - 10:31 PM (#3294195)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie

Still have my good thoughts and mindfulness, Nigel, for all of you.


22 Jan 12 - 12:41 AM (#3294219)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

& mine


22 Jan 12 - 07:23 AM (#3294347)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

I have put her name on our church Friday prayer list. We will ontinue our prayers for her and those who support her.


22 Jan 12 - 01:12 PM (#3294533)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: catspaw49

Still here of course.......Strong daughter you have there Nigel. Bruce and many others will keep this one going.

Spaw


22 Jan 12 - 10:50 PM (#3294780)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Continuing and grateful for the reminders.


23 Jan 12 - 10:00 AM (#3294959)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Looks to be the thread's doing fine, Nigel. When you can, please let us all know of Jane's progress.


23 Jan 12 - 06:13 PM (#3295176)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel

I only saw this thread this afternoon. Today will have been the first day of chemo. Nigel and Ann, may the healing hand of the Almighty be on your child Jane, particularly during the next 18 weeks. I intend to keep her and you very much in my daily devotions.


24 Jan 12 - 06:18 AM (#3295342)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: alison

more thoughts and prayers from over here in Oz

slainte

alison


24 Jan 12 - 11:23 AM (#3295462)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Hope you recieve a positive outcome, healing thoghts to you and your family.


24 Jan 12 - 11:41 AM (#3295471)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

Still here in Dunfermline thinking of you .
Charlie fB


24 Jan 12 - 02:51 PM (#3295570)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Ditto.

Jane and your family were in my prayers last night.


24 Jan 12 - 09:09 PM (#3295757)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel

Nigel, in a posting of 18 Jan 2012 you told a friend (Tom) of the illness of your wife's daughter and of your having to care for grandchildren. Am I to presume that it was Jane you were there talking about and that the grandchildren in question are her children? I post this with the good intention of giving more of an identity to the main person for whom we are all praying.


24 Jan 12 - 09:28 PM (#3295762)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

My continued thoughts and prayers.

And, could a mod change the thread title to reflect who we are caring about please? It seems rather impersonal even tho it was obviously not intended in any way to be such. These threads are about friends. They should be named in the thread title. Sorry if that offends in ANY way ANYbody. Just the way I feel... late at night... caring about friends.


25 Jan 12 - 12:17 AM (#3295833)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Gnu, I'm with you on wishing the names of people were in the thread title.

And my prayers continue.


25 Jan 12 - 03:50 PM (#3296203)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Refresh in case Nigel has a minute on computer. Keep on hanging in, buddy.


26 Jan 12 - 02:51 PM (#3296784)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Keeping this thread up top.

Thinking of you and family, Nigel.


27 Jan 12 - 04:43 AM (#3297066)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

Thinking of Jane, Nigel, and Ann this morning, as well as looking for wisdom for Jane's doctors.


27 Jan 12 - 04:53 AM (#3297071)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Bonzo3legs

Warmest healing thoughts, any alternative healing?


27 Jan 12 - 06:33 PM (#3297521)
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From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

another prayer offered for healing and resilience in this troubling time. pete


28 Jan 12 - 08:43 AM (#3297792)
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From: jacqui.c

Still here and sending healing thoughts.


29 Jan 12 - 07:28 AM (#3298365)
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From: maeve

Good morning, Jane and family. The sun is shining and your friends are thinking of you.


29 Jan 12 - 05:33 PM (#3298670)
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From: ChanteyLass

Yes, indeed. Sending love and continuing prayers.


30 Jan 12 - 12:58 PM (#3299154)
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From: GUEST,Manuel

ChanteyLass, I gladly take the baton from you and move on into another day of prayer for Jane.


30 Jan 12 - 01:22 PM (#3299168)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

Still sending you love and healing thoughts.

David


30 Jan 12 - 02:04 PM (#3299195)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Still in my thoughts.


01 Feb 12 - 04:32 PM (#3300492)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel

Jane is still prominent in my daily devotions. But, c'mon Mudcatters, we need to keep this thread near the top of the list every day. So, dear Sandra in Sydney and you, my buddy banjoman, let us hear from you again as soon as time permits!


01 Feb 12 - 08:05 PM (#3300572)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Just stopped in to say I hope everything is going well.


01 Feb 12 - 11:18 PM (#3300623)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Thank you for that good news, 999. Prayers continue!


02 Feb 12 - 06:44 AM (#3300731)
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From: Sandra in Sydney

back again with more good wishes

sandra


02 Feb 12 - 12:48 PM (#3300948)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Thinking of you all right now.


02 Feb 12 - 02:04 PM (#3300996)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel

ChanteyLass, what good news? I thought that 999 was merely hoping (not reporting) that all is going well!


02 Feb 12 - 08:33 PM (#3301254)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Oh, you are right, Manuel! I read 999's post very literally and thought he'd "stopped In" at the home of someone who had good news and told that person he hoped everything was going well. On rereading his comment I guess he meant he was "stopped in" at Mudcat. Sigh. Regardless, prayers continue! (This is what happens when I read and post at 11:18 PM.)


03 Feb 12 - 09:29 AM (#3301441)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

I wish I had. As yet I've heard nothing from Nigel, but I expect he has no access to a computer. I'm sure though that if he gets around to one Mudcat will be somewhere on his touch-base list.

Also, if a mod could pls remove my 02 Feb 12 - 11:27 PM post? I'd meant it for another thread. Screwed up. Sorry.


04 Feb 12 - 07:11 AM (#3301948)
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From: maeve

Good snowy Maine morning to you, Jane, Nigel, and Ann. We know you'll stop by Mudcat when there is time and energy left over from taking care of family needs.

For now, just breathe and love and remember that you are not alone.


04 Feb 12 - 09:41 AM (#3302008)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie

what maeve said.


04 Feb 12 - 11:31 AM (#3302066)
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From: jacqui.c

Ditto what Maeve said.


04 Feb 12 - 01:15 PM (#3302128)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

another prayer offered.


04 Feb 12 - 01:17 PM (#3302130)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

And again!


04 Feb 12 - 04:12 PM (#3302231)
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From: fat B****rd

Thinking of you here in potentially snowy Scotland.
ATB from fB


05 Feb 12 - 05:51 AM (#3302414)
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From: maeve

It's a dark Sunday morning in Maine, but somewhere the sun is bright.


05 Feb 12 - 04:48 PM (#3302710)
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From: jacqui.c

And now it's getting toward dusk in Maine. Still keepingyou all in my thoughts.


05 Feb 12 - 05:51 PM (#3302752)
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From: Big Al Whittle

never really done prayers since i was a kid, But I'll try. so sorry for you.

al


05 Feb 12 - 06:25 PM (#3302769)
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From: GUEST,Manuel

Maeve, it's still shining brightly here (albeit from the west at this time of day) in Central America, from which a quiet prayer went up for Jane, and others, at the crack of dawn.


05 Feb 12 - 07:11 PM (#3302786)
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From: Sandy Mc Lean

Hoping for the best as well!


05 Feb 12 - 07:37 PM (#3302798)
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From: Jeri

I always think I've posted because I thought at the thread, then find I never said anything. I'll hold Jane in my heart, and hope things go well for her.


06 Feb 12 - 06:42 AM (#3302985)
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From: banjoman

Still offering prayers for you and all your family.


06 Feb 12 - 10:58 PM (#3303475)
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From: GUEST,999

Same here, Nigel.


07 Feb 12 - 11:58 AM (#3303764)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel

If, as Nigel said, there are to be six chemo sessions in an eighteen-week period, the second session must be a week or less away by now. I pray that it will prove of great benefit to her.


08 Feb 12 - 04:54 AM (#3304202)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Sure hope so, Manuel.


08 Feb 12 - 06:36 AM (#3304242)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Dont stop praying. Your prayers never go unheeded


08 Feb 12 - 08:26 AM (#3304291)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Thoughts still coming from Maine.


08 Feb 12 - 05:52 PM (#3304559)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: KT

Thinking of you all, and holding you in thought and prayer.


08 Feb 12 - 05:59 PM (#3304562)
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From: Joybell

Thoughts and best wishes from me too.
Joy


08 Feb 12 - 07:29 PM (#3304600)
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From: maeve

Just think of us as mice; for each person's post you see, there are ten, twenty, an hundred more of us thinking, praying, hoping on your behalf.

Squeak! ~()>


08 Feb 12 - 11:59 PM (#3304694)
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From: ChanteyLass

That's for sure!


09 Feb 12 - 02:56 AM (#3304727)
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From: Sandra in Sydney

another squeak


09 Feb 12 - 03:27 AM (#3304733)
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From: VirginiaTam

Still peeking in from time to time. Every time I see the thread title My thoughts got to Nigel's daughter and the family, friends and medical professionals looking after her. More healing energy to the entire orbit of folks surrounding her with love and care.


09 Feb 12 - 04:31 AM (#3304748)
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From: GUEST,moira(flyingcat)

I've just seen this thread and add my best thoughts and prayers to jane, nigel and ann for what they are all going through. I found the support I got from catters and f/b friends when my brother was so ill helped so much. My sister in law was astonished that so many peoople were praying for him. I'ts like a warm blanket flowing over you.
Hope everything is going well Jane xx


09 Feb 12 - 05:18 AM (#3304768)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

More prayers and thoughts from freezing France.


David


09 Feb 12 - 12:38 PM (#3304956)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, I'm still saying prayers for Jane and the rest of y'all. Don't mean I'll be attending church, but if there is a big kahuna, I don't expect that will matter.


09 Feb 12 - 01:55 PM (#3304996)
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From: gnu

Still on deck here.


09 Feb 12 - 06:20 PM (#3305096)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,suzi

Prayers and healing thoughts coming your way for your daughter, and strength for you, her mum, and her children too. Luv and ((((HUGS)))) x


09 Feb 12 - 06:31 PM (#3305101)
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From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

the Lord bless you and keep you..and give you peace. numbers 6 vs24-26


10 Feb 12 - 08:45 AM (#3305322)
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From: jacqui.c

Another mouse checking in.


10 Feb 12 - 09:20 AM (#3305345)
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From: ChanteyLass

Still praying . . .


10 Feb 12 - 09:30 AM (#3305352)
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From: Maryrrf

Also checking and sending good wishes for your daughter.


10 Feb 12 - 02:34 PM (#3305521)
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From: fat B****rd

What Mary just said.
Charlie


10 Feb 12 - 02:39 PM (#3305525)
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From: rumanci

Holding you all close with prayers and thoughts.


12 Feb 12 - 12:05 PM (#3306976)
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From: maeve

Sunny sky and cold winds in Maine, where I'm thinking of Jane and her family; many prayers, many voices, are gathering 'round you all.


12 Feb 12 - 12:54 PM (#3306997)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Thinking of you all, Nigel.


12 Feb 12 - 08:22 PM (#3307210)
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From: maeve

Walking alongside...


12 Feb 12 - 10:17 PM (#3307233)
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From: ChanteyLass

Praying again.


13 Feb 12 - 03:42 AM (#3307268)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Returned home late last night (12th Feb.) Grandchildren in fine form...a little TOO fine on occasions! Jane has her second chemo treatment today. We won't know anything much for at least a week or two. Apologies for the extended silence...no computer. Ann & I are overwhelmed by your Love & Support. We thank you all from the bottom of our Hearts. More news as & when...
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann Paterson.


13 Feb 12 - 04:03 AM (#3307275)
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From: Sandra in Sydney

patiently awaiting the next installment

love & hugs

sandra


13 Feb 12 - 07:31 AM (#3307349)
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From: banjoman

Dont forget to include her in your prayers again today.
Keep going


13 Feb 12 - 07:43 AM (#3307355)
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From: GUEST,Manuel

Did not forget, banjoman!


13 Feb 12 - 08:14 AM (#3307364)
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From: GUEST,999

Time gives us perspective to put things in. I trust you are all hangin' in OK. Keep your spirits and your hearts positive.

Keep well.


13 Feb 12 - 12:17 PM (#3307751)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

"Time gives us perspective to put things in". Bruce, you're so right...problem is, we don't know at this stage, just how much time we've got. We are 'hangin' in'...just...each in our own particular way. For Ann & I, one of the hardest things is just getting on with the daily chores. The laundry piles up, the dusting doesn't get done, sink's full of washing up. All these humdrum activities simply fade into the background...our every waking thought & every ounce of energy occupied by Life's greatest challenge.
          It's good to know that you're all out there...stay with us, please,
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann Paterson.


13 Feb 12 - 01:27 PM (#3307832)
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From: gnu

Certainly, Nigel... Ts&Ps continue. Keep the faith.


13 Feb 12 - 04:35 PM (#3307933)
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From: jacqui.c

Good thoughts still continuing Nigel.


13 Feb 12 - 10:26 PM (#3308096)
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From: Janie

Thanks for taking the time to check in, Nigel. Holding all of you in mindful awareness every day.


13 Feb 12 - 10:33 PM (#3308099)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

still with you and praying
pete.


13 Feb 12 - 10:45 PM (#3308102)
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From: GUEST,olddude

In my thoughts, in my heart and in my prayers


13 Feb 12 - 10:56 PM (#3308108)
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From: ChanteyLass

In my prayers, too. Thank you for the update.


14 Feb 12 - 05:28 PM (#3308581)
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From: maeve

Another boost for Jane, Ann, and Nigel


15 Feb 12 - 03:48 AM (#3308734)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I visited Jane yesterday, following her second chemo session. She looked so well (my Grandmother would have said: "Bonnie"). The mismatch between internal & external...one of Life's great ironies.
                            Stay Close,
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann Paterson.


15 Feb 12 - 04:22 AM (#3308745)
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From: Sandra in Sydney

thinking of you


15 Feb 12 - 08:31 AM (#3308835)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

♥♥♥♥


15 Feb 12 - 08:37 AM (#3308839)
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From: GUEST,Manuel

Nigel, glad to know that she is nearer, in terms of geographical fact, than before, so that you are now back at home and yet able to visit with her at the facility where she is undergoing the chemo. The prayers continue unabated.


15 Feb 12 - 09:55 AM (#3308874)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

I'm thinking often of you good folks, all of you.


15 Feb 12 - 07:03 PM (#3309150)
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From: ChanteyLass

Sending love and more prayers.


16 Feb 12 - 06:13 AM (#3309349)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

As a musician, 'Time' has always been a friend.....now, it takes on extra meanings which I don't much like,
                        Struggling a bit today...we both are,
                                                                               Love to You All,
                                                                                                      Nigel & Ann.


16 Feb 12 - 10:48 AM (#3309489)
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From: GUEST,Manuel

Nigel, now that we speak of friends, let us never forget: "What a friend we have in Jesus!" With Him as our friend, we shall never walk alone!


16 Feb 12 - 01:50 PM (#3309615)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Concentrating on the Now, Right Here, Right Now, I am giving thanks for a lessening of stress, worry, all pain and suffering. This, or something better, for the highest good of all concerned. So mote it be!

With much love,

kat


16 Feb 12 - 11:39 PM (#3309854)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

In spite of all our prayers, some days are bound to be worse than others. I hope all our prayers mean that there will be fewer bad days. I'm sorry that this was one of them. And I'm still praying.


17 Feb 12 - 03:14 AM (#3309904)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Woke up early this morning with a head full of thoughts & 'what ifs' which I really didn't want to confront or have to deal with. However, one of the thoughts needs to be shared here. This 'Ship of Hope' which I launched on Jan. 12th, whilst we know it's probable final destination, the time taken to reach our ultimate port of call remains, and will almost certainly remain, unknown for some time to come. The voyage could be longer than we had anticipated, the seas hostile & rough, supplies could run low...it feels unreasonable of me to expect all of you currently 'on board' to remain so until we drop that final anchor. Maybe you could join me in my metaphor & let me know how you feel about this.
                                                    With Love to You All,
                                                                                    Nigel & Ann.


17 Feb 12 - 06:48 AM (#3309960)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

I think I speak for most contributors to this thread - when I say that we signed on for the journey no matter how long it takes. You need support and prayer for yourselves as well as for Jane, and I know that you are included in all our prayers and best wishes.
Your ship of hope has a first rate skipper in yourself, and a trusting and dedicated crew. We will keep you in mind even if you feel you may have to stop contributing to this thread.
Bset wishes to you both
Pete


17 Feb 12 - 07:09 AM (#3309967)
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From: gnu

I ain't leavin. I don't post every day but I am onboard every day. This is the first thread I look for. Some days, I only read your post(s) and go on.

Heave round to the wind. (I ain't a salt at all... just recalling a song about getting home in a storm.)


17 Feb 12 - 07:35 AM (#3309975)
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From: jacqui.c

Here for the duration Nigel.


17 Feb 12 - 07:42 AM (#3309977)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

Still with you in Scotland, Nigel.
The Very Best Regards from Charlie.


17 Feb 12 - 10:08 AM (#3310031)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

"it feels unreasonable of me to expect all of you currently 'on board' to remain so until we drop that final anchor."

Nigel, I was on-call for 15 years as a volunteer firefighter. Of the 8760 hours in a year I spent 2000 of them working at a job I couldn't leave. I also spent 500 hours out of the province or otherwise indisposed. That left 6260 hours when I answered the pager. I don't think keeping your daughter, your missus and you in my thoughts for however long you need it will be much of an inconvenience if you know what I mean. In the words of my grandmother, "Are you daft?"

Friendship doesn't look at clocks.


17 Feb 12 - 10:32 AM (#3310052)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Still thinking of you and your family every day.
Read your posts even if I don't contribute.
Sending good thoughts and hugs.


17 Feb 12 - 01:08 PM (#3310131)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Nigel, thanks for telling us of your thoughts and concerns for us. I echo what Pete/Banjoman said...in it for the long haul, that's what life really is anyway, isn't it? Prayers, good thoughts, thanks givings...these cost nothing and whatever good we each send out can return to us threefold or more. That's NOT why most of us offer it, but it is said to show you it is NOT a burden to help in this way, as we are each able. Fair sailing through thick and thin, stormy, sunny, and in-between to land on the shore, wherever and whatever that may be, we are here with you.

With all good wishes for Peace Profound,

kat


17 Feb 12 - 04:34 PM (#3310261)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

most all of us currently have or have had stormy seas to traverse.this leads to empathy with others tossed around on an ocean of turmoil, and prayer infused with love and compassion.God bless you.
pete.


17 Feb 12 - 09:50 PM (#3310361)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I'm not jumping ship! Prayers!


18 Feb 12 - 04:21 AM (#3310429)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

My Dear Friends...What a Crew! I couldn't have hand-picked a better one! As we voyage together, along with your intercessions & words of wisdom, perhaps we could also include the occasional: "You'll never guess what happened to me today" type of thing or a simple reflection on how your day has gone...I'll endeavour to do the same. Whilst my feet are firmly planted on the deck of this wondrous vessel, I don't want to forget what dry land feels like.
            With Much Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann Paterson.

PS Please don't feel obliged to engage or play with this nautical metaphor once it's served it's purpose.


18 Feb 12 - 08:10 AM (#3310503)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie

What others have already said, Nigel....

Janie


18 Feb 12 - 09:07 AM (#3310514)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Maryrrf

I also remember your family daily in my prayers.


18 Feb 12 - 09:12 AM (#3310521)
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From: maeve

Good morning, Nigel and Ann. I reckon it's spring here in Maine, because:

*The skunks are on the move, with their "perfume" wafting along the road
*Black-capped Chickadees are singing their spring song
*We have tulips, crocus, and daffodils on our windowsills
*Our bantams have begun laying again
*The seedling tomato we potted up in November is full of ripe, golden, "Garden Peach" tomatoes... inside...by our south windows.

Carpe deum!


18 Feb 12 - 09:31 AM (#3310529)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Can't make up its mind here whether it's gonna be winter or become spring. Knowing Canada, it'll get right nasty later, thaw for a few hours, freeze overnight and be just fine for skating whether or not ya want to. Only fell on me arse once this winter. Had nowt to do with weather. It ain't the vodka that gets ya, it's those darned steppes.


18 Feb 12 - 11:41 AM (#3310566)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Saturday afternoon...a wet, chilly East London...not much to lift the spirits, so a clumsy attempt at poetry will have to suffice.

"Walk beside me, hold my hand.
We're using time that wasn't planned.
Don't walk behind & force my pace,
There is no need for us to race.
And if in front your feet should stray,
Hold back, slow down, don't run away.
So walk beside me, touch my face
And feel the warmth of my embrace
As walking side by side forever
Binds so tight that none can sever".

       Ann is spending the weekend with Jane...just Mother & Daughter together, so I had them both very much in mind as the lines above took shape.
       Much Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann


18 Feb 12 - 05:04 PM (#3310688)
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From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

if that was clumsy nigel it was very good clumsy.
i did,nt realize you are almost a neighbour;i live in the dartford area so like you had wet weather.nice and breezy AM so made the mistake of putting the washing out!


18 Feb 12 - 05:08 PM (#3310691)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Holdings hands is what this thread is about.


18 Feb 12 - 08:55 PM (#3310760)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

ditto


18 Feb 12 - 09:24 PM (#3310770)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I was thinking about all things nautical today, but mostly the music. Today was the start of the first weekend since Mystic Seaport reopened on Thursday, so that's where I spent the day. The weather was beautiful: not too cold but with a brisk wind. Now I'm home, remembering you, and praying.


19 Feb 12 - 05:55 AM (#3310889)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

SUNday is certainly living up to it's name...wall to wall blue skies...barely a cloud to mar the view here in London. Too early to splice the mainbrace, but much to admire when the countryside is bathed in glorious sunshine & yes, my spirits have been given a boost.
                   Much Love to You All,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.

PS Thanks gnu...hit the nail right on the head!


19 Feb 12 - 06:06 AM (#3310894)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

ChanteyLass, my apologies, I forgot to say that your references to: "...all things nautical" combined with Music & finally your prayers fitted so well with the sun streaming through my window.
            With Love,
                           Nigel & Ann.


19 Feb 12 - 06:23 AM (#3310908)
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From: banjoman

Sunday - weather is fine & sunny. Played music at vigil service last evening & met a priest visiting from Africa. He gave a sermon about people ignoring each other in Church. Reminded him of the wealth of people (This site) who really do care for each other. Anyway - his prayers are now included for Jane.
It suddenly dawned on me that a lot of people are praying for me, and probably lots of others on this thread who have health problems.


19 Feb 12 - 10:42 AM (#3310972)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel

To no one in particular:

"The little boy lost in the lonely fen,
Led by the wandering light,
Began to cry; but God, ever nigh,
Appeared like his father, in white."               

William Blake, "The Little Boy Found" (A M Wilkinson, "William Blake: Songs of Innocence and of Experience", University Tutorial Press, 1958.


19 Feb 12 - 09:20 PM (#3311083)
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From: ChanteyLass

I am glad you had a sunny day and that your spirits brightened. I wish you many more sunny days.


20 Feb 12 - 05:18 AM (#3311176)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Monday morning & the sun is still shining. Two days in a row...that's nothing short of a miracle for the UK! My mind is suddenly filled with an image of Jane, standing in some wide open space, way out in the countryside, bathed in sunlight. As she stands there, the rays of the sun gently heal her...wouldn't that be something.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.


20 Feb 12 - 08:25 AM (#3311217)
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From: jacqui.c

Nigel - try to retain that image - healing can come from all sorts of places.


20 Feb 12 - 03:44 PM (#3311336)
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From: GUEST,999

The sunshine just broke through the clouds.


20 Feb 12 - 09:12 PM (#3311413)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Praying for more sunny days and healing rays.


21 Feb 12 - 12:25 AM (#3311460)
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From: katlaughing

As jacqui said, that is a GREAT visualisation to hold onto!

Your poem went straight to my heart. How beautiful, loving, and poignant. Thanks so much for sharing it with us.

Our part of Colorado is laughingly called the Banana Belt for its mild winters. Yesterday we had a raw, cold wind with huge grey clouds filling the sky. This morning we woke to 2-3 inches of snow, BUT a bright sunny, deeply blue Colorado sky and it was gloriously beautiful. Most of the snow is gone and the sun has remained.

Each night, my grandson and I read to one another over the telephone, then I sing him a couple of lullies, and we say a prayer of giving thanks, part of which includes, "...we give thanks for blessings for all of our families and friends..." May it be so for all of us, esp. Jane, Nigel, and Ann.

kat


21 Feb 12 - 05:46 AM (#3311529)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

You wonderful people never cease to amaze me...your words of wisdom so eloquently expressed...your intercessions & your desire to 'crew this ship' on it's voyage of hope...it takes my breath away. I'm reminded at this point that I always write in the 'first person', but rest assured, my beloved wife, Ann is standing shoulder to shoulder with me at the helm.
            I've received PMs, emails, handmade, thought- filled gifts...what more could I ask for.
            We voyage onwards, but there are rough seas ahead. The latest weather forecast anticipates testing times.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.


21 Feb 12 - 05:48 AM (#3311530)
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From: banjoman

Keep this thread active with prayer and good wishes.


21 Feb 12 - 05:59 AM (#3311535)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Keeping the thread active or 'alive' becomes a metaphor in itself, don't you think?


21 Feb 12 - 11:07 PM (#3311723)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

This is the first thread I opened tonight. With Mudcat being slow, I am picking and choosing more carefully than ever. I wanted to make sure you knew I'm still praying!


22 Feb 12 - 05:14 AM (#3311754)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

You all are in my thoughts and prayers.


22 Feb 12 - 07:51 AM (#3311782)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm not a "God-fearing" man...not too keen on labels either, but if pushed, I would describe myself as a Humanist. I worship at the church of Life & Nature. I do, however, believe fervently in the power & integrity of The Human Condition, which includes our desire & ability to 'do whatever is needed to alleviate the suffering of others'. This thread underscores that 'desire & ability' in ways I have rarely experienced in my 64 years. Please continue with your intercessions, your prayers, your meditations, your positive thinking...whatever it is you do when you reach out to that 'needy other'. Ann & I try to visualise all of you every day...a sea of smiling, welcoming, compassionate faces. Knowing you're all there is a great comfort...stay close,
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.


22 Feb 12 - 09:45 AM (#3311798)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, that's about where I'm at, too. But you said it better than me.


22 Feb 12 - 03:54 PM (#3311888)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

continuing to pray whatever your faith position.i appreciate you inviting those of us who do believe on board as well.pete.


22 Feb 12 - 04:48 PM (#3311895)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

You're a good man, Pete.


22 Feb 12 - 07:58 PM (#3311940)
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From: ChanteyLass

Keeping at it!


23 Feb 12 - 03:22 AM (#3311986)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Good people are Good People, pete. You're surely welcome on our 'Ship of Hope' with it's Rainbow Crew. Ditto what 9 said.
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.


23 Feb 12 - 05:52 AM (#3312028)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Difficult couple of days...tests...paucity of any meaningful information...feels like we've both let go the helm & allowed our ship to drift with the wind & tide. I'll be in my cabin if you need me. In the meantime, Bosun Bruce, would you take command please?
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.


23 Feb 12 - 06:21 AM (#3312037)
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From: maeve

Sometimes that's the thing to do in a storm, Nigel. When the winds die down a bit you'll take care of what's next. Keeping watch here.


23 Feb 12 - 07:51 AM (#3312073)
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From: GUEST,999

We got you covered, Nigel. Love and prayers for you all.


23 Feb 12 - 09:47 AM (#3312116)
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From: Nigel Paterson

Thanks Bruce...don't take your eye off that compass now. And keep a sharp lookout for squalls ahead.
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.


23 Feb 12 - 02:43 PM (#3312245)
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From: maeve

"...don't take your eye off that compass now"

Bruce, that's not a literal kind of thing. Put your eye back in your face, and keep watch. Got it?

Whew!


23 Feb 12 - 06:48 PM (#3312373)
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From: ChanteyLass

Now I'm praying for meaningful information from tests. It seems a shame to have to endure them and not get clear results.


23 Feb 12 - 07:09 PM (#3312380)
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From: GUEST,999

"Bruce, that's not a literal kind of thing. Put your eye back in your face, and keep watch. Got it?"

Sheesh, Maeve, tell me NOW!


Nigel, Ann and Jane surely know by now there's a gang of us pulling for all of them. And we'll continue to keep doing so. Our mamas didn't raise no quitters (and neither did theirs). Good people do good things. This is a good thing.

We'll keep taking care of the thoughts and prayers for y'all and you three take care of business.

LABW [love and best wishes],

The gang.

PS I don't presume to speak for the group, and I pondered this post for a while as a result, but I think it safe enough given the quality of the folk hereabouts.

LAVBW


23 Feb 12 - 07:22 PM (#3312388)
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From: Bobert

Hang tough and kick butt... One day (and kick) at a time...

B~


24 Feb 12 - 04:04 AM (#3312551)
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From: Nigel Paterson

Maeve & Bruce, your humour is so welcome. Even in the bleakest of times, there are still opportunities for laughter & smiles.

Bobert, You've got it in one...I don't think Ann & I could cope any other way. There are, however, one or two butts that I would like to kick more than once on the same day!
               Much Love to All,
                                        Nigel & Ann
                                        xxxxxxxxx


24 Feb 12 - 04:32 AM (#3312561)
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From: Nigel Paterson

We've just made 200 posts...that really is quite amazing. And I forgot to say earlier that I haven't composed anything new for months, until yesterday afternoon, when I managed to cobble together 36 bars of an instrumental piece. A modest beginning, but at least it's a start. I really felt the need to create.
                                             With Love,
                                                            Nigel & Ann
                                                            xxxxxxxxx


24 Feb 12 - 08:25 AM (#3312636)
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From: gnu

Create away! It's good for the soul.


24 Feb 12 - 04:23 PM (#3312913)
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From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

wishing you continued creativity that will encourage you through.
still praying .pete.


24 Feb 12 - 06:35 PM (#3312964)
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From: ChanteyLass

We are still on board with prayers!


25 Feb 12 - 06:05 AM (#3313143)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Creating something new, which in my case, happens to be a piece of Music, takes me to a 'different place' for an hour or two & reminds me that despite everything, Life DOES go on. Over the past few months, our Lives have been changed in ways we could never have imagined or anticipated, but by acknowledging the fact that "Life Goes On", actually enables us to support Jane all the better.
                                                 With Love to You All,
                                                                               Nigel & Ann xxx


25 Feb 12 - 08:57 AM (#3313183)
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From: GUEST,999

"I managed to cobble together 36 bars"

I did that one week in the 1960s. And 'cobble together' is the right term for it, buddy. Worst hangover I ever had.


Music is a key to understanding, or at least a method of sorting things out. When my youngest had that cyst growing in her head, I turned to music and my guitar because there was no where else to turn. Often there IS no where else to turn. And writing/composing lets ya say what ya want without the need for words, none of which ever seem 'right' anyway.

When you finish the piece, I hope to hear it.

BM


25 Feb 12 - 01:31 PM (#3313289)
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From: ChanteyLass

I can't play an instrument or carry a tune, but music has helped to heal my spirit on many occasions.I wonder if creating it feels like a prayer.


25 Feb 12 - 04:03 PM (#3313384)
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From: fat B****rd

Still here and with you in Dunfermline.
Charlie


26 Feb 12 - 07:19 AM (#3313550)
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From: banjoman

Been away for a few days but not forgotten to keep you all in mind


26 Feb 12 - 10:20 AM (#3313616)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

The piece I'm working on is inspired by this thread & the Good People who have become such a vital & integral part...my Rainbow Crew. Please be patient, I don't work very quickly, but when it's finished, you will be the first to know. It's dedicated to all of you...the best way I know to say thank you for your compassion, love, prayers, healing thoughts...anything you've done to make Jane whole again. A working title might even be: "The Rainbow Crew"...what do you think?
               With Love,
                              Nigel & Ann
                              xxxxxxxxx


26 Feb 12 - 12:07 PM (#3313648)
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From: ChanteyLass

Sounds good to me. More prayers!


26 Feb 12 - 12:30 PM (#3313654)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

I agree with ChanteyLass.


26 Feb 12 - 01:11 PM (#3313672)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Looking forward to hearing it.


27 Feb 12 - 03:49 AM (#3313924)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Still thinking of you. Rainbow crew sounds like a great idea for the title. Hopeful creating the piece is helping you relax just a little in this very hard time.


27 Feb 12 - 04:13 AM (#3313926)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

Nigel,I'm going into town this week,I'll be near Notre Dame.

I'll light a candle for you.

David


27 Feb 12 - 11:12 AM (#3314068)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

the rainbow in genesis has to do with renewed hope; and a crew is a collection of people working together-in your context toward that hope realized.so IMO a very apt title.
praying pete.


27 Feb 12 - 11:13 AM (#3314070)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

David, I'm assuming the 'Notre Dame' to which you refer is in Paris. A beautiful city that Ann & I have visited many times, including Notre Dame. Whether one is a 'believer' or not, it is virtually impossible not to be overawed. Your candle will shine some welcome light into a shadowy corner of our lives.
                                          With Love,
                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                         xxxxxxxxx


27 Feb 12 - 08:08 PM (#3314293)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

lovely town to visit, David


27 Feb 12 - 09:21 PM (#3314304)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

A candle in Notre Dame! Lovely!


27 Feb 12 - 11:56 PM (#3314349)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Genie

Nigel Paterson,
I'm not especially good at visualizing (being stronger in auditory processing), but as much as I can I will keep your image - Jane standing in some wide open space, way out in the countryside, bathed in sunlight, with the rays of sun gently healing her - in my mind. And if I can "audiolize" some healing music to go with it, I will do that too.


Prayers and healing thoughts coming to all of you.

Genie


28 Feb 12 - 05:22 AM (#3314432)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

I've never met another Mudcatter in Paris,BOO HOO!

As for believing,I'm a bit of a floating voter.

But,it's a great feeling to go into Notre Dame,find a quiet corner and sit, and let one's mind go wherever it needs to.

Healing thoughts and ....well,you know!

David


28 Feb 12 - 05:32 AM (#3314437)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: alanabit

Nigel - what the rest said. Willing kindness and warmth to your daughter.


28 Feb 12 - 07:16 AM (#3314470)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I went right back to the start of this thread & re-read every post. There's something very special happening here. We still find it incredible that so many Good People are prepared to support us, intercede for us or simply pass the time of day with us. Despite the horrors that we read in our papers & watch on the TV News, my belief that Humankind is fundamentally good in it's intentions remains unshakable. The microcosm that is this thread proves that over & over, day after day after day.
          With Love to You All,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx


28 Feb 12 - 10:44 AM (#3314570)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Back at ya Nigel.


28 Feb 12 - 10:47 AM (#3314572)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Jacqui took my line.


28 Feb 12 - 11:43 AM (#3314603)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

I've spent several hours today shredding redundant paperwork. Although somewhat noisy, I found it surprisingly relaxing & distracting. Had to stop eventually as the shredder became hot enough to cook on! I do recommend it as a short term panacea...the operative words being: 'short term'. The all-encompassing reality of Jane & her health confronts us, which ever way we turn. As each day passes, that realisation bears down upon us insidiously & inexorably.
                With Love to You All,
                                              Nigel & Ann
                                              xxxxxxxxx


28 Feb 12 - 12:36 PM (#3314635)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

I refuse to shred my mountain. I am gonna wait until the 8th anniversary of closing my company and have bonfire. Might even invite Revenue Canada. There's one auditor there I would like to accidently nudge into the fire.


28 Feb 12 - 08:41 PM (#3314869)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Do whatever comforts you! Prayers!


28 Feb 12 - 10:01 PM (#3314885)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Bobert

Hanging with ya!!! Just quietly...

B~


29 Feb 12 - 04:28 AM (#3314957)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

gnu, there are a couple of doctors who might be joining your 'Revenue Men' on the bonfire. I rather like the idea of an 'accidental' nudge! And just for the record, I shredded all my cell phone bills going back as far as 2001. At least now they might be recycled into something useful!
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann
                         xxxxxxxxx


29 Feb 12 - 11:14 AM (#3315112)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

I've made my Rog promise to cremate everything of mine which he or my children and friends don't want. (I don't like the idea of anything I've held dear just going into a rubbish heap or sent off to charity, though I have no problem doing either as I live and breath!:-)I 'spose that could include a lot of paper, but I tend to shred on a regular basis.

Nigel, I hope there will be a way for us to hear your composition, soon. When I first started writing for publication etc., I found my best stuff came out of great strife, joy, or challenges. The high emotions fed the creative muse. Now, for my own sake, it's better that I do it as a matter of course, though there are still those *sparks* which guide and inspire. I am glad you have found such an outlet as you, Ann, and Jane go through these rough seas.

With thanks givings for ease of hearts, minds, and spirits,

luvyakat


29 Feb 12 - 12:29 PM (#3315137)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

For inclusion under the title: "You'll never guess what happened to me....." Last night/this morning (00.01) to be precise, Mrs.P & I are safely tucked up in bed & the phone rings. As you can imagine, with our current situation being what it is, a call at this hour tends to up the old heart rate a notch or six. It wasn't the hospital, it wasn't our Son-in-Law...it was our telephone service provider reminding us, courtesy of a recorded message, that they would be coming round next week to upgrade our landline...AT ONE MINUTE PAST BLOODY MIDNIGHT!
I lodged a very strongly worded complaint as soon as they were open for business this morning. As soon as I hear anything, I'll let you all know just how far between their legs they were prepared to put their tail!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx


29 Feb 12 - 03:55 PM (#3315249)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

LOL Nigel. Go get 'em melad.


29 Feb 12 - 06:17 PM (#3315295)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

"I am Nigel, hear me roar..."


29 Feb 12 - 06:23 PM (#3315298)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Midnight? The actual phone company? How bloody RUDE!


29 Feb 12 - 06:43 PM (#3315312)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Something else to pray for: no foolish calls in the middle of the night.


01 Mar 12 - 04:04 AM (#3315447)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

Except for a strike on the D train,my line,all went according to plan.

I slipped into Notre Dame,not too many people,and lit a candle,sat for about half an hour,then went home.

I hope it helps just a little.

Still sending possitive vibes to you,Nigel and Ann

David


01 Mar 12 - 06:37 AM (#3315509)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Its womens world day of prayer tomorrow (Friday) so we have asked our local service to remember you in their prayers.
Found out today how sharp a rabbits teeth are when one of the little blighters (we have three) decided to attack?
Its great to hold a small animal and it can be very relaxing - may be worth a try to releive stress.
Love & best wishes
Pete


01 Mar 12 - 07:29 AM (#3315523)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, a big hug from my Darling Wife is the best stress reliever I know. Not sure whether that puts her in the 'small animal' category though!
                                                               With Love,
                                                                              Nigel & Ann
                                                                              xxxxxxxxx


01 Mar 12 - 09:30 AM (#3315574)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

"...a big hug from my Darling Wife is the best stress reliever I know..."

I hereby prescribe mutual hugs with your Darling Wife, to be enjoyed a minimum of four times per day; to be increased as needed.


01 Mar 12 - 10:59 AM (#3315615)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Maeve, have been to the pharmacy, your prescription has been dispensed. Hugging has commenced! By the by, to anyone reading this post, 'Hugging' is NOT a euphemism ;)
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx


01 Mar 12 - 01:33 PM (#3315707)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

{{{{{{BEAR HUG}}}}}}

(ya'll join in!)


01 Mar 12 - 10:35 PM (#3315923)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Okay, Kat, I'll join! Virtual hugs and real prayers!


01 Mar 12 - 11:48 PM (#3315942)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,It's c-c-c-c-old

"Hugging' is NOT a euphemism"

Yeah, riiiight. Never been in 50 below, have ya!

Love ya, and think of y'all every day.


02 Mar 12 - 09:35 AM (#3316082)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Still thinking of you, hope things are not to bad.


02 Mar 12 - 10:56 AM (#3316123)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane has had two scans this week. We await the results with bated breath.
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann
                            xxxxxxxxx


02 Mar 12 - 04:52 PM (#3316275)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

I am sure everyone who reads this thread does too, Nigel. Fingers crossed.


02 Mar 12 - 05:32 PM (#3316301)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

still here ,still praying.pete


02 Mar 12 - 10:19 PM (#3316435)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Gasp! Can't hold my breath. Need it for praying.


03 Mar 12 - 11:18 AM (#3316642)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

There's something I've been wanting to say for weeks, but words like 'mawkish' & 'maudlin' keep getting in the way, but finally, here goes.
         In high school I was bullied incessantly from the age of 12 until 16. The physical pain is long gone, but some of the psychological wounds remain unhealed to this very day. Gradually, over time, one by one, my 'friends' deserted me. Understandable really...if they were seen fraternising with me, they got beaten up. Why am I writing about this? Well, all You Good People reading this have become/replaced the friends I lost (And never regained). I know the circumstances are completely different, but it's your persistence, loyalty, compassion, love & humour...qualities I have always looked for & treasured, that you bring to me every day via this thread. It's strange yet true that a large group of people, most of whom I will never meet, have become the dearest, most trusted Friends a man could ever wish for. May the goodness You bestow on Jane , Ann & Myself be reinvested one hundredfold on your Families & in your Lives.
       With Love to our Rainbow Crew,
                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                       xxxxxxxxx


03 Mar 12 - 11:46 AM (#3316654)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Needed Kleenex after that.

#################

"By the by, to anyone reading this post,
'Hugging' is NOT a euphemism ;)"

Suuurrree, pal. We believe ya!


03 Mar 12 - 11:59 AM (#3316659)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: LilyFestre

Mudcat is full of amazingly caring, supportive people! It's a family all of it's own. Mostly good folks with a couple of nuts thrown in to keep things interesting! ;)

Still thinkin' lots of good things and keeping you all in my prayers.

Much love,

Michelle


03 Mar 12 - 01:17 PM (#3316709)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

9... I'm Puffs man, myself. Puffs Plus Lotion, actually. they come on sale at Costco quite often. Higher quality tissue. And, they are not interlaced, which I prefer. When I reach for a Kleenex in the dark and get a half of one and have to fumble with the box, all the while becoming more awake and more pissed off... just try Puffs.

Thank youfor sharing, Nigel.


03 Mar 12 - 02:22 PM (#3316737)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, you should make one of those It Gets Better videos!
Praying!


03 Mar 12 - 04:04 PM (#3316787)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i used to get some of that treatment nigel around the same years.i was fortunate though in that i joined a boxing club.the bullies did'nt know what to do with a straight left!
mind you it did'nt help much at sea cadets when a boy from the "approved school" challenged me and kicked my face in.no gentlemanly fisticuffs there!
i bowed out of that organization after that.
God bless pete


03 Mar 12 - 08:59 PM (#3316899)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Nigel,

We are honoured by your sharing and grateful to be those friends to you.


04 Mar 12 - 06:30 AM (#3317029)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

I suspect that GUEST's post at 2:58 was intended to be in a different thread.
********************
Good morning, Nigel, Ann, and Jane. Doves are calling outside as clouds of American Goldfinches gather in the cherry tree.


04 Mar 12 - 07:58 AM (#3317050)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

I seem to have lost a post somewhere, I know I commented on David's plan to visit Notre Dame!

still sending best wishes & hugs

love from sandra


04 Mar 12 - 08:22 AM (#3317056)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

This one, Sandra?
*******
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney - PM
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 08:08 PM

lovely town to visit, David


04 Mar 12 - 08:55 PM (#3317356)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Still here. Still praying.


05 Mar 12 - 04:27 AM (#3317438)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

Sandra/maeve,Yes I did shuffle into town to do what I said I would.

It was just like an early Spring day.Not too many people,and yes you're right Sandra,it is a lovely city to visit.

Still sending good vibes to Nigel/Ann.

PS.Hello to everyone here.

David


05 Mar 12 - 06:15 AM (#3317500)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes, there was a 'rogue post' at 2:58, but the mods dealt with it very quickly. I've written to Joe & the Gang to thank them. This Thread has become something akin to the internet equivalent of Hallowed Ground as far as Ann & I are concerned. Could be one of the most significant days, Monday 5th March. Jane had two scans last week & the results are due today.
                         Stay Close,
                                          Much Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                                         xxxxxxxxx


05 Mar 12 - 06:39 AM (#3317513)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

Here we are, walking alongside.

Maeve


05 Mar 12 - 07:07 AM (#3317527)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

May the results bring you some good news, praying hard for you all.


05 Mar 12 - 09:25 AM (#3317610)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Still here and sending good thoughts to you all.


05 Mar 12 - 01:24 PM (#3317740)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Thanks everyone...no news yet.
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx


05 Mar 12 - 01:34 PM (#3317744)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

I don't pray much but, sincerest thoughts & prayers for all.


05 Mar 12 - 10:55 PM (#3317979)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Holding my breath--and praying.


06 Mar 12 - 03:39 AM (#3318032)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

waiting with you


06 Mar 12 - 04:02 AM (#3318037)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Positive news...the Doctors have curtailed the spread of the cancer & the existing tumours are no larger...they've managed to press the clinical 'pause button'. (The operative word here is 'pause'.) In practical terms it gives The Family an opportunity to 'regroup' emotionally & consider what plans could be realistically made for the immediate future. The 'Big Picture' remains, but at least a significant part of that picture, has, for the time being, been modified in Jane's favour.
                        With Love to You All,
                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx


06 Mar 12 - 04:25 AM (#3318043)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

You have gained a precious breath in time, Nigel. I'm sure Mudcat friends will be here as you all make good use of it.


06 Mar 12 - 04:49 AM (#3318050)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Beautifully put, Maeve...exactly so.
                                                    N&A xx


06 Mar 12 - 05:46 AM (#3318062)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

great news - I hope you are able to make the most of every minute this news brings.


06 Mar 12 - 08:19 AM (#3318136)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c

Good news for you all Nigel. This gives, at least, a breathing space. Good thoughts still with you.


06 Mar 12 - 08:22 AM (#3318139)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Can't add anything to those post so, ditto from here.


06 Mar 12 - 10:11 AM (#3318190)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Some light on a tough journey. Good to hear, Nigel. Thank you.


06 Mar 12 - 11:29 AM (#3318227)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Glad to hear the news, positive thoughts still being sent your way


06 Mar 12 - 04:44 PM (#3318386)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thanksgiving for this positive news and prayer for the future.
God bless pete.


06 Mar 12 - 09:06 PM (#3318455)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: catspaw49

Very happy here too Nigel.

I'm sure you know this but let me say it anyway. There are many of us here doing as I am.....following this thread every day and thinking of you and your family. I/We don't post all the time but sometimes I/we just don't know what to say. In whatever way we all do it, we are all behind you and I sincerely hope you can feel that.

Also I still think an extra "T" in your name would enhance things but I think you're doing pretty well without it. Now if you need one I know that both Micca and myself would be happy to share!

Big 'Cat hugs to all............


Spaw


06 Mar 12 - 10:51 PM (#3318486)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Releasing my breath and praying!


07 Mar 12 - 12:23 AM (#3318505)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Phew! ChanteyLass, glad you did...yer face was gettin' red!**bg**

Nigel & Ann, really glad to hear the good news. Continued thanks giving for the perfect outworking for the highest good of all concerned.

luvyakat


07 Mar 12 - 05:45 AM (#3318572)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

I was watching Liverpool being beaten by Arsenal last weekend and heard the singing of "You'll never walk alone". Somehow my mind went to this thread and how appropriate a theme for it this would be. Any thoughts?
Still keeping the prayers going
Pete


07 Mar 12 - 10:43 AM (#3318671)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes Pete, I agree, but for me it has to be the 'Gerry & the Pacemakers' version! Maybe this would be a good time for Rainbow Crew members to suggest some appropriate song titles (any genre) that 'chime' with our Thread. Thank you for the continuing prayers.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann Paterson.


07 Mar 12 - 11:13 AM (#3318687)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

My Dear Spaw, I know without a shadow of a doubt that You're all out there. And I know too that finding the 'right words' can be terribly difficult. It's not necessary to check in every day...I can visualise you all in an instant & you become this huge human 'shawl' which Jane & Ann & myself can wrap tightly around our shoulders.
       Now, about an extra 'T' in my surname...over the years, I've become very attached to my single 'T' spelling. Doubling the 'T' is something I just could not do, regardless of any perceived benefits!! I'm grateful for the offer of an additional one, but adopt it I can't. If, however, you made me a 'T', I would happily display it with my other 'treasures'!
      ChanteyLass...how is your breathing? Normal inspiration/expiration from now on please!
      These lighter moments are an absolute delight,
                                                                              With Love,
                                                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                                                             xxxxxxxxx


07 Mar 12 - 11:54 AM (#3318722)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

I check the thread everyday, Nigel. Just don't always post. I'll send a rough cut to you in a minute or so.


07 Mar 12 - 12:04 PM (#3318726)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Sent.


07 Mar 12 - 03:12 PM (#3318833)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

"I check the thread everyday, Nigel. Just don't always post."

Me too. Same for others I expect.


07 Mar 12 - 09:32 PM (#3318999)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I'm breathing fine now, but, Kat, my cheeks are always red. I have rosacea!

I don't see any problem with having just one t in your name. I named my son Forest with one r. I wanted to name him after something in nature and I would have named a girl that, too, if that's what I'd had.

I like the idea of trying to think of some appropriate songs. For now I'm drawing a blank. But I'm still praying!


07 Mar 12 - 09:53 PM (#3319007)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Donuel

Although I am limited to posting but once a fortnight, I check in often and celebrate your time among real flesh and blood buddies as well as all your sincere virtual friends here who love you with spooky action at a distance.


08 Mar 12 - 04:28 AM (#3319212)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

To all the good people who are following this thread but have never posted, let me say that you are most welcome. Of course, it would be great to hear from you, but Ann & I appreciate your discreet presence nonetheless.
      
To Bruce, rough cut received & much appreciated. It's quite uncanny how you get the Music & the time you send it, just right. My special folder is beginning to bulge a little!

To ChanteyLass, I think Forest is a beautiful name for a son or daughter. For me it has overtones of strength & dignity. I'm reminded of an actor named For(r)est Tucker from way back, but can't remember if he was 'r' or 'rr'!

And to all of You who check in every day, but don't necessarily post every day, Ann & I know you're there...it's similar to taking a walk in the country with a close friend & enjoying the countryside for what it is...what words there are become almost superfluous & unnecessary. It's the 'being there in the moment' that becomes important. Your words, thoughts & intercessions are key to the Love & Support You give us, but simply 'being with us in the moment' is important too.
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxx


08 Mar 12 - 06:25 AM (#3319288)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Nigel - I remember seeing Gerry Marsden at the Lowlands in West Derby Village (Liverpool) long before he was famous. (That dates me a bit) I also saw a group called the Huyton Quarry Men at the Cavern ( I think it was there)around the same time.( You know who they became?)
Check the words of I watch The Sunrise - there is a thread on this the words always provoke a lot of thought and we have played it on all sorts of occasions - happy and sad.

Best wishes

Pete


08 Mar 12 - 07:55 PM (#3320219)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Forrest Tucker and most men with that name use a double rr.

Praying, natch (naturally)!


09 Mar 12 - 12:01 AM (#3320289)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Forest Whitaker, a superb actor, imo, spells it with just one "r." CL, you may not know, Spaw was referring to his last name and Micca's, both of which have two "t"s.

Nigel, Ann, and Jane...I love checking in here. I can't find the quote, but I think it was the late Rick Fielding who said something about Mudcat being full of best friends you've never met. Well, now you've met us.:-)

Best of love and peace to you all,

kat


09 Mar 12 - 12:46 AM (#3320302)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

good news accompanied by many good words (& some whacky words!)


09 Mar 12 - 03:33 AM (#3320327)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Kat, that quote:       "....Mudcat being full of best friends you've never met". sums up our thread perfectly. Ann & I WOULD like to meet all of you though. I'm playing around with this fantasy where I have unlimited access to vast amounts of money...I hire the largest marquee available...have it set up in the same space I visualised Jane being healed by the sun...pay for all your travelling expenses (business class or better) & accomodation...hire some of the world's best musicians (a mixture of genres) to entertain us, but with enough time for some of us to do our own thing too...hire some of the world's best chefs to feed us...we meet, have the party to end all parties & celebrate Jane's life. If YOU were making all the arrangements:

1. Where in the world would you site the marquee?
2. Which bands/groups/soloists would you book?
3. Which chefs/cooks would you hire?
4. How many of you would like to sing/play a number or two?

Don't forget, money is no object, so indulge yourself!
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx


09 Mar 12 - 04:07 AM (#3320333)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, we are obviously of a similar age, and that comes with a bonus attached...we've both lived through the era of some of the greatest 'popular music' (used in the broadest sense possible) ever written. As for the 'Quarry Men', yes I & hopefully most of the Western World at least, know what became of them! I found the words to 'I Watch the Sunrise' very moving & appropiate. I hope this is the hymn to which you were referring:

      I Watch the Sunrise

I watch the sunrise lighting the sky,
Casting its shadows near.
And on this morning bright though it be,
I feel those shadows near me.

But you are always close to me
Following all my ways.
May I be always close to you
Following all your ways, Lord.

I watch the sunlight shine through the clouds,
Warming the earth below.
And at the mid-day, life seems to say:
I feel your brightness near me.
For you are always . . .

I watch the sunset fading away,
Lighting the clouds with sleep.
And as the evening closes its eyes,
I feel your presence near me.
For you are always . . .

I watch the moonlight guarding the night,
Waiting till morning comes.
The air is silent, earth is at rest
Only your peace is near me.
Yes, you are always…    (Can anyone explain the final 'O' with the diaeresis please?)

                               Thanks Pete,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                                xxxxxxxxx


09 Mar 12 - 07:27 AM (#3320377)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Lovely idea Nigel. How long would it last?
Lands End or anywhere in Florida.
Oysterband, Snow patrol, Munford and sons, Missing Andy, all the Waterson Carthy family, the Wilsons, KT Tunstall, Richard Thompson, Billy Bragg, the list would be endless
Anyone who can cook better than me, our friend Craig Smith for one


09 Mar 12 - 10:11 AM (#3320443)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Beautiful song! Couldn't find it on youtube with the Quarrymen, but THIS is a beautiful rendition, imo.


Where? Somewhere in the Scottish highlands or Yorkshire.:-)

The Chieftains, Mark Knopfler, Donovan, David Francy, Jean Redpath and a slew of Mudcatters

Anyone with delicious vegan recipes!:-)


09 Mar 12 - 10:32 AM (#3320458)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Have to include Tom Paxton but Maggie & I would be willing to contribute a couple of songs. (Maggie is "She who is always obeyed" and we will be celebrating our Ruby wedding anniversary later this year. Seems like only last year, but it was 1972.
Still praying (both of us)


09 Mar 12 - 12:22 PM (#3320502)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

As we're exploring a fantasy, along with the unlimited budget, musicians, bands, chefs, cooks who have found their place in the Great Concert Hall/Kitchen in the sky can be re-born & resurrected for the occasion.
          Kat, that recording you've linked to is really beautiful. I said a few days ago that I wasn't a "God fearing Man", but I'm certainly not immune to the sentiments & depth of expression that this Hymn conveys. Thanks again to Pete for bringing it to our attention. That final 'O' with it's diaeresis appears to be some sort of typo, unless, of course, it's a special abbreviation. On the recording, the final word is: 'Lord'.
          GUEST 'I Don't Know' asked how long our Fantasy Party would last. I can only think at the moment that it would have to include at least one sunset & one sunrise. This could have a bearing on where in the world we pitch the marquee.
          Having asked all of you to suggest locations, musicians, chefs etc., I'm having a bit of a struggle on my own behalf...more to do with who I leave out, rather than who I include. Paul Simon, Johnny Silvo, Jean Redpath, The BBC Concert Orchestra get my musician's list underway...much more thought required.
                With Love to You All & The Best Of Weekends,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx


09 Mar 12 - 10:42 PM (#3320736)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Jean Redpath would be on my list, too. She was supposed to be coming to the Blackstone River Theatre in RI in April (I think) but had to cancel due to illness. And Gordon Bok would be on my list, too. He had to cancel his Stone Soup appearance tomorrow because of illness. Anyone know any more about these two fine performers? I hope they are both soon well. I'd like Bob Franke, Si Kahn, the Johnson Girls, and Mudcat's own Debra Cowan and John Roberts on the list of performers. Oh, and Eric Bogle. Then I'd like to add some of my own favorite local performers, Joyce Katzberg, Bill Harley, Atwater-Donnelly and . . . Uh-oh, this is like the awards thank-you speeches: I know I'm leaving out someone. Since I can't carry a tune or remember lyrics, I won't be performing, but I will be singing along, albeit off-key.

As for place, I'd like it to be on an island that has a good climate, all the amenities for comfort but not luxury, and not be too crowded (before we arrive) or too remote.

I'm an omnivore but lean toward vegetarian choices, but Kat's vegan foods would be fine, too. And Kat, I didn't know about Micca's last name. In fact I don't even know what that last name is! While I've begun to figure out some of the Who's Who on Mudcat, in some cases I still don't even know who is using his/her name or, like me, a nom de plume, and in some cases I'm not even sure if posts are written by a man or woman! In my case, at least, that last should be obvious! One thing I do know, and that's that I'm praying! ; )


09 Mar 12 - 11:04 PM (#3320744)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Well, if it's our fantasy and it can include those who've gone on, I want Rick Fielding to be there! And John Lennon. From those among us still, Art Thieme would be a must as well as many other Mudcatters.

CL, if you are on facebook, check out the Mudcat there. Folks have been posting who they are in real life & Mudcat.

Nigel, when I looked at your text in mod form, the O still showed up funny. I took it out, but not sure where you want a final "Lord?" It is in the first chorus text, so I figured the later ellipses included it. Please let me know if that's not correct.

Good weekend to you all, too!


09 Mar 12 - 11:51 PM (#3320761)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie

Definitely Paul Simon!

"This is the story of how we begin to remember
This is the powerful pulsing of love in the vein...."


10 Mar 12 - 11:06 PM (#3321143)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I want to add Emmylou Harris, Holly Near, and Jez Lowe to my list. Getting back to food, I would prefer organic plant produce, free range chickens, grass-fed beef (though I rarely eat beef), wild-caught fish) dairy products with no hormones, etc. I may be an omnivore, but I try to make the best choices.

Kat, funny you should mention Mudcat on FB. I friended it and once in a while saw the Mudcat logo with a message on my Wall, but that hasn't happened for a while, and I knew nothing about the identities page. I went to it and saw no place for me to add mine. Then I went to Mudcat's Wall and had to request to join! I requested that and hope to be able to post soon. I have no idea what happened to my original connection to Mudcat on FB, though. I don't think I posted anything that would make me get unFriended!

Nigel and Ann, well, you know . . . . I hope you are having a calm and restful weekend and enjoying reading our ideas for a folk festival fantasy.


11 Mar 12 - 01:23 AM (#3321169)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Glad to hear you were "friended," CL. Second that on Holly Near, plus Ferron...oh, I'd love seeing/hearing both of them!!


11 Mar 12 - 05:23 AM (#3321196)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes, thank you CL...enjoying the reading & the fantasising. Today (Sunday), Ann, Jane, Alex (one of Jane's sons) & myself are going out for a traditional British Sunday Roast...can't wait!
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann
                                                                  xxxxxxxxx


11 Mar 12 - 07:58 AM (#3321234)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

I would go for Emmylou Harris too,Gillian Welch and The Civil Wars.

Bon Apetit, Nigel & Ann

David


11 Mar 12 - 11:37 AM (#3321305)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Ah, man, with Yorkshire pudding and gravy? Food always gets my attention, Nigel, especially roasts. Hope y'all have a great meal.


11 Mar 12 - 06:10 PM (#3321447)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Stop! You are making me hungry!


12 Mar 12 - 03:04 AM (#3321607)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

roast beef, yum


12 Mar 12 - 03:36 AM (#3321611)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Very pleased to report that the Trad. Roast Lunch was excellent...and served in one of the nicest restaurants we've been to in a long time...a converted boat house, right on the banks of the Thames. Good food (reasonably priced by London standards), ambience, wonderful views of the River with plenty of boating activity to watch, & the bonus, which all Brits & visitors appreciate...the sun shone the whole day! Jane's been having a rough time after the last chemo session & Sunday was the first day she felt more like her 'old self', so the meal + good weather+ good company gave her a much needed boost.
                         With Love,
                                        Nigel & Ann
                                        xxxxxxxxx


12 Mar 12 - 07:03 AM (#3321646)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

So pleased you had an enjoyable day. May you have many more.


12 Mar 12 - 08:10 AM (#3321666)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Its amazing what a bit of bright sunshine and good company can do. We pray that you have many more to come.
I would include Willy nelson on the guest list for the "Do"


12 Mar 12 - 08:22 AM (#3321668)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Good to hear, Nigel.


12 Mar 12 - 09:04 AM (#3321684)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

ditto


12 Mar 12 - 11:49 AM (#3321748)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

I omitted to say regarding our 'Fantasy Do' (thanks Pete), that as it is a fantasy, in the marquee, Time can be manipulated to suit our needs, so we can compress or extend ad libitum, so the number of musicians playing, the socialising...eating, celebrating, has no time boundaries. Once you step outside the marquee, Time is exactly where you left it...you rejoin the 'Real World' seamlessly & effortlessly.

I want to add Alex Campbell, Noel Murphy & Jennifer Warnes to my musician's list.
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx


12 Mar 12 - 12:07 PM (#3321762)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Can we add Jackie Leven, Sandy Denny, Bon Jovi and Ed Sheeren.


12 Mar 12 - 12:24 PM (#3321776)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

Great to hear you sounding good, Nigel. Will there be dancing?
If yes then Jr. Walker* is the man.
Thinking of you and yours
ATB from Charlie.
*With the All Stars of curse.


12 Mar 12 - 10:15 PM (#3321993)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Glad to read Janie had a relatively good day! I'm hoping there will be more, better days ahead.


13 Mar 12 - 03:08 AM (#3322078)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

The Musical Entertainment side of our 'Do' is taking shape very nicely. FB asked if there would be any dancing...OF COURSE...just don't expect me to appear on the dance floor any time soon. In my head I'm Gene Kelly, Fred Astaire, Ginger Rogers, Rudolf Nureyev & Margot Fontaine all rolled into one...the problem is, all that wonderful 'head dancing' NEVER reaches my feet...I'm quite convinced that my feet belong to someone else...exchanged at birth, that kind of thing! Those of you who are not terpsichorially challenged, sand off the soles of your dancing pumps & start stretching!
          Now food...I would like to hire Phillip Harben & Fanny Craddock with her husband, Johnny...not so much for their cooking skills, more to do with entertainment value!
          And finally, a heads up for Thursday 15th March...I may be off line for a few hours, possibly the whole day. Broadband in our area is being upgraded to fibre optic (FTTP for those what know about these things).
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx
PS to FB: Do 'The All Stars' need exorcising?


13 Mar 12 - 04:54 PM (#3322407)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

we can always imagine a great concert.i would have loved to hear hendricks live-i imaging the strict folkies leaving!a lot less known is the gospel bluesman glen kaiser from chicago-great voice and player.
with prayers-pete


13 Mar 12 - 10:14 PM (#3322518)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I want to add Sweet Honey in the Rock.


14 Mar 12 - 08:00 AM (#3322681)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Saw Bob Dylan live at the Odeon Liverpool in 1964 (I think) Should include that set.
Keeping up with the prayers.
The weather seems to have gone down hill in Southern England. In hampshire its cloudy and cold. Hope its a bit better where you are.


14 Mar 12 - 01:51 PM (#3322843)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane's Doctors have cleared her for flying...she is in the air as I write, returning to Dubai for a short break to see all her friends. There is a poignancy in that first sentence that touches me to the very core of my being...no more to be said for now,
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx


14 Mar 12 - 02:02 PM (#3322848)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve

Good for Jane! I hope she sees all the friends she needs to see. Meanwhile back at the ranch... you two get some rest as you touch base with the rest of your world.

Maeve


14 Mar 12 - 04:19 PM (#3322897)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

Good news. Thank you, Nigel.
As regards the All Stars they'll get plenty of exorcise trying to keep up with the frantic rugs being cut.
Best as always
Charlie fB


14 Mar 12 - 10:30 PM (#3323019)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie

Gonna cut and paste something that many consider a cliche because it is so often repeated. Familiarity may breed contempt. We forget to really tune in and hear the wisdom.

One day at a time
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry - two days that should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is yesterday with its mistakes and cares, faults and blunders, aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed. We cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone!

The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow. Tomorrow's sun will rise, whether in splendor or behind a mask of clouds. Until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow. It is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day - Today. It is when we add the burdens of two eternities - yesterday and tomorrow that we break down.

It is not necessarily the experience of today that disturbs one's peace of mind. It is often the bitterness for something that happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.

Let us therefore live one day at a time.

Author Unknown


Nigel, you can dance like Fred Astaire!


15 Mar 12 - 03:59 AM (#3323068)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

My Dear Janie...thank you very much for the Words of Wisdom, I haven't actually seen them before...beautifully written & your timing is spot on. The Leo Sayer track brings back many happy memories from times past...I'm still not entirely convinced it would help me to dance like anyone, let alone Fred Astaire!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx


15 Mar 12 - 11:03 AM (#3323185)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing

Janie, thanks from me, too. I'd not read those. I can dance was great!

Here's to Jane having a good and safe time with her friends.


15 Mar 12 - 02:34 PM (#3323247)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Still in my thoughts.


15 Mar 12 - 02:38 PM (#3323252)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Ditto. Every day.


15 Mar 12 - 11:31 PM (#3323431)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I think it is wonderful that the doctors decided Jane is well enough to fly! You wrote that this is a short break. When will she come back?


16 Mar 12 - 04:32 AM (#3323479)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane will be away for ten days, she then has to return to the UK for her next chemo session. Jane, her husband & their four children have made many good & loyal friends during their time spent in Dubai. The next few days are going to be an emotional roller-coaster ride, knowing, as she does, that this might be the last time she sees many of them. Ann & I are thrilled that she received clearance to make the trip...we just hope she doesn't exhaust herself, there will be A LOT of socialising, parties, etc., etc..
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx


17 Mar 12 - 01:34 PM (#3324200)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

That just may help in dealing with the emotional strain of it all. Hope so.


17 Mar 12 - 01:35 PM (#3324202)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Ten days! Wonderful for her and her friends in Dubai. Let us know what you hear from her. In the meantime, I'm still praying!


18 Mar 12 - 06:26 AM (#3324426)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

"May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand."


18 Mar 12 - 08:18 AM (#3324474)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Jane - have a really great break.You are all in our thoughts and prayers


18 Mar 12 - 10:12 AM (#3324532)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

Bruce, that's the only prayer I don't feel daft saying aloud. Nigel and Ann please accept more good thoughts from here in Scotland.
Charlie.


18 Mar 12 - 11:46 AM (#3324568)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Our Dear Friends, what would we do without you & your Love, Thoughtfulness & Compassion. Your Wise words, Your Prayers...your Friendly & concerned chatter.
       We spoke to Jane on the phone today ( Mothering Sunday in the UK). She is enjoying every moment of her holiday, but finding it quite tiring...resting, sitting still or even sleeping during the day was anathema to Jane...now she is having to learn how to re-prioritise on what she expends her energy. Gnu, you might just be right.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx


18 Mar 12 - 12:43 PM (#3324608)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I'm glad to read that she is learning early in her trip that she needs to take it easy.
Praying!


19 Mar 12 - 08:37 AM (#3325099)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

'Taking it easy' is something of a new experience for Jane!


19 Mar 12 - 02:26 PM (#3325269)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

The piece of music I'm presently composing, working title: 'The Rainbow Crew' is approaching the 100 bar mark. That's about 4 minutes at the current tempo. Judging by the way it's developing, I think I'm approaching the mid-point. Another week or so should see the essential composing finished. After that it's all down to detailed editing, mixing & a final 'polish'. Other working titles have included 'The Ship/Voyage of Hope'. If you have any suggestions for a title, do let me know.
                                                            With Love,
                                                                           Nigel & Ann
                                                                           xxxxxxxxx


19 Mar 12 - 03:40 PM (#3325310)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Ooo! You are making progress!


19 Mar 12 - 05:14 PM (#3325362)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Bless ya, Nigel. Make it perfect as you can. Music says things words don't.


20 Mar 12 - 06:14 AM (#3325610)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes, CL, the piece is coming together nicely. I've learned over the years that when you listen to what you're working on the next day (and the days after that) & it still sounds ok, then it probably is ok...so far, I'm in that happy position. My challenge now is to introduce some new material (whilst not losing sight of what already exists) to move the whole thing forward & then 'weave' all the themes together as the ending approaches.
       Bruce...rest assured, this piece will be as good as I can make it. 'Perfect'...I doubt it, but 'striving for perfection' can be a great motivator! 'Music says things words don't'. I love the written word, but as you so rightly say, there are times when Words have to step aside & allow Music to 'say' what needs to be said.
       A little update on Jane in Dubai. She's getting round to see all her friends, but in the company of one of her closest friends who travelled from the UK with her, in the role of a benevolent 'chaperone'. Jane is getting the rest & nourishment she needs, whilst still fulfilling her social calendar. She returns to London at the end of this week. Leaving her friends & Dubai behind is going to be particularly tough.
                                                                      With Love,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxx


20 Mar 12 - 09:26 PM (#3326031)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

I am glad she has a close friend with her and that she is getting rest and nourishment. You must be looking forward to seeing her.


21 Mar 12 - 05:46 AM (#3326170)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes, CL we are. Sunday lunch is booked, although we don't know where...hope it's the same place we went to last time. The location right beside the river was terrific & the food wasn't bad either! It's a beautiful Spring day in London right now...if we get the same weather next Sunday, a short walk beside the river is definitely on the cards.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx


21 Mar 12 - 04:25 PM (#3326562)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Things sound "on the level" for now. Sounds good.


21 Mar 12 - 07:30 PM (#3326669)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Smiles and prayers.


21 Mar 12 - 08:04 PM (#3326691)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Hawker

Holding you all in my thoughts x


21 Mar 12 - 09:40 PM (#3326735)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Is there any chance we could have a room at the Festival for Buddy Rich and Max Roach? OK, not a tiny room, but one for a small symphony orchestra?

I guess we all of us walk to different drummers. I'm walking along with you.

Last night I had the strangest dream,
Of tangelos and tangerines,
And Ringo's Yellow Submarine
And Nigel, Ann and Jane;

No matter how the rivers flow,
How swift, how silent, almost slow,
We those of us who let you know
Do so and don't explain.

Be good, buddy.


22 Mar 12 - 06:04 AM (#3326881)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, always room for Buddy Rich & Max Roach. And as for a small symphony orchestra...no problem at all. Your poem (or could it be a lyric?) has touched Ann & I very deeply...it's exquisite & so totally personal. Ann & I have good days & bad...good moments & bad...it's the waiting & not really knowing that insidiously wears away at one, bit by little bit. Ann is crafting, I'm composing, the daily chores ARE now getting done...but our 'Big Reality' is never far away. We can keep it at bay for just so long & then, like some great emotional tsunami, it invades our every conscious thought. We're coping, but it doesn't get any easier. Without our Dear Mudcat Friends, we really would be cut adrift.
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx


22 Mar 12 - 06:10 AM (#3326885)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney

still lurking & wishing you all well

sandra


22 Mar 12 - 08:42 AM (#3326975)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Sandra, you're more than welcome to lurk as much as you like...but today You posted, for which we are most grateful,
                                          With Love,
                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                         xxxxxxxxx


22 Mar 12 - 04:32 PM (#3327262)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd

If Bruce can have Buddy Rich and Max Roach can I bring the Balfa Brothers? Allons danser!!
More good thoughts to you all from Happy Feet Charlie.


22 Mar 12 - 05:50 PM (#3327309)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

prayer and best wishes for a good flight home and feeling refreshed and renewed for the next round of treatment .God bless pete.


22 Mar 12 - 09:54 PM (#3327433)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

'Bout that tsunami---Hugs!


23 Mar 12 - 05:07 AM (#3327534)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know

Hope your family manage to have a good weekend and your daughter is not to tired after her trip, the weather is going to stay nice so enjoy it as much as you can.


23 Mar 12 - 07:34 AM (#3327585)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman

Enjoy the fine weather. Keep up with the prayers and healing thoughts
Pete


23 Mar 12 - 07:08 PM (#3327937)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999

Thinking 'bout you lots today.


23 Mar 12 - 07:15 PM (#3327938)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter

Yeah,Me too.
I don't say too much,but my thoughts are still with you.


23 Mar 12 - 08:09 PM (#3327957)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu

Every day. Peace and strength.


23 Mar 12 - 09:12 PM (#3327976)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Hilary came home today, right? I hope she does not seem much worse for the wear. That must be a rough distance to travel even under the best of circumstances. More hugs and prayers.


24 Mar 12 - 12:55 PM (#3328190)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

I would like to add 'La Boutine Souriante' to our roster of musicians. Their Music is so redolent with sun & joy, it fits perfectly with this beautiful afternoon in London.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx


24 Mar 12 - 10:05 PM (#3328426)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass

Sorry about my slip-up with your daughter's name! And it wasn't even late when I wrote that!

Ice cream. The festival needs ice cream. Lots of flavors.


25 Mar 12 - 05:15 AM (#3328527)
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson

Absolutely agree CL...Praline...Chocolate Chip...good old Vanilla. There is a wonderful Italian Ice Cream Parlour near us where they make all their own products on the premises...has to be the best in the World!
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx


26 Mar 12 - 04:50 AM (#3328984)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Joe has thoughtfully added my name to the end of thread title to aid similar thread differentiation...thanks Joe.

Ann & I spent many happy hours with Jane & her friend Gill yesterday. Jane has returned from Dubai, invigorated & refreshed...she was a joy to behold...&, once again, the sun shone all day!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx


26 Mar 12 - 07:00 AM (#3329030)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,I Don,t Know

So pleased you had a lovely day yesturday, praying you have more.


26 Mar 12 - 07:28 AM (#3329041)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

That is wonderful news, Nigel. You're all in my thoughts and prayers.


26 Mar 12 - 09:33 AM (#3329080)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: MGM·Lion

Belated best wishes, Nigel and Ann and Jane.

Sorry have only just cottoned to this thread, now name has appeared. I don't normally read such, as I don't do prayers!

~Michael~


26 Mar 12 - 07:39 PM (#3329382)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

"invigorated & refreshed"

I thought and hoped so. Enjoy!


26 Mar 12 - 08:38 PM (#3329406)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

More prayers, and hugs to all of you. I am happy to read that she is invigorated and refreshed rather than worn out from her travels.


27 Mar 12 - 03:04 AM (#3329496)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Michael, your belated best wishes are just as valued & welcomed as any of the other intercessions in this thread. It's good to hear from you,
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann
                                                          xxxxxxxxx


27 Mar 12 - 09:24 AM (#3329632)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill

Kind friends all gathered 'round, there's something I would say:
That what brings us together here has blessed us all today.
Love has made a circle that holds us all inside;
Where strangers are as family, loneliness can't hide.

You must give yourself to love if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

I've walked these mountains in the rain and learned to love the wind;
I've been up before the sunrise to watch the day begin.
I always knew I'd find you, though I never did know how;
Like sunshine on a cloudy day, you stand before me now.

So give yourself to love if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

Love is born in fire; it's planted like a seed.
Love can't give you everything, but it gives you what you need.
And love comes when you're ready, love comes when you're afraid;
It'll be your greatest teacher, the best friend you have made.

So give yourself to if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

Give yourself to love, if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

by Kate Wolf, sung here by Holly Hanson

best wishes

freda


27 Mar 12 - 10:27 AM (#3329657)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

freda, that is the perfect song for this thread. I've always loved it. Thanks for posting it.

Nigel and Ann, so glad to hear she is doing so well after such a busy journey. Good days are so precious.

Much love and thanks givings to you all,

kat


27 Mar 12 - 12:58 PM (#3329715)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dear Freda, thank you very much indeed for posting a song that fits this thread so perfectly. Simply but beautifully sung by Holly Hanson too. I wrote recently that Jane had returned from Dubai, refreshed & invigorated...this is turning out to be something of an understatement. Ann & I saw her Sunday last & again today...her conversation is animated, very little now seems to be 'off limits'. There is an abundance of humour & a genuine desire to communicate openly & frankly. The transformation in her demeanour is nothing short of amazing. Jane's oncologist told her today that what was to be a six session chemo treatment plan had been shortened to four, so yesterday's session has turned out to be her last. She will be monitored closely on a 'maintenance programme' from now on. What I wrote earlier too, about learning to live with her cancer is becoming a reality...Ann & I can scarcely believe our eyes & ears.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann
                      xxxxxxxxx


27 Mar 12 - 03:21 PM (#3329761)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Sounds encouraging AND uplifting!


27 Mar 12 - 04:25 PM (#3329789)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

ditto-the Lord bless you all.pete


27 Mar 12 - 04:37 PM (#3329791)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, I'll send you a good joke in an hour or so. Has to do with a Canadian sailor, two Manx cats and a butter churn.

It's good to see your spirits having a somewhat easier time of it. Please say hello to both your gals for me.

Needless to say, but I'll say it anyway, y'all are in my thoughts.


27 Mar 12 - 09:36 PM (#3329900)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Lovely and beyond, Nigel.

I rarely post,but check in daily and continue to envision all of you surrounded by love and light.

Janie


27 Mar 12 - 11:12 PM (#3329944)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Oh, that is wonderful news!


28 Mar 12 - 07:07 AM (#3330047)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill

yes, joyful news!


28 Mar 12 - 08:35 AM (#3330067)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c

What great news!


28 Mar 12 - 09:00 AM (#3330078)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

amazing news, keep up the good work, Jane


29 Mar 12 - 06:39 AM (#3330535)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman

Great news but dont stop the prayers and healing thoughts. Enjoy the moment


29 Mar 12 - 09:57 AM (#3330617)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you for that cascade of good wishes. Ann & I are also learning to live with Jane's cancer. That whole process just got a little easier.
          I recently received a PM that has touched me very deeply. It reminded me that all you Good People have your own problems & anxieties to cope with & yet you still find time for Jane & Ann & me. I'm left feeling humbled & profoundly grateful & a little guilty too. The words to express what I'm feeling right now escape me for the moment. You truly are the greatest set of friends a man or woman could wish for. There is nothing 'virtual' about this...for Ann & I, it's as real as it gets.
          The piece of Music that celebrates our Friendship is taking longer to finish than I had imagined...it's leading me to Musical Places I had not planned for, although there's nothing fundamentally wrong with that, providing I keep a gentle hand on the tiller.
          With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx


29 Mar 12 - 02:52 PM (#3330737)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Yo, 9! Send me that joke too eh? If I have heard it, no matter on accounta I don't remember it.


29 Mar 12 - 03:47 PM (#3330749)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf

I do not post often but do check in and think of you often, and remember your family in my prayers.


29 Mar 12 - 09:12 PM (#3330882)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

While I look forward to hearing you musical piece, take all the time you need. You have a lot going on! And of course my prayers continue along with those of so many others.


30 Mar 12 - 11:49 AM (#3331158)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c

Still here - following the thread.


30 Mar 12 - 01:04 PM (#3331182)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, my apologies, I meant to respond far quicker than this. Your earlier post had me laughing out loud...something that has been in rather short supply of late. Thank you for the laughter, it was a real tonic...should be available 'over the counter', free of charge!
            Ann & I wish You & your Beloved Wife the best of weekends,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxx

PS: Don't forget, if you want to wake up with a smile on your face, go to bed with a coat-hanger in your mouth!


30 Mar 12 - 10:59 PM (#3331396)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Ouch! (to your PS)


30 Mar 12 - 11:05 PM (#3331399)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I had a naph wiff that. Sphilly idea that coathanger.


31 Mar 12 - 04:52 AM (#3331471)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

gnu, don't forget to remove the coat-hanger BEFORE you eat breakfast!


31 Mar 12 - 08:08 PM (#3331784)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Ya gotta spell things out for Gnu.

In my thoughts.


01 Apr 12 - 02:27 PM (#3332129)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Sometimes, I gotta be spelled off too.


01 Apr 12 - 03:31 PM (#3332153)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

We're away for a couple of weeks after to-morrow, but, I'll try and log in for updates.
Wishing you all good thoughts as always.
Charlie.


01 Apr 12 - 09:31 PM (#3332284)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Adding my good thoughts, too. I will be around and expect to continue to check in daily. Even if I don't always write something, my prayers will continue.


02 Apr 12 - 05:46 AM (#3332409)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann has been staying with Jane these past two weeks. By all accounts, they have enjoyed every moment spent together. Jane is allowed to drive, so apart from shopping, they have also been able to explore some of the lovely Surrey countryside. We all met for lunch yesterday (Sunday). We chatted non-stop & there was plenty of laughter. It's good to see & hear Jane laughing...laughter & Jane are synonymous. When she received her initial diagnosis in January, there was precious little to laugh at. Things are not so desperate at the moment, our Ship has entered calmer waters, but stay close...check in when you can...post the occasional "Hi, I'm still here" type of thing...it all contributes to the overall support you have provided so generously & selflessly,
                                  With Love to You All,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann
                                                                  xxxxxxxxx


02 Apr 12 - 01:28 PM (#3332608)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

"Hi, I'm still here" type of thing... every day.

Nice to hear of laughter.


02 Apr 12 - 03:28 PM (#3332658)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Laughter and calm water --- GOOD!

Still here. Perhaps others would like to join me in Lighting A Candle. I made a "Mudca" group on the Gratefullness site (it wouldn't allow enough letters for the "t")which anyone may light a candle at and also leave a message. Just click on one of the unlit candles.

With you all in mind, Nigel, Ann, and Jane,

luvyakat


02 Apr 12 - 05:49 PM (#3332720)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Hi, Nigel. I spent the day with my mother...because she's here now and the farm chores will always be waiting for me. Thanks for the glowing report regarding Jane spending time with Ann.


03 Apr 12 - 06:38 AM (#3332926)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman

Hi -still about and just checking in.


03 Apr 12 - 06:39 AM (#3332927)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

We set sail on January 12th...it's now 3rd april & we've crested 400 posts. Truly amazing. Truly amazing too, that Ann & I have been allowed to garner so many loyal & compassionate Friends. I'm feeling somewhat over-emotional as I type...had one of my own doctor's appointments this morning (muscle stuff that is annoying/irritating, but NOT life-threatening). Jane's situation came into the conversation & I broke down in the consulting room. My Doctor allowed me to sit there & take all the time I needed to settle myself. She sat there, calm & steady, not saying much, but what she did say was absolutely appropriate...kind, gentle words that calmed me. We over ran the allotted time considerably, but at no time did I get the feeling that my Doctor wanted me out. I could leave when I felt ok to do so. It's been quite a morning!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx


03 Apr 12 - 03:54 PM (#3333222)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Hi, Nigel. I will be gone for a week, but I will be thinking of you all. Just so's ya know.


03 Apr 12 - 09:32 PM (#3333346)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Nigel, I love how all of you are focused as much as practical on celebrating the Now. Now is the most powerful place to live our lives, always.


03 Apr 12 - 10:44 PM (#3333368)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm still here and still praying and pleased to read your posts since Jane returned. I am reading your posts every day but my life is going to be more hectic than usual for several weeks as it does at least twice a year with some good stuff, so I have less time to write. But I always have time to pray. Even if at some point I don't get to Mudcat, your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers. (How hectic is my life? Well, yesterday I got my hair cut so I will spend less time in the shower!)


04 Apr 12 - 11:26 AM (#3333618)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, have a good time & travel safely, my Dear Friend.

Janie, I agree, 'Now' is where everything happens. I would want to add to that: "Reflect on the past, it's a treasure trove of experience. Be prepared for a future, on the assumption that there will be one, even if it's only tomorrow"

ChanteyLass, pace yourself...get done what needs to be done & make sure there's always some time remaining, just for yourself (in or out of the shower!)
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx


05 Apr 12 - 02:23 PM (#3334123)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

freeresh

On accounta we are still here.


05 Apr 12 - 10:11 PM (#3334298)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

What gnu said.


06 Apr 12 - 04:08 AM (#3334376)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wishing You all a very Happy Easter. Let's drop anchor here in Respite Cove. If the weather holds, maybe some of you could go ashore & see the sights. We set sail this coming Tuesday at first light. Ann & I will stay aboard & take turns with the watch.
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx


06 Apr 12 - 03:18 PM (#3334663)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

wishing you settled seas   pete


07 Apr 12 - 12:02 AM (#3334811)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Ah...the calm and peace is nice. Still keeping watch.

luvyakat


07 Apr 12 - 03:31 PM (#3335061)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Right back atchya, Nigel.


09 Apr 12 - 04:49 AM (#3335604)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

It's raining, but the sea is calm & I do believe the glass is rising. Don't forget, we set sail at first light, Tuesday morning. Until then, go easy on the grog!
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann
                               xxxxxxxxx


09 Apr 12 - 09:38 PM (#3336046)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm ready to board.


10 Apr 12 - 10:49 AM (#3336257)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Welcome back on board, ChanteyLass.


10 Apr 12 - 01:20 PM (#3336326)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Spinning or fly rod... both?


10 Apr 12 - 01:30 PM (#3336331)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm no expert at fishing gnu, so bring both. Fresh fish on the table for supper...sounds wonderful, providing you can remove ALL the bones!
       Hope you've all got your sou'westers handy...I think there could be some squalls before too long.
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann
                            xxxxxxxxx


10 Apr 12 - 03:10 PM (#3336386)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

How's Jane doing, Nigel?


10 Apr 12 - 10:22 PM (#3336559)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

May you dwell in your hearts.


11 Apr 12 - 04:48 AM (#3336620)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Welcome back Bruce...I trust You & your Good Lady are fit 'n' fine. Jane is doing remarkably well, all things considered. She is allowed to drive, so she can get out & about a bit. Over the Easter weekend, we were all able to take a short walk in the countryside...weather was good & the views were great. Ann & I are off into Central London today to see one of Jane's friends who is taking a break from Dubai. A nice lunch together in Covent Garden.
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx


11 Apr 12 - 06:57 PM (#3336973)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

glad to hear she is doing so well.God bless you all.which bit of countryside did you go to?. pete


11 Apr 12 - 11:05 PM (#3337047)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

me too


12 Apr 12 - 08:10 PM (#3337509)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

And I hope your lunch in Covent Garden was delicious.


13 Apr 12 - 04:56 AM (#3337628)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, Surrey is the countryside through which we drove...plenty to see & do.

Hello Sandra...Jane really has 'grasped the nettle'. Her PMA has touched us all in a positive way...brave girl.

ChanteyLass, aspects of the meal were delicious, but overall, I was somewhat underwhelmed! The restaurant is owned by a VERY well known celebrity chef. A case of 'Talking the talk', but not quite 'Walking the walk!' However, nine of us crammed round a table intended for eight made up for any food shortcomings!
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxx


15 Apr 12 - 06:12 AM (#3338549)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Learning to live with (Jane's) cancer is similar in some respects to learning how to 'let go' as your Children work their way through school, go to college/uni & eventually 'fly the nest' to marry, seek work or just experience independence...stand on their own two feet.
         With the spread of Jane's cancer curtailed for the present, Ann & I have decided to 'take a step backwards' thereby giving Jane & her Family the independence to live their lives as they choose...we've been so closely involved (at times, probably too close) since January. Now is as good a time as any to 'take a back seat', whilst always waiting in the wings, so that we can respond quickly if anything 'unexpected' happens. We have discussed this with Jane & she feels too that it is the right course of action for all concerned. 'Lessons in Life'...you just never stop learning.
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx


15 Apr 12 - 06:59 AM (#3338570)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman

Good to hear of your decision and wish you and Jane every happiness. I will keep watching this thread but will not contribute so often as I think you probably need some time for yourselves. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers


15 Apr 12 - 10:21 AM (#3338624)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

You all will continue in my thoughts.

Got a tree full of grackles, sparrows, starlings, a pigeon, three mourning doves (which have got to be the most laid-back birds I ever saw), chickadees, downy and hairy woodpeckers, nuthatch but no partridge, 'cause it ain't a pear tree. Both Canadian and snow geese are back, and the blue jay. The cardinals have disappeared--about six weeks back, sun's shining, river's flowing and the wind ain't doing much to speak of.

Later.


15 Apr 12 - 12:30 PM (#3338675)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, your post would make a beautiful painting...or a song...or a poem...or a carefully executed piece of needlepoint. A sylvan scene to wonder at.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx


15 Apr 12 - 12:56 PM (#3338686)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

About that dinner: I once declined the opportunity to dine, at extra cost, at a celebrity chef's restaurant on a cruise ship. Many people in my tour group saw it as a once-in-a lifetime opportunity. I said I was very much enjoying the included meals in the regular dining room and didn't think the extra cost could possibly be justified. Or, as I put it, "Just how much better can the celebrity chef make a steak, lobster, or any other food taste?"

Nigel and Ann, I think you are wise to step back even though that must be hard to do. Jane must know that you love her and will be there whenever she needs you. And I'm sure the Mudcat community will be here for you whenever you need us. Continuing prayers.


15 Apr 12 - 01:02 PM (#3338693)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Wise move, Nigel.

Continued Ts&Ps.


16 Apr 12 - 11:28 AM (#3339072)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Its "tax day" here in the Colonies and I am thinking that your family have ALL been heavily taxed lately so getting a rebate right now is a good thing and I'm so glad to hear it! We'll all be here and still sending our best but for now just give us an occasional update and enjoy some of the living you've been missing.

Much Love,

Pat


16 Apr 12 - 12:59 PM (#3339106)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

What PatSpaw said.

luvyakat


16 Apr 12 - 01:17 PM (#3339113)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I agree. Not that Spaw gives a rat's ass, of course.


20 Apr 12 - 06:15 AM (#3340758)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane has the results of some more scans this week. If everything is ok & her Oncologist is happy, she will go to Dubai for about a month, after which, she will return to the UK for further monitoring. As & when I have news, I'll post immediately, but with these calmer waters, the sails set & the barometer rising, we have an opportunity to sit back & enjoy the view & savour the air,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann
                                              xxxxxxxxx


20 Apr 12 - 06:19 AM (#3340761)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Happy sails to you...

Maeve


20 Apr 12 - 10:35 AM (#3340860)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Deep sighs, here. A time to rest up, gather more energy, and enjoy the Spring? May all good things come to pass.

luvyakat


20 Apr 12 - 02:40 PM (#3340962)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Still sending best thoughts from Dunfermline.


20 Apr 12 - 03:30 PM (#3340984)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: VirginiaTam

Just getting ready to shut down for the evening (to0 tired to do much surfing, reading of mudcat, facebooking) and thought I'd peek in here to see how things are.

What a lovely way to end my internetting after a long fractious week. Very happy for all of you.


20 Apr 12 - 04:36 PM (#3341012)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Great news!


20 Apr 12 - 09:38 PM (#3341101)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Thank you for keeping us updated. I hope Jane gets to make her trip.


24 Apr 12 - 01:30 PM (#3342639)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

As ever, thank you All for your thoughtfulness & compassion. The results of Jane's tests were the best we could have had, under the circumstances. The tumours are still no larger & the cancer has not spread any further than the previous scans revealed. She is on a plane to Dubai as I type this, returning to the UK mid-May to continue with her Maintenance Programme. The Royal Marsden Hospital really are taking such good care of her. Jane & all of us have to live with the thought that the cancer could 'flare up' at any time, but, for the moment at least, we are all doing our level best to live our lives as normally as possible. Ann has a landmark birthday coming up soon which we will be celebrating in Dubai with all the Family...I know they're planning something special, but even I'm not privy to the details!
                                    Much Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxx


24 Apr 12 - 01:39 PM (#3342648)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Extend to Ann a happy birthday from the gang, Nigel. We're still thinking of Jane and of course you and Ann. Best wishes, buddy.


24 Apr 12 - 09:47 PM (#3342862)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Smiling!


24 Apr 12 - 11:14 PM (#3342878)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

I don't know where I heard this, Nigel, but I'll share it.

"The present is completely open, and we are living it, right now."

Ya'll are living the present well, mindful that the present is actually all we are ever guaranteed.


24 Apr 12 - 11:17 PM (#3342880)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

Significant Birthdays are good! An excuse (not that one is needed) to celebrate.


25 Apr 12 - 08:09 AM (#3342995)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill

I'm glad the latest tests have a good result Nigel and Ann. I've just been at a beautiful little folk festival in St Albans, a small historic town north of Sydney in a valley surrounded by low, tree covered mountains and the beautiful Macdonald river. What a peaceful weekend, with lots of folk music and a night sky full of so many stars, stars that I don't see living in the city.

I hope Ann enjoys her birthday!

best wishes to all

freda


25 Apr 12 - 09:49 AM (#3343045)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c

So glad to hear that the latest tests are positive.

Many happy returns of the day to Anne.

Good thoughts still coming.


25 Apr 12 - 05:04 PM (#3343246)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

likewise best wishes.


26 Apr 12 - 11:40 AM (#3343568)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann says a big thank you for your birthday wishes & likewise from me too.
Freda, the Macdonald River photo is absolutely beautiful. The tranquility positively oozes out of the shot. I know exactly what you mean about seeing stars...REALLY seeing stars for the first time. Our location couldn't have been more different. Ann & I were in the desert, well away from the centre of Dubai...we'd never seen so many stars (no light pollution)...we lay back in our folding chairs & gazed up in wonderment for ages...stunning experience.
       Janie, simple words that belie a deeper meaning...very grateful...you captured our mood precisely.
       We will be away soon for a few days. If one or two of you could stop by & check that the old ship remains steady on her course, that would be much appreciated.
       In the meantime, Much Love to You All
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx


26 Apr 12 - 11:43 AM (#3343569)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Consider it done, Nigel.


26 Apr 12 - 02:00 PM (#3343632)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Not to worry Nigel.........if not 999, there are so many that check here every day or two it will stay up without a problem.....unlike 999 who can't.....LOL...............Sorry B, but that line just was just laying there....had to be said..........


Spaw


26 Apr 12 - 02:24 PM (#3343646)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I understand, Grasshopper . . .


26 Apr 12 - 06:06 PM (#3343736)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,ChanteyLass

I'm sure we will continue to check in to refresh the thread. Have a wonderful trip.


26 Apr 12 - 06:26 PM (#3343743)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Every day. Every day. Rest and relax on your time away.

Song in here, 9?


27 Apr 12 - 07:42 AM (#3343946)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

As always, we're in safe hands,
                                              Much Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxx


27 Apr 12 - 04:08 PM (#3344121)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

AS ever, best thoughts and regards from Dunfermline
Charlie.


27 Apr 12 - 04:11 PM (#3344125)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Bobert

And best thoughts from this ol' hillbilly, as well...

Travel safe...

B~


28 Apr 12 - 04:11 PM (#3344552)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

And here I am....the little blue pill for 999! Its pretty amazing where I'll stretch for a joke. Sorry......Thinking of all of you!


Spaw


28 Apr 12 - 05:20 PM (#3344576)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm here, too.


29 Apr 12 - 04:20 AM (#3344671)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

and me


29 Apr 12 - 04:27 PM (#3344916)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

maybe you will finish that peice of music.


29 Apr 12 - 07:38 PM (#3344993)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Hi, Pete. I spoke with Nigel a few days back about that piece of music. It's taken on a character and dimension of its own. We could be waiting just a wee bit longer, but the wait will have been worth it.

Trust you are well.


30 Apr 12 - 11:05 AM (#3345239)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm pleased & not a little relieved to say that the piece of Music I've been writing, now finally entitled: The Voyage of 'The Rainbow', is finished. By that, I mean the overall composition is complete...I still have a considerable amount of editing & general 'tidying up' to do before I'm happy to reveal it to the World! It is dedicated to everyone who has contributed to this thread, in recognition of your Love, Care & Support. I'll post as soon as I'm ready to go public,
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx


30 Apr 12 - 08:46 PM (#3345480)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Smiles!


01 May 12 - 03:13 PM (#3345783)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

Cool, Nigel!


01 May 12 - 04:39 PM (#3345815)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

well done nigel.i trust it has been theropuetic forming a song.

thanks 999.i am physically well but sadly have been expecting to lose my mum anytime so if at anytime i drop out for awhile it is not lack of interest.
God bless   pete.


01 May 12 - 04:41 PM (#3345818)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Lovely news, Nigel.


02 May 12 - 08:20 AM (#3346060)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill

thinking of you all, and Pete, may those stars shine on you and your mum.

freda


02 May 12 - 11:51 AM (#3346122)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

what freda said


02 May 12 - 01:34 PM (#3346164)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c

Ditto from me


02 May 12 - 06:18 PM (#3346257)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

"i am physically well but sadly have been expecting to lose my mum anytime so if at anytime i drop out for awhile it is not lack of interest.
God bless   pete."

I am not big on prayer, Pete, but I'll add your mum to the names Nigel, Ann and Jane. I am sorry for your sadness. I have admired your character and fortitude in the face of scathing remarks made to you in some threads, and now to see that you are facing a similar family situation with verve and courage, your support for Jane and her parents lends new meaning to the term Christian.


03 May 12 - 02:47 PM (#3346549)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Ditto and ditto for you, pete.


03 May 12 - 03:46 PM (#3346563)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thanks so much for your kind thoughts and encouraging words.i am very touched .my mum is elderly so i guess it is not the same as the threat to a young life and i appreciate how much that must weigh on parents.
blessings on yer   pete.


03 May 12 - 11:01 PM (#3346674)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Aw, Pete, hugs to you and your mum.


04 May 12 - 08:54 PM (#3347009)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

sending hugs & good wishes to pete & family


04 May 12 - 10:04 PM (#3347025)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

Nigel,

I don't know when you'll read this but I hope you don't mind that Pete is included in the voyage. Let me rephrase that: I know you won't mind, but I hope you'll excuse me for including Pete before speaking with you.

Three weeks ago my grandmother started bicycling eight miles a day. As of now, we have no idea where she is.

The roughest roads/sea lanes make for the best and most touching stories. Looking forward to hearing from you, and hearing that your little sweetheart--don't matter how old they get, they're our kids--is doing well.

I still think of you all every night. And say prayers, although unlike some people, I ain't quite sure who I'm saying the prayers to. Don't matter, because I know who I'm saying them for.

B

PS Pete is a really good guy, and he could use some words of kindness, as could we all. Keep well, Nigel, and the thread will continue until your return.

The cabin boy, the cabin boy
The d-----------------------

Sometimes I get carried away. Reminds me of a night I attended a St Patrick's Day event. I'll tell you sometime. But not here. :-)


12 May 12 - 04:57 PM (#3350102)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, I think you and Ann will be back tomorrow. Here's hoping the trip went well for all of you.


13 May 12 - 02:00 AM (#3350206)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

As am I.


13 May 12 - 06:44 AM (#3350255)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman

Not been around for a while - glad that the ship is still on course. Its amazing just what can be acheived with prayer and healing thoughts so - to the other Pete - we have added you and your family to our prayer list.
Best wishes
banjoman(Pete)


13 May 12 - 05:46 PM (#3350424)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I are back home, safe & sound (no pun intended!)...jet-lagged & very tired, but very happy following our holiday with Jane & her Family. Give us a day or two to reset our body-clocks & I'll write again,
                                  Sweet Dreams,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx


13 May 12 - 06:55 PM (#3350442)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Just returned home and you took time to check in? Thank you, Nigel and Ann! "very tired, but very happy" is very good music to our ears!


13 May 12 - 06:59 PM (#3350444)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Indeed!


13 May 12 - 07:56 PM (#3350463)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

I'll third that!!


13 May 12 - 10:22 PM (#3350509)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Yes, yes, yes!


14 May 12 - 04:46 AM (#3350572)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I are saddened by the news of Pete's ailing Mother. We send him our warmest thoughts & want him to know that we share his voyage. On 'The Rainbow' we travel together, caring & looking out for each other. Initially, this thread was just about our daughter, Jane, but over the past few months, it's taken on a broader 'feel'. 'The Rainbow' is about all of us, our trials & tribulations...successes & failures...love & laughter...tears of sadness...tears of joy. No one needs permission to come aboard.
          Our holiday with Jane took us to the beach, the shops & malls, some excellent restaurants & seemingly endless cups of coffee, drunk in the company of a seemingly endless group of friends! She remains positive & determined to live each day with as much energy as she can muster. Jane returned to the UK yesterday with Ann & myself to continue her treatment programme.
          'The Voyage of The Rainbow' is not quite ready for general publication, but if any of you would like to hear a 'rough mix', PM me your email address & I'll attach an mp3. Your privacy will be respected & your email address will NOT be shared with another living soul, you have my Word! On the other hand, if you're prepared to wait a week or two, I will make a link available to my Music Channel on YouTube. It's good to be home,
                                           Much Love to You All,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                                            xxxxxxxxxx


14 May 12 - 12:31 PM (#3350732)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

very gracious of you,nigel and ann.mum still surviving,frail but still eating.just celebrated 61st wedding anniversary-telegram from the queen pleased her.we never thought she would live to see it.
glad to hear or your enjoyable trip and jane doing well.
i'm not up on the tec stuff so ill wait to hear the rainbow voyage!
love and prayers   pete.


14 May 12 - 04:56 PM (#3350858)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I hope Jane's treatments go well. I am also not good with technical stuff so I will wait to hear your song.

Pete, I'm glad to read that your mum is still eating and that she received her telegram from the queen. It sounds like it brought a smile to her face.


14 May 12 - 08:40 PM (#3350933)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Nothing to say, Nigel, just letting you know this little bit of the peanut gallery is still present and holding all of you in my thoughts.


15 May 12 - 06:51 PM (#3351322)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Listened to the tune. NICE! Thanks, Nigel.


17 May 12 - 04:54 AM (#3351908)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Very pleased to report that Jane's treatment continues to hold back any further spread of the cancer. She's feeling well enough to do some voluntary work at a local school at which she used to teach. To quote her own words: "It makes me feel more normal".
       Yesterday (Wednesday), Jane, Alex (one of her sons), Ann & myself spent the day together celebrating Ann's Birthday. A really delicious lunch, followed by a matinŽe performance of 'The Duchess of Malfi' (weird, but strangely compelling!), finishing off with Traditional Afternoon Tea at The Savoy...our calorie intake went off the scale! It was wonderful to see Jane in our Family Quartette, enjoying Ann's Birthday...normal people doing the normal things one does to celebrate a special Birthday.
       Thanks to gnu for listening.
       Special thoughts & Love to Pete & his Mother.
       Janie, your expression: "peanut gallery" put a smile on my face that never entirely went away!
       Our course is set. The weather is fair. Our voyage continues.
       Much Love to you all,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx


17 May 12 - 07:26 AM (#3351971)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

normal is good -

keep up the good work

sandra


17 May 12 - 10:01 AM (#3352020)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,olddude

Getting my rosary out and will make a visit to church. We gotta get you healed up my brother


17 May 12 - 07:52 PM (#3352201)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Mmm. Traditional afternoon tea at the Savoy. Yum!

Glad to read that things are going as well as they are. I hope that continues to be true.


18 May 12 - 12:35 PM (#3352481)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane had her first volunteer session today & thoroughly enjoyed it. An altogether positive experience, working with children again in a happy, productive atmosphere & making contact with teachers with whom she used to work. We have no idea for how long Jane will be able to sustain this effort, but to echo ChanteyLass' words: "Glad to read that things are going as well as they are. I hope that continues to be true". Things are going well at present & the longer that persists, the better,
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx

P.S. I would like to add Ilnur to our crew list. She is a former student of mine who has just been given some worrying health news.


18 May 12 - 03:32 PM (#3352560)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Nigel and Ann,the very best thoughts and regards to you, Jane and all those you care for,
Charlie.


18 May 12 - 03:45 PM (#3352567)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thanksgiving for janes stable condition and prayer offered for llnur.
how is that pronounced?
God bless pete


18 May 12 - 10:11 PM (#3352689)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

What Pete just wrote!


18 May 12 - 10:20 PM (#3352693)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

500 posts, Nigel. That's a lot of Ts&Ps. Well desrved. I am glad to have been part of it and hope that the positive energy continues.


19 May 12 - 05:39 AM (#3352758)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Day one for this thread was 12th January. By the end of the 12th there were 23 posts...a pretty impressive start. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined that I would be sitting here on 19th May, writing post 501 (that is, unless someone squeezes in 501 while I'm writing this!). The collective power of this online community is something I have never experienced before...more profound, more inclusive, more safe, more worthwhile than anything 'masquerading' as religion. I went to church as a child...most people did in the village in which I lived, but it wasn't long before questions were forming in my mind that needed answers. The answers didn't come & round about the age of 12, my Father was summoned to the vicarage & asked to remove me from the congregation because I was a 'trouble-maker'. At school, R.E. was taught by an ordained minister. He didn't answer my questions either, so our teacher-pupil 'relationship' deteriorated rapidly, resulting in frequent punishments. His preferred method was to bind & gag me & sit me on top of an old safe in his office. He would then proceed to rail at me about hellfire & damnation & what an evil little so & so I was.
          I started this thread because Ann & I felt so desperate & helpless following Jane's diagnosis, but as the days have turned into months, I am becoming increasingly aware that I need all you good people too...people I can trust, people I can rely on, people who, despite their own trials & tribulations will still take a moment to find out how we're doing.
         I cannot adequately express what your kind, caring words have meant to Ann & myself & to me on a very personal level. You've put back a measure of trust in my Life that has been absent for too long.
         With Much Love,
                                 Nigel & Ann (And Nigel personally)
                                 xxxxxxxxx


19 May 12 - 05:44 AM (#3352761)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Apologies to Pete...Ilnur is pronounced Il-ner,
                                                                      Nigel.


19 May 12 - 09:25 AM (#3352829)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Beautiful post, Nigel. Y'all are still in my heart and thoughts.


19 May 12 - 09:54 AM (#3352851)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,olddude

Nigel Jane and Pete's mom in my prayers daily ...
I have no doubt that things will be fine .. Going at it full guns


19 May 12 - 10:39 AM (#3352864)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,olddude

Religion never works ... Faith, never fails


19 May 12 - 04:55 PM (#3352977)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

sorry to hear of your early negative experience of religion nigel.i hope it has not completely stopped you enquiring.blessings pete.


19 May 12 - 07:11 PM (#3353024)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Nice post Nigel....it really is.

I'm proud to say I was the first recipient of Mudcat power and what I believe is that there is a warmth and kindness that frees within us a kind of power that we all have hidden. Its the knowledge that we aren't alone but are in the thoughts/prayers of so many others. Now I don't know if there is any actual affect medically but the simple and yet hard to find belief in each other is the strangely tangible thing we hold close. Through that the virtual hugs become real and our spirits are lightened and transferred to all around us.

Or maybe something fell somewhere...............


Spaw


20 May 12 - 12:01 AM (#3353098)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, you were a victim of abuse by your clergyman. I am sorry that happened to you.

I haven't belonged to any organized religion for a long time. I've looked at a few faiths other than the one in which I was raised and found some good things about some of them, but I've decided that none of them worked well enough for me to want to join. That hasn't stopped me from continuing to seek, pray, and listen.


21 May 12 - 08:01 AM (#3353725)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Just tried to post & it's disappeared! Have written to Joe, but when It's 'gone', is it 'gone'?

Nigel.
      Hi, Nigel - Your message probably never made it to Mudcat. It might still be on your computer if you use your "back" button judiciously, but it's been twenty-five minutes and I'm guessing it's gone forever. When you post a long message, always highlight [CTRL-A] and copy [CTRL-C] it to your computer's clipboard before you submit it. Then, if the message doesn't "take," you can reload the thread by pushing F5 on your computer and then paste [CTRL-V] the text into the message box and submit. It's not a bad idea to push F5 and reload the page before typing a long post. Don't feel too bad - I just lost a long message I was trying to post on Facebook. You're in good company. -Joe, in Dublin-


21 May 12 - 11:04 AM (#3353808)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

So Joe....You managed to complete your CIA mission in Egypt and are now about to try and infiltrate the IRA....Is that right? I mean like I'm just passing along the gossip to you. If this is wrong let me know. Then again if you're CIA you won't admit it will you?   Yeah........Well good luck anyway I guess..........maybe......


Spaw


21 May 12 - 11:16 AM (#3353815)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Spaw, if I read your post, will you have to kill me or will I simply self-destruct??!!
                                                                Nigel.


21 May 12 - 11:42 AM (#3353825)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

OK, here goes second attempt.
             I've never spoken publicly before about my early experiences with religion & I realise I'm in danger of highjacking my own thread, but your posts demand a response. Spaw, ChanteyLass, Bruce, Dan, Pete...thank you, as always, your words touch me deeply.
             Pete, I've been searching since my early teens & am now content with what I've found & where I am, spiritually speaking.
             Dan's wise words: "Religion never works ... Faith, never fails". At the risk of repeating myself from an earlier post, my Faith resides in people & nature. Despite too many examples of "Man's inhumanity to Man", I have an unshakable Faith in a Goodness that resides within most of us, so.....I have Faith in my Mudcat Friends...I have Faith in the Doctors who are treating Jane...I have Faith in my beloved wife, Ann...I have Faith in my ability to create new Music. God in his/her various guises plays no part in my Faith. I am a member of the Human Congregation & it is there my Faith had it's genesis & it's essence remains.
             Much Love to You All,
                                             Nigel & Ann (And Nigel personally)


22 May 12 - 11:38 AM (#3354328)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, have you posted a link to the music piece?


22 May 12 - 12:50 PM (#3354358)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, the link for 'The Voyage of The Rainbow' will be posted on 29th May...have adopted all your mixing suggestions, you have a good 'ear'...thank you very much!
                                                                            Kindest Regards,
                                                                                                    Nigel.


22 May 12 - 04:43 PM (#3354466)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Oh, good! We'll get to hear it in a week! I'm looking forward to that!


22 May 12 - 05:31 PM (#3354491)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thanks for outlining your spiritual position nigel.not one i would favour as a christian but which i respect never-the-less and appreciate you taking us all on board.blessings pete.


23 May 12 - 03:44 AM (#3354637)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, one of the qualities I hope for in a good & trusted friend is the ability to "Agree to Disagree". I think we've both 'ticked the box' on that one (-:
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel.


23 May 12 - 04:18 AM (#3354641)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Latest news about Jane; she has joined a medication trial. It's a drug that is already licensed in other countries, but not yet in the UK. She has been told that she is a 'perfect candidate'. Jane has committed herself to a long-term programme...two years, but it means she is monitored very regularly & very closely (more so than if she was just 'in treatment'). It is somewhat intrusive in terms of the number of clinics she has to attend each week, but after much consideration, Jane felt it was the right course of action, as does the whole Family.
          I know it probably seems a bit weird that 'The Voyage' will be published on a specific date, but the fact is, I need help with the upload & 29th May is the first available date I can see a Trainer at my local Apple Store! Getting audio from LogicPro to YouTube is, for me, 'a challenge too far'...having an expert sitting at my elbow gives me a much needed confidence boost.
         With Love to you all,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx


23 May 12 - 11:04 AM (#3354759)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

great news about the medical trial.

always good to have a tame expert around. Where would I be without my Personal Help Desk who is always there when I need him - well, almost always, sometimes I do have to consult another techy friend to get an answer when I want it! And I have another couple of friends who can also help.


23 May 12 - 11:23 AM (#3354768)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

The news about Jane's coming treatment is great, Nigel. I have a good friend who attended and still attends a clinic for lupus, and although it is trying, it's been a big help to keep her keeping on. It's good to hear that the medicos are thinking in terms of years.

"Getting audio from LogicPro to YouTube is, for me, 'a challenge too far'...having an expert sitting at my elbow gives me a much needed confidence boost."

I laughed when I read that statement. There are days when I wonder at the abilities of people who can whiz around computers. I'm a bit past the stage where my cure for everything computers is the on/off switch, but not really that far removed from it. I'd offer one small bit of advice: write down everything the guy/gal does, then do it from your written page before you leave. You'll feel like Enrico Fermi must have when he used a slide rule to predict where things would go next when they created the first sustained atomic chain-reaction at the University of Chicago in December of 1942. It didn't get away from them, good thing for the squash courts.


23 May 12 - 07:09 PM (#3354912)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I hope this course of action works out well, Nigel.


23 May 12 - 09:33 PM (#3354947)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I, too, hope the medication trial works well for her.


24 May 12 - 04:12 AM (#3355013)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you, Sandra, gnu & ChanteyLass. The medication trial is another act of Faith, writ large! Guest (23rd May, 11.23am) I was intrigued by your reference to Enrico Fermi & squash courts. Needless to say, Google came to my rescue. Amusing to ponder him conducting some of his experiments in squash courts & ironic in the extreme to consider that a Nobel Peace Prize winner became intimately involved with the Manhattan Project. I doubt I shall feel as elated as Mr.Fermi when he made his 'squash court discoveries' when I upload on 29th, rather, a quiet sense of satisfaction of what I hope will be perceived as a job reasonably well done.
       Nice & warm here in London, averaging out around 25℃...time to sort out the weeds & get the front door painted.
                                        Much Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                                         xxxxxxxxx


25 May 12 - 05:10 AM (#3355391)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Today is going to be a mixture of happiness & sadness. This afternoon (Friday) we will be attending the funeral of a teacher (Helen) with whom we used to work, but at her funeral will be loads of former students & teachers (If the posts on FaceBook are anything to go by), many of whom we have not seen for years. We have been asked by Helen's Family to dress colourfully to celebrate her Life...she was a larger than life, dynamic, inspirational Drama teacher. It's a gloriously sunny day which fits perfectly with Helen's personality.
             Hope the sun is shining on you too today,
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx


25 May 12 - 03:18 PM (#3355620)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

In fact, it's a little foggy here in Rhode Island. I had my car's fag lights on as I crossed the Newport Bridge on the way to and from caring for my grandchildren. However, there's sunshine inside me, and it sounds like Helen and her family want to bring out the sunshine in all of you. Good luck with that!


26 May 12 - 12:53 PM (#3355906)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Helen's funeral was beautiful. The service was in Humanistic style...tributes, readings & Music by Mozart, Helen's favourite composer. It was our first experience of this type of funeral & I have to say that it was a deeply moving, dignified 'final curtain' for a highly respected Drama Teacher. The sun shone & many of Helen's former students, some of whom have gone on to be professional actors, attended to pay their last respects. There was more laughter than tears, even though the sadness of the occasion was always in the forefront of one's mind.
         We wish you all the best of weekends,
                                                                  With Love,
                                                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                                                 xxxxxxxxx


28 May 12 - 10:32 AM (#3356364)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Apologies to all...the link to YouTube for 'The Voyage of The Rainbow' has had to be postponed until 4th June. My own health issues have suddenly & unexpectedly taken precedence... glucose & BP significantly higher than my Doc likes to see...bugger!!!
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel xxx


28 May 12 - 11:13 AM (#3356388)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

wishing you a speedy recovery   pete


28 May 12 - 11:49 AM (#3356407)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

no need to apologise for what Doctor says, just do what your doctor says

sandra


28 May 12 - 01:19 PM (#3356445)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Take care, Nigel.


28 May 12 - 07:08 PM (#3356586)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Right! Do what you need to do to care for yourself.


28 May 12 - 09:43 PM (#3356633)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Y'all still in my thoughts--like every day.


30 May 12 - 05:46 AM (#3357149)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Looks like it could be Diabetes...one more confirmatory blood test to go...bugger!


30 May 12 - 06:24 AM (#3357161)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Diabetes is manageable, Nigel. We'll be here in the meantime.


30 May 12 - 04:08 PM (#3357364)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Diabetes ain't near the problem it used to be as maeve has pointed out. More of a pain in the butt (that you don't need, of course) these days. Keep us up to date.


30 May 12 - 09:11 PM (#3357464)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Dang it, Nigel, life is one darn thing after another!


31 May 12 - 04:08 AM (#3357545)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you, my Dear Friends. Janie's comment fits for me & Ann. Yesterday, Ann was expecting to be discharged by her Oncologist...she had a Malignant Melanoma removed five years ago & has been fine ever since. But she was told (for the first time), that because the cancer had spread (also safely taken care of at the initial op.), she can never be discharged & has to be monitored every six months for the rest of her Life. Naturally, Ann felt very disappointed that this particular medical episode couldn't be finally 'put to bed'. We were also told, again, for the first time, that a recurrence was always going to be a possibility, which, ironically puts her in a similar situation to Jane. Ann was not a very happy bunny when we were driving home! It certainly is 'one darn thing after another'. Nobody warned us that retirement could be like this!
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann
                                                          xxxxxxxxx


31 May 12 - 05:55 AM (#3357566)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Nigel- My husband and I have reason to understand the "one darned thing after another" perspective. I choose to adhere to the approach that "has to be monitored every six months for the rest of her Life" means a party twice a year.


31 May 12 - 09:17 AM (#3357620)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, I will e-mail you later today. I have a joke that fits this situation, but I'd rather it not be on the thread.


31 May 12 - 11:13 AM (#3357669)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Looking forward to the email, Bruce.
Maeve, if you could package & market your take on optimism, both You & your Husband would make a fortune!
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx


31 May 12 - 07:02 PM (#3357827)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Ain't that the truth Nigel? Given two glasses partially filled with water Maeve would see 4 full glasses! I'd just drink the damn things................

Hang in Nige....It might get worse but then again this could be the first step back up.


Spaw


31 May 12 - 09:08 PM (#3357853)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Well, gentlemen, all I know is that two glasses partially filled are exactly that. A burned down house is forever gone, a partially filled glass won't transform into 4 full glasses, and no amount of cheery imagining will change either one. One might find a different perspective, though- depending upon the awareness with which each sip and gulp is tasted, savored, gulped and swallowed... and whether one drains the glass or sits watching it in fear of the day it's empty.

It's no use fluttering our hands in dismay, wishing the nightmare under the bed would just go away- but shine some light under there and you will find living gold amongst the dust bunnies and fangs.

Someone here will have the words you need, Nigel. Spaw has earned much wisdom through his years of living, so his words carry experience and stubborn strength. Mine are but wild, wee things from the dark woods.


31 May 12 - 09:44 PM (#3357871)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

It does seem like your plates are filled with things you would rather be without. Sending love and prayers.


31 May 12 - 09:49 PM (#3357873)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Lilyfestre

I know first hand how much it stinks to have the recurrence hanging over your head but by being monitored, she can rest easy knowing that if it should come back, they will have found it relatively quickly making it easier to take care of if necessary.

((((((Hugs & Stuff))))))))))

Michelle


01 Jun 12 - 05:15 AM (#3357934)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

To all of you who've posted since my last on 31st...such wise words...such eloquent words...such loving words...I've read them over & over, like I want to make absolutely certain I can't ever forget them. Indelibly etched in my mind so that I can take them with me everywhere I go. The recent news about Ann's health has hit us both hard...feels like a huge step backwards. We're both trying to be as positive as we can...Ann feels well, Jane feels well, we're all doing & enjoying most of the things we usually do. In that respect, Life is normal & familiar. What I can't expunge entirely from my waking thoughts is a shadowy spectre, somewhere over there, in the corner, barely visible, but prescient nonetheless (I'm speaking metaphorically, I'm not having some sort of psychotic episode!!). What Michelle says is absolutely true, but at the moment, we both feel threatened & insecure.
          Note to Bruce: The joke you emailed was not only well-timed (there you go again!), very funny (and poignant too) & the line about the cat, well, we need him/her over here NOW! I'm waiting for the Pest Control Team to arrive as I write...we have some additional, underfloor members in our household who have turned up, uninvited!
          Going to do our best to enjoy the extended bank holiday that stretches out before us,
         With Love & Gratitude,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx


01 Jun 12 - 05:32 AM (#3357939)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

when I see my cancer surgeon every 6 months I regard it as an opportunity to chat with him & his friendly receptionist. I've recently passed the period when it needs 6 monthly visits cos it can come back in he early years, but I've resisted that idea of seeing him very 12 months!! Maybe next year ...

sandra


01 Jun 12 - 09:25 PM (#3358230)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Really. Life truly is one thing after another. Life is movement, always changing, never ideal, often rocky and rough. It helps me so much to realize and acknowledge that there is nothing terminally unique about facing adversity, even wave after wave of it.

Pain is part and parcel of life. Resisting rather than accepting that, in my experience, creates and increases suffering and misery. Regrets or resentments about the past, and fear of the future rob of us of today. There is a crass but apt saying "If you keep one foot in yesterday, and the other in tomorrow, you piss all over today.

George Bernard Shaw. "Life wasn't meant to be easy, my child, but take courage: it can be delightful!"

I think, but am not certain the following take-off is Robert Penn Warren "Life wasn't meant to be easy. It was meant to be life."

Nigel, you, Anne and Jane give all of us a gift by sharing here, and allowing us to share, thereby anchoring and reminding us to work toward perspective, delight in the moment, and helping all of us, not just yourself and your own family, to pull on the anchor chain to call us back to the present, and the opportunities for delight in the midst of all life brings.

I am grateful to you.


01 Jun 12 - 09:36 PM (#3358236)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I dunno' if I'm pissing on today but I am trying not to piss myself laughing! Fact of matter though is that you nailed it in one Janie.

I too am grateful Nigel.......and watch where you piss!!! LMAO


Spaw


03 Jun 12 - 07:48 AM (#3358699)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

You Good People never cease to amaze me. You make me laugh...You make me cry...You comfort & reassure me...You make me think & reflect...You remind me, over & over, that I have Friends on whom I can rely, Friends with Warmth & Love in their Hearts. Friends for whom Compassion is a given & not a burdensome duty.
       Spaw, you're absolutely right, Janie "nailed it in one", eloquently & profoundly. Many wise, beautiful & funny words have been written in this thread. It is fast becoming 'a thread for Life & Living'. The accumulating wisdom is priceless & has become a 'Life Library' which I visit every day, often more than once.
       Jane remains positive & talks openly & freely (certainly with Ann & myself) about her health. The time we spend with her has become ever more precious. We laugh...cry sometimes, often when we're least expecting to, but above all, we are living our lives. Janie's words express what I'm trying to say: "....to pull on the anchor chain to call us back to the present, and the opportunities for delight in the midst of all life brings".
       With Much Love to You All,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx


03 Jun 12 - 05:39 PM (#3358878)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Well, I am pissed. I was usre I requested in this thread tahat 9 send me that joke but it appears I didn't. 9 (or Nigel), please do? Thanks in advance.

Keep the faith eh?


03 Jun 12 - 10:38 PM (#3358985)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Janie is one of the Wisest of the Mudcat Wise Wimmin and an incredibly beautiful writer. She did get it right on the button. We have had such sharing and opportunity for learning in this thread.

luvyallkat


06 Jun 12 - 08:41 AM (#3359942)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, your beautiful prose, grown & nurtured by your experience, knowledge & insight, calms me & allows me to 'take stock' before surmounting the next hurdle.

Sandra, I don't remember you mentioning before that you too were being treated for cancer. You sound very positive when you describe the relationship between your Oncologist, Receptionist & Yourself. And as you so sensitively say: "....maybe next year".

The 'launch' of 'The Voyage of The Rainbow' has had to be postponed yet again. All being well, she will be afloat this coming Friday, 8th June. My med. tests (Diabetes confirmed), keep clashing with the Apple Store. Just had a slightly bizarre thought, will it be safe for me to visit a store called 'Apple', now that I'm diabetic....??!! Awkward attempt at humour...trying to lighten my mood...only got the diagnosis this morning (Wednesday).

It's Jane's Silver Wedding Anniversary today. We all so want twenty-five years to become twenty-six.
                Much Love to You All,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx


06 Jun 12 - 03:09 PM (#3360115)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Type (stage) 1 or 2 diabetes?


06 Jun 12 - 07:15 PM (#3360219)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

It may take a while to adjust to the diabetes diagnosis, but now that you know you can start doing what you need to do to take care of yourself Many people use the expression "control diabetes." I prefer to say that I manage it. Best wishes that you will soon find what works best for your body.


06 Jun 12 - 07:29 PM (#3360234)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

congrats to jane and husband and a prayer for you and ann in the unsettling health setbacks of late.God bless    pete.


07 Jun 12 - 06:40 AM (#3360401)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

happy silver anniversary, Jane


08 Jun 12 - 05:31 AM (#3360852)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

You always think that you're the only one with a particular problem, until, that is, you begin to write about it on Mudcat. Since January, Ann & I have realised increasingly that we are not alone...we share similar, if not identical, 'trials & tribulations' with so many of you. I like to think of us all living on 'Mudcat Avenue'...good neighbours dropping in for a coffee & a chat, getting together for a yard sale (Our younger Daughter lives in Charlotte, NC), spending lazy days at the seaside with a watchful eye on the kids! Life was like that when I was a child...beach games...lying in the un-cut grass in the fields behind our house, gazing up at a clear blue sky (the sky was always blue when we were kids wasn't it?). Something's got lost along the way...everything seems so serious now... except on 'Mudcat Avenue'. Blue skies, unlatched doors, even some un-cut grass (to which the Resident's Association turn a blind eye), coffee on the stove. I know that I have to live in the 'Here & Now', but just occasionally, I think it does no harm to remember the time when Grandma & Grandpa were still alive. My 'Here & Now' is not very comfortable at the moment, which is why, I suppose, I want to reflect & be 'somewhere else'.
         My thanks, as always, for your Love & Compassion,
                                                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                                                       xxxxxxxxx
         PS The coffee's just about ready.


08 Jun 12 - 02:09 PM (#3360969)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

'The Voyage of the Rainbow' was uploaded to YouTube this afternoon. YouTube are doing what they have to with these things, so the link is not yet active. However, if you go to Nigel Paterson Music on YT (my Music Channel) & are a bit of a wizz with computers, you might be able to discover where she's moored!
                                                       Happy Hunting,
                                                                               Nigel.

PS I'll post the direct link as soon as it becomes active.


08 Jun 12 - 02:15 PM (#3360973)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm totally daft, try this:
                                    http://www.youtube.com/user/NIGELPATERSONMUSIC

If someone could create a 'blue clicky', I'd be most grateful.
                                                                                          Nigel xxx


08 Jun 12 - 03:23 PM (#3360999)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

http://www.youtube.com/user/NIGELPATERSONMUSIC


08 Jun 12 - 05:31 PM (#3361035)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Posted a brief remark on YouTube. Basically, it said beautiful.


08 Jun 12 - 05:49 PM (#3361046)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Basically, it would. Thanks again, Nigel.


08 Jun 12 - 09:28 PM (#3361126)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

That's a lovely composition, Nigel. Thanks for making it available for us to hear.


08 Jun 12 - 10:46 PM (#3361148)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Nigel, for a deep down belly gut larf, even in your current situation, just CLICK HERE. (Should take you to a posting by the Late & Great Rick Fielding.)
Much love,

kat


09 Jun 12 - 05:08 AM (#3361191)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Big thanks to Bruce for the gracious comments & for creating the 'clicky' (should be able to do that for myself by now!)
Big thanks also to maeve, kat & gnu for your gracious comments...touched doesn't come close.
To gnu...I won't find out until Monday whether it's Type 1 or 2.
To kat..."deep down belly gut larf....." ABSOLUTELY! Wonderful piece of comedy writing. Would work equally well on Radio or TV. Laughter is such effective medicine & it's free!
       'The Voyage of The Rainbow' was dedicated to & written for everyone who has contributed to this amazing thread, including all those good people who visit but choose not to comment. To that end, I will not be promoting it commercially. I want to retain a sense of exclusivity, which would be sullied if I prepared a score to sell. This piece is for You, it's for Jane & her Family, my beloved Ann & our Family.
                Much Love,
                Happy Listening,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx


09 Jun 12 - 10:36 AM (#3361265)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane has returned to Dubai for what will almost certainly be the last time. Just time to celebrate her Wedding Anniversary, tie up some loose ends & say her goodbyes. Her condition remains stable, i.e. the cancer still has not spread any further. She seems determined to put all her energy into each day as it comes, making each day count, making each day a day on which she can look back with a measure of satisfaction & pleasure. The whole Family will be back permanently in the UK, once Jane's children have finished this term's schooling. After that, as my late Father used to say: "Press on regardless".
                         With Love,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx


10 Jun 12 - 05:11 AM (#3361530)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Here is the individual link for 'The Voyage Of The Rainbow':

          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=28WGELL3Ewk

Or if you can bear the thought of listening to some of my other pieces too:

          http://www.youtube.com/user/NIGELPATERSONMUSIC

I C&P'd the urls from YT straight into the 'clicky maker', but they didn't turn blue (my favourite colour as it happens). Expert Musician...Crap Clicky-Maker...what am I doing wrong?
It's finally stopped raining & blowing a gale & the sun's come out. As one of my college friends often used to say: "Have a Weekend!"
                                        With Love,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx


10 Jun 12 - 06:10 AM (#3361546)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

'The Voyage Of The Rainbow'

Nigel Paterson Music


10 Jun 12 - 10:41 AM (#3361643)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Maeve, you're a genius...thank you...how do you do that? Little words in short sentences please!
          Love,
                Nigel
                xxxx


10 Jun 12 - 07:08 PM (#3361793)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Nigel... just to the bottom right of the box I am typing in now is "Make a link ("blue clicky")". Try it out. Hint... I open things in a new window (like, where it says "test this link") and I copy the link before I do so. PM me, or maeve, I assume, if you need any help.


10 Jun 12 - 07:20 PM (#3361797)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Ditto here, Nigel.


10 Jun 12 - 11:30 PM (#3361895)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

I've let this thread slip by until now. When I felt the need to post regarding my wife, Nigel responded right away. I feel somewhat shamed. But I just read all of this thread, and it has been good for my heart just now. I really think it will help me face my own current journey, if I can also come aboard with yours.

And, Nigel, the composition is profoundly beautiful.

                   Dean


11 Jun 12 - 01:50 AM (#3361910)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dear Dean....WELCOME ABOARD! But first things first....no shame, ok? You haven't been neglecting this thread, you've been caring for your Wife, so please....no shame. You are now officially a member of the crew of 'The Rainbow' (You might also consider moving to Mudcat Avenue when we finally drop anchor). Travel with us...there is wisdom, knowledge & an abundance of Life's experiences here, a 'Life Library', 'The Book of Mudcat', it's all here, just a click away. With respect to your own thread, I must ask; is your Wife responding to her treatment? You said that you weren't out of the woods yet, but is that bright light beyond the tree-line visible?
       And finally, thank you very much for your generous praise regarding 'The Voyage'.
       Time to splice the mainbrace!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx


11 Jun 12 - 07:19 AM (#3361965)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Just returned from my Doctor...Diabetes Type 2 confirmed. One more blood test, then sort out the meds. Looks like it will be a combination of diet, plus one tab. per day. Don't feel too bad about that at all...quite relieved in a strange sort of way!
    Jane & her Husband will be back in the UK later this week & next week, her Sister & one of our Grandsons arrive from America (Charlotte NC). It's always fun when both the girls are together, so Ann & I have something to look forward to,
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx


11 Jun 12 - 08:58 AM (#3361995)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill

What a very gentle, lyrical and rhythmic piece of music is your Voyage of the Rainbow - I love it! Your love of life and nature seeps through the music.

Sustaining thoughts for all of you x

freda


11 Jun 12 - 10:34 AM (#3362050)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

that's a good diagnosis, Nigel

thankyou for the music, freda described it perfectly

sandra


11 Jun 12 - 11:01 PM (#3362345)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Having been away and off-line for a long weekend and tired when I returned home, I just listened to your Voyage of the Rainbow. It's lovely. Well done!

Type 2 is what I have. I started on one pill daily and followed all the directions for exercise and diet, but my meds were increased to two pills daily and eventually to three. I felt like a failure. At the same time I was angry at my body because I knew I was doing everything I was supposed to do but apparently getting worse in spite of my changes. I thought, "Why am I even bothering to do all this if I am getting worse, not better?" However, I kept at it and eventually my condition improved. Much later I read an article that said that doctors often start patients on a low dose because they don't want to over-medicate. Then they increase the meds if needed. If that happens to you, be assured that this is common in the treatment of people who are newly diagnosed.

And while I was away, I kept your family and those of other 'Catters in my prayers.


12 Jun 12 - 01:03 AM (#3362370)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Just taking a few strokes at the oars before I turn in.
                     Dean


12 Jun 12 - 07:54 PM (#3362721)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie

The other day I read and re-read this thread. This kind of thing renews my hopes for a better world. Calling for blessings on the heads of all. :)


13 Jun 12 - 07:16 AM (#3362848)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you to all who've listened to 'The Voyage'. I'm beyond pleased that you like it! Since it was published, I've received some of the best reviews of my Music career! I'm very touched & increasingly sure I don't deserve such fulsome praise, but nevertheless, accept with gratitude.
       Good to hear from Freda, Sandra, ChanteyLass...we have such similar, shared Life experiences (song title pops into head: "You'll Never Walk Alone")
       To Dean: stow the oars, no need to row, the wind is set fair, enjoy the breeze on your face. But, if the weather changes, your rowing skills could well be in demand! I'm also imagining your Wife, up on deck beside you, sharing the breeze, listening to the water lapping at the hull.
       To Ebbie: It's interesting to contemplate just what a profound effect a thread like this can have. We've never lost sight of the reason why I first posted, back in January, but in terms of breadth & depth, this thread continues to develop, almost on a daily basis. If, as you say, your hopes for a better world have been renewed, then we need to hoist a special flag to mark such an auspicious occasion. Your Blessings are graciously received.
       With Love to You All,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx


14 Jun 12 - 04:08 AM (#3363235)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dean & Kat's needs are far greater than mine, Ann's or Jane's. By comparison, we're doing pretty well at the moment, so we're going to 'drop anchor' & row on over to D&K,
                           See you there,
                                                With Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxx


14 Jun 12 - 07:46 PM (#3363530)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Glad to hear that you are doing pretty well at the moment, but I'm not sure how you quantify these needs. Anyway, I'm still here.


14 Jun 12 - 08:01 PM (#3363541)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Much appreciated, Nigel, but one thing I learned, from anudder Mudder, is we all have needs of great personal extent but no need for comparison "triage." One thing this place has is plenty of good thoughts, love, etc. to go round. So, I say dip yer oar in wherever or sit back and relax...it's all good and no limits!

luvyakat


14 Jun 12 - 10:16 PM (#3363583)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Finally had time listen to "Voyage of the Rainbow", Nigel.

A lovely composition. Thank you for allowing us to listen.


15 Jun 12 - 05:55 AM (#3363652)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

ChanteyLass, Kat & Janie...you always manage to say the right thing just when I need to hear it most. I agree, CL, quantifying my/our needs is not an exact science. Our current situation seems to revolve around two 'criteria': Stability & our take on Normality. Thinking of Jane first, her condition is 'stable', in as much as the spread of her cancer has been halted & she is able to engage in about 80% (her oncologist's estimate) of what she would recognise as 'normal living'. If I 'triage' that against Dean's situation & our Dear Kat, my feeling is that, in the here & now, our 'needs' are of a lower order & I am beginning to feel unsettled about distracting folk from other, more acute threads. However, quoting Kat: "So, I say dip yer oar in wherever or sit back and relax...it's all good and no limits!" So true Kat, so true. The fact that You could write that, whilst having to deal with Fibromyalgia, fills me with awe & wonder. Your selflessness is a true measure of your character.
          Ann & I are so fortunate to have you all as Dear & Trusted Friends,
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann.
                         xxxxxxxxxx


15 Jun 12 - 08:32 AM (#3363693)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Hi Nigel,
I have been following your thread and have been inspired by all the wonderful comments by the truly lovely people here on Mudcat,now I too have need of support , but have found it by reading all these posts! My darling husband Billy has to start Chemotherapy for CLL ( type of Leuchemia) so we are reeling at the moment.Hope you wont mind me sailing along with your gallent crew, I will sit quietly in the bow of the boat and listen in!
With love to you and Ann and Jane
Wendy xx


15 Jun 12 - 09:58 AM (#3363721)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

There's something about a "world" where "Billybob"'s name is Wendy : )

Looks like a hot sunny day, good for stretching out on the Michigan sector of the deck.


15 Jun 12 - 11:12 AM (#3363751)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wendy, consider yourself 'signed on' from this very moment. Feel free to sit where you choose & 'listen in', but I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if before long, you were 'writing in' too! There are many good, wise & experienced 'Life Sailors' aboard, only too willing to hear your story. In the meantime, on behalf of our "Gallant Crew", Ann & I are holding you in our thoughts & wishing your Darling Husband Billy a positive outcome with the chemo.
               With Love,
                              Nigel & Ann
                              xxxxxxxxx


15 Jun 12 - 11:51 AM (#3363766)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Start with me Wendy. And there a lot of others happy to listen although it might be only just that.......listening and good thoughts. And on that I seem to need to address my cousin Nigel here when he says, "I am beginning to feel unsettled about distracting folk from other, more acute threads."

Don't........I have found that when this group especially and human beings in general open their heart to others, the working capacity of that heart is pretty unlimited. Now you know that's true but you don't want to have anyone feel "put upon" or whatever. So lemmee say that if I think you're over the edge, I'll send you a note. Until then.................


Spaw


15 Jun 12 - 12:56 PM (#3363791)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Spaw, I don't know what I'd do without you (and everyone else too), but right here, right now, Spaw has the floor!
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx


15 Jun 12 - 05:42 PM (#3363918)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Wendy, I'mm adding your husband to my list. Hugs and prayers.


16 Jun 12 - 04:48 AM (#3364070)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

What a lovely start to my day,thank you xxx
Wendy


16 Jun 12 - 09:42 AM (#3364145)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Still with ya, Nigel, Ann and Jane.


16 Jun 12 - 09:55 AM (#3364154)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Top o' the mornin' to ya!


16 Jun 12 - 12:37 PM (#3364220)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Top of the Afternoon to you too! Ann & I drove to the seaside (only 17 miles away) to treat ourselves to a nice lunch. Car died as we parked...couldn't lock it...it wouldn't restart...called the AA...nice guy turns up, but looks warily at our keyless entry/starting system. He checks the basics, battery (good), cleans the battery terminals...car still as dead as the proverbial Dodo (great bird name for a Musician!) Inspiration strikes...he holds the fob right up close to the starting button & hey presto, everything bursts into life! We missed our lunch, but were able to drive home with no further problems. Phoned my local Toyota agent...apparently the keyless entry/start/stop can be affected by other radio frequencies...never experienced that before. The key fobs also had new batteries following a recent service. We shut the car down at home...waited a minute or two, it fired up perfectly & the doors locked/unlocked as per usual....not quite the way we'd planned to spend a sunny afternoon by the sea! Give me 'The Rainbow' any day, not a battery or wireless device in sight.
               With Love,
                              Nigel & Ann.
                              xxxxxxxxxx


16 Jun 12 - 12:49 PM (#3364222)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

There you go Wendy, what did I tell you! Holding you & your precious Billy in our thoughts & wishing you both a restful weekend.

To Dean: It's nice & sunny (but a bit too windy) on the East London part of the deck too. Think we'd better reef some of the sails.
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx


16 Jun 12 - 06:21 PM (#3364334)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

my mum died yesterday;thankyou to you all for your prayers and expressions of kind concern.
it was late jan when they eventually diagnosed correctly ,and forcaste 8 weeks at most.she obviously well exceeded that ,reaching her 84th birthday and having a new great granchild in her arms ,which bought her great joy-and was wonderful to see.and we thought we would not see it.
i will catch up later.bless you all . pete


16 Jun 12 - 06:40 PM (#3364341)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Wendy, Pete, Nigel, Dean, Spaw, Rick, Little John, kat, Barry, Art, Severn... and so many more over the years aided by the community of compassion and support at this here Mudcat Café from far and wide... innit quite something? Brings a tear to my eye to witness it all.

Thanks.


17 Jun 12 - 03:24 AM (#3364452)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dear Pete, Ann & I are saddened to hear of the death of your beloved Mother & send you our Love & sincere condolences. Your faith in God will bring you much-needed comfort & support. You've been voyaging with us for some time now...stay with us, particularly as you chart your way through the unsettling seas ahead.
                Our Hearts go out to You, your Family & Friends,
                                       With Love,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxx


17 Jun 12 - 03:37 AM (#3364453)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

gnu, couldn't agree more...a 'Community of Compassion'. There is something about MC that has attracted a wealth of good & honourable people, all of whom have their PHd from The University of Life. Certainly brings tears to my eyes...all too frequently!
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                           xxxxxxxxxx


17 Jun 12 - 01:23 PM (#3364593)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I'm sure sorry to hear that news, Pete. I ain't much for praying, but for you I'll try.


17 Jun 12 - 02:39 PM (#3364630)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Aw, Pete, I'm sorry.


19 Jun 12 - 06:15 AM (#3365379)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Sending love from Essex to you Pete, treasure the memories of your beloved mother, how wonderful she held the new baby in her arms, may that little child bring much happiness to you at such a sad time.
Wendy


19 Jun 12 - 10:19 AM (#3365444)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Losing your mother is never easy no matter what age you are. Mine died when I was 18 and she 43. My Dad told me that night I that I would never have a day I didn't think of her.......and he was right.......and that is good......

Spaw


21 Jun 12 - 10:45 AM (#3366218)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

My condolences, Pete. Spaw is right...you never stop missing your mom. Time and memories help, but still it is a massive loss. Be sure to give yourself plenty of time to grieve and remember.{{{{hugs}}}}}

Nigel & Ann..how's it going?


21 Jun 12 - 02:05 PM (#3366318)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Dunno how I missed that, Pete. My condolences.


21 Jun 12 - 05:49 PM (#3366399)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thanks again.who'da thought people you've never met would be so loving.touch me deeply.
funeral is tuesday.nice to know prayers and good thoughts are with me.

nigel-only just listened to "voyage..."and other tracks.very good -but must confess dance yer socks off is not this old rockers cup of tea!.the others-beautiful.

wendy-prayer offered for you both.


21 Jun 12 - 09:27 PM (#3366454)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} to you and your family, Pete.

I can imagine what it meant to your mom and to her grandchild for her to get hold that great grandbaby. My lovely neice by marriage was 7 months pregnant when Daddy died. They had sent him and Mom an ultrasound photo that clearly showed Roxie's facial features. Dad took such joy in looking at that picture, and handed it around to visitors proudly. "See my new great grand-daughter? Isn't she beautiful?" My parents raised my nephews after my sister died, and it also brought great solace to Matt that Daddy so delighted in Roxie in utero.


22 Jun 12 - 11:14 AM (#3366660)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I have come to admire Nigel very much on this voyage. He has opened his heart (and his thread) to others who are going through difficult times, and that speaks for his spirit. You are in my thoughts each day, and I expect that will continue. You too, Pete and Dean and Dan. It's always good to know you're not alone when stuff happens.


22 Jun 12 - 11:21 AM (#3366662)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

999: Amen, brother! : )


22 Jun 12 - 11:22 PM (#3366926)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Lovely, Janie.

My dad got to hold my grandson when he was born. My dad was literally shaking because he never thought he would see a great-grandchild. (Mom didn't live long enough to see me married, let alone a mother.) We made sure my dad was sitting down in an armchair when he held him. Even then my dad was reluctant, but we assured him all would be well. I will never forget the look of wonder on my dad's face.


23 Jun 12 - 03:13 AM (#3366963)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

It's been six days since I last posted, but it feels twice as long as that. I've spent three of those six days with my GP & two Diabetic Nurse Specialists. We weren't cohabiting, but it did seem as if I was spending a disproportionate amount of my time at the clinic! The initial diagnosis has been revised 'up' & it has been suggested that I start getting used to the fact that Type 2 could become Type 1 sooner rather than later. That news took a bit of digesting...went through a range of emotions, ranging from anxious & scared to bloody angry! It's now Saturday & acceptance is knocking on my door. It is only a gentle knock at present, but acceptance is the only way to go.
          I've missed your company, your wise, comforting words, your humour...Bruce, ChanteyLass, Wendy, Spaw, kat, gnu, Pete, Janie, Dean, Dan & everyone else who voyages with us. Singling out individuals is a perilous task, but Bruce's post of 22nd June has touched me very deeply. Several of us have exchanged emails, where we have been able to share intimacies that can only be shared one to one. Intensely personal aspects & moments from our lives...so precious.
          Lest we forget, the lady for whom this thread was started, our Darling Jane, remains stable, no further spreading of the cancer & the lung tumours appear to be shrinking. We really don't know whether 'cure' is a word we dare think of, let alone utter, but she has energy & a sense of purpose & is living her life much as she always has done. In January, when she received her diagnosis, everything about her changed. Jane was still called Jane, but the Jane we knew & loved was in a dark & frightening place. Now, the sun shines from her face once again...still taking things a day at a time, but with a hint of 'lightness' that was not apparent before.
          Time, I think, to conclude this Saturday Digest. Ann & I send our Love to You all, hoping that Life is treating you kindly & that you will continue to voyage with us,
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx


23 Jun 12 - 03:59 PM (#3367165)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm sorry to read about the change in your diagnosis. I can only think that the stress you have been under has caused your own condition to accelerate.

In addition to the professional advice you are getting about meds, nutrition, and exercise, I hope somebody has mentioned meditation. That could mean a traditional form of meditation, but for you it might also mean music and Mudcat! At least I hope we are easing your level of stress.

I'm glad to read that Jane is doing well, and I am full of hope for her continuing to do so.


23 Jun 12 - 10:40 PM (#3367262)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Nigel: For 28 years I've walked a few hundred miles, tent camped in rustic settings, crawled through mud in a cave, hot air ballooned, skinny dipped, done small construction jobs, listened to her singing in a big choir group and occasional solo settings, and made love like rabbits, with a lady who had already been totally insulin dependent for about 27 years before I met her. She retired a year and a half ago from a career as an occupational therapist. The damn diabetes has been a pesky nuisance the whole time, and I wouldn't wish it on anybody; but on the grand scale of things...


24 Jun 12 - 06:16 AM (#3367337)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

One of my diabetic friends who is over 70 carries his needle in a toothbrush holder & has been known to remove it from his pocket while talking to friends & jab himself without people really noticing!

The only thing that holds him back a bit is a childhood bike accident that left one leg shorter & stiff. There have been times in the recent past that his leg has caused him big trouble & further operations, but the diabetes - never.

Diabetes support organisations have lots of info. Other 'Catters have diabetes too & can offer tips & info.

sandra


24 Jun 12 - 02:23 PM (#3367486)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Good news re Jane. Good news from those who "know" diabetes. Yes, it sucks this thread even exists but it has been a "good" thread overall. Like I said, this communal sharing and support is heartening, to say the least.


25 Jun 12 - 02:02 PM (#3367821)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes, good news in several different guises, undeniably so. The Diabetes diagnosis has forced me to look closely at my diet (not necessarily a bad thing) & my M.O. in general. Because my 'situation' is only one week old, everything is still a bit raw & 'unprocessed' & there is a fair amount of info. to digest. I'm getting there, ChanteyLass, Dean (best four lines I've read in a long time!), sandra & gnu. I don't handle 'change' very well, particularly when it involves the workings of my own 'bod', but get there I will.
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx


25 Jun 12 - 03:47 PM (#3367871)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I hear ya, Nigel. My diet, such as it has been, is to remove sugars from my diet, most starches and fats. WTF is left? Wanna take me out for supper? Line up some lettuce, slightly underdone with a hint of carrot and garlic to bring forth the flavour of the green leaves. Sounds a treat, huh?

I have many diabetic friends, and please believe me when I tell you handling it's a do-able thing. Just need the right frame of mind.

Best wishes to you, Ann and of course Jane.


25 Jun 12 - 06:04 PM (#3367947)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

If you can access it, I recommend watching the docu "Forks Over Knives." My doctor told me about it. Some astonishing findings re' diet and ailments. Now, when you are looking at changing your diet anyway, would be a good time to watch it and/or get the companion book, imo. (I don't like change, either!:-)

kat


25 Jun 12 - 06:09 PM (#3367954)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

9... "Just need the right frame of mind."

Yup. You can do it, Nigel. Well, actually, you WILL do it. And, it will be fine. Just some more shit to deal with but you CAN deal with it.


26 Jun 12 - 06:04 AM (#3368109)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

gnu, you've reminded me of that ubiquitous 'T' shirt that did the rounds a while ago: "Same shit, different day". I guess for me it would have to read: "Different shit, different day!" Thanks, Bruce & kat...Bruce, you made me laugh...good, morning medicine.
         I've touched on this next issue before, but I think it's time to raise it once again. In one sense, this thread has almost run it's natural course. It began as a plea for help & support when our daughter, Jane received her cancer diagnosis. The help & support, the wise & comforting words poured in in abundance. At times, almost overwhelming, but always sincere & profoundly meaningful. Over time, as Jane's condition has stabilised, our 'remit' has broadened considerably. Jane remains ever-present, but we have also been able to explore many of our own, frequently deeply personal issues. Sometimes for the first time 'en publique'. The fact of the matter is; Jane could live for several more years, maybe, even live out her 'allotted span'...we just don't know.
          The flip-side is, that since January, we've established & nurtured a dialogue, one which I find invaluable. ChanteyLass wrote earlier about Meditation. She was absolutely right, Mudcat & Music are a form of Meditation for me. It has become a part of my life that I would be loath to lose, but do you feel the same way? Is it time to drop anchor for the last time, can we maintain the interest, energy & commitment that has kept the thread alive & so vibrant? Do write in with your views.
          Much Love to You All,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx


26 Jun 12 - 07:49 AM (#3368132)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel

Many years ago I was helping some people in a small Newfoundland town to move their furniture from one house to another. One of the fellows decided to drive with the then-empty truck to a place from which the bay could be seen. One of the brothers was pointing out the sights to me and he began to tell me what each of the craft in the bay was: that's a dory, that's a schooner, that's a punt, that's a dragger, that's a trawler . . . . I must have had a puzzled look on my face because the other brother came over, put his hand on my shoulder and said, "Don't let him confuse you Bruce, them's boats!"

I don't recall ever being in an organization that had more than one leader. In keeping with the extended metaphor of this thread and its possible closure, that's your decision, captain, and I'll abide by your call.

I'll add just this: I like coming here because it's peaceful. The thread's a kinda harbour filled with boats, each one from other seas and each one with different needs and and abilities to express those needs. It's one of few threads wherein people have a common purpose and with few digressions keep to that purpose. In brief, I'd like to see it stay open.

B


26 Jun 12 - 08:35 AM (#3368146)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel, everything B just said, sometimes we just bob up and down in the boat listening and finding solace in all the wise things said here.
Billy has a bone marrow scan next Wednesday and starts his treaatment on July 9th.Being selfish I hope I can climb aboard as often as I can.

much love to you, Ann and Jane

Wendy


26 Jun 12 - 09:21 AM (#3368156)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Well - Captain's orders and all shore leave requests granted but we all need a safe haven sometimes (and even in dry dock tha needs tha barnacles scraped tha knows?) so for all the crew and the silent partners and errant cabin boys I hope this voyage continues.
Good people, great hearts.
rum


26 Jun 12 - 11:08 AM (#3368199)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Devil's advocate has never been a role I've played with any ease, so it is with the greatest of pleasure (this should be hollered from the masthead), I announce with the utmost alacrity:"Onwards we voyage!"
          It was never my intention to close the thread, but because it's emphasis has changed, I felt some clarification was needed so we can set a new course...although I think we've already done that & nobody really noticed!
          The last words today come from Rumanci: "We all need a safe haven sometimes (and even in dry dock tha needs tha barnacles scraped tha knows?)"
          And Bruce: "It's one of few threads wherein people have a common purpose and with few digressions keep to that purpose".
          So, the wind is set fair & the barometer is rising. If we get a move on, we should just catch the tide,
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx


26 Jun 12 - 11:08 AM (#3368201)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie

As a Mudcatter who has been mostly silent throughout this thread but often present, I too would like it to stay open and continue. There is real grace here.


26 Jun 12 - 11:14 AM (#3368205)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Just pipped you to the post Ebbie.
       "There is real grace here." Sentiments you don't hear too often anywhere on the web. Thank you, Ebbie.
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx


26 Jun 12 - 03:25 PM (#3368313)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Ebbie needed relief from Kendall's bagpipe thread which I have been trashing lately. She is right of course.......and how many others are there lurking and enjoying?

As opposed to a few months ago, mostly things are going better for a lot of 'Catters and this thread sort of stands for all the bad times turning better........I'm no Pollyanna and I know of lfe's cycles so all will not always be well.......But when they are on the upswing we can enjoy them all the more by seeing how far things have come. When it gets tougher we can look back and see the support and love that will always be here.

I'm glad and I thank you for keeping this thread open and also for that moving PM.....I was pleased beyond words......and I still am. Now if you need diversion you can do a "Reverse Ebbie in the Pike Position" and go mess with Kendall who is always fun to mess with!!!


Spaw


26 Jun 12 - 05:22 PM (#3368362)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie

"Reverse Ebbie in the Pike Position" Oh dear. That sounds painful.


26 Jun 12 - 06:02 PM (#3368378)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Depends on the size of the pike, Ebbie. Some of them can bite real nasty. I once was trying to get the lure out of one's mouth and lowered the line and my Newfie buddy hollered "STOP!" He took the rod and said "Watch this sonnyboy, cityboy, mainlander." He took a stick about an inch in diameter, held it in front of the pike's face and lowered the the fish to the ground. It's tail hit the ground and it propelled itself to the stick and bit it in two. Me buddy says, "Yer welcome fer yer fingers Sport." "Sport" is what they calls them fellahs from down south in the big city.

Maybe I shouldn't but, WTH... he threw the pike into the woods and said, "Reel in faster and ya won't be wastin our time, eh?" I asked why he didn't throw it back in. He said, "You'll just catch the boney fucker again and we wants is TROUT, ROIGHT? Besides, it'll bring bears." I asked if it was bear season and he said, "No. But it's self-defense season." Always thinkin, eh?

Like the Newf in Texas... The Texan asks the Newfie where he's from and the Newfie says, "You know where New York is?" the Texan says, "Yeh, yeh, I know where that is" The Newfie says, " Well b'y, you just drive north of there about 6 hours, turn right for 3 hours and catch a 6 hour ferry and you're there in Newfoundland."

The Texan says "That's got to be close to China!"

The Newfie thinks about this and then says, "I think you might be right. I work with a Chinese guy and he goes home for lunch every day!"

That is typical Newfie humour.


26 Jun 12 - 10:19 PM (#3368487)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Wendy, I hope Billy's treatments go well.

Nigel, I forgot to mention laughter. Look for opportunities to do that.

I'll sail on any waters to which you want to travel.


27 Jun 12 - 12:33 AM (#3368506)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Thank you Lassie for keeping Wendy and Billy in the fore.

Wendy, you are always welcome here and we'll expect to hear from you next Wednesday and even more when the treatments start. You might want a separate thread as a bit of a journal. We're always around to talk to and are generally pretty good at listening. So keep us informed or Spaw gonna' be on your case. Spaw can be a sorta' nasty kind of bully with a bad attitude sometimes so don't cross him.

Just ask Kendall.


Spaw


27 Jun 12 - 06:56 AM (#3368564)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

My Dear Spaw,
Thank you, maybe I will start a new thread, I will see how we get on,but I am very happy sailing along with the crew, it is amazing all the support and love here on mudcat, I have to thank my dear, sadly departed,friend Dave Bryant for introducing me to this wonderful family .I often just read though the threads, get news of old friends and new,in times of trouble the wise and thoughtful posting are so uplifting.
Sailing on....
Wendy


27 Jun 12 - 11:46 PM (#3368939)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie

Sailing close to shore...


28 Jun 12 - 08:17 AM (#3369028)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane had the results of her latest scan this morning. The cancer remains 'in stasis'...no spreading or further deterioration of any kind. Jane's oncologist pronounced herself very pleased with the way things are going. Weekly visits to the hospital have become monthly. Can't see to type through my tears,
                                                    Much Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxx


28 Jun 12 - 08:19 AM (#3369029)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Very cool...........

Spaw


28 Jun 12 - 08:37 AM (#3369039)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Wonderful news Nigel
lots of love and healing thoughts
Wendy


28 Jun 12 - 08:56 AM (#3369044)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, in the parlance, that is way way cool.

YAHOO!


28 Jun 12 - 05:43 PM (#3369234)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

pleased to hear positive medical reading nigel.
blessings on you wendy and billy    pete.


28 Jun 12 - 05:44 PM (#3369236)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Hi, Pete. How are you doing?


28 Jun 12 - 08:08 PM (#3369312)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Well, okay, Jane! I'm already looking forward to the time when monthly check-ups become quarterly.


29 Jun 12 - 04:34 PM (#3369754)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Yeah, Spaw WAY cool!


29 Jun 12 - 06:44 PM (#3369813)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Real good to hear!.


30 Jun 12 - 04:59 PM (#3370051)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thanks 999 for asking-on the whole not bad;some low times but i plan to get back to playing and singing at sessions and open mics next week-whether they like it or not!
i handled the funeral better than i expected and the ressurrection hope was emphasized.thanks for your [attempt at?]prayer.
i listened to olddude on youtube tonight making a lovely job of "..wayfaring stranger".i had fogotten the lyric goes
"....im going home to see my mother..." kinda reassuring!
blessings pete.


30 Jun 12 - 05:08 PM (#3370057)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Pete... 'on the whole not bad"

Good to hear. Keep the faith.


01 Jul 12 - 08:03 AM (#3370216)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

very good news about Jane -

love & hugs to all who sail on this thread

sandra


01 Jul 12 - 08:22 AM (#3370224)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dear Pete, it's a much over-used expression, but Time IS a great healer. You never forget, but the grief & pain gradually ebbs away. The experience is as individual as we are; there are no 'rules' about how long it should take, whether they be the expectations of others or those we impose on ourselves. Life goes on & your Life is there for the living...didn't know you played & sang, so get up on that mic & show 'em what a REAL singer sounds like!
          Holding you in our thoughts with Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx


02 Jul 12 - 04:26 AM (#3370597)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane returns to Dubai today, but this time it really will be her final visit as an 'expat' resident. She returns to the UK with her Family towards the end of July. We spent Saturday with her...a very happy time (her sister was still over from NC) & she had enough energy to go fruit picking: strawberries, raspberries & gooseberries. No prizes for guessing what was on the dessert menu that evening, accompanied by generous helpings of clotted cream!
       Jane talks openly & freely about her cancer, the fact that it's still there but apparently inactive for the moment. We suppose that the drug's trial has had a positive impact on her condition, but the research assistants & oncologists are remaining pretty tight-lipped, which I'm sure they have to for all sorts of professional reasons.
       On Sunday, Ann & I visited Buckingham Palace. The State Rooms are opened to the public for a short time each year. A large palace, yes, but it really did feel like a lived-in home, not a museum to the Monarchy. Tea, Coffee & expensive profiteroles (for Ann), taken in the gardens 'out back', rounded off the day beautifully & not a Corgi in sight!
       Onwards we sail,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxxx


02 Jul 12 - 11:32 AM (#3370743)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, say hi to Liz from me.


02 Jul 12 - 12:01 PM (#3370760)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, will pass along your hi just as soon as. Better still, send her one of your CDs & broaden her Music education. The acoustics in the Music Room seemed very favourable!
                         Love to You & M.
                                                    Nigel.
                                                    xxxx


02 Jul 12 - 09:34 PM (#3371052)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Ooo, clotted cream!

I hope Jane and her family's flights are smooth.


02 Jul 12 - 10:53 PM (#3371075)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Nigel, I don't know how I missed the latest update. That is great news! I want to tell you, you and your family have been shining examples of living in a state of Grace that comes from acceptance, fortitude, hope, belief, and love of one another. With that Guidance anything can happen not least of which you have touched hearts and minds all over the world and you have left a record of it here for all time and, last, but not least, you have *documented* it in the universal language of music so anyone can share in the journey. What Beauty. Thank to you all for sharing with us.

Much Love, Light, Peace, & Healing Energy,

kat


03 Jul 12 - 04:46 AM (#3371156)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Our Very Dear Kat,
                            I really don't know from where I'm going to find the words to reply to your moving, gracious & so eloquently written post, but reply I must. For the thread, Ann & I thank you from the bottom of our hearts. A longer, more detailed, personal reply will be sent by email.
                           You are a Woman to be admired, respected, loved & emulated,
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx


03 Jul 12 - 03:08 PM (#3371419)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

I'm still thinking of you and yours, Nigel.
As ever all the very best from Charlie.


04 Jul 12 - 02:30 AM (#3371706)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

To all our American Mudcatters...HAPPY 4TH!!
And a very special HAPPY 4TH to the crew of 'The Rainbow'
Charlie, very good to hear from you. Lang may yer lum reek!
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx


04 Jul 12 - 02:35 AM (#3371707)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Charlie, I know that seasonally, L.M.Y.L.R. is somewhat misplaced, but it's the health & prosperity aspects I'm sending you!
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann.


04 Jul 12 - 12:22 PM (#3371917)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Just as long as my rum doesn't leak !!
Thank you, Nigel and Ann. Your concern for others is what makes this site worthwhile.
Love and best from Charlie.


04 Jul 12 - 12:44 PM (#3371927)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

I agree, Charlie and thanks for your kind thoughts on my thread, too. This is a great place, isn't it?

Nigel, thank you so much. I try to be a reflection of what I receive and I have received an abundance from Mudcat and its members, my friends, so your praise counts doubly so for everyone else on here including yourself and family.

Much love,

kat


05 Jul 12 - 03:38 AM (#3372197)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I joined Mudcat sometime around Oct/Nov '05. My sole intention then was publicity-seeking in connection with my folk music days. It took a while for me to appreciate that Mudcat offered much more. Kat's word:"reflection" is most appropriate. I posted on Jan. 12th this year that Ann & I needed help & support & in abundance it arrived & continues to arrive. Our care & concern for others is a 'reflection' of the care & concern Ann & I have received from so many of you Good People. I have never engaged in a dialogue of this nature before. It has been & continues to be, one of my most life-affirming experiences.
                   Most Sincerely & with all the Love we can muster,
                                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                              xxxxxxxxx


05 Jul 12 - 11:51 AM (#3372384)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Kinda' reminds me of a great song by Ken Hicks and done so very well by Sandy Paton on one of the Golden Ring albums........

ALL THE GOOD PEOPLE
(Ken Hicks)

This is a song for all the good people
All the good people who touched up my life.
This is a song for all the good people
People I'm thankin' my stars for tonight.

This is a verse for all the good people
Who knew what I needed was something they had
Food on the table, a heart that was able
Able to keep me just this side of sad.

This is a song for all the good fellows
Who shared up my time, some good and some bad
We drank in the kitchen and shared no competition
Each knowing the other was a good friend to have

This is a song for all the good people
All the good people who touched up my life.
Some helped in small ways, and some helped in hallways
And some always told me you're doin' all right.

This is a song I sing for my lady
For my lady who puts up with me
My ramblin' and roamin', my late night come-homin'
She is the sunshine that flows down on me.

This is a verse for the pickers and singers
Whose songs and whose voices have blended with mine
On the back steps and stages, for hugs and for wages,
It's some kind of sharing and some kind of fine.



Spaw


05 Jul 12 - 12:54 PM (#3372426)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Cousin Spaw...you certainly know how to make a grown man cry...beautiful, absolutely beautiful. It fits so well.
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx


06 Jul 12 - 07:52 AM (#3372768)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

What beautiful words, I will try and get that album, sounds like a lovely song to sing,and I may need to sing a lot over the next few months to keep Billy's spirits up!He had the bone marrow biopsy on Wednesday and usually so uncomplaining he said it was very painful.
But he is being very positive about the chemo, that starts Monday and another day the hospital on Tuesday then just one day a month for six months.Samantha ,our daughter is getting him an ipod and down loading all his favourite music so he can close his eyes and go to good places in his head!
I am not sure about starting a new thread , I feel very safe with the crew aboard " The Rainbow" but healing thoughts and prayers will help us on the voyage.
Wendy


06 Jul 12 - 01:31 PM (#3372874)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wendy, very pleased to hear that treatment has started. That sense of 'something moving at last' is still very fresh in our minds when Jane was diagnosed back in January.
Starting your own thread is always an option, but I'm touched that you feel:"... very safe with the crew aboard " The Rainbow". Good thoughts, Prayers, Humour, Anecdotal Musings...it's all here...one of the wisest, most well informed & friendly Crews with which I've ever sailed (If the sailing metaphor becomes too wearisome, just write what you want to write the way you want to write it!)
                Holding You & Your Beloved Billy in our Thoughts,
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann.
                               xxxxxxxxx


06 Jul 12 - 02:52 PM (#3372910)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

continuing to pray for you;jane'nigel'ann'wendy'billy.
God bless pete.


06 Jul 12 - 06:40 PM (#3373022)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

It's so hot on deck, everyone who can is just sitting in any available shade. But things are flowing nicely for me & mine. Keeping all you good folk in mind.


06 Jul 12 - 08:42 PM (#3373057)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm still cruising along with all of you good people on this and other threads and sending healing thoughts and prayers wherever they are needed.


06 Jul 12 - 10:37 PM (#3373089)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

I am partial to the Sandy Paton version of the song Spaw posted, but I can't find it on youtube, so you may hear a close rendition done by Hal An Tow...my ears tell me their tune is slightly different on a few notes than what Sandy did on the Golden Ring cycle still available at Folk Legacy Records, folks. Still a beautiful song.

I like the soft, wafting breezes I'm getting right now. So lovely being here. Thanks for being here and being so inviting.

luvyakat


07 Jul 12 - 04:31 AM (#3373136)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, Dean, ChanteyLass & Kat...it really brightened up my Saturday morning to hear from all of you. I love those times when everything goes quiet for a day or three & then the next moment, there is a rush of posts. Just recently, too, positive news & good progress reported from several different quarters. Before I go (our neighbours are visiting this morning & we're nowhere near ready!) I must recount this 'Random Act Of Kindness'. Ann & I were returning to our car, & as usual, we were walking along, holding hands. A lady, a complete stranger, stopped & told us in, what can only be described as 'glowing terms', how beautiful it was to see older people walking hand in hand. It was a magical moment, full of sincerity, brief but remembered for a lifetime.....and then she was gone. I'm left wondering why the simple act of holding hands made such an impact on this Dear Lady....priceless.
             A Happy, Healthy Weekend to All,
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann.
                            xxxxxxxxxx


07 Jul 12 - 01:33 PM (#3373284)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Obviously the lady didn't realized that when long-married folks hold hands, it's as a deterrent to punching each other. : )


08 Jul 12 - 01:14 AM (#3373506)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dear Dean, if it came to a punching fight between Ann & me, she'd win hands down (no pun intended). She's much stronger than me....correction....her arm muscles work far better than mine! (-:
       I'm making a broad assumption that the humour in your post is an indicator of a 'lightening of the load' as Judy continues to heal & your lives gradually work their way back to the way they were. It certainly sounded like that on your own thread.
       Worth saying too....through all the years that Ann & I have been together, we've traded plenty of banter, but no punches. I can still run faster than she (just), so I'll keep that in reserve....just in case!
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx


08 Jul 12 - 06:01 AM (#3373540)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Good one, froggy!


08 Jul 12 - 06:24 PM (#3373720)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

And Nigel, your assumption is well founded. : )


09 Jul 12 - 05:34 AM (#3373867)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

lots of good news & wisdom here, & good company!

sandra


14 Jul 12 - 04:47 PM (#3376246)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i hit the big 60 tomorrow.i intend to keep growing old disgacefully!
not organized much as so soon after losing my mum but i intend to have a belated open mic/jam party soonish.if perchance anyone lives close enough and available at the time;be good to see you.
hope you are all doing ok.God bless pete.


14 Jul 12 - 11:04 PM (#3376370)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

goodonya! enjoy the belated celebration at the appropriate date.

sandra (who hit 60 five months ago)


15 Jul 12 - 09:18 AM (#3376463)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Happy Birthday, Pete. And may you have many more.


15 Jul 12 - 10:46 AM (#3376504)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman

Been away for a few weeks sorting out our Ruby Wedding Anniversary. Have not forgotten all those people who have contributed to this thread which seems to have developed into something which Nigel never envisgaed.
Keep the best wishes and prayers going
Pete


15 Jul 12 - 11:13 AM (#3376510)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Happies atchya, Pete!


15 Jul 12 - 08:19 PM (#3376773)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Happy birthday now, Pete, and happy birthday again when you celebrate.


16 Jul 12 - 12:40 PM (#3377099)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I have been visiting friends down in the south-west for the past week, hence the absence of posts (very rural, no internet access). Will write more tomorrow when I've recovered from the long drive (in foul weather!). Thanks to Bruce for keeping his 'weather eye' open on our behalf,
                              Very glad to be home,
                                                               With Love,
                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx


16 Jul 12 - 03:44 PM (#3377195)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Hello again Nigel and Ann and a belated Happy Birthday to you, Pete.
ATB from Charlie


18 Jul 12 - 12:12 AM (#3378101)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

With Nigel & Ann's permission, I would like to introduce my friend, Connie. She's not in the cyberworld, but she knows of Mudcat mojo and is in need. Her oldest son and only daughter are both gravely ill. Ben has Parkinson's and had a stroke last Friday. He's in hospital, can speak mosly okay and move around, The Parkinson's is slowly taking its toll though.

Out of the blue, seemingly, Linda went in for chronic pain and was found to have Stage 4 cancer. She's had some surgery, may have more to go, plus chemo, but it's a dicey situation.

Connie is one of my best and oldest friends. We've been through a lot together, but this is much more than anything else we've experienced. I'll be telling her about this thread and you, Nigel and Ann, as I know she will relate to what you've all been going through.

Anyway, if folks have a wee bit extra, a gentle sailing might be good for Connie. She is a bit infirm herself, but is being strong for her kids. I know she could use some virtual shoulders to give her strength.

Thanks, again, Nigel and Ann. Much love and gratitude,

kat


18 Jul 12 - 05:09 AM (#3378167)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Oh my, kat. I wish I had words. Ts&Ps seem so little at times.


18 Jul 12 - 07:27 AM (#3378221)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

It certainly puts your own life into perspective when you read about folk like Connie, her children & all they are having to endure. Like gnu, I'm struggling for words that might bring even the slightest crumb of comfort. This is a perfect example of what Banjoman mentioned above...how the thread has developed into something I could never have envisaged. The sense of Community is palpable. I'm sure Kat will do whatever is necessary to bring Connie & her Family aboard. We have unlimited accommodation & an accumulation of wisdom, love, humour, experience & pragmatic common sense to ease the most burdensome of life's loads.
       To all of you who continue sailing with us, thank you, thank you, thank you.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx


18 Jul 12 - 08:35 AM (#3378245)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Dear Kat,
sending love to your friend Connie and her children,I am sure the wise crew on this ship will bring her comfort and hold her in their thoughts and prayers.I have gained so much from reading this thread and thank Nigel so much for bringing us all together.
Billy started his chemotherapy a week ago , he had a few setbacks on the first two days but had wonderful staff at the hospital who were not only careing for him but looked after me sitting with him!He ran a fever on Wednesday and was admitted to the hospital , but came home again on Friday.
This week he feels much better and we hope to be able to go away to Norfolk for the weekend, so fingers crossed that the blood tests tomorrow are positive and he gets the Dr's agreement to go away.
So 1 treatment done, 5 to go!!
love to all the crew,
Wendy


18 Jul 12 - 11:23 AM (#3378341)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wendy, Jane's first couple of sessions of chemo were by far the most unpleasant. She was scheduled for six sessions, but in the end, had four, so there is always a possibility that your Billy might not need all six too. Waiting for the blood test results can be something of a nerve-strecher, but, as you say, fingers crossed & you get the all-clear for Norfolk. Norfolk plus some sunshine will do both of you a power of good!
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann.
                               xxxxxxxxxx


18 Jul 12 - 12:25 PM (#3378359)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

prayer offered for connie,linda,ben.
likewise may God bless wendy and bob with a positive result and a good weekend.we were in norfolk recently.if you are in swaffam area there is a lovely restored church called st marys,houghton on the hill.they have a web site;interesting story.

though no particular update on jane we still remember her and yourselves nigel and ann.God bless pete


18 Jul 12 - 06:46 PM (#3378483)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Thank you, my friends. You are wonderful people.


18 Jul 12 - 09:46 PM (#3378547)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Billy, Linda, Ben, Connie, Wendy and so many others, focusing thoughts and good intentions on you.

My family knows first hand how meaningful and supportive is the knowledge that people who are essentially strangers are praying, focusing, caring with attention and intention.

Call it agape. Call it loving-kindness. Call it unconditional positive regard.

It takes nothing away from the support of those who know, love and/or are personally involved by virtue of family or 3-D community to say that mojo of the Mudcat ilk is in a separate and powerfully sustaining category.


18 Jul 12 - 11:10 PM (#3378569)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Beautifully put, Janie. You are such a wise woman and eloquent writer. We're blessed to have you among us.


19 Jul 12 - 05:10 AM (#3378620)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, I was away when you had your birthday...a very belated Happy Birthday. A 'different' kind of birthday, following the death of your Mother, but your memories of her could form the basis of a special celebration, even so. I'm heartened to see that you are planning some gigs...there'll be 'something extra' now in the way you perform your songs.
      Kat, Janie gets it right every time doesn't she?
      Janie, your use of the word: 'agape' resonated strongly with me. I c&p'd this from Wikipedia:
" [aˈɣapi]) is one of the Koine Greek words translated into English as love, one which became particularly appropriated in Christian theology as the love of God or Christ for humankind. In the New Testament, it refers to the covenant love of God for humans, as well as the human reciprocal love for God; the term necessarily extends to the love of oneÕs fellow man. Many have thought that this word represents divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional, and thoughtful love. Although the word does not have specific religious connotation, the word has been used by a variety of contemporary and ancient sources, including Biblical authors and Christian authors...." Your contributions add an intellectual polish to our ('our' is significant) thread, for which we are sincerely grateful.
      Jane & her Family return to the UK today for good (There have been a few false alarms regarding the 'final return'). She will undoubtedly return for holidays to see her friends, all being well. Her cancer remains 'in stasis'...long may it remain so. She has recently discovered Matcha Green Tea & speaks very highly of it's beneficial effects to her overall demeanour. Not sure whether her oncologist is aware of this, but she has more energy & drive than we've seen for months. Impossible to tell whether it's the new medication or the Matcha Tea (or both!). What is important is that she feels well & she's living her life in much the same way as before her diagnosis, back in January. We just wish that all traces of the cancer could be removed, restoring her health completely & absolutely.
       Much to read here today & on which to reflect,
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx


19 Jul 12 - 05:28 AM (#3378628)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

How wonderful it is to be held in so many hearts and prayers!
Billy has just phoned me from the hospital and his results are brilliant, he feels great and the sister told him to go and have an enjoyable weekend in beautiful Norfolk.
We will have at look at St Mary's church Pete,thank you. Best of all we are looking forward to a walk on Holkham Beach!
Love and healing thoughts to you all,
Wendy xx


19 Jul 12 - 06:11 AM (#3378644)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

Great news.


19 Jul 12 - 04:42 PM (#3378889)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

cause for thanksgiving from nigel and wendy.
i dont think we've been to holkham beach,though have been to wells next door ,and blakeney and boat outing to see seals.
wishing you a great weekend.   pete.


19 Jul 12 - 05:59 PM (#3378908)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

BTW...... i'm still here of course and truly enjoying this thread. I love your "voyage" Nigel.......spot on. Do you all notice how much freer it is when we give up ourselves and open up to the thoughts of others?   Pretty neat ain't it?

Later, Ill tell you why I think that happens here far more than it does other places both in the virtual as well as the 3D world.

Much good news for now and I hope katmyluv will pass on all of this as i know she will. "Connie" ceretainly has her plate full and I too send good thoughts their way.


Spaw


19 Jul 12 - 07:26 PM (#3378919)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Yes, Spawdarlin', thanks...just got off the phone with (my) Connie. She had company (her niece & nephew-in-law came over to mow the grass) and sounded tired, so I just passed on that GOOD people all over the world are sending T&Ps and she is most grateful.

I told her the good news about Jane and she knows there is hope. Her son, Ben, is struggling to get the words out of his head and actually speak them; seems some wired are crossed from the stroke.

love to you all,

kat


19 Jul 12 - 07:55 PM (#3378927)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

To anyone hurting now: May your burdens be lighter than the softest feather.

I have loved this group since forever. Especially Augusto's voice.


19 Jul 12 - 08:32 PM (#3378939)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Bruce, Lovely music.

I don't suppose there is a translation of the lyrics available somewhere?


19 Jul 12 - 08:48 PM (#3378944)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri

I think he had a great voice, too.
Google Translate's version is a little more awkward than this from Bing Translator's. It makes sense if you shift the meanings slightly. "Pescar" is "to fish", I believe.

To play a kite a chalk white,
the old wall was nothing
to smile a lie
to be great.

You grow up, you learn
you grow up, you will be taken
you grow up, you'll love it.

It was a nothing a green field
a run and then a pescar on the River
It was a nothing to smile
a lie to be great.

You grow up, you learn
you grow up, you will be taken
you grow up, you'll love
regret will remain
by that age, of that age.

You grow up, learn,
you grow up, you will be taken
you grow up, you'll love
You grow up, learn,
you grow up, you come
you grow up, you'll love
you grow up, you learn.


19 Jul 12 - 09:41 PM (#3378963)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

So many people to pray for! It is a good thing that so many more people are doing the praying.

And by praying I don't necessarily mean down on the knees, hands clasped or palms touching, though of course that is fine. I also mean turning one's thoughts throughout the day to those who need them.

What a fine crew! All hands on deck!


19 Jul 12 - 09:53 PM (#3378966)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Still aboard and thinking of all. And yes, Bruce, that song touches somethin'.


20 Jul 12 - 07:55 AM (#3379083)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Guest Date: 19 Jul 12 - 06:11 AM was me, I think. Can't be sure. Long time ago.


22 Jul 12 - 11:39 AM (#3379873)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

I'm still treading water and trying not to tread on barnacle scrapings ;-) and thinking of you all too
rum xx


23 Jul 12 - 06:05 AM (#3380256)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

best wishes & love to Connie & her family

love to everyone

sandra


23 Jul 12 - 02:01 PM (#3380491)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Good news, good Music...much has been & is, happening since I last posted. I mentioned earlier about 'our thread'. I mean that unequivocally. The course that wittingly or unwittingly we have set has lead us to several new & unexpected harbours, allowing us to take on board new crew members. I think it was Wendy who said she felt safe here...Ann & I do too.
       There is one question to which a satisfactory answer will never be forthcoming:" How many other people are there who read/have read this thread; perhaps finding help & comfort along the way, choose not to post. I want them to know that they are equally welcome here nonetheless.
       We have been aboard 'The Rainbow' for just over six months...a 'calm sea & a prosperous voyage'. Long may we travel together,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxx


23 Jul 12 - 02:17 PM (#3380501)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie

Thanks for the link, Bruce. Love the voice and the video is great too.

This ship is in serene waters but she can weather 'most any storm that should come along. She is sturdy and roomy, experienced and wise...


25 Jul 12 - 03:01 AM (#3381148)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Beautifully put, Ebbie, that's just how I envisage 'The Rainbow' too.
       Possibly spending Saturday with Jane. The Olympic Cycle Road Race passes close by her apartment, so if this glorious weather holds, should be a good day for all sorts of reasons,
                  With Love,
                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                 xxxxxxxxx


27 Jul 12 - 06:08 AM (#3382139)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Just celebrated our Wedding Anniversary. Everything on the day went well up until lunch. We had literally finished our first course (in a very pleasant restaurant in central London) & my phone rings. Our burglar alarm has been activated & we must return home immediately. We have keyholders but they couldn't be contacted. It took an hour to get home...one of the most anxiety-provoking hours I can remember! Opening the front door & having a good look around, nothing seems to be amiss. Speak to the security company & reset the alarm. A short while later, my neighbour makes contact & admits that it was probably him who set off the alarm. Turns out he was using a high-pressure hose to clean down his brickwork & his aim strayed to include some of our windows, thereby tripping the alarm. Our Special Day was spoiled big-time, but we intend to 'encore' the meal in every detail...hopefully this time, making it to the 'final curtain'! Some things you just can't plan for!
          Hope Life is treating you kindly,
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx


27 Jul 12 - 08:48 PM (#3382472)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm sorry your celebration was interrupted. I hope your neighbor will let you know before he tries that again, and I hope your next attempt at celebrating is completely successful. By the way, congratulations on your anniversary, Nigel and Ann.


27 Jul 12 - 11:15 PM (#3382520)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Happy Anniversary, no matter the upset. At least it wasn't a real burglary!:-)

May your next time out find a full and satisfying evening coming to a close with you comfy and mellow in the Captain's quarters which we have decked out special just for this occasion!


*Hope you like the South Seas décor*


27 Jul 12 - 11:37 PM (#3382523)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

if birthday celebrations can stretch to a Birthmonth, why not wedding anniversaries?

sandra


28 Jul 12 - 06:33 AM (#3382608)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Happy delayed anniversary.


28 Jul 12 - 08:20 AM (#3382637)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

likewise congrats.

in facing disapointment
a love that goes beyond
in sticky happenstance
cement the marriage bond

and so we come to celebrate
this marker of the years
in which we've been together
in laughter and in tears

a care and trust thats tried and true
as each to other yield
and more so now than ever
a sacred marriage sealed.


29 Jul 12 - 06:22 AM (#3383063)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you all for your best wishes. We will have to wait until the Olympics are finished before we can 'encore' the meal...the trains we need pass right through Stratford, 'Olympic Central'.
    I like the idea of a 'South Seas' theme in my cabin, kat. It would compensate for the erratic UK weather!
   Great idea Sandra...fully support that one.
   Beautiful poem Pete. It really sums up our relationship.
   Jane's health remains stable. She has her next set of scans towards the end of August. It's always quite tense as these times get ever closer & even tenser waiting for the results.
   Ann & I are currently overdosing, watching the Olympics on TV. Team GB has not got off to the best of starts...hoping that things improve. Don't forget, It's the taking part that's more important than winning. That saying always seems to apply more to British athletes than almost anyone else, or am I being overly cynical?
                        Much Love to You All,
                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                         xxxxxxxxxx


29 Jul 12 - 08:40 PM (#3383448)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

While waiting for test results, meditate. Breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out.
Okay, I know. It's easier said than done.


30 Jul 12 - 09:16 AM (#3383616)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Hey, Nigel, you're back. I apologize for missing your special day with Ann--story of my life. Happy Anniversary.

Test results: oh, yeah. Hurry up and wait.

As for Team GB, you have the best athletes in given categories that your countries can produce, so no matter how they show in the medals, they'll have competed and it doesn't get better than that. Since the summer olympics began in the late 1800s in Athens ( 1896 ? ), Canada has won a total of 58 gold medals. Win or lose, we always welcome the athletes home. By comparison, the USA has won 930 golds in that time and the UK 206. I haven't been watching this olympic because of the TV thing. It isn't plugged in.

I feel it deep inside that Jane's results will be good once again. Her outlook is positive and that's the sides of yourselves Ann and you show her. Winning teams are winning teams, buddy. Olympics or life.

BM


31 Jul 12 - 06:23 AM (#3384004)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

My Dear Bruce, You & your Beloved have been part of our winning team since 12th January.
      ChanteyLass, as you say, easier said than done. It's only recently that I've realised I tend to hold my breath at times like this (I do start breathing again before I turn blue!)
      With Love,
                     Nigel & Ann.
                     xxxxxxxxxx


01 Aug 12 - 09:23 AM (#3384577)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Dear Nigel and Ann
Happy belated Wedding Anniversary,and lots of positive thoughts for Jane and the results.
We had an amazing weekend in Norfolk, walked the glorious Holkham beach and toured the beautiful gardens at Sandringham, such wonderful weather that weekend ,we were very lucky!
I am off to Greenwich Park tomorrow to see some Olympics!!So we are having some fun time before Billy starts his second round of treatment on Monday,hopeing for calm waters and peaceful sailing.
love to everyone aboard and healing thoughts
Wendy xx


02 Aug 12 - 05:41 PM (#3385299)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

glad to hear you had a great weekend.i've just had a few days at winchelsea with assorted weather but a good break.cycling in beautiful countryside and playing a couple of acoustic nights among other things.
prayed that round 2 goes well for billy-
and for peace for nigel and ann as they wait for janes next set of scans ,and glad janes health remains stable.
God bless pete.


03 Aug 12 - 06:54 AM (#3385523)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you very much, Wendy & Pete. You've both mentioned places I haven't visited in years & brought back some happy memories. Ann & I will also be spending a day at the Olympics. We managed to get tickets for a day at the Paralympics in September.
       Felt happy & slightly depressed yesterday. Received my notification from the Pensions people, so now I know what my State Pension will be worth.....extra money in the bank (Happy)...fast approaching sixty-fifth birthday (Slightly depressed!)
       Holding you both in our thoughts,
                                                          With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx


03 Aug 12 - 07:26 AM (#3385532)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Sixty-fifth? Oh, to be so young again... : )
Are the years measured in metric system there ?
Can't see far for the fog on the Martha's Vineyard side of the deck this morning, but that will probably clear before long.


05 Aug 12 - 05:37 AM (#3386337)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dean, the image you conjure up of Martha's Vineyard shrouded in fog is so evocative...can't get it out of my mind. It's even pushed the Olympic images into second place! Not sure what you mean by: "Are the years measured in metric system there ?" Can you explain a little more please?
          Jane is well enough to take a holiday, so she & her Family have flown off to Turkey for a couple of weeks. Ann & I remain glued to the TV, watching the Olympics. For the first time, Team GB are actually winning some medals!
         With Love,
                        Nigel & Ann.
                        xxxxxxxxxx


05 Aug 12 - 06:20 AM (#3386343)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

""Are the years measured in metric system there ?" Can you explain a little more please?"

I assume he alludes to some conversion factor from Imperial. Glad to hear about Jane.


05 Aug 12 - 09:52 PM (#3386676)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I always love it when the Olympics host country wins.

I am glad that Jane is well enough to travel to Turkey. I hope she and her family enjoy their trip. I am sure that you will be glad to welcome them back when they return.


08 Aug 12 - 05:01 AM (#3387475)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I posted the following on FB yesterday. I'm reposting it here in the hopes it might stimulate a more informed debate!
       " I've been enjoying watching The Olympics on TV very much & rejoice in the ongoing successes of Team GB, but I've just had a look at the Olympic Creed: "The most important thing in the Olympic Games is not to win but to take part, just as the most important thing in life is not the triumph but the struggle. The essential thing is not to have conquered but to have fought well." We seem to have moved far, far away from those noble thoughts."

         I had a text from Jane in Turkey...she's doing just fine.
         With Love,
                        Nigel & Ann
                        xxxxxxxxx


08 Aug 12 - 06:36 AM (#3387508)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Morning Nigel,

Must agree with you about the Olympic spirit, however we had a brilliant time at Greenwich watching the dressage,and everyone was cheering all the riders from all the countries and all the competitors were supporting each other so maybe the spirit of the Games is still there but the TV pundits are not portraying it very well? Must say well done to all the volunteers who are the most happy smiley people I have ever seen!Hope you and Ann enjoy your day at the Paralympics, it will be a great day out.

Billy had his second day of treatment on Monday and now on the chemo tablets till Friday and so far he says he feels good, so fingers crossed.

I do hope Jane and family have a wonderful holiday,
Thought I might make a pot of coffee, anyone like to join me,
Wendy x


08 Aug 12 - 11:48 AM (#3387637)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Coffee for me, tea for Ann please Wendy! Very pleased to hear that Billy's treatment is going well. Some of our friends are volunteers at the Olympics. From what they've told us, they've had the best of times too. Ann & I spent a day at the Greece Olympics in 2004...the volunteers there were fabulous too...they helped in so many ways & as you say, their smiles were permanently etched on their faces!
                                                    No sugar for either of us, thanks,
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx


08 Aug 12 - 12:52 PM (#3387673)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude

I am speechless my dear friend, I will be praying lighting candles and anything else I can do ...

I am so so sorry


08 Aug 12 - 01:50 PM (#3387695)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude

I misread the order of the thread ... I am sorry and glad things are going better

Old timer's disease kicking in I guess for me


08 Aug 12 - 01:57 PM (#3387698)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude

a big sigh of relief, I thought a relapse happened. I am glad I am just a clutz and started reading in the wrong order ..


08 Aug 12 - 02:03 PM (#3387700)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

The news is beyond good. YEAH!


08 Aug 12 - 02:03 PM (#3387701)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Dan my friend; that's what happens when a certain favorite 'Catter insists on jumping out of airplanes without telling his wife!

Hey, y'all- I'm not posting very much these days (working very hard), but I am following along and keeping everyone in my thoughts and prayers.

Maeve


12 Aug 12 - 06:55 AM (#3389080)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane continues to enjoy her holiday...plenty of sun, sea, sand & r&r.
       Rather selfishly, I'm more concerned at the moment with my own health. I was diagnosed with Polymyalgia Rheumatica some years back now & combined with the more recent diagnosis of Diabetes, it transpires the chance of me having a stroke or heart attack has been increased by a significant factor. I've just had a 24 hr. ECG (wired up to a portable mini-computer), this to be followed soon by an Echocardiogram. To be perfectly frank, I feel quite scared. I know this is counterproductive, but it's a very difficult emotion to get control of.
             Much Love to You all,
                                              Nigel ( My beloved Ann's here of course, but this post feels very singular & personal) xxxxx


12 Aug 12 - 07:53 AM (#3389093)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

it is scary, but we are all here (she sez. speaking for the whole crew)

No doubt someone will be able to relate to the 2 conditions on their own or combined, but I don't have any personal experience of either so I can't offer any advice.

love & hugs to you (& Jane & Ann)

sandra


12 Aug 12 - 09:45 AM (#3389108)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thanks for responding so quickly, Sandra,
                                                                Much Love,
                                                                                 Nigel.
                                                                                 xxxx


12 Aug 12 - 11:43 AM (#3389158)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Sent you an e-mail, Nigel. Hang tough.


12 Aug 12 - 12:37 PM (#3389180)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Of course you are scared! It might help to focus on being glad the risk has been identified and you are being monitored and evaluated to figure out what needs to happen to reduce the risk. Continued good thoughts to you and yours.

Janie


12 Aug 12 - 01:27 PM (#3389200)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Hot tea is all I can advise beyond well wishes.


12 Aug 12 - 10:58 PM (#3389417)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I don't like the sound of that (the chances of you having a stroke or heart attack increasing significantly). I have decided that you will be one of those people who beat the odds. Also, as you learn to manage your diabetes (I don't like the expression "control your diabetes"), your odds will improve, I hope.


13 Aug 12 - 03:58 AM (#3389475)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you all, my Dear Friends. As ever, you're there...you write something that reassures me & touches me deep inside, especially the hot tea gnu! Where would us Brits be without our hot tea? I'm probably worrying unnecessarily; it's more likely my GP being thorough. Ann & I changed our GP about eighteen months ago (previous bloke spent more time looking at his computer screen than listening to us) & our new, Lady Doctor is superb. She listens, she takes an obvious, active interest in our health issues & doesn't make us feel that she wants us out the door in five minutes, tops! Plus which, we can write to her via email.
      Jane returns from her holiday next week & goes straight into hospital the same day for her next set of scans...she likes to fill her day! The results will be available in just a day or two.
      Bruce, your email received, read & re-read...reply on it's way just as soon as I finish here.
      Reading your posts & replying has made me feel a little easier about things...the ultimate 'silent conversation' (Isn't that part of a lyric by Paul Simon?...or was it 'dangling conversation?)
                     With Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx


13 Aug 12 - 09:04 AM (#3389561)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

reaching out & sharing a problem/thought/fear is good, especially when so many wise & caring folks are in your life.

sandra


13 Aug 12 - 10:29 AM (#3389595)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

my first mouthful of hot tea in the mormninmg is one of the delights of my life. Nigel, I hope it's the same for you.
Best thoughts to you and yours as always and, as my deAAR old dad used to say 'Keep b-----ing in, son'.
CHARLIE.


13 Aug 12 - 10:32 AM (#3389598)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

ME SHIFT KEY HAS JUST BOUGHT THE FARM.
ATB AGAIN TO YOU, NIGEL, ANN AND JANE


14 Aug 12 - 08:11 AM (#3389988)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

sorry to hear of your compounded health problems nigel.wishing you peace and stability.

my belated birhday bash is on sat at horse and groom,wilmington ,kent.
dont suppose any of you live close enough but if perchance you do it will be nice to put faces to unseen friends!.
God bless   pete.


14 Aug 12 - 08:46 AM (#3389999)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Pete, will you be at a racetrack or a bar? Either way, I wish I could be there, but it just isn't to be. I hope you have a wonderful day at either the horse show or the pub. :-) And once again, happy birthday.


14 Aug 12 - 10:13 AM (#3390031)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes, Charlie, first cup of the day is always the best.
Sandra, I'm surrounded by love, wisdom & experience, here on MC. It doesn't matter which way I fall, there's always someone there to 'catch' me.
Pete, I wish you the best of all possible belated, birthday bashes. Thank you for your good wishes.
Bruce, If I could afford it, I'd send you the air fare & we could all meet up at The Horse & Groom & help Pete celebrate in style...perhaps a little Music thrown in for good measure!
            With Love,
                           Nigel & Ann.
                           xxxxxxxxxx


14 Aug 12 - 10:16 AM (#3390034)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Thank you, Nigel. Hey, man, we'll be there in spirit.


14 Aug 12 - 05:31 PM (#3390200)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Feeling alone --
the army's up the road
salvation a la mode and
a cup of tea.
Aqualung my friend --
don't you start away uneasy
you poor old sod, you see, it's only me.

Not everyone's cup of tea. Da dee da dee da deeeeeeeeee da dee dee da da da deeeeee... er some such.


14 Aug 12 - 08:18 PM (#3390245)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Nigel...been there. Echo is a piece of cake...nothing invasive, only a tad uncomfortable. You are/will be fine. Just remember to breathe now and then.

Sending you all lots of love, light, and life,

In Peace Profound,

kat


14 Aug 12 - 09:25 PM (#3390267)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I haven't checked in with a post for awhile but I couldn't be happier with the way things are going for everyone......except Nigel. So let me post and ramble a bit.

Initially, you have reason to be scared. There have been so many studies done and knowledge accumulated over the years that they now are able to see and tell us how interactions of conditions often fit together and how things that used to be unnoticed are now linked. Now while that makes it scary when you have these things, it also makes them more readily dealt with by the medicos. And since you know you have them you can also do "right" things to help yourself.

I don't know how to phrase this exactly, but let me tell how "bad" I am. Ii 1997 I had 4 arteries virtually completely blocked and got a super rush job on a quad by-pass. Coming out of that surgery I had an atrial arrhythmia which couldn't seem to be treatable with drugs.   After 6 months of being very ill I had a mapping and laser ablation which made some significant difference but I still had the atrial fib which I have lived with since (14 years). I soon also began feeling tired and then about 6 months after I came to Mudcat (1998) in May of '99 I became extremely sick quickly and was life flighted out to a large hospital in Columbus. I had a dissected aorta which is what killed John Ritter. Mine was about an inch shorter so failed to reach into the heart. Getting out of the hospital weeks later, on the very day I came home, I went back.....bleeding internally somehow from a bleed they couldn't readily find. Turned out to be a carcinogenic small bowel tumor which had ruptured becasue of the stress my body had been under. They removed about a foot of small bowel. In 2001 I still felt pretty lousy at times and found my mitral valve was leaking. Had a new one put in in June 2001 and things got better.

All of this had weakened my immune system so that over the next 6 years I was hospitalized about once a year for infections or multiple infections which could also ruin the new heart valve. Obviously I also had mild emphysema and congenital heart failure. Breathing became even more labored at one point and I spent two separate bouts in the hospital getting that sorted out where it also became obvious after a stress test and echocardiogram that my refraction rate (heart function) had dropped below 30 (55+ is normal) and put me at even greater rish for Ventricular Tachycardia which will drop you in your tracks. So we put in an ICD (Internal Cardio Defibrillator) which will zap my heart to try to put it back in rhythm.

There's more, but I'm tired of typing. Now if you were to meet me on the street and go have a cup of coffee (or tea for you) and we'd talk and such, if you didn't know any of this you wouldn't know it by looking at me or hanging around. I look pretty decent for a 63 year old even though my charts read as though I should be bedridden and get around well and all of that. As they found more and more they also had new things and techniques to help me. For my part, I have some bad days but most are pretty good and I try not to review the above litany (and more) except to say, "Damn ain't I lucky to be alive," and enjoy every moment with Karen and the boys.....and my friends both in 3D and here.

They'll do some tests on you and do some things for you or to you to help you live a little longer. I feel bad because I know I won't live as long as I would like to but we kinda' got to accept that one......and that is the hardest part. I love my life, whatever it is and I don't want to leave it! But what the hell.....it was never going to last forever anyway. So I'll make damn sure every day I get I enjoy to the max!!!

But you knew all of that.....You're a good man Nigel. You'll be right as rain after the initial fear passes no matter what's going on. Truth.


Spaw


15 Aug 12 - 06:46 AM (#3390384)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Spaw, I don't know where to start. That you should have had to endure all (and more) of the above beggars belief. That you have retained a positive, optimistic outlook on life is nothing short of miraculous. Your 'Litany', as you describe it, is also testament to the human body's ability to go catastrophically wrong & yet, with appropriate interventions, it gathers itself & the next phase of one's life begins. What you've written is not a 'ramble', it's a vividly personal account of one Man's triumph over adversity, written with honesty & openness & a candour of rare quality. 'Inspirational' is a word I reserve for very special occasions. Your post is truly Inspirational. I am deeply moved that you have involved me so intimately with your fears, your struggle & pain & your cry from the rooftops: "Damn ain't I lucky to be alive".
       Kat, Gnu, Bruce, Spaw, my life is enriched by the ways you have chosen to live your lives.
       With Love & Gratitude,
                                          Nigel.


15 Aug 12 - 07:58 AM (#3390406)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

so sorry that now its you who are unwell Nigel,but you have been so supportive and careing of all of us, now it is your turn to be cosseted and pampered!I am glad your new GP is a proper family Dr, do you remember the good old days when the Dr knew all about you, your parents and grand parents,the GP who helped me into the world also was there for the birth of my mother!They knew all the history of past illnesses and certainly looked you in the eye ( no computer to distract from the person)We have been very lucky as our GP is a family friend and noticed when Billy first was ill that he "wasnt his usual self".
If you feel the need of some bracing sea air we are not far from you at Frinton on Sea, would love to make you and Ann a cup of tea at the beach hut!
Healing thoughts and love
Wendy


15 Aug 12 - 08:49 AM (#3390419)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Thanks for your kind words Nigel........and if you can I would certainly take Wenndy up on the tea! I know I would if I were there. This thread has taken on a life sort of like the long running "Mother Of All Threads" but for a far different reason.   Meetings in 3D of people in this group would indeed be sort of extra special.


Spaw


15 Aug 12 - 06:39 PM (#3390683)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Spaw's post is inspiring point blank. And, something stood out for me... "There have been so many studies done and knowledge accumulated over the years that they now are able to see and tell us how interactions of conditions often fit together and how things that used to be unnoticed are now linked. Now while that makes it scary when you have these things, it also makes them more readily dealt with by the medicos. And since you know you have them you can also do "right" things to help yourself."

Why? Well, because I have had a bad few months and I saw a doc yesterday ("walk-in-clinic" doc as mine is on holiday) who told me some stuff about my "stuff". A few things she said (English lass as it were) triggered me and I went surfing. Well SOB! I put things together and I am gonna beat on my doc when he gets off holidays! It's bloody obvious that he should have been checking for certain things.

Right... back to reality. I can nudge my doc to consider some things as long as I don't tell him I diagnosed myself based on web surfing. BUT, the web has certainly opened my eyes. It is a great source of info and I suggest to any and all that they consult the internut. Of course, ya gotta take it all with a grain of sea salt... >;-)


18 Aug 12 - 09:11 PM (#3392040)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

This thread has been so supportive it just continues ti impress me. Gnu, I'd like another report and a little about what on with you. PLUS, I could use some updates from everyone else.

In the meantime, just a bit of humor. Do you all know Lonesome EJ? He's a great guy and we've been friends here since we both showed up back in '98. We used to do some "Mudcat Real Time Story Writing." There was a period where we had one going all the time and I always wrote well with Leej and I playing off each other. If you're bored sometime, read this thread, The Mudcat Juke Joint.

A few weeks ago he smashed his hand and I completely missed the thread. Lots of folks had posted but when I read it I saw I was "expected." Spaw also has this reputation he has to keep. So being Leej (Lonesome EJ) I couldn't just say get better, so I posted some scatalogical stuff that took the thread off "elsewhere" for awhile. Leej is also one of the funniest guys on the 'Cat and when he came back he posted this......cover your keyboard and don't drink anything......here ya' go:

shit. See? My left hand inadvertently hit the submit key before I could complete my sentence.
I wish some of you could see what a pathetic shadow of my former ambidextrous lifestyle I am currently bumbling through, and maybe I could get some fucking mudcat mojo up in this bitch instead of a load of comments about my ass and polishing turds. I don't know why everybody else starts a "mudcat mojo" thread and gets sincere well wishes and prayers and invocations to the Great Spirit and such goings on, and I get turd polishing jokes.


I laughed and laughed.....beautiful phrasing. So I decided he did need some healing Mojo so he got this:

*********************************************************************************************

You DO need some real Mojo Leej.......Let me take this laptop into the john and I will send the following chant which I shall repeat 7 times. This powerful prayer chant was transcribed by Lord Windesmear in 1921 after a prayer vigil with Joseph Pujol the French flatulist, aka Le Petomane.

They were about 45 minutes into this session with the god Creppita when Pujol began speaking in tongues repeating the chant I will post below. When it was over, both passed gas and lit matches in the great god's honor. They also noted that many aches and pains they had each been suffering were gone! Over the years they developed this healing technique and it is what I will now do for you.

More importantly, I will pass on the procedure so you can do it yourself. First you must be comfortably seated on the can. Then light a match and say, "I seek your favor Great Creppita." Repeat til the match burns out. I need to warn you here not to use one of those fireplace matches as I did once. By the time it burned out my left leg had gone to sleep and I fell off the crapper.

When the match is out, repeat this chant 7 times:

Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
ZZZZIIIZZZZZ FLEEP


Now fart after the 7th time and if you can smell it over the burnt match, your prayer will be answered.

I will offer the prayer for your healing. You need to do this as well or it may not work as well. Good Luck Leej.

**************************************************************************************************

He says now he tried it but has no eyebrows.....................


Spaw


19 Aug 12 - 03:37 AM (#3392097)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Spaw, a veritable 'Tour de Force'! I wish I had your gift for humour...skilfully crafted, elegant scatological prose with flights of imagination that would have put the Monty Python team out of business!
       As for updates, there's not much to tell from a very hot East London. I'm still waiting for the results of my first ECG. I'm slowly but surely getting this Diabetes thing whipped into shape. Learning a lot about the GL Diet (sometimes referred to as the GI Diet).
       I haven't written anything new for weeks...my 'muse' has deserted me & I have part-composed pieces that really do need finishing.
       Jane returns home later this week & goes straight back to hospital for her next scan. I'm hoping to be able to write something positive about that by the end of the week.
       In conclusion, echoing Spaw's words, how are you all doing?
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx


19 Aug 12 - 09:15 PM (#3392493)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Thanks for your update, Nigel. A number of friends are paddling alongside.


19 Aug 12 - 09:23 PM (#3392499)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Yo, Nigel. This part of "you all" is doin' ok. Please give my regards to Jane. Anyone can be 'brave' for short periods of time. It's much more difficult to extend that over months (or years), but she's doin' it. And that's one place the rubber really hits the road


19 Aug 12 - 11:44 PM (#3392526)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

Nigel, the GI diet is a good way of living - it's not a "diet"


20 Aug 12 - 12:23 PM (#3392707)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Yes, I agree Sandra. I don't view GI (GL) as a 'diet', it's what I now eat each day, so it constitutes my diet (if you see what I mean!) As you say: It's a good way of living.
Courage Bruce, yes it certainly is about courage. The changes Jane has gone through since January regarding courage have been nothing short of amazing. Sometimes, Ann & I find it hard to keep up! It's our courage that's brought more into question these days.
Maeve, if you're paddling alongside, throw us a line & come aboard...don't work harder, work smarter!
            With Love (from a hot, humid London)
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx


20 Aug 12 - 01:41 PM (#3392761)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie

We're here, too, just paddling along and admiring the view. Just so you know.


20 Aug 12 - 04:30 PM (#3392854)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I don't paddle but I do keep an eye out.

Hoping things go well all round...

g


20 Aug 12 - 10:48 PM (#3393038)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Drifting along in what i hope will be peacefull repose tonight with sweet dreams of you all.

luvyakat


21 Aug 12 - 06:43 AM (#3393120)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

went paddling in the sea yesterday with the grandaughters,joyful! A lovely sea breeze is what you need Nigel, its hot and humid at night here but the warm breeze off the sea is wonderful! maybe I can try and send some inland to East London to cool you both down?
Billy is doing really well and no nasty side effects so looking positive towards treatment three at the start os September.
Healing thoughts to you and hope Jane has good results this week!
and love to Ann
Wendy x


21 Aug 12 - 11:04 AM (#3393206)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

So good to hear from so many of you. I really needed that. There are days/weeks when everything overwhelms me & I can't see the wood for the trees...been a bit like that recently.
       Wendy, I think Ann & I might like to take you up on your offer of a cuppa by the sea. I don't know Frinton all that well, but I spent many childhood holidays on the beautiful beaches of Walton on the Naze. I'll PM you & perhaps we can arrange something. It's also very good news that Billy is responding so well to his treatment.
      Thanks & Love to All.
      Keep your hand on the tiller & your eye on the horizon,
                                                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                          xxxxxxxxxx


21 Aug 12 - 11:08 AM (#3393208)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

"It's also very good news that Billy is responding so well to his treatment."

Absolutely wonderful news. I'm happy for you and your son, Wendy.


21 Aug 12 - 11:28 AM (#3393214)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Sittin' in the crows nest, keeping a thoughtful eye on you all.
                   Dean


21 Aug 12 - 12:50 PM (#3393240)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I appreciate the updates and even moreso when the news is good. My best thoughts for continuing with a smoooth sail..............


Spaw


21 Aug 12 - 03:26 PM (#3393281)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

and I've had enough of scraping barnacles - they scrape back! - so now I'm mending sails and knitting new fishing nets while lurking and keeping an eye open for paddlers and bits of green stuff falling out of the crow's nest and thinking positive thoughts for you/us, everybody.
Love to all - great crew this! - best of the best.
rum xx


21 Aug 12 - 05:46 PM (#3393333)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

"and I've had enough of scraping barnacles..."

Bruce is in that bad a shape?


22 Aug 12 - 07:05 AM (#3393527)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Lovely, funny, friendly posts to read this morning. Awoke feeling melancholy, not depressed, but very reflective with the following words running around in my head:

"The first school I attended is not there anymore,
But I'm still here.
The shop my Father bought my first guitar from is not there anymore,
But I'm still here.
My Parents are not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My Dearest Friend & Music Collaborator is not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My first Wife is not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My Teacher Training College is not there anymore,
But I'm still here.
Many Friends & Colleagues are not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My greatest Musical Influences are not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
I'm still here to live my life with Ann, my loving, caring Wife.
A life enriched by Friends afar who steer a ship by yonder star.
I know not when my life will end, but when it does, my Love I'll send
To all of You who've cared for me, true Friends for all eternity."

             With Love to You All,
                                           Nigel.
                                           xxxx


22 Aug 12 - 07:08 AM (#3393528)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Lovely, perceptive words, Nigel.


22 Aug 12 - 08:22 AM (#3393556)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Perfect Nigel. Absolutely and beautifully perfect.............

Thank you


Spaw


22 Aug 12 - 04:49 PM (#3393768)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Eternal words. Thanks.


22 Aug 12 - 10:00 PM (#3393860)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nice! And I'm still sailing along!


22 Aug 12 - 11:53 PM (#3393885)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

crying softly at the perfect beauty and perception of your words.

Remember we get back what we reflect. I think you have been a very bright Light for a lot of folks and deserve every bit of good and friendship.

Thank you for sharing so much with us.

luvyakat


23 Aug 12 - 06:07 AM (#3393944)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Beautiful words,
thank you Nigel,
Its a lovely sunny morning here, funny how everyone has a smile when the sun is out!Happy day to all the crew
Wendy x


23 Aug 12 - 07:12 AM (#3393959)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I've just got off the phone after talking to Jane. Her test results confirm that nothing has changed...her condition remains stable, 'in stasis'. The cancer has not spread & where it had spread to is now referred to as 'minimal'. She also had a complete health check: bloods, BP, cardio etc, etc...all good & normal. Her Oncologist is very pleased with her progress. She continues with the drugs trial...the Doctors monitor & Jane lives her life with a renewed vigour. The best news we could have hoped for.
         Good News, second edition; we also heard from our eldest Granddaughter this morning that she has passed her GCSE exams with a stunning set of results...10 passes at 'A*' plus one 'A'. VPG: Very Proud Grandparents! All in all, 23rd August has turned out to be quite a day, (actually, just the morning...what does the afternoon hold?)
               With Love to You All,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxxx


23 Aug 12 - 11:35 AM (#3394041)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Nigel, are those the standard academic achievement exams there? Required for secondary school graduation? Whichever, the young lady most certainly "done real good"!


23 Aug 12 - 12:10 PM (#3394061)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I love to hear/read good news. YAHOO.


23 Aug 12 - 02:19 PM (#3394124)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

glad to hear the good news of janes condition remaiing stable and congratulations on grandaughters GCSEs.
God bless    pete.


24 Aug 12 - 05:45 AM (#3394404)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you all, once again. Yesterday certainly was a good news day.

Dean, the GCSE examinations are taken at age 16. Our Granddaughter will now go on to study for her 'A' (Advanced) Levels for the next two years, after which she will leave school & go on to University. School Students in England may leave school at age 16 if they choose, but most elect to stay on for a further two years. There are an increasing number of vocational courses in addition to the traditional, academic pathways.

The only 'fly in the ointment' yesterday were my ECG results. There are 'anomalies' which require further investigation. So, Echocardiogram on 3rd. Sept, followed by a referral to a Cardiologist. My GP assures me there doesn't appear to be a major problem, she just wants to dot all the 'is' & cross all the 'tees'. I find her reassurance reassuring!
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann
                                     xxxxxxxxx


24 Aug 12 - 06:47 AM (#3394415)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Wonderful news about Jane Nigel, and congratulations on your clever grandaughters results!
There always has to be a fly in the ointment I s'pose, but your GP sounds very up to date and its better to check these things out before they become a problem.Will be thinking of you on September the 3rd and sending positive thoughts!
The Clacton Airshow is on here so may pop down to the beach and watch the Red Arrows and the fantastic Battle of Britain Flight! Picnic time I think
Wendy x


24 Aug 12 - 10:08 AM (#3394479)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

she just wants to dot all the 'is' & cross all the 'tees'. -

definitely a very good Doctor, you're lucky to have her keeping an eye on you.

& lots of good news in your last few posts

sandra


24 Aug 12 - 06:49 PM (#3394652)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Good news for your daughter and granddaughter. Whatever the afternoon of the 23rd held, I hope it was good, too.


24 Aug 12 - 07:03 PM (#3394660)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Chiming in with another *Big Smile*


24 Aug 12 - 08:17 PM (#3394694)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

LOVE the good news and hope the other news turns out okay.


25 Aug 12 - 04:27 PM (#3395054)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Huzzah !! many rtimes.
Charlie.


26 Aug 12 - 05:50 AM (#3395280)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

The afternoon of 23rd turned out to be one of those unexpected, serendipity moments. Here it is in a specially edited format: Bought Ann a 'good' (i.e. v. expensive!) watch several years ago...it needs repairing...visit jeweller who quotes £400.00...visit second jeweller who quotes £120.00...revisit first jeweller full of righteous indignation, but see the manager who just happens to be a watch specialist...manager inspects watch carefully & announces: "I can repair that myself now"...he disappears into their workshop at the back of the shop & reappears five minutes later with one, lookingasgoodasnew, watch...total cost: £0.00!
         Rounded off the day rather nicely! Mind you, there is probably one member of staff at the original jewellers whose next appraisal is not going to go too well!
         With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx


26 Aug 12 - 06:18 PM (#3395584)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Smiles!


26 Aug 12 - 07:38 PM (#3395620)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

more smiles


26 Aug 12 - 08:49 PM (#3395653)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Smiles indeed.

For the record and for those it may aid in future:

I recently took two "talking watches" which I purchased from CNIB to a master watch and jeweller's shop. After a LOT of messing around by THREE people, including "the master" who was called to the shop by cell phone in this emergency, it was too much. I left but gave my phone number at leaving as they were "researching." I recorded the telephone message... "...your watches have only one battery each and if the watch isn't working properly it cannot be fixed and must be replaced."

Now, anyone with even a small brian would... nevermind... I went to another shop and they replaced both batteries in each watch in ten minutes and charged me about what would have been the same. I have two talking watches and three spare "in a pinch" batteries... and the address of a good watch guy.

So, talking watches got two batteries, no matter what someone who wants to sell you a watch says. >;-)


02 Sep 12 - 04:58 PM (#3399168)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

we been in devon for a week at a picture post card cottage that was'nt what it was cracked up to be, and in fact should have had a warning that it is unsafe for kids and disabled.so if anyone is tempted to book bear shola at upper ottery be warned.it is in a lovely part of the country however and we had a good time out and about.
at a petrol stn almost home i broke my ignition key.thankfully car still started and yesterday i went to vauxhall garage who were unable to fix it without the code[and would have charged a lot and took days if they did]but did suggest the locksmith across the road.sure enough he patiently extracted the end of the key and furnished me with a new one for £25.smiles and relief here too!
blessings everyone   pete.


05 Sep 12 - 01:20 PM (#3400406)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Good smiles indeed. Nothing new to report from the bridge.
Yesterday, Ann & I spent the day at the Paralympics, a wonderful & unforgettable experience. I felt compelled to write some lines in an attempt to pull together some very mixed emotions. I published this on FB yesterday, but hopefully it will get a wider audience here.

                                        'Talk' by Nigel Paterson © 2012



DonÕt talk to me of transfer fees, injured knees, teams that squeeze
The most from ÔdivingÕ to the ground, advantage seeking sometimes found.
DonÕt talk to me of sky-high wages, sordid pages, petty rages.
Managers whose jobs change weekly, sometimes leaving not so meekly.
DonÕt talk to me of bulging egos, where the tax goes, who the hell knows.
Referees whoÕre not impartial, should there be a new Ôfield marshallÕ?
DonÕt talk to me of lifestyle choices, angry voices, flash Rolls-Royces.
Players rolling on the ground, ÔmiraculouslyÕ, no injuryÕs found.
          ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀
Talk to me of years spent training, when itÕs raining, bodyÕs paining.
Sacrificing loved ones, home life, husband, girl-friend, partner, new wife.
Talk to me of body defects, illness infects, teams that expect
Everyone to pull their weight for Country, Family & Mate.
Talk to me of limbless swimmers, palsied winners, young beginners.
Athletes whoÕve inspired a Nation, disregarding birthÕs creation.
Talk to me of Super Human, super Man & super Woman
Talk to me, your eyes aÕglisten,
Eventually the World will listen.


05 Sep 12 - 01:45 PM (#3400419)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

It is a thoughtful and positive piece, Nigel. On my computer all of the single quotation marks read as an odd gobbledegook, so here it is transformed to what you thought you posted!
*********************************************

'Talk' by Nigel Paterson © 2012

Don't talk to me of transfer fees, injured knees, teams that squeeze
The most from 'diving' to the ground, advantage seeking sometimes found.
Don't talk to me of sky-high wages, sordid pages, petty rages.
Managers whose jobs change weekly, sometimes leaving not so meekly.
Don't talk to me of bulging egos, where the tax goes, who the hell knows.
Referees who're not impartial, should there be a new 'field marshall'?
Don't talk to me of lifestyle choices, angry voices, flash Rolls-Royces.
Players rolling on the ground, 'miraculously', no injury's found.
          ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀
Talk to me of years spent training, when it's raining, body's paining.
Sacrificing loved ones, home life, husband, girl-friend, partner, new wife.
Talk to me of body defects, illness infects, teams that expect
Everyone to pull their weight for Country, Family & Mate.
Talk to me of limbless swimmers, palsied winners, young beginners.
Athletes who've inspired a Nation, disregarding birth's creation.
Talk to me of Super Human, super Man & super Woman
Talk to me, your eyes a'glisten,
Eventually the World will listen.


05 Sep 12 - 02:33 PM (#3400435)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Beautiful........simply and yet eloquently beautiful..........May I send it to a Special Ed. Physical Apps teacher who coaches Special Olympics? Joan is a good friend and I will caution her regarding copyright.


Spaw


05 Sep 12 - 03:54 PM (#3400470)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Wonderful, Nigel!


05 Sep 12 - 05:00 PM (#3400501)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel
that is so beautiful, wonderful words.How amazing to have been there, I wondered if I could get last minute tickets ,they are releasing them every morning. Billy and I have been watching every evening and think these games have been more meaningful than the Olympics! Truly inspirational people!

Billy had treatment three this week, halfway there!So far a little weary but apart from that no adverse effects! I trust Jane is still feeling well and that you and Ann are doing well! That cup of tea is on its way, I will pm you about the dates you gave me,(maybe the 30th?) just seeing how Billy gets on this week!

With love to the crew
Wendy xx


06 Sep 12 - 02:49 AM (#3400705)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Please feel free to share 'Talk' with anyone you choose. Just respect my copyright & include my name.
       Ann & I have watched most of the Paralympics on TV, but it's only when you actually go that it really hits you. One of the most joyous & moving experiences of our lives.
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxx


07 Sep 12 - 06:20 AM (#3401252)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm so pleased that my poem, 'Talk', struck a chord (no pun intended!) I've written short poems ever since I learned how to write. Usually just for Family, something to put inside a birthday or anniversary card, certainly not for public consumption. As an adult, I've discovered that poetry helps me express some of my deeper thoughts & feelings in ways that prose just can't match. Finding the courage to share some of the poems publicly was something I agonised over for months! I don't consider myself to be a 'Poet', I just enjoy (and sometimes need to), write poetry. What puzzles me is that I can't write a decent song lyric to save my life! What I have learned is that Lyrics & Poems, whilst sharing many similarities, are not the same thing at all. Thank you all for your generous praise. That you liked 'Talk' or it moved you, or you wanted to pass it on, leaves me feeling that writing it was time well-spent.
       Wendy, very glad to hear that Billy's treatment is progressing well. Our 'cuppa date' on 30th is still looking good from our end.
       Jane has had some of her drugs' treatment stopped, it being deemed unnecessary any more...that always feels like progress has been made. She remains on a closely monitored program, but the gaps between the tests & scans are gradually being extended...another sign of progress. In January of this year, we were practically planning her funeral. So much has changed in eight months.
      Hoist the Mainsail!
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx


07 Sep 12 - 08:29 AM (#3401282)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

It's good to read your update, Nigel. Worlds of change for you, yes indeed!

As for "Lyrics & Poems, whilst sharing many similarities, are not the same thing at all"; I agree, yet I also suspect that some of your poems might well be "convertible" to excellent lyrics in the hands of a trusted fellow songwriter. Worth some thought, perhaps. It can be daunting to hand off your poem-child (over which you've lovingly labored/laboured.) It's also a delight when you find someone with whom you can collaborate to make a song.

Sail on!


07 Sep 12 - 09:14 AM (#3401302)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

it certainly is the sort of update that encourages.

i was a poet before being a songwriter.the snippet i posted awhiles back became a song-my first,i think.i just set it to a medium fast 12 bar.i was a complete non singer at the time.i must admit some surprise that you have,nt done something set to song.be that as it may;you certainly compensate by some impressive instrumental music.
bessings   pete.


07 Sep 12 - 02:29 PM (#3401401)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Wendy and Nigel... >:-D


07 Sep 12 - 07:59 PM (#3401511)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

What gnu said!


08 Sep 12 - 05:56 AM (#3401604)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

The one person with whom I could've collaborated, writing songs, died from a brain tumour eight years ago.Almost certainly, one of the most talented & successful composers of film & TV Music of whom you've never heard. His name was Ian Hughes. I played guitar for him on many recording sessions, from simple demos for aspiring 'stars' to full-blown orchestral scores destined for the silver screen or TV. We did write one song together (I'm sure I've mentioned this in an earlier post). It was for the Eurovision Song Contest, but didn't make the cut. I still have our original, 'work in progress' cassette, but nothing on which to play it!
      Pete, it surprises me too! But I think I probably work better when I keep Poetry & Instrumental Music as separate entities. In truth, they both satisfy different needs within me.
      Maeve, you're so right. Handing over my 'poem-child' to the safe keeping of a, another would be something like taking a young son or daughter to their first day at school & letting them go in at the gates.
      It's beautifully warm & sunny here in London & the forecast is set fair for Sunday too, which is the best possible news because it's Jane's Birthday. It will be lovely if we can eat, drink & mingle, 'alfresco'.
      So good to read your comments...so good to feel you near.
      Wishing you all a sunny weekend too,
      With Love,
                     Nigel & Ann.
                     xxxxxxxxxx


08 Sep 12 - 04:56 PM (#3401770)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Happy birthday to Jane!


08 Sep 12 - 05:02 PM (#3401774)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Happies atchya Jane!


12 Sep 12 - 08:16 AM (#3403310)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane's birthday could not have been a happier day. The sun shone; we DID get to eat & drink alfresco. Cakes were cut, candles were blown out, brief speeches of thanks attempted, slightly hampered by tears. Fortunately, she has a large garden, because the number of people dropping by to wish her well must have topped sixty at least. A truly wonderful day for so many reasons. I would have loved for all of you to have been there.
                      Thank you for your Good Wishes,
                      With Love,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx


12 Sep 12 - 11:34 AM (#3403386)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

a perfect day.

wishing you all many more

love from sandra


12 Sep 12 - 11:59 AM (#3403399)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Another Virgo. Best wishes, Nigel. Hello to Ann and Jane also.


12 Sep 12 - 09:35 PM (#3403633)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

"I would have loved for all of you to have been there."

I would have loved to have been there! My guess is that I'm not the only one here who feels that way!

I'm glad Jane's birthday was happy.


13 Sep 12 - 03:27 PM (#3404078)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

So glad Jane had a very Happy Birthday, the sun shone and it was a beautiful day here too, so belated Birthday greetings from Billy and me xxx
Its our grandaughter Bunny's 6th birthday this weekend, and I am making cupcakes for the 30 children in her class who are invited to her party this weekend! Goodness how times have changed, a childrens entertainer has been booked( a young man aged 5 has said he has seen him before and he is rubbish!!)The Church hall booked, balloons and streamers, party plates and goody bags purchased! The stress of it all for the mummy and daddy! My memories of my seventh Birthday, a table of six little friends in grandma's garden, jam sandwiches, victoria sandwich cake and home made lemonade, lovely!!

love to you and Ann ,Nigel

Wendy x


13 Sep 12 - 03:43 PM (#3404087)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Yas made me smile, Nigel and Wendy. Thanks.


14 Sep 12 - 01:04 PM (#3404602)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

methinks that kids birthday parties is the new growth industry!


14 Sep 12 - 02:28 PM (#3404663)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Such good news......I hate to bring a downer but I wonder if you all might hold a thought for another Mudcatter that many of you know. Mrrzy has been around the 'Cat for a long time, a Village regular. Some of you maight be aware that she lost her Mom recently, a holocaust survivor. What you might not know is that Mrrzy lost her father in the Lebanon embassy bombing in 1979.

On top of her Mom's death we now have the middle east exploding with the deaths of embassy personnel. Its hard to go through the anniversay of her Dad's death for her I know but to have this happening has got to bring back unwanted memories.

Hold a good thought for her. I sent her a note and you may or may not wish to do the same. She hasn't posted since the 8th.

Many thanks all you good people!


Spaw


15 Sep 12 - 05:15 AM (#3404975)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

A very timely & much needed post Spaw. Thank you for bringing Mrrzy's situation to our attention. Ann & I will be writing to her immediately.
                With Love to you all,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxxx


15 Sep 12 - 06:37 AM (#3405001)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Thanks, Spaw. It must be difficult.


15 Sep 12 - 10:37 AM (#3405067)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Thanks, Spaw. She's been on my mind since this happened.

Nigel, thanks for asking in the other thread. I'll post more later today, but, yes, things are better!

luvya'llkat


17 Sep 12 - 07:11 AM (#3406057)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

In addition to being retired, I am, as of today, officially an O.A.P (as per UK legislation). Feel free to come up with some suggestions as to what O.A.P might stand for but remember, I do have my sensitive side!
                                  Love to All,
                                                    Nigel.
                                                    xxxx


17 Sep 12 - 07:25 AM (#3406063)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

an Olde Pharte? which is what I became in February when I got my Seniors Card earlier this year.

sandra


17 Sep 12 - 08:40 AM (#3406104)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Happy Birthday Nigel (and olddude and 999).
Personally, I think you're all
ONE-OFF ADMIRABLE PERSONALITIES
Love and hugs to y'all.
rum


17 Sep 12 - 10:47 AM (#3406160)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thanks, Rum & Sandra. The spelling of 'Olde Pharte' is particularly appropriate when you take into account the historical side of my early days in Folk Music. And 'One-off Admirable Personalities'...well, I feel I hardly deserve such grandeur, but will, nevertheless, accept it most graciously.
       Ann & I are off out this evening to sample the delights of a very good, local, Chinese Restaurant. Got to keep my eye on the carbs & added sugar, but I'm not expecting that to spoil my evening one jot!
       Much Love to you all,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx


17 Sep 12 - 02:50 PM (#3406293)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

likewise a happy birthday and blessings on you.

i have previously expressed my sympathy to mrrzy on her own thread.
certainly a very painful time on top of past horror.
pete.


17 Sep 12 - 09:28 PM (#3406503)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Happy birthday, and I'm sure you'll find good use for your pension!


17 Sep 12 - 09:51 PM (#3406526)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Happy Birthday, Nigel. Lang may your lum reek.


17 Sep 12 - 09:56 PM (#3406528)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Bobert

Happy B-Day, Nigel...

Hope it has been a good 'un....

B~


22 Sep 12 - 05:30 AM (#3408593)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Hope your Birthday was a Happy and contented day Nigel,
It has taken me a week to get over the shock of the Birthday party for Bunny our Grandaughter!Goodness my respect for teachers has gone up 100%!!Do all little boys just "run"? Maybe the disco was the wrong move to start the afternoon, also the balloons loose on the floor, well it started everything with a bang!!As for the tea, what a mixture , everything on one plate savoury,cupcakes, sausages,chiocolate! Oh well I guess it all goes down the same way.
Magic Marvo lived up to his name, Magic and marvolous, he had control of the children from the start, Bunny made a wonderful assistant and was very shocked that she has magic "blow" and could mend the rope that was cut in half just by closing her eyes and blowing on it.
Maybe giving the boys balloon swords was a mistake but the party was over by then and Magic Marvo probably thought the mothers would go home and not say yes to the millionth cup of tea that i was making for the helpers!!
A good time was had by all the children, but mummy and I needed a Gin and Tonic before bedtime!Happoy days
Wendy xx


22 Sep 12 - 06:04 AM (#3408600)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you all for your Birthday Wishes. Have been unwell this week...unable to rehearse much for the 'Big Gig' tonight. I'll write at more length after the weekend, assuming I survive the concert! Just to add to the pressure, it's being filmed for the BBC...hastily inventing new ways of 'faking' my Mandolin playing!
                                                Much Love to All,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx


22 Sep 12 - 10:32 AM (#3408664)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I'm sorry to have missed the birthday wishes but here's one just a tad late!

What I can wish you is feeling better and doing well at the "Big Gig" tonight. May the muses of times past and future bless your mandolin and allow it to sing regardless of how you feel.

We all love you Nigel!



Spaw


22 Sep 12 - 10:34 AM (#3408666)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

I'll second that!


22 Sep 12 - 03:55 PM (#3408789)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Third... break a leg, eh?


24 Sep 12 - 02:10 PM (#3409499)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thanks everyone, the gig & the filming all went off with very few hitches, at least none the audience were aware of! I'll write at more length by the end of the week...totally weekend-lagged!!
            Much Love,
                            Nigel & Ann.
                            xxxxxxxxx


24 Sep 12 - 07:05 PM (#3409635)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

WTG Nigel. Get some rest. It's always darkest when the sun's gone down and the lights are off.


25 Sep 12 - 06:53 PM (#3410142)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

need some healing thoughts for Billy tonight,he is in Colchester Hospital with a fever, chest infection due to being neutropenic ( sorry if spelling is wrong) three weeks since his chemo and we were feeling quite positive.But he came home this afternoon feeling really umwell.
We also look after my mother who is 89 and has dementia, she came to live with us when my father died eighteen months ago,so I had to leave her with a neighbour while I drove Billy to the hospital.
Spent five hours at the hospital and have just got home,need to clone myself so I can be in both places at once!!
rant over,so glad the concert went well at The House Nigel, will look forward to seeing you on the Beeb.
love to all
Wendy xx


25 Sep 12 - 07:06 PM (#3410148)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Wendy, you certainly have those thoughts coming. It does seem lotsa times that, when it rains, it's half a dozen of the other. : )


25 Sep 12 - 07:29 PM (#3410156)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Wendy - my thoughts, prayers and all the positive feelings I can muster your way and beyond xx


25 Sep 12 - 08:00 PM (#3410171)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

What froggy and rum said. Ts&Ps, Wendy.


25 Sep 12 - 09:07 PM (#3410196)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I cannot imagine what you are going through, Wendy. Thoughts and prayers for both of you.


25 Sep 12 - 10:36 PM (#3410216)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Wendy, add my healing thoughts and prayers to all the others. I'm sorry to read about Billy's setback and hope his condition improves quickly.


26 Sep 12 - 03:00 AM (#3410286)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Thanks each, had a funny old night, thunder and lightning and teaming rain, couldnt sleep so landed up in Mudchat at two in the morning sharing a crazy conversation with leadfingers!
The sun is out this morning with beautiful blue skies,and I woke mum up with a cup of tea and was rewarded with a beautiful smile!onward and upward
I phoned Billy to see if he had a good night.He was in the sisters bad books because he had piled up blankets because he felt cold,she pointed out it was because he had a fever and left him with just a sheet!
sailing on...............
much love
Wendy xx


26 Sep 12 - 05:30 AM (#3410317)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

You're amazing Wendy......Hang in......LOL.....Like you have a choice!


Spaw


26 Sep 12 - 06:05 AM (#3410329)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

phone call from Billy, " In here till Friday! Bring me ipod please!" hope the nurses like The Jersey Boys, he will sing along!! :-)


26 Sep 12 - 05:33 PM (#3410637)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

sounds like he,s "turned a corner"prayer offered for continued recovery.   pete


26 Sep 12 - 07:03 PM (#3410682)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

I think it is time to thank Nigel for starting this wonderful thread! Thank you for bringing so many people together in harmony,for the love and friendship, the care and love that has been holding us all as one.Nigel and Ann we have never met but you have made a family(or crew)that in times of stress have given us so much support.I hope you are feeling better today Nigel and that the weekend gave you as much joy as you have given us.
with love to you and Ann and all your family,and all the crew as we sail away,
much love
Wendy xxx


28 Sep 12 - 03:34 AM (#3411226)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel, we have not heard from you all week, I do hope this means you have been resting and are feeling better ,it sounda like the concert went very well, but as you were unwell during the week before it must have been very stressful!It is a beautiful sunny morning here at the coast so I am sending sunny thoughts to London :-)

Billy is still in hospital, unlikely to be home before Monday, he is very weak and feels faint if he gets out of bed,but the staff at Colchester General are wonderful, I cannot praise them enough! They get so many people finding fault, all I can say is even after a twelve hour shift(and often longer) the nurses are still smiling and incredibly kind. Sounds selfish but I feel less worried when he is being so well looked after, I feel useless when he is unwell at home!

One good thing coming out of this is Mother seems to have switched on! Not saying the dementia is improoved but she seems to be aware that I am having a bad time and is less withdrawn and asks if she can help in any way!! Every cloud has a silver lining!!

Sailing on

much love Wendy xx


29 Sep 12 - 06:33 AM (#3411629)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Apologies to everyone for my silence. After last weekend's gig, Ann & I travelled down to a remote part of South-West England for a few days R&R...no internet...no mobile phone service, that type of remote! Much to read since I last posted & clearly it is Wendy & Billy who are most in need of our Love & Support.
      One of the great strengths of this thread is the shared ownership. It doesn't matter if me or anyone else can't post for a few days, there are always plenty of other crew members on deck, ready, willing & able to keep us on course. I'm very grateful for Wendy's thanks, but as I've said before, I view the thread as 'ours', rather than 'mine', so I want to thank Wendy too.
      And to all of you aboard The Rainbow, my heartfelt thanks for your loyalty; for your love & care; your selflessness when you too have had more than enough with which to contend. You are a rare & precious group with whom to sail through Life's stormy waters.
    With Love to you All,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx


29 Sep 12 - 09:22 AM (#3411672)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

No need to apologise for safe havens together. I wish the same for us all.


29 Sep 12 - 01:45 PM (#3411793)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

"rare & precious"

Aw shucks...


29 Sep 12 - 01:47 PM (#3411794)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

After I hit submit I wondered if that will translate okay. I understand a few words and saying don't. >;-)


01 Oct 12 - 02:20 PM (#3412638)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Billy came home an hour ago, had a cup of proper tea( his words and he is American?) and a power shower in "his" bathroom!! Lovely phone call from his sister in New Jersey to welcome him home,so this drama over for now!!
Thank you to all the crew who have been so kind and helped me get through a horrid week. So now I am ready to be here for all of you!
sailing on
much love
Wendy xx


03 Oct 12 - 07:45 AM (#3413551)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Very pleased to hear from you Wendy. Billy clearly is on the mend if he's asking for a "proper cup of tea"! The intimate relationship between us Brits & our Tea is a phenomenon not fully understood or appreciated beyond these shores (-;
      So here's to no more horrid weeks; cheers!
                                                                      With Love,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx


03 Oct 12 - 02:40 PM (#3413778)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Great news, Wendy!


04 Oct 12 - 03:31 AM (#3414087)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Going to see Billy's Consultant today, fingers crossed x
A nice sunset cruise this evening might be nice!
Sailing on
much love
Wendy xx


04 Oct 12 - 03:33 AM (#3414090)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I'm just checking in. In a word, is everyone doing OK?


04 Oct 12 - 05:58 AM (#3414134)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm doing ok, thanks Bruce, despite the fact that Ann is in Charlotte NC for three weeks, visiting our other Daughter. I actually quite enjoy doing the household chores 'solo'. I take my time & bit by bit, the washing & the cleaning gets done, maybe not quite to Ann's exacting standards, but they get done...eventually!
      Still smarting a little following a less than complimentary review of our performance at our 'Big Gig'. However, a few dedicated 'Halliard' fans rose to our defence to redress the balance. The one thing that the reviewer can't despoil is our songs. With a little luck & a fair wind, they'll outlive his sarcasm, him & probably the rest of us too!
      Always good to hear from you...how are things with you?
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & (absent) Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


04 Oct 12 - 05:20 PM (#3414455)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

"With a little luck & a fair wind, they'll outlive his sarcasm"

If I have them somewhere, I'll dig up two reviews from the same performance. One was a rave and the other was a bomb. That was the last time I read reviews--about 40 years ago. I'll send via email if I can find them.

Y'all had a good time and that's what matters most--well, that and your fans had a great time. Doesn't get better than that, regardless what a review says.


05 Oct 12 - 02:16 AM (#3414633)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, the reviewer missed the point of the evening entirely. It was a celebration of Nic's award, his musical journey, his enduring legacy & the fact that he is out there, performing again for the first time since 1982! How do you best celebrate...you surround yourself with Family & Dearest Friends, many of whom just happen to be Musicians. 'The Halliard', with whom Nic began his career, was just one part of the genius that was & still is, Nic Jones. It wasn't a concert that lent itself to conventional review. It was a unique, intimate & very affectionate tribute to a singer/guitarist who has triumphed over almost insurmountable odds. Did we have a good time?....YES INDEED! A night to savour; a night to remember for a lifetime.
            With Love,
                           Nigel (Ann says Hi from NC)
                           xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


06 Oct 12 - 10:44 AM (#3415365)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

A quick update about Jane. All is well, nothing has changed, her drugs' program continues, along with it's regular monitoring. She is living her life much as she did before her diagnosis, but she has had to scale down her activities, both domestic & social. She does get tired more quickly & she simply has to put the brakes on & rest.
                     Much Love to you All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann in Charlotte NC
                                                    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


06 Oct 12 - 11:41 AM (#3415402)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

resting is always good.

love to you & family

sandra


07 Oct 12 - 07:15 AM (#3415790)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Good updates as well, Sandra.


07 Oct 12 - 07:29 AM (#3415791)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

definitely good updates


07 Oct 12 - 06:29 PM (#3416039)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

been away for the week.glad to read encouraging health reports.
blessings   pete'


08 Oct 12 - 05:14 AM (#3416204)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

all looking good here, lots of love to Jane Nigel xx
sailing on
Wendy xx


10 Oct 12 - 02:16 AM (#3417335)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Thank you, everyone. As always, very good to hear from you all. I've been spending more time over on Spaw's thread these last few days. Kat has posted some informative & encouraging updates, but I know nothing about his current situation. I'm putting my trust in his Doctors & making an uninformed assumption that he will make a complete recovery very soon. He has been a regular & most welcome contributor to this thread. His wit & humour uniquely intertwined with homely common sense throws light in some dark corners.
                Holding Spaw in our thoughts,
                                                             With Love,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                                            xxxxxxxxxx


14 Oct 12 - 07:22 AM (#3419568)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Been away for a few days in darkest Devon, catching up with some of my Music buddies from the 60s. Soo much to talk about. I lost count of the number of times one of us said: "Do you remember when.......?"
       I've come straight over from Spaw's thread where the news appears to be good & very positive. The Mudcat Mojo at work yet again!
       I hope everything is well with you all. Jane is fine; I'm fine (Diabetes finally stabilised); Ann is fine in NC, although I think Bumper (The Family Hound) is walking her legs off! She'll come home much fitter than when she left, or she'll be totally shattered!
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann (Temporarily residing in Charlotte)
                                                          xxxxxxxxx


14 Oct 12 - 08:50 AM (#3419602)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

I'm fine (Diabetes finally stabilised) - YAH!!

& a few other YAHs!! to Ann & Jane

sandra


14 Oct 12 - 02:47 PM (#3419749)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Great news.


15 Oct 12 - 02:50 PM (#3420334)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Really great news Nigel for you and Ann and Jane, hoping Spaw is also improving.

Billy had Chemo number four today and the research sister( he is on a trial) said the blood tests last week showed no sign of the CLL!! They are thrilled but we know it is early days, two more treatments to go and a bone marrow test three months later but fingers crossed for the future.So tea party at the beach hut in the spring I hope!

Thanks to all the crew for the love and support

sailing on

Wendy and Billy xx


15 Oct 12 - 07:03 PM (#3420457)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Oh, Wendy! That is GREAT news!


15 Oct 12 - 09:01 PM (#3420507)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Great news, billybob. I'm very happy for you.


15 Oct 12 - 11:19 PM (#3420536)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

That is great news, Wendy and Billybob.

Nigel, it all sounds like goooood medicine!:-)


16 Oct 12 - 01:02 AM (#3420549)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

excellent news, Wendy


16 Oct 12 - 11:22 AM (#3420742)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

That is indeed the best news, Wendy & Billy. Been waiting & hoping for something along those lines for some time now. Yes Kat, some gooood medicine working it's gentle magic.
       We also need some gooood medicine for Julia Jones, wife of Nic Jones. Their daughter, Helen, posted this on FB yesterday:

" Hi this is Helen, just to say that Mum (Julia) has fallen off a ladder and is in hospital and out of action for a while. She's broken her arm in two places and fractured her lumbar spine and pelvis. I think that's what they said."

That is one big OUCH!! Can we summon up the Mudcat Mojo for Julia, Please? I was with them last week for three days & Julia didn't go near a ladder....was it something I said?! (-;
                     Much Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Absent Annie (Home, middle of next week)
                                                      xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


16 Oct 12 - 02:51 PM (#3420874)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

"She's broken her arm in two places and fractured her lumbar spine and pelvis."

I have heard of "If yer gonna do something, go all the way." but that is just waaaay toooo much! Ouch? And just one? Not my word of choice. But I am of Irish decent (yeah, I know).


16 Oct 12 - 04:57 PM (#3420941)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Oh dear, what a horrid accident, much love and healing thoughts go out to Julia. Mudcat Mojo works wonders as we know so well!

Thanks for your good wishes all,
sailing on
with love
Wendy xx


17 Oct 12 - 10:29 AM (#3421293)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

With the exception of that last big ouch where I send my best as well, the news over her on the Rainbow Thread seems pretty upbeat ......and everyone deserves a well done!!!!

I want to thank all from this group who have posted here and elsewhere about me. I'm home and really have no idea what is happening or did happen or why or where we go from here. When I'm a bit more in the typing mode I'll give you a rundown but for now I'm in a holding pattern and also still a bit tired from the whole damn mess.

Let's all just stay on the higher roads for awhile and think the best for each other!


Spaw


18 Oct 12 - 11:26 AM (#3422037)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Welcome Home; Welcome Back; WELCOME SPAW! Be you Thrice Welcomed. We really have missed your wit, wisdom & company. Beyond pleased to know you're back home. Plenty of R&R...post when you're ready & not a day sooner, ok?
      So good to hear from You in person,
                                                             With Love,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann (Coming home Sunday; 3 days earlier than planned)
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


18 Oct 12 - 05:45 PM (#3422309)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Got Ann's return date totally wrong. She has to stay longer & won't be back until Sunday 28th. Thought I only had a couple of days to get the house straight. Turns out, I've got more than a week...even I can manage that!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann (eventually!)
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx


18 Oct 12 - 06:02 PM (#3422328)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Spaw... "the higher roads"... that's what I have been doing, even when I take the low road. Learned it from you.

SO nice to read yer post. Get strong and get back. Missed ya, bud.


19 Oct 12 - 04:56 AM (#3422482)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane had her latest scan this week. Nothing has changed, the cancer remains 'in stasis' & her Doctors report being very pleased with her progress.
       Julia Jones is out of bed & being encouraged to walk, although this is proving very difficult initially. She has had an op. to insert pins in her wrist. It was not her arm that was fractured.
    In Spaw's returning post above, he refers to: "The Rainbow Thread". I'm wondering whether we are due for a name change, bearing in mind how the thread has metamorphosed since it's inception in January. Please let me know your views,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxx


19 Oct 12 - 05:44 AM (#3422493)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

such good news Nigel,so pleased for Jane,and for you and Ann, I know how it feels to have worries about a child,20 years ago my daughter was diagnosed with Crohns and was terribly ill for some years, operations and many hospital stays, then six years ago she had "Bunny" followed closely by Prudence. We had been told that having babies could bring on a remission and since then she has been wonderfully well, no medication, no illness!!As a parent I am sure we all have the "why not me" moment,but the joy that we all feel watching our babies grow up into wonderful adults outweighs the worries.
Sending positive thoughts to Julia for a speedy recovery and so pleased that Spaw is back on board the Rainbow!
How about " The Rainbow Thread of Healing Thoughts" must be many mudcatters who need them but have not thought to visit here? Just a thought!

On a happy note , Billy and I are celebrating our Silver Wedding next week with a barn dance party, it is ages since I have sung with a band but I would like to sing a song for Billy , any ideas??

Sailing on

Wendy xx


19 Oct 12 - 01:25 PM (#3422709)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

glad to hear of continuing encouraging news.
congrats to wendy and billy.pete.


19 Oct 12 - 04:38 PM (#3422796)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wendy, has to be: 'Stand by your Man"
                                                         Nigel xxx


20 Oct 12 - 04:15 PM (#3423179)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Thamks Nigel :-)Love it!!
Wendy x


20 Oct 12 - 09:06 PM (#3423287)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Change the name? No. This thread is this thread. Yes, it is more than it started out to be. It grew because of all who read it, joined in, posted, monitored it for every single update and shared the down and the UP.

"Healing thoughts & prayers please"

You cannot change that.

We're all in this together... Red Green


21 Oct 12 - 01:20 PM (#3423656)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

It's about time I caught up on this thread. Let's see, while I was away Jane's condition has remained stable, Nigel's diabetes has become stable, Billybob has come home, Spaw has been in but is now out of the hospital, and Julia Jones has broken several body parts but will hopefully heal. Anything else I skimmed over to quickly? Love to all of you!


22 Oct 12 - 05:10 AM (#3424003)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Gnu, your impassioned plea has pushed my thinking into overdrive. And you know what? I think you're right, the Thread is the Thread. True, it has changed over the months for the very reasons you list. I've changed enormously over my 65 years, but I'm still called Nigel Paterson! So following the principle: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it", 'Healing Thoughts & Prayers' it shall remain.
          Good to hear from ChanteyLass. I think your summary just about covers where we're all at presently.
          I'm off now to MFR Studios to continue work on an unfinished piece 'In the Greek style',
          Much Love to You All,
                                           Nigel & Ann (Still in NC)
                                           xxxxxxxxxx


PS:   MFR aka My Front Room!


24 Oct 12 - 05:14 AM (#3425251)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I mentioned Julia Jones, wife of Nic Jones earlier & the horrible fall she sustained. The latest info. I have is that the poor lass will have to spend at least the next five weeks in hospital, immobile! She will not be able to move until the pelvic & lumbar fractures have healed. Wish she'd never gone near that perishing loft ladder!
         With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann (Home this coming Sunday)
                                        xxxxxxxxx


24 Oct 12 - 05:40 AM (#3425267)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Healing thoughts to Julia,five weeks is a long time to be be immobile! Any address Nigel so we can send cards?
Wendy xx


25 Oct 12 - 04:23 AM (#3425740)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wendy, if you, or anyone else for that matter, would like to send get well messages to Julia, she can be emailed at: julia@molliemusic.fsnet.co.uk   Julia's daughter will print off the messages & take them to her Mum. This email address was placed in the public domain by Julia's daughter specifically for the purpose.

       Special thoughts for Jane today, more scan results due.

       Much Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Almost Home Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


25 Oct 12 - 11:00 AM (#3425867)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane's scan results were not what she was hoping for. Her Oncologist does not appear overly concerned, but 'activity' (Doctor's word) has been detected. Further scans & a review over the next couple of weeks. After so many months of 'stasis', this change comes as a very unwelcome visitor.
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                           xxxxxxxxxx


25 Oct 12 - 06:05 PM (#3426091)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Will hold Jane and you and Ann in our prayers Nigel,I hope that the scans over the next two weeks will bring you all peace of mind and that the Dr is just being very careful.I am mindful that having to wait is very stressful for you all.
with love from us both
Wendy and Billy
xxxxxxxxxx


25 Oct 12 - 06:22 PM (#3426098)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

amen to that.God bless. pete


25 Oct 12 - 06:30 PM (#3426101)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Rough to hear of Julia and upsetting to hear of Jane. With Julia, we know it's managable albeit damn rough. With Jane, it brings back that "unknowing" BUT it got turned around before and it will get turned around again. I know this may sound silly, but... I just know it will be okay.


25 Oct 12 - 07:51 PM (#3426142)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I hope Jane stabilizes again soon. I guess it is good to know that her condition is being carefully monitored, but it must be hard to find out that there is a new concern. Sending more prayers.


25 Oct 12 - 08:52 PM (#3426163)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, my apologies. I have not been keeping up because 'no news is good news'. Read and re-read Gnu's post. My deepest love to you and your family. It'll work out, buddy. Believe that.


26 Oct 12 - 01:26 AM (#3426239)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I will be carrying your Love & Optimism around with me every waking minute of every day. I nearly always write in the singular, but Ann is here by my side through thick & thin; even when she's in NC!
       Jane & all of us have learned much since January about living with cancer. The positive mental attitude that that has engendered is something we all need to keep in the forefront of our minds.
       As always, you're all there, just when we need you, you dear, dear Friends.
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx


26 Oct 12 - 02:42 AM (#3426249)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

adding my love & optimism!


26 Oct 12 - 05:51 AM (#3426289)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane sent me a long email yesterday & I thought a brief quotation from it would add something to our understanding of her current situation:
    "........the doctor was calm and not hurried or overly concerned. They are discussing my case next tuesday and together the lung team will decide on the best course for me."
       She's come such a long way since January. Ann & I are very proud of her.

       With Love to You All,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx


26 Oct 12 - 12:31 PM (#3426453)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i guess sometimes positives can emerge from adversity.blessings pete.


26 Oct 12 - 08:19 PM (#3426625)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel, just lots of hugs and love. Ann will be home Sunday? Thinking of you all,
Wendy and Billy xxxx


26 Oct 12 - 10:17 PM (#3426666)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Still sending prayers!


26 Oct 12 - 11:42 PM (#3426692)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Will be pullin' on the oars a bit now, 'til we get a forecast for fair winds.
                   Dean


30 Oct 12 - 01:51 PM (#3428438)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann arrived home safely on Sunday. Had she been a day or two later, 'Sandy' would have enforced an even longer stay in Charlotte.
      
       How are all our American & Canadian Friends doing with this ghastly hurricane? Are you all safe & sound? The pictures we're seeing on the BBC news look pretty devastating with cleanup costs running into the billions. Do let us know that you're ok,
                      Much Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx


30 Oct 12 - 01:56 PM (#3428440)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Welcome home to Ann!

Most of the 'Catters most affected by the storm system will not yet be able to contact us, so I'm trying to be patient. Here in Maine we have a fierce storm system with lightning, rain, hail, and thunder.


30 Oct 12 - 01:59 PM (#3428444)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Welcome home Ann,
Bills sisters in New Jersey are all ok thankfully, been watching CNN all day, those poor people!
sending prayers
Wendy xx


30 Oct 12 - 09:03 PM (#3428630)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm fine in RI and hope all other 'Catters are, too. I didn't even lose power, but over 116,000 people in this small state did. My son and his family are fine, too. They lost power which was restored within 24 hours. There are threads about the storm and its effects with a lot of info.


03 Nov 12 - 08:50 PM (#3430620)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Just sending thoughts and prayers to Nigel and Ann,
No words from you since Ann got home.
Hope this means you are spending precious time together, but remember we are thinking of you and Jane
With much love
Wendy and Billy xxx


06 Nov 12 - 04:42 AM (#3431689)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Apologies for my absence. Ann & I are becoming increasingly concerned about Jane's prognosis. She has a very important meeting this Thursday where 'the way forward' is to be discussed. She is scared; we are scared. It's beginning to feel like we've all been transported back to January.
                        Keep us in your thoughts,
                                                               With Love to You All,
                                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx


06 Nov 12 - 05:57 AM (#3431716)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Thinking of you Nigel, Ann and Jane,sending positive prayers for Thursday.
Much love Wendy and Billy xxxxxx


06 Nov 12 - 03:45 PM (#3431985)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I hope the whole process repeats and good news abounds... for good. Keep the faith, Nigel.


06 Nov 12 - 04:20 PM (#3432001)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

best wishes,hopes and prayers.pete


06 Nov 12 - 04:26 PM (#3432003)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, keep the faith. Please give my best regards to both Ann and Jane. Hold each other close and stay positive.


07 Nov 12 - 05:04 AM (#3432319)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Heartfelt thanks to all of You, our Dear, Dear Friends. Ann is going with Jane to her consultation tomorrow...or was...Jane just phoned as I was typing this & the consultation has been cancelled in favour of a PET scan next week, so the waiting goes on.
       Stay Close,
                      Much Love to You All,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx


07 Nov 12 - 08:37 AM (#3432386)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

waiting with you

sandra


07 Nov 12 - 11:48 AM (#3432487)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,feeling so much for you all, cancellations and waiting are the hardest part!Billy and I have found the ups and downs rather like a roller coaster, last months chemo seemed to go well and the blood tests at ten days were great, then today the consultation with the consultant where we expected to say"still good so next treatment on Monday next" instead the neutrophil count was down so may have to put the treatment back!
Billy was very despondant on the way home ,umlike him.
So cup of tea and some uplifting music on the CD player and sailing onwards!
All our love to you, Ann and Jane,will keep thinking positive thoughts and prayers for you,
Wendy xxx


07 Nov 12 - 04:38 PM (#3432660)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Wendy, I'm still praying for Billybob, too.


07 Nov 12 - 05:25 PM (#3432675)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thoughts and prayers for all of you encountering delays and uncertainties.

trees in november look sad and bare
branches are empty,leaves on the ground
foliage fallen,carpets the earth
scattered and drifting without a sound.

life can be hard,our hope falling down
sometime like trees,we desolate stand
forgetting that sap is still in the trunk
renewing hope by an unseen hand..


07 Nov 12 - 05:28 PM (#3432679)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Well said, Pete.


07 Nov 12 - 05:35 PM (#3432684)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Pete...just " Thank you"
Wendy xxx( was having a bad moment)


13 Nov 12 - 07:31 AM (#3435727)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane's PET scan should be over by now (12:20 local). Results on Thursday.
       Thank you all for the recent postings. Beautiful poem, Pete...I think I favour poetry over prose when I need to express some of my deeper, more unsettling feelings.
       Special thoughts for Wendy & Billy...& for Kat.
                                  Stay Close,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx


13 Nov 12 - 07:49 AM (#3435733)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

You're never far from my thoughts, Nigel. In the parlance, hang tough.


13 Nov 12 - 11:16 AM (#3435862)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Been sending you and yours my love and good wishes for healing for us all. I am doing better. Thanks, Nigel.

Pete, beautiful poem/message. Thank you for the reminder.

luvya'llkat


13 Nov 12 - 11:44 AM (#3435884)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Time tp ost on this check-in. Wanted all to know I do read this thread religiously and continue to be inspired by it. Also to say that none of you are ever far from my thoughts. I too await news from Nigel and expect only the best.

As for me, I have a bone marrow biopsy and scan tomorrow which may or may not tell us what's going on with my enemia. I'm feeling pretty fair although I opted to come home at only 8.6 and should have gone for two more pints....LOL......


Spaw


13 Nov 12 - 11:48 AM (#3435887)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Donuel

Spaw I know partying with your vampire friends is a hoot but you should limit it to the holidays this year.


13 Nov 12 - 04:39 PM (#3436080)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

pausing to name before God those unwell and awaiting test results.
we look after a special needs boy called tommy who has myotonic dystrophy and is currently in hospital with pnemonia.this is always a worry with his condition but he,s "turned the corner" now hopefully but anyone with a prayer to spare-thanks
God bless   pete.


13 Nov 12 - 06:07 PM (#3436126)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Pete, you got it, buddy. My email address is

irishancestry (at) gmail (dot) com

Write me if you can. I have an idea for Tommy.


13 Nov 12 - 06:16 PM (#3436130)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Nigel... all... be as well as you can be. Just got two bad rounds of bad news tonight about friends and relatives. I guess all one can do is say what I said... be as well as you can be.

Thanks for this thread, Nigel. Means a lot to a lot of Mudcatters.


13 Nov 12 - 07:19 PM (#3436169)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, I'm still here full of hope for your daughter Jane. And for you, Spaw. Now for Pete's young friend Tommy. And Gnu, for your friends and relatives, too. I've got lots of hope for Mudcatters, their families, and their friends!


13 Nov 12 - 07:41 PM (#3436177)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

and I'm never that far away either - keeping everybody close in thoughts if not always immediate deeds. Hugs to all.
rum xx


14 Nov 12 - 05:49 AM (#3436327)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I've said something similar before, but you are indeed a unique group of very special people. I often feel that the sum total of all our Life experiences would contain more than enough Wisdom & Knowledge to produce a 'Book of Life'. It would be a book that could answer all those questions that begin: "What can I do?...this has happened", & if not answer, then offer words of comfort & solace that renew one's hope.
       To everyone who has ever contributed to this thread, a heartfelt & sincere thank you; you have shone light into the darkest corners of my Life; brought me comfort when desperation seemed the only option; opened my mind to ways of thinking & being of which I was unaware, or maybe reluctant to adopt. The Thread remains an on-going experience that has become as much a part of my Life as breathing. It has become an ever-changing, ever evolving Constant. That sounds like a contradiction in terms, but I'm sure you understand what I mean.
       As I've also said before, I write in the singular, but Ann is always present, right by my side, so you can always substitute 'We' for 'I'. For all practical purposes, they are synonymous.
                   Much Love to You All,
                   Stay Close,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx


14 Nov 12 - 11:30 AM (#3436478)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Hoping so much for those good clinical results for Jane and others here. At the same time holding forth for peace and strength for all, however the chips may in fact fall.
                         Dean


14 Nov 12 - 06:12 PM (#3436654)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

"I write in the singular, but Ann is always present, right by my side, so you can always substitute 'We' for 'I'. For all practical purposes, they are synonymous."

To know you are not alone and have the love and support of Ann "always present"... that, in itself, is comforting to me. You are a lucky man and she ain't doin too bad needer, eh buddy b'y?


14 Nov 12 - 07:29 PM (#3436708)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

That's an important point Nigel. I too am blessed with a best friend for a spouse. It is almost unimagineable that I would do anything of any sort without her. Even when either of us is at the doctor, the other is in the exam room most of the time. Our Docs don't mind and I don't think I'd go to any doctor who did.

Speaking of which, they did the bone marrow today and that wasn't too bad.....except for two periods of about 3 seconds each and one other of about 5 seconds that was a major "WHOA!!!" Serious discomfort but so short it really isn't a big deal unless you're some sort of wimp......like me. LOL.....Results in a few weeks.


Spaw


14 Nov 12 - 07:55 PM (#3436725)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Spaw... my fingers are crossed for you. Hmmm... there won't be any discomfort... I have fingers like a baby.

Explanation : my doc is from La Belle Province and he often says things translated from Quebec French that are lost on anyone who don't parlez... even those that talk Acadian French (and Shaques - local... VERY local). Gee, I still don't think I explained it, but I did laugh before he shoved his


15 Nov 12 - 03:46 AM (#3436814)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Thinking of you, Ann and Jane today Nigel. Praying the results are good XXXXXXX
Love and prayers for Spaw,Tommy and Gnu.

Will be thinking of you all all day as always

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxx


15 Nov 12 - 03:36 PM (#3437039)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Wendy... for me? No need. Essentially, I just have a doc with small fingers... a blessing, actually. >;-)


15 Nov 12 - 04:52 PM (#3437072)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thanks all.tommy did have a bit of a dip earlier but was doing much better this evening. pete


15 Nov 12 - 05:07 PM (#3437078)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Very glad Pete.....good thoughts still coming!!!


Spaw


15 Nov 12 - 05:41 PM (#3437100)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I hope it continues, pete.


15 Nov 12 - 10:44 PM (#3437217)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Haven't looked in for a few weeks, caught up in what amount to petty concerns. The posts from the last three weeks give renewed perspective and lead me to better appreciation of just how petty many concerns in my own life that seem major from a small and short perspective really are.

To Nigel & Family, Wendy & Billybob, 'Spaw & Karen, and others I have surely missed naming in this hasty post: Even as I join my focused care and concern for you with that of others, I am also grateful for the gift of your sharing.

Janie


16 Nov 12 - 05:09 AM (#3437315)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane's PET scan results have turned out to be something of a mixed bag. The increase in 'activity' in her hip bones is confirmed, but the Doctors profess to be "Not overly concerned". Her current medication has been stopped & a new drug instigated immediately. The Oncologist is exploring the possibility of a 'rogue gene' being the initial cause of the cancer. If this turns out to be true, then Jane becomes an ideal patient for the new medication by virtue of her age, overall level of fitness & the fact that she has never smoked. The Doctors report an encouraging level of success with the new drug given the criteria I've just outlined. Jane remains very positive about her situation. She is determined that the cancer will not rule her life...she is living with it, not dying from it.
      We live in the hope that a 'rogue gene' will indeed be found. The results of that investigation won't be available just yet.
      There is a certain sense of optimism & hope within our Family that feels different from simply 'clutching at straws'.
       Holding all of You in our thoughts as You hold us,
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx


16 Nov 12 - 06:40 AM (#3437346)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

" Mixed bag" Optimism and hope sounds good Nigel.Hope that the Oncologist finds the rogue gene and this new medication is successful.
I admire Jane's positive way of living with the cancer so much, she is indeed inspirational to us all,

Billy is on the last day of cycle five today and is working as usual,he has a very positive attitude and fingers crossed the trial he is on has very good chamces of remission.I must say how lucky we are in the care of our loved ones, the staff of our hospitals should be praised for their dedication and sympathetic reassurance.
How far cancer treatments have come in the last 20 years!

At the begining of this year, when you started this thread, we were strangers, the year has been full of ups and downs, good news and set backs, now the year is drawing to a close and I have new friends to share worries and highs with, once again "Thank you" Nigel for bringing us all together.

Thinking of you all and keeping you in our prayers

with love

Wendy xxxxxxx


16 Nov 12 - 02:19 PM (#3437476)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Ditto Wendy.


16 Nov 12 - 03:58 PM (#3437519)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

a mixed bag but sounding more hopeful than negative.with a prayer that the best,most effective treatment is identified and effective.blessings   pete.


16 Nov 12 - 10:14 PM (#3437653)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

What Pete said.


17 Nov 12 - 01:58 AM (#3437689)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

me, too

sandra


18 Nov 12 - 07:12 PM (#3438383)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

tommy allowed home today on more antibiotics-doing well.thanks for the kind thoughts and prayers on his behalf.

bruce-i found you on you tube tonight.good stuff.even my wife said "thats quite nice" which is a very complimentary remark from becky!
blessings pete.


18 Nov 12 - 07:50 PM (#3438396)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Good to hear.


18 Nov 12 - 07:51 PM (#3438397)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Hooray for Tommy!


19 Nov 12 - 07:23 AM (#3438552)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, very pleased to hear the good news about Tommy (One of our Grandsons is named Thomas, which frequently morphs into Tommy, especially if Ann is around!)
       There won't be much in the way of updates regarding Jane for a few days; maybe even a week or two. The new medication takes a while to establish itself & then her Doctors can begin scanning again.
       Whilst Ann & I retain our trust in Jane's Doctors to create an appropriate treatment plan for her, it is noticeable how weary & worn we are all getting. The effort required to 'keep on, keeping on' doesn't get any easier. The spectre of cancer is always there, hovering in the shadows.
       Much Love to All of You, our Very Dear & Special Friends,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx


19 Nov 12 - 08:44 AM (#3438583)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i hope you manage to grab some rest and have more peace in the waiting.pete


19 Nov 12 - 10:29 AM (#3438654)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

ditto what Pete said.
             Dean


20 Nov 12 - 09:05 AM (#3439216)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

xxxxx and hugs
Wendy


21 Nov 12 - 02:42 AM (#3439684)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob


22 Nov 12 - 05:19 AM (#3440302)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wishing all our American Friends & our Daughter & Family in Charlotte NC, a very Happy, Peaceful & Joy-filled Thanksgiving,
                                    With Love,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                   xxxxxxxxxx


22 Nov 12 - 06:04 PM (#3440716)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

likewise,happy thanksgiving to american friends.my wife went to american friends for dinner and i have just consumed the contents of the doggy bag and am stuffed!.pete.


22 Nov 12 - 06:24 PM (#3440723)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I too hope my American friends have had a great Thanksgiving.

More importantly, I wish my friends (both those I know and those I don't) posting to this thread are able to feel the love and embraces so freely offered and lovingly given by those who understand what they are going through. In the parlance, hang tough. Understand, when you hurt for those you love, we hurt for you.


22 Nov 12 - 10:00 PM (#3440801)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude

Love you all, I hope you all had a wonderful day ... I did, it was quiet but really nice


23 Nov 12 - 08:51 AM (#3440941)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

We enjoyed Thanksgiving from afar in the UK by Skypeing Billys four sisters in New Jersey,wonderful to see all that food!!!!!

Billy's blood results were really good this week, onward and upward only one more chemotherapy to go on the 10th of December!So something to give thanks for!

sailing on with love to all the Rainbow Crew

Wendy xxx


23 Nov 12 - 09:15 AM (#3440952)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

amen!


23 Nov 12 - 11:27 PM (#3441296)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Glad to read it, Wendy!


25 Nov 12 - 04:54 AM (#3441851)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

So pleased to read your news, Wendy. As you say, onwards & upwards,
                      With Much Love to you both,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx


30 Nov 12 - 12:17 PM (#3444859)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Thought I better post since I said I would.....LOL......Plus the thread needed a "Refresh" as it has been a few days without news.

cLet's hear from some of the rest of you! I've been missing the updates. Of course there are times when there are none but I like the thread!!!


Spaw


30 Nov 12 - 06:50 PM (#3445066)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Good news, Wendy!

I'm with Spaw. I check this thread every day it's on the board. Often, I don't post. Can't really explain why. I figure it's obvious. Just me.


30 Nov 12 - 06:54 PM (#3445069)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Hi, everyone. Like gnu, I check this thread daily. Sometimes I send a PM; you're all always in my thoughts.


30 Nov 12 - 07:05 PM (#3445078)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Most of my post from above seems to be missing but its on the Catspaw thread as well so I'll transfer it back here. I put it in here first because this thread has been so important to many of us....

Regarding this thread and the anemia/breathing problem.................I had a bone marrow biopsy two weeks ago to see if there was a reason there for this anemia which is causing the breathing problem. As it turns out, there is!

I have some lazy-ass bone marrow which ain't keeping up with the needed supply. Mostly all the things we associate with Leukemia. At this point it ain't. The condition is called Myeloplastic Dysplasia Syndrome. The good news is that it is a pre-cancerous diagnosis and may or may not become Leukemia at some point in the future. The lesser news is that if it does it is a type that does not respond well to most of the known treatments.

We are starting weekly injections to stimulate the marrow which obviously needs a swift kick in the ass. We'll see how that goes first and move on from there. My hemoglobin and platelets are better than they were but still very low. I'm breathing better and doing better overall but I look forward to hopefully boost my red blood cell output with the shots. It will probably take awhile to see/feel the effect of those. Hopefully there will be some!!!

Biggest problem right now is the trip to Columbus (100 mile round trip) which will be weekly. My back has been bothering me since that 2 month stint in the hospital a couple of years back following the botched appendectomy. The trip gets uncomfortable for me plus it is another 100 miles on the car and the gas. So I need to get some more info then talk to the insurance folks about a closer location for the shots or home health care to do them.


Spaw


30 Nov 12 - 09:48 PM (#3445160)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

My wife also had a bone marrow biopsy just a few days ago. She has tended to anemia for a long time, and has been testing a bit more so. We'll see the doc for results a couple of daya after we get home.


30 Nov 12 - 11:02 PM (#3445175)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I've already commented on Spaw's thread. Frogprince, my best wishes to your wife.


01 Dec 12 - 01:33 AM (#3445206)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

& mine


01 Dec 12 - 09:55 AM (#3445234)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Keep us posted Froggy.

Spaw


02 Dec 12 - 05:02 AM (#3445623)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

sending good healing thoughts Frogprince, those tests hurt,hope all goes well,
with love, Wendy xxx


02 Dec 12 - 11:56 AM (#3445750)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

me, too, Frogprince...lots of love and light

luvyakat


03 Dec 12 - 08:32 AM (#3446128)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Apologies for my absence. Ann & I have been away looking after two of our Grandchildren whilst Jane was taking a short break, prior to a biopsy at the end of this week. A lump has appeared on her lower back & for the first time since her initial diagnosis, she needs pain killers. The biopsy is not the problem (non-invasive ultrasound), it's the outcome that is weighing heavily on all our minds.
       Dean & Spaw, I've neglected you both...that bothers me; I'm sorry. But enormous thanks to all the other Rainbow Crew members who have rallied round...you are irreplaceable.
       We've just returned home; the larder is bare; we need to get to the shops pronto! I'll post again soon,
                With Much Love & Healing Thoughts,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx


03 Dec 12 - 08:48 AM (#3446136)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel and Ann,

so sorry to hear that Jane has more worries, will hold her in my prayers and hope this is just another hic cup and nothing serious.

Wish I lived a little closer, could have had a hot meal ready for you on your return and filled the larder!We will get together in the spring and hopefully have news of a good new year for everyone on this thread who has had health scares.

much love

Wendy xxxxxx


03 Dec 12 - 12:25 PM (#3446213)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

seems like uncertainties abound at present.best wishes to,and prayer for all concerned.   pete.


03 Dec 12 - 12:48 PM (#3446223)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

I'm holding fast and holding you all close for what that's worth - love, hugs, thoughts and prayers a constant backdrop even if the scenery changes and other acts begin.
rum xx


03 Dec 12 - 12:51 PM (#3446224)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Sometimes words are hard to come by, Nigel.


03 Dec 12 - 01:29 PM (#3446258)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce, my Dear Friend...yes, the right words are hard to come by. The photo you've published says everything that's needed & not a single word has been spoken.
                         Much Love to You Both,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxx


03 Dec 12 - 10:29 PM (#3446511)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Redoubling my prayers for Jane.


04 Dec 12 - 05:09 AM (#3446621)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

sending more good wishes & love to you all

sandra


04 Dec 12 - 05:28 AM (#3446627)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I agree with Nigel about our friend Bruce's link.........yeah......kinda' perfect.................I'll go with Bruce. This means I'll have to pick up the check I suppose?

Best thoughts to all........Wonderful thread..............


Spaw


04 Dec 12 - 08:17 AM (#3446723)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Nigel, re that posted picture; you never need apologize to us for having your heart and mind taken up with ine of your very own. Just now "The sun is shining, For me and my gal" on St.Martin.
             Dean


05 Dec 12 - 04:11 AM (#3447271)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

You're so right, Dean, Ann & I are more than preoccupied with Jane's health. She has a prelim meeting tomorrow & then the biopsy on Friday. The tension in the air is palpable.
          Thank you for your kind words,
                                                          With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                                         xxxxxxxxx


05 Dec 12 - 06:00 PM (#3447719)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I can only agree with all of you. Love to all. Glad to know every single one of you.

Nigel... hang tough.


05 Dec 12 - 08:08 PM (#3447779)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Remember to breathe.


06 Dec 12 - 04:37 AM (#3447903)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Breathing & Hanging Tough.....Breathing & Hanging Tough......Breathing & Hanging Tough. I should write this Mantra on dozens of stickies & festoon our house.
          To borrow Gnu's words: "Glad to know every single one of you".
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann.
                         xxxxxxxxxx


06 Dec 12 - 05:34 AM (#3447927)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} to all.


06 Dec 12 - 08:19 AM (#3447974)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love & hugs from me, too


06 Dec 12 - 06:16 PM (#3448283)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel: you, Ann and Jane have the unmitigated love of everyone on this thread. Our hopes and hearts are with you all. Don't forget that, buddy.


06 Dec 12 - 07:13 PM (#3448318)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri

I'm still here too. Please assume I'm reading this and hoping for the best, although I usually don't have much to say.
I'm paying attention.


07 Dec 12 - 04:33 AM (#3448463)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

More than ever before, Ann & I need your Love, Thoughts, Prayers, Meditations; anything that might direct positive energy in Jane's direction. Suffice it to say, we are far more worried about her health today than we were three days ago.
          Please come closer; Please stay close,
                                        With Love to you All,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx


07 Dec 12 - 05:28 AM (#3448472)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

thinking of you

love from sandra


07 Dec 12 - 06:41 AM (#3448491)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

We're here and you have all our best Nigel. I'm still offering that second "T" if you think it might help. Much Love to all.....

Spaw---aka, Pat Pat(t)erson.....Remove "t" if needed.


07 Dec 12 - 07:32 AM (#3448512)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

I'm following this thread closely, Nigel and Ann (and everyone else); walking alongside as well as one can from a geographical distance.

You have the strength to handle old and new challenges, and the support to ease some of the emotional burden.

With warm respect and concern,

Maeve


07 Dec 12 - 01:50 PM (#3448776)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thinking of you in your worries. God bless   pete.


07 Dec 12 - 02:48 PM (#3448832)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

SEnding love,
Wendy and Billy xxxxxxx


07 Dec 12 - 08:03 PM (#3448999)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Aw, Nigel, like so many here, I'm still on it. Today I drove on a road I drive on occasionally and noticed the a side street was named Paterson St. with one t. I immediately thought of Jane, Ann, and you. I probably would have done so even if the street sign had said Patterson. My prayers continue.


08 Dec 12 - 06:55 AM (#3449151)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Next post is 1000.......And today there is more energy flowing to more people and the grand companionship created............wow.......Hoping for the best now for Jane but also thinking how much Jane has created and given to all of us.........


Spaw


08 Dec 12 - 07:50 AM (#3449168)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

No words - just open heart.


08 Dec 12 - 11:13 AM (#3449243)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Still here, nearer and nearer for love, compassion, and the sharing brought about by Jane's thread know no distance, no time, no barriers. You and your family have given us so much. May our sharing help you through this and whatever may come. I give thanks that Jane is healthy and whole. I give thanks for this, or something better, for the highest good of all concerned. So mote it be!

With much love,

kat


08 Dec 12 - 12:56 PM (#3449288)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Thoughts & prayers continue here as well.


08 Dec 12 - 03:21 PM (#3449368)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Here with you.


09 Dec 12 - 05:16 AM (#3449648)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I spent most of yesterday with Jane. She stayed in bed. Seeing her lying there, in pain & listening to her voice that sounded frail & strangely child-like was a total anathema. She has devoted her adult life to her husband & her four, bright, energetic children, energy which she has repaid in spades...clubs, teams, parties, shopping, school trips...you know the drill. Jane has kept physically fit too, playing netball right up until two weeks before her initial diagnosis. The contrast between then & now is stark & frightening. We are pinning our hopes on her current distress being pharmacological rather than pathological. The latter we can barely begin to consider, let alone talk about.
       And You, our Dear Friends, are a great source of strength & comfort. The physical distances that separate us melted away months ago. Ann & I wish Life's Blessings for every single one of you.
       With Love from our Hearts to Yours,
                                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx


09 Dec 12 - 07:06 AM (#3449685)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Dear Nigel and Ann,

sitting here at the other end of Essex and wishing to be nearer,hopeing so much that Jane's medication is the cause of her present debilitation.You have given all of us so much love on this thread,certainly your thoughtful comments have helped me over the past six months.Please know that all those positive words of kindness are sent back to you and multiplied!

May you all find strength and know that you are in our daily prayers and that Jane will soon be feeling much stronger again.

Wishing you both all the blessings that you have been sending to us.
with love
Wendy xxxx


09 Dec 12 - 07:58 AM (#3449701)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I love the word Hope. It embodies nothing but positive thoughts for any outcome and assures us that those who send it will always be there sending more. Hope isn't cheap and actually is all encompassing. I always feel this group here may send prayers or thoughts or whatever their personal belief empowers them to do, but the one thing everyone on this thread sends in virtually every message is Hope.

So I end this one simply sending my best Hope for Nigel and Ann and Jane and the entire family. Its a good thing.....Hope.

All human wisdom is contained in these two words, 'Wait and Hope."
― Alexandre Dumas



Spaw


09 Dec 12 - 09:07 AM (#3449721)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Love and Hope - two of the best four letter words there are and Hugs.
Constantly.
rum


09 Dec 12 - 09:23 AM (#3449728)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug

Radiating positive vibes...


09 Dec 12 - 11:30 AM (#3449769)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Love & Hope...clinging firmly to both. Interestingly, Jane managed to get up today & she has eaten solid food for the first time in four days. We are having to learn to recognise the positive & negative changes in her condition as 'micro events'. Tiny changes that bode ill or bode well. Additionally, we are all recognising that we are becoming emotionally exhausted. The proverbial 'Good Night's Sleep' is an effective panacea, but not always easy to achieve. So in between my last post & this, I can report positive movement, not forgetting the 'micro' caveat.
         A warm welcome to Frug. Your first post I think (Could be wrong). Hope it's the first of many.
         Thanks Bruce for the blissful email. You really have a way with words that go straight to the heart of the matter.
         To Kat, Rumanci, Spaw, Wendy: Love, Hugs & Kisses,
         With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx


09 Dec 12 - 12:11 PM (#3449788)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

That is wonderful, Nigel. You know, I think about you, Ann and Jane every single day, no kidding. It's strange. Sometimes I'll be playing guitar, washing dishes, trying to understand the logic of geese or staring into space, and boom, there y'all are.

I banged my foot into a chair leg a few days back. I kinda squinted my eyes, gritted my teeth and worked hard to avoid voicing a string of expletives mostly gathered from friends of my youth who had colourful vocabularies in English, French and Italian for just such occasions. Infinitely small potatoes in light of the concerns you carry and the courage you continue to show. Semper fidelis, buddy.


09 Dec 12 - 12:57 PM (#3449803)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

I'm still here, been here all along - more love and hope from Staffordshire. Pete.


09 Dec 12 - 04:23 PM (#3449867)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I wish I could hold Jane's hand, if that would provide any comfort.


09 Dec 12 - 10:12 PM (#3449972)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf

Nigel, I don't go on Mudcat as much as I used to and rarely post, but I have been following this thread and adding my prayers to all the rest. I suspect that there are many who quietly wait and hope with you and your family from a distance.


10 Dec 12 - 12:35 AM (#3449997)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

sending the usual love & hugs, & hope

sandra


10 Dec 12 - 07:30 AM (#3450060)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm no doctor, but it would appear that Jane's problems over the past few days have been a pharmacological crisis, rather than pathological. We spoke on the phone this morning. Up until yesterday, she wasn't even able to pick up the phone, let alone make a call. Her voice was bright & strong; she's eating again & feels so much better. Jane was warned that the latest course of chemo would have unpleasant side effects that might last for a few days, but none of us imagined just how severe these would be. Looks like the Mudcat Mojo has worked it's magic once again.
      I'm so pleased too that 'Catters return to post...it's wonderful to hear from everyone of you.
      With Love,
                     A much less anxious Nigel & Ann.
                     xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


10 Dec 12 - 07:50 AM (#3450065)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

brilliant news

sandra


10 Dec 12 - 12:09 PM (#3450156)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

been very tied up last few days so when i began reading i felt a little of the pain that you had but was pleased to see a much brighter picture emerge.
love and prayers pete


10 Dec 12 - 02:04 PM (#3450204)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

So pleased Nigel, that is heart warming news, those side effects can be horrid so to hear Jane is feeling much better today is wonderful!

Good news here too, Billy had his last Chemo treatment at the hospital today so four more days of chemo tablets to go this week and then fingers crossed for the tests in the New Year, however I can make you laugh I hope, I made a batch of gingerbread cupcakes to say thank you to the team at Colchester hospital,glammed up a bit as it is Christmas ,so was wearing silly shoes, slid on the corridor floor and landed up spread eagled, BUT I saved the cup cakes!! Think they will remember me?

Love and smiles,

Wendy xxxx


10 Dec 12 - 08:21 PM (#3450341)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

good save, Wendy!


10 Dec 12 - 08:37 PM (#3450345)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas . . .


10 Dec 12 - 09:33 PM (#3450354)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri

I wish I had a magic want and could make heal everybody. Until I get one, you have my continued well-wishes. I'm very glad things are getting better!


10 Dec 12 - 09:39 PM (#3450355)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

DITTOS!

Made my day and I needed that! Great news all round.


10 Dec 12 - 09:55 PM (#3450359)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Wait and hope with a lot of love and look what happens! Bumps in the road and we'll always be here......Happythoughts your way tonight Nigel. Very happy thoughts!


Spaw


10 Dec 12 - 10:49 PM (#3450368)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm glad Jane is starting to feel better and that Billy's completed his last round of hospital chemo. Wendy, ouch! Sorry about your fall, but glad the cupcakes survived!


10 Dec 12 - 11:31 PM (#3450375)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

But the buns are all black and blue... : )

So glad to hear the positive stuff from all of ya.


11 Dec 12 - 12:13 AM (#3450384)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

I'm in the midst of my annual Holiday baking frenzy. Fresh apple cakes, pumpkin-cranberry-walnut bread, shortbread (a very plain and rich recipe, more biscuit than cookie (by USA definitions - not so sweet and a bit thicker than a typical cookie, shortbread or otherwise), blackstrap molasses cookies, savory roasted pecans, and who knows what else if I find time in this next week.

Virtual gifts of love to all of you from my virtual kitchen. Wish I could cross the street, knock on your doors in 3-D, and say, here is a little comfort food, seasoned with my gratitude to know you in the season for a little indulgence.


11 Dec 12 - 03:12 AM (#3450404)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Okay Rainbow Warriors!!! Let's all order up from Janie. I miss my Mom's homemade caramels at Christmas. How about you whip up a batch of those Janie???? Huh> Huh? Oh PLEEEEEEZE...............


Spaw


11 Dec 12 - 05:55 PM (#3450683)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

You are keen on a whippin... kinky, you.

Well... better than just a freeresh when the thred is one from falling off. Sue me.


11 Dec 12 - 08:21 PM (#3450740)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Before a family member was found to have diabetes, I used my sister's recipe for cinnamon-sugar nuts sauteed in butter...pecans, walnuts, etc. omg they were good!!


12 Dec 12 - 11:01 AM (#3450966)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Very appropriate that we have some food related posts...Jane is eating normally & last night consumed a three course restaurant job! Her food intake is more than just a return to normality. She lost 4 kilos in weight last week; had that risen to 5, her Oncologist would've halted her treatment, so regaining the loss is uppermost in her mind. Next week the Dear Girl is going to have to endure five consecutive days of radiotherapy to zap the nasty critters that are invading her hip bones.
      Janie & Kat, I can barely keep from salivating on my laptop. Those recipes would prove to be temptation beyond endurance, even for a diabetic! (I have the will but no power!)
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx


12 Dec 12 - 11:32 AM (#3450974)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

We just saw my wife's doc as followup to the bone marrow check. No sign of any problem with her bone marrow. Some of the batch of meds she currently needs may be pushing her toward anemia. She'll get some doses of intravenous iron over the next couple of weeks, perhaps followed by periodic shots to stimulate her marrow to a little more production. Not bad news at all.


12 Dec 12 - 06:45 PM (#3451128)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Whoop de doop good news Nigel and froggie, Billy doing well too!
I still have a sore behind after the cup cake incident but feel like dancing, what was that dance in the 20's? Was it the black bottom or the cake dance?
Dancing off............
Wendy xxxxx


12 Dec 12 - 06:58 PM (#3451137)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

Whoop de doop good news Nigel and froggie, Billy doing well too!

very nicely put, Wendy


12 Dec 12 - 11:03 PM (#3451210)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Thinga are lookin up. I hope up continues for all.


12 Dec 12 - 11:27 PM (#3451217)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

frogprince, i had three sessions of iv iron last summer. tell her to take along a good book or two. they cannot put it in too fast, so it took from 2.5-4 hrs.


13 Dec 12 - 07:03 PM (#3451547)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Hmmm; Kat, we're looking at 5 sessions, and they said just approx a half hour for each.


16 Dec 12 - 04:56 AM (#3452649)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

It warms my heart to read & feel the optimism in the most recent posts. Sadly, that optimism doesn't extend to the Paterson Household. It turns out that Jane's course of Radiotherapy is for palliative care only. In reality, we are in much the same position as we were in late January, early February. Jane's cancer is treatable but not curable. We are haunted by the thought that this could be her final Christmas. No one knows how much time she has left; no estimates, no futile guesses. The 'Day at a Time' approach is the only way to go, but it begins to feel that we are simply standing still, waiting for the inevitable. My thoughts & words are coloured too by the appalling, catastrophic Murder of the Innocents at Newtown, Connecticut. My American Friends, please help this ignorant Brit form a greater understanding as to why 'The Right To Bear Arms' is clung to so passionately by such a significantly large percentage of the American population.
       I'm sorry that this post is so gloomy on this bright, sunny, Sunday morning (at least here in East London).
                        Keep safe; stay close,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx


16 Dec 12 - 06:21 AM (#3452684)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Nigel & Ann, please consider this to be simply in the fwiw department. During those times of standing still, try simply to soften around the pain so that you neither resist or nor cling, but accept. And in that moment of accepting what is in the moment, realize it is ok to accept all of that moment, not only the pain and anticipation of loss at some point in the future, but also the love, laughter, and delights for the senses that are there to be had in the same moment.   

And Nigel, don't worry in this thread about gun control in America. There are currently two threads, and many others that are archived where the debate on that issue, often rancorous, rages on.


16 Dec 12 - 06:31 AM (#3452691)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

normally i would be at church at this time but tommy has a bug so i stayed home.maybe that was in some way providential as i have just read and pondered your post ,nigel,and lifted my thoughts in empathetic prayer for you.
tommy has myotonic dystrophy and when we took him on we were told that he would not live long and we have had some close calls and all the time we know that humanly speaking he is deteriorating-but not as fast as expected.
we also have a friend who was expected to die 4/5 year ago but is at present in remission,i think.she has however recently had treatment abroad which family and friends have paid for.
i think you are probably right in expecting the inevitable and it is painful emotionally for all concerned and physically sometimes for jane.living in the present situation could be for quite some time yet,-though of course we can not forsee as you have said.
try not to let what will happen to all of us at some time steal the precious times and the potential times of joy in the now.
God bless   pete.


16 Dec 12 - 07:13 AM (#3452709)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Dear Nigel, Ann, and Jane,

What we have is this minute, right now, polished with memories and hopes. That's all we ever have. All that changes is our response to events of life and death. Posted here with love to you, this is a reminder to "Take Joy" my husband and I have placed in our home:

"Fra Giovanni's "Letter to a Friend"
Here's a beautiful calligraphic version...click

"I salute you. I am your friend and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not got. But there is much, very much, that while I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven! No peace lies in the future which is not hidden in this present little instance. Take peace! The gloom of the world is but a shadow. Behind it, yet within our reach, is joy. Take joy! Life is so full of meaning and purpose, so full of beauty . . . that you will find earth but cloaks your heaven. Courage then to claim it, that is all! . . .

And so I greet you, with profound esteem and with the prayer that for you, now and forever, the day breaks and the shadows flee away."
                  ******************************
"Letter to a Friend" attributed to Fra Giovanni, 1513
~ Fra Giovanni Giocondo [c.1433-1515] was an early Italian Renaissance pioneer, architect, archaeologist, Franciscan friar, and classical scholar.

*Take Joy! is an excerpt from FRA GIOVANNI's, "Letter To A Friend: A Letter to the Most Illustrious the Contessina Allagia Dela Aldobrandeschi", Written Christmas Eve Anno Domini 1513. However, there is some debate: "The British Museum stated in 1970 that it had "proved impossible" to identify Fra Giovanni, the purported author of this letter. It is possible that it was published in the 1930s, "with Christmas Greetings" from Greville MacDonald, son of novelist George MacDonald, and Mary MacDonald".   [wikipedia]


16 Dec 12 - 07:21 AM (#3452710)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

That is so beautiful and wise, maeve. Thanks for posting it.


16 Dec 12 - 12:29 PM (#3452828)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, Pete, Maeve, you bring tears to my eyes; fill my heart full of love & once more restore my courage & strength to live in the moment. True Friends bringing thoughts & words redolent with truth & wisdom. I was particularly low this morning. My mood has lightened & the 'dark corners' don't seem quite so dark.
       Life's Blessings on All who meet here,
                                                                With Love,
                                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                                               xxxxxxxxxx


16 Dec 12 - 03:36 PM (#3452933)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Dear Nigel and Ann.
If I don't post here all that much it doesn't mean that you and yours are not in my thoughts.
With the best possible regards and a wish that you have the best possible Christmas.
Charlie X


16 Dec 12 - 07:25 PM (#3453023)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Sometimes I can do no better than the words of others and in this case I love what Janie and Maeve have given us. Nigel my friend, hold tight and hold on to each other and hope for the best possible outcome whenever that time arrives. You'll find us still here and still sending our best thoughts, love, and caring.

Much Love,

Pat


17 Dec 12 - 07:32 AM (#3453245)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

everyone is saying what I wish I could find the words to say.

love from sandra


18 Dec 12 - 06:19 AM (#3453693)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i trust renewed courage continues
blessings to all    pete.


18 Dec 12 - 09:23 AM (#3453755)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Just sending lots of love to all your family Nigel,
Wendy


18 Dec 12 - 10:31 PM (#3454085)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I have nothing to add, but I am still here and praying.


19 Dec 12 - 06:47 AM (#3454190)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Maeve, the calligraphic version of 'Letter to a Friend' adds yet more beauty to already beautiful words. I rarely look back as far as the 16th century for comfort & inspiration. Clearly, I need to adjust my thinking!
       Thank you all for being with us; for sending your Love; for your prayers; your meditations; your positive thoughts. Jane had what could be termed an unplanned scan yesterday, with a promise from her Consultant that he would make the results available immediately. We are waiting for a phone call as I type. The last few days have been particularly tough for Jane. Extreme reactions to the chemo coupled with ineffective palliative care do not a happy person make.
       Our whole Family will be together for Christmas. It's the first occasion for several years that everyone's been in the UK at the same time. We cling to the hope that Jane will be well enough to enjoy this rare 'gathering of the Clans'.
       Sending Much Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx


19 Dec 12 - 10:10 AM (#3454274)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

sorry to hear that jane is having such a tough time of it at present-i hope it will level off and she will be at least sufficiently well to participate in the family gathering.
do you have any hospice at home in your area?we have ellenor-lions in our locality whose nurses call at home to moniter and assist in concert with other drs and agencies.tommys ellenor nurse is very helpful.i,m sure you are too far out for them but i,m sure they could advise of any other such in your area if needed.blessings   pete.


19 Dec 12 - 10:47 AM (#3454285)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Hey, Nigel. Howzit? My thoughts are always with y'all, and one of them is "I wonder if he's (meaning you) been writing music?"


19 Dec 12 - 11:52 AM (#3454319)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Pete, have to answer your post with a pm.
Bruce, as always, good to hear from you. Yes, I've been busy 'scribbling' away! You can hear some of my efforts at: https://soundcloud.com/nigel-paterson-music.
       Pleased to report that Jane's Doctors have modified her pain control & whilst not pain-free, she is feeling more comfortable.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx


19 Dec 12 - 02:32 PM (#3454374)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Glad to her it, Nigel.


19 Dec 12 - 05:05 PM (#3454436)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp

I'd like to add my support to Nigel, Ann and Jane, Billy and Wendy, and everyone else who may be undergoing treatment, or looking after someone who is. Patients and carers alike need support.

If I should wake on Christmas Day to find
All the power of nature mine to do with as I please,
I would not cease from labour until every anxious mind
Lay calm and every restless heart found ease.

With my best wishes,

Henry


19 Dec 12 - 07:30 PM (#3454542)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Thank you Henry. Welcome.

Let me a minute to refresh where I'm at. I've returned twice to the hospital for overnight stays, the last being a week ago After. the first shot nothing really happened and my hemoglobin actually went down when I had the blood work last Wednesday before the second shot. I went in to the hospital and got three additional pints. When I left, my hemoglobin was 9.3 and I felt much better.

Today I went for the third shot. From what I have read and heard from medical friends, Aranesp works reasonably quickly but in terms of bone marrow this means 2 to 6 weeks or so. I was hoping that I could at least maintain or maybe drop only a tenth or two. I awaited the bloodwork results and found I was at 9.8. My joy knew no bounds. We'll see where we are next week and what the Doc has to say and go from there but this was at least encouraging and I ain't felt too encouraged lately.

To all my fellow travellers aboard this thread...........Please keep posting. I think of you all and check in often. I think I'm going to leave a note more often though........even if I have nothing to say. Best thoughts to all and a request for Nigel to give Jane and Ann a "Spaw Hug" and I'll send him a really big hug to pass around. Matter of fact, ALL of you need to be considered as "Spaw Hugged!"


Spaw


19 Dec 12 - 07:42 PM (#3454547)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

watching & sending love to all

sandra


19 Dec 12 - 08:55 PM (#3454562)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

A Janiehug back at ya', Spaw!


19 Dec 12 - 09:07 PM (#3454570)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Hugs, love, hope - holding fast here and feeling better for being Sp.a.whugged too! Backatcher all.
rum


19 Dec 12 - 10:58 PM (#3454597)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, I'm glad Jane's pain has been eased somewhat and hope even more can be done.

Spaw, hang in there!


19 Dec 12 - 11:29 PM (#3454604)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

It's late, so I'll post an update, tomorrow.Glad to hear the better news from you, Spaw and that Jane has some relief.

Henry, your poem is beautiful. thank you for sharing.

kat


20 Dec 12 - 08:11 AM (#3454715)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Henry, the poem is beautiful, lovely sentiments!
Spaw, thanks for the hugs,
Hugs all round from me!!

Billy and I went to a concert last night, first time out together for months, we saw The Mellstock Band,A Celebration of Christmas,readings from Thomas Hardy and Dickens, lovely singing of traditional songs and carols, we had a wonderful evening. They are at Cecil Sharp House on Saturday so do go if you are in London?

Love and hugs to all the crew,

Wendy


21 Dec 12 - 01:55 PM (#3455392)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

pleased to read of encouraging updates.
good one henry.    pete.


21 Dec 12 - 02:21 PM (#3455403)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Yes indeed, Spaw, hang in there. Nobody wants to see AHEM! DECORUM GNU!

It's Friday, I have just aquired 5 lobsters weighing in at 7 pounds in total and I am having a shot myself. I dunno if it will help my hemogobblins but I'll just have to keep at it to find out.

OH! YES! Happy Winter everyone! And, on this festive occasion, God bless us all.

And I give special thanks to Him for $6 a pound (COOKED) lobster. I think I'll get cracking in short order.

Wish youse all were here. With yer own lobster, of course.


22 Dec 12 - 11:03 PM (#3456044)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'll be away from home for about a week. I'll have only my smart phone. I'll be looking at Mudcat and thinking of everyone here but probably won't add comments.


23 Dec 12 - 07:09 AM (#3456122)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

A Seasonal welcome to Henry P; Beautiful poem. You are officially a member of the Rainbow Crew!
       As we approach the end of what has been one of the toughest years for Ann & myself, I want to express my thanks & eternal gratitude to each & every one of you. Your posts have comforted, informed, amused & conveyed Love & Care above & beyond what one could ever reasonably expect from a fellow human being. You have become True & Trusted Friends on whom I rely & depend. Oblivious to your own health issues & problems, you've stood shoulder to shoulder with Ann & myself, strengthening our resolve, drying our tears & shining much needed light into those dark corners of our lives, into which one is so reluctant to look.
       For us, 2013 holds no 'miracle cure'. Jane's treatment continues. We progress through good days & bad; good weeks & bad. 'Treatable, but not Curable' has become something of a Damoclean Sword.
       Ann & I send you our Love. It is our fervent wish that the New Year brings to you all: Health, Happiness, Peace & Life's Blessings on your Family & Friends.
                              With Love & Gratitude,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx


23 Dec 12 - 08:43 AM (#3456145)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I think this place and this thread have become the source for all that Nigel has said for ALL of us. Karen and I have gone through so much at times and been given such strength from Mudcat over the years that we realize the great benefit. The difference here is that this thread has become a wonderful collection of others willing to share in positive ways for each other and open to all who play that way. We refuse to allow each other to become negative if we possibly can.

Have the best of all this Holiday Season and allow the New Year to renew the power and the hope.

Much Love,

Pat and Karen Patterson


23 Dec 12 - 11:58 AM (#3456179)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

I agree, PatSpaw, and I have to admit, I feel a bit sheepish. I didn't write a usual holiday letter this year because I had a hard time thinking of positive things to write about. It has been a struggle and I haven't been able to do much, esp. on my own. I've become very dependent on Roger.

But reading Nigel's beautiful, poignant words, and your own, I realise I am always blessed because of Mudcat and my friends here and, of course, by my family, etc.

Thanks for the shining example of grace under pressure to Nigel, Ann, and family and to everyone else who has contributed to this thread.

luvyakat


23 Dec 12 - 04:39 PM (#3456264)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

kat... cool... thanks.


23 Dec 12 - 08:46 PM (#3456351)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

The title song for the latest Mudcat Seasonal CD. On the CD performed by Animaterra's Womens Chorus, and, I think, written by Animaterra.

Thank you Noreen and the other folks joining in.

What folk music is, really, and the power of just being folks aware of connection.

With gratitude to all, and wishing each and every one of you peace and joy.


23 Dec 12 - 11:19 PM (#3456406)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

this is an amazing thread where I get inspiration each time I open it.

love to all

sandra


24 Dec 12 - 07:48 AM (#3456484)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

The lovely song to which Janie linked (Date: 23 Dec 12 - 08:46 PM) is "The Comfort of Singing Voices" written by Alouette Iselin and arranged by Animaterra. Bradfordian took a line from it for the title of the latest seasonal Mudcat cd, "Until the Dark Time Ends".

Nigel and crew- My words are sporadic and there's very little singing going on here, but all the thoughtful attention I have in me is yours.


24 Dec 12 - 08:05 AM (#3456488)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

no singing here, either I'm listening to the midnight news which means it's 12.04 on Christmas Day.

love & hugs to maeve & everyone on this thread.

sandra


24 Dec 12 - 08:58 AM (#3456503)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

wishing all a joyful christmas that takes the edge off from all the worries of lfe and peacefulness in your homes. God bless    pete.


24 Dec 12 - 09:52 AM (#3456519)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

I'll second that, pete. Pete.


24 Dec 12 - 01:46 PM (#3456599)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

thanks maeve.


24 Dec 12 - 02:41 PM (#3456619)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I have no words. I am just here. Thanks all.


24 Dec 12 - 03:50 PM (#3456638)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Pete said it all. Love to all.
Charlie and Ann Stenger.


25 Dec 12 - 04:44 AM (#3456790)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Its Christmas morning here,

Wishing everyone on the Rainbow all the blessings of Christmas, a peaceful and precious New Year.

Thank you everyone for the being here,a difficalt year was made easier by your love and kind thoughts.

The sun is shining here in Frinton, may it shine on us all and bring in a happy day.

Wendy xx


25 Dec 12 - 09:15 AM (#3456834)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Merry Christmas everyone.


26 Dec 12 - 06:23 AM (#3457150)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, thank you so much for the link to: "The Comfort of Singing Voices". The final line of the chorus: "...when the dark time ends." goes right to the heart of the matter, particularly after Christmas Day spent with Jane, her Sister, their Families, Ann & myself. We were twelve in all. Jane managed to spend part of the day with us all, stretched out on a sofa, gifts at her feet, which, for the most part remained unopened. It was heartbreaking to see this dynamic, energetic young Lady brought so low. Our Grandchildren did their best to make merry with the giving & receiving of presents, but I found the juxtaposition of Jane's frailty & the Youngster's excitement almost too much to bear. Ann & I spoke very little during the drive home; we didn't need to, our thoughts were practically audible.
         Stay close, my Dear Friends. I have a feeling that Ann & I are going to need You more than ever in 2013. Your continuing Love & Support is beyond price. Take good care of Yourselves,
         Wishing You All a Happy, Healthy & Peaceful New Year,
                                                                                           Nigel & Ann
                                                                                           xxxxxxxxx


26 Dec 12 - 06:50 AM (#3457164)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

no words, just love & hope

sandra


26 Dec 12 - 12:37 PM (#3457270)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i hope that jane did derive some comfort and emotional strength from having family around her,even though she might have been exhausted by it too.
sometimes silence is more expressive than speech and a loving look ,more eloquent than words.
posted with a prayer    God bless   pete.


27 Dec 12 - 05:20 AM (#3457510)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Dear Pete, you've summed up our situation perfectly. Jane loved her house-full of Family & she was, all too quickly, exhausted & emotionally overwhelmed. The unspoken thought that this could be her last Christmas was palpable & I'm sure, added to her ultimate distress later in the day.
               I intended to mention in my previous post that it is a measure of the trust & respect that our Thread has increasingly engendered that some usernames have been 'sloughed off', enabling me to meet you, as it were, 'in the flesh'! Your right to privacy is yours & yours alone & I am touched & grateful that you have chosen to relinquish that right on my behalf.
                            With Love to You All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                          xxxxxxxxxx


27 Dec 12 - 05:55 PM (#3457829)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

What sandra said... hang tough.


28 Dec 12 - 02:19 PM (#3458306)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

still here xxx


28 Dec 12 - 08:00 PM (#3458485)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandy Mc Lean

Nigel & Ann, my thoughts and hopes are with you!


28 Dec 12 - 08:47 PM (#3458505)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

I once held a priceless vase once--OK, priceless to me ($250,000-ish), no kidding. Was in New York and I was 17. It was some sort of Chinese dynasty thing. I tried to compare it to an Ode On a Grecian Urn and got lost. When we hold the lives of others we will feel our own degree of trust and confidence. When they hold our lives we become their children.

That stuff I wrote in my last email to you is true. This world has angels. Wouldn't be a world without them.

Please say hello to Jane for me. She has one seriously wonderful heart. And so too do you and Ann.

I think this may be the most important thread ever on the Mudcat site--no offense if you feel differently. The first time Pete wrote (that I saw) I laughed at his honest presentation of how he felt about God, the heavens and the universe. Later--about ten minutes--I felt the greatest sense of shame. Regardless my 'thoughts' of his thoughts, what the heck kind of person did I see myself as that I could have the arrogance to judge another person in that manner. Pete and I since have become friends.

Nigel, the honest baring of your soul has enabled so many of us to do the same. I meant what I said in my last email. It's as true as I can say things.

Bruce


29 Dec 12 - 06:44 AM (#3458632)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

What I wrote on 12th January 2012 to start this thread was a 'cri de cœur', the personal outreaching of a scared & distressed couple, suddenly thrown into a medical maelstrom, at the centre of which was Jane, our eldest daughter. Everything seemed to happen so fast. A month before her diagnosis, Jane was playing Netball, swimming, taking the kids to school, cooking, cleaning, fulfilling the rôles of Wife & Mother with her customary energy & verve. The inexorable decline in her health over the ensuing months has to be one of Life's great cruelties; so unexpected; so persistent; so horribly immutable & defiant.
       The day before yesterday, Jane had to be admitted to hospital. Her treatment up to this point has always been administered as an Out Patient. At the moment & we are clinging to the fact that it remains a 'moment', she does need 24 hour care.
       Bruce says above that this thread: "..... may be the most important thread ever on the Mudcat site.....", & he goes on: ".... the honest baring of your soul has enabled so many of us to do the same." If our thread has engendered that depth of impact on peoples' lives, then we have created something of great, enduring value. I know how important this thread has become in our lives. Dear Friends, only you can assess it's importance in yours.
       The next 48 hours could well be the most critical for Jane yet.
       With Love & Eternal Gratitude,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx


29 Dec 12 - 07:29 AM (#3458638)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I don't know if we are more grateful to have shared stories or to have shared yours or to have helped each other in more ways than I can count...........I do know and am absolutely sure that of the many threads which of this type that have run here over the years, none are on the level of this and the feelings it has brought to us all. None have engendered and built such a strong sense of love and community

Nigel, we will always be here for whatever we can provide as we know you will be for us. Much love to you, Ann, Jane, and the entire family as you move forward into this critical time.

Spaw


29 Dec 12 - 08:07 AM (#3458648)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Still here, as I'm sure a lot of us are. Don't forget to take care of yourselves.

The other Pete.


29 Dec 12 - 08:16 AM (#3458650)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

again I've got no words, apart from hope & love

sandra


29 Dec 12 - 08:24 AM (#3458653)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Holding all of you near in my thoughts.


29 Dec 12 - 08:47 AM (#3458657)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

From my dark time to yours; I send what lovely light I can find. There is so much when one lifts eyes to see.

We've had nearly a year of both the worry and the joy. May you all see much joy as the ship sails onward.


29 Dec 12 - 09:57 AM (#3458677)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Having a bad day today, Billy has low blood counts and ulcers in his mouth caused by the chemo, booked in for a blood transfusion for next Monday, then my mother taken ill in the night with a high fever so I called the Dr out at 2 in the morning and sat by her bed all through the night.
Feeling very sorry for myself I popped in to see how everyone on board was doing and have reread the thread from the very first post!!

So now I am "computered out" but feeling so much better, how far we have travelled together,so many bad days that have been lightened by the love of the fellow crew members!

Love and thanks to you all, thinking of Nigel, Ann and Jane today with special love,

Wendy xxx


29 Dec 12 - 10:04 AM (#3458681)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel, while I was reading from the begining you were posting so I have only just read that Jane is in hospital.

Sending you all our love.hope and prayers,

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxx


29 Dec 12 - 10:35 AM (#3458699)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Wendy, I have been amazed at your strength and support for others while you yourself have such a load to carry. There is nothing that can rip the heart or soul more than a sick child. It is such a sense of helplessness. But I'll tell ya, gal, it isn't and never will be hopelessness. I don't think anyone here knows that word.


29 Dec 12 - 10:00 PM (#3458974)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

The moon is bright and nearly full - and has, is or will be shining on all of you just as it is shining overhead right here, right now, at my particular latitude and longitude.

Sending hope, care and thoughts of comfort on moon beams.


30 Dec 12 - 12:13 AM (#3458996)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

thoughts of comfort on moon beams - what a lovely image, thanks for posting it, Janie

sandra


30 Dec 12 - 06:59 AM (#3459055)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Janie's moonlight was streaming down through the skylight last night, between swirls of falling snow. The Great Horned Owl was out calling; thinking of you, Nigel, Ann, Jane, Wendy, Billy...all of you.


30 Dec 12 - 07:20 AM (#3459062)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Can't say anymore than those heartening posts.


30 Dec 12 - 01:37 PM (#3459196)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

sounds a lovely picture maeve- like a beginning of a story that draws the reader or listener in.
with a prayer for you and all those going through such a tough time at present.
we have friends in norfolk and the mum is expected to die anytime now .seems to be so much of it lately.
God help us all-seems a sad world sometimes.


30 Dec 12 - 02:09 PM (#3459212)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Sure Could Use a Little Good News Today


30 Dec 12 - 09:10 PM (#3459397)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Dear Nigel and Janie, I am continuing to pray for both of you and all your loved ones, the ones who are ill and the members of your family who are worried and stressed.

Here the moonbeams are bouncing off snow. I hope some of them will bounce in your directions.


30 Dec 12 - 11:50 PM (#3459431)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

May Light, Love, and ease of comfort be with you all as you gather for Jane. May the best possible outcome be for the highest good of all concerned.

With love and thanks-givings,

kat


31 Dec 12 - 05:45 AM (#3459482)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

I was up all night with my mother, but my thoughts and prayers in those wee small hours have been with you and your family Nigel.
Love,love,love

Wendy xxxxxxxx


31 Dec 12 - 06:16 AM (#3459494)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

A belated welcome to Sandy McLean. Join us on our Voyage through Life's vicissitudes with a Crew of some of the wisest, compassionate, funniest, most caring Folk it's ever been my good fortune to meet.
       Bruce, your link to Anne Murray was perfect. Considering the song was released in '83, the lyrics are just as relevant now. Couple that with the fact that I've always loved her voice & voilà, a moment of calm. The power of Music....never lets me down.
      Janie & Maeve, there is a poem/song lyric here just begging to get written....Moonbeams, Owls, Snow. The foundation is laid already. With your permission, if any of us feel inspired, may we summon our Muses & put pen to paper?
    Ann & I visited Jane in hospital yesterday. She's very poorly & has lost so much weight that the Doctors have had to stop the chemo. That, combined with other issues, pushes me ever closer to using the word: 'desperate', something I absolutely refuse to do until it really is my only option.
    Our New Year Wishes & Hopes for All : An easing of pain; diseases conquered; distress comforted; dark places filled with light; tears replaced with laughter & joy & a restoration of balance in all our lives that we may enjoy Life's Blessings with a true sense of inner Peace,
         With Love from our Hearts to Yours,
                                                                Nigel & Ann (31st December 2012)
                                                                xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


31 Dec 12 - 07:13 AM (#3459505)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Oh my dear Nigel...........May I take on that New Year's wish for all as well? A beautiful wish and I thank you. It also makes clear that difficult as these times are for you, you're seeing things clearly even through tear flooded eyes.

May you be granted the solace you all need and know the love we have for your family......and for each other on this Voyage.


Spaw


31 Dec 12 - 07:23 AM (#3459507)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,

The guest above was me,

Billy is having a transfusion in the hospital today, not sure if they may keep him in? I am at home with a very poorly mum so feeling a bit lost, but as usual your wonderful words and compassionate spirit have lifted my mood,thank you. Billy and I listened to Anne Murrey last evening and echo your thoughts, perfect!!

I hope you and Ann are being cosseted and looked after, and wish all your New Year wishes and thoughts returned to you many times over.

You, Ann and Jane are constantly in our thoughts,
Peace, love and God's blessings

Wendy xxxxxxxx


31 Dec 12 - 07:41 AM (#3459514)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love & healing thoughts to Jane & her family, & to Billy & his

sandra


31 Dec 12 - 08:03 AM (#3459521)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

ever still here with a head full of everything positive and a heart full of love with music and moonbeams now weaving in amongst all the hope and hugs and tears as well - thank you to all whose wise words help everybody else and the grand good company you are whilst holding fast and standing firm - I think I'd better go scrub some decks and do something useful.
rum


31 Dec 12 - 09:06 AM (#3459544)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

I have been very little on Mudcat lately but am grateful to maeve for pointing me here. Alouette has been humbled time and time again by the power of her song, I am merely the conveyer of it- you all have given it wings and strength.

Nigel, I don't know you, but I humbly ask to join the circle. I have been in the dark myself, and remember well the power of Mudcat's angel wings. Bless you and your family for allowing us to be a part of this dark journey, and know that all over the earth there are loving hearts and minds and voices keeping vigil with you and your family and especially Jane.

May peace be with you.


31 Dec 12 - 11:16 AM (#3459574)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

best possible new year to all-those down under who have already had the fireworks and to those of us still to see it in.
nigel i thought you expressed your wishes and greetings with a great deal of sensitivity and eloquence.    blessings   pete.


31 Dec 12 - 11:47 AM (#3459593)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Big Al Whittle

Thinking of you....and sending my best wishes and hopes to and for you.


31 Dec 12 - 03:08 PM (#3459699)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Big Al said it beautifully. Love from Charlie.


31 Dec 12 - 03:25 PM (#3459709)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Would that we could somehow divide up the sorrow, or each take the burden for a bit, to lift it from those here who are feeling the full constant weight just now. Words are too easy. But our hearts are with you.
            Dean and Judy


31 Dec 12 - 04:19 PM (#3459721)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Kinda' reminds me of the chorus to Richard Farina's song, "Pack Up Your Sorrows."

But if somehow you could pack up your sorrows
And give them all to me
You would lose them, I know how to use them
Give them all to me


ALLISON......Dear Heart, we all know your heart and what it can surround. Old Friend, you are indeed welcome and as a longtime member we are pleased to have you aboard as your compassion is well known and always appreciated.


Spaw


31 Dec 12 - 04:24 PM (#3459724)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

The posts are truely heartwarming. For everyone, I am sure. Thanks you all. I don't have a dog in this (these) fight(s), but, if your posts warm my heart, they must warm all.


31 Dec 12 - 04:36 PM (#3459728)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

An allegory, compliments of Susun Weed and her website.

"Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us."
― Meister Eckhart

When I contemplate Eckhart's quote, above, I am often reminded that fear - especially existential fear - and sorrow are often synonyms.

We are as light to one another. This mystically inclined atheist says "blessed be" to all.


31 Dec 12 - 05:37 PM (#3459745)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

thanks for posting the link, Janie, & Meister Eckhart's quote.


31 Dec 12 - 07:40 PM (#3459797)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

New Year here,
God bless you all
XXXXXXX
Wendy and Billy, ( with a glass of champagne and thinking of you all,wishing you all much love xx)


31 Dec 12 - 07:50 PM (#3459805)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Fifty minutes late, but backatcha.


31 Dec 12 - 11:59 PM (#3459870)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel and Wendy, I wish I could hold your hands while you hold the hands of your loved ones who are suffering.


01 Jan 13 - 06:19 AM (#3459910)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

So many moving posts from so many Good People...I don't know where to start with my thanks.
          Allison, join us on our voyage. You brought us a gift of Music. There is something very special about the unaccompanied voice, particularly poignant when delivered with simplicity & deep sincerity.
          Maeve, thank you for the SSAA & SATB arrangements for 'The Comfort of Singing Voices'. I would very much like to arrange an orchestral version of this beautiful song, but require the Composer & Arranger's permission (All copyrights respected). If it is felt that an orchestral version is inappropriate or detrimental, please let me know & I will leave well alone.
         Janie, 'Grandmother Spider & the Web of Life'. I have read & re-read & will need to re-read again. It is a beautiful allegory, full of wisdom & potent images. It touches me on many different levels. Your phrase: '..... mystically inclined atheist.' Is how I would describe myself. May I have your permission to adopt ' mystically inclined atheist' for myself?
       Wendy & Billy, Ann & I are holding you in our thoughts. You have so much with which to contend. We hope that 2013 will see an easing of your burdens.
       Spaw, thank you for reminding me about 'Pack up Your Sorrows'. I used to sing the song in the Folk Clubs, back in the 60s. If I pause for a second, I can still 'hear' the audience joining in with the chorus. It's a truly great song.
       A little update on Jane's situation. She has contracted two infections whilst in hospital, but the fever & frighteningly high temperature associated with them are beginning to subside. She has, for the first time in nearly a week been able to eat a little. Her weight remains worryingly low.
       2013 begins with many rivers yet to be crossed; many mountains still to climb, many physical & emotional challenges to overcome. Nevertheless, with your Love & Support my Dear Friends, Ann & I begin this next phase of our Voyage, secure in the knowledge that our Faithful Crew our going about their duties with their customary fervour.
       With Love & Heartfelt Gratitude,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx


01 Jan 13 - 06:35 AM (#3459913)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Nigel, send a PM to Allison regarding your thoughts on an orchestral arrangement. As the arranger, she is in more direct contact with composer, Alouette Iselin than I am these days. Allison sent me the original arrangement for my chorus. If Allison is busy, send me a PM and I'll get you in touch with Alouette.

Healing is to Jane as Spring is to our snow-locked farm; it will come.


01 Jan 13 - 08:45 AM (#3459935)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

"Healing is to Jane as Spring is to our snow-locked farm; it will come." Beautiful words to help me through the day. No snow in London; it's actually wall to wall blue sky, bathed in glorious sunshine. Chilly, but very pretty.
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

PS Thank you very much to whoever it was in Admin who has taken the trouble to divide this ever increasing Thread into pages: extremely helpful.
                                                                                 N.


01 Jan 13 - 01:39 PM (#3460060)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

I'll be talking with Alouette and see what she says- my guess is you'll have her blessing.

Love to all this snowy (In NH, USA) New Year's Day.


01 Jan 13 - 10:40 PM (#3460240)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

& love to all from Sunny Sydney on the second day of the New Year,
Pic of Sydney Harbour on 1st Jan 2013


02 Jan 13 - 05:50 AM (#3460291)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

That's kind of you, Allison, thank you.
Sandra, what a great set of photos. You are clearly a Lens-woman for whom 'point & shoot' is no longer an option!
      I have some personal good news that I'd like to share. One of Hollywood's most respected film makers has shown an interest in one of my pieces. Nothing more than a brief email at the moment, but it gave me a much needed boost when I was feeling particularly low.
    The fever & infections that have so beset our Darling Jane over the last few days appear to be on the wain, but her food intake is a cause for concern. She is desperate to return home, but until she has regained her weight loss, the Doctors won't be discharging her anytime soon.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx


02 Jan 13 - 06:12 PM (#3460571)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

thanks, Nigel I like taking pics & I live in a very picturesque place - inner Sydney, near the harbour.

Fingers crossed for a successful series of emails with Hollywood.

It's good to read Jane is in better health. When her appetite returns or when the medical team can fill her with lots of good nutrition or good nutritious food, life will be better!

love to you all

sandra


02 Jan 13 - 08:02 PM (#3460613)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Good news on two fronts. Let's hope this is a sign.


02 Jan 13 - 10:43 PM (#3460666)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Glad to hear the fever and infections are under control. Chemotherapy is always challenging but can also turn into a very nasty and frightening ordeal. Very hopeful in hospital they will get her hydrated and nourished, then change out her chemo to a regimen she can tolerate.

Nigel, it is just about impossible that any thing I post here is a unique or original perspective or employs unique or original imagery. If ever I should post something and follow it with (copyright- date- name), then please ask permission. Otherwise, quit the asking permission already!


03 Jan 13 - 05:05 AM (#3460714)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Point gratefully taken, Janie!
                                           Love,
                                                 Nigel.


03 Jan 13 - 09:37 AM (#3460805)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Nigel, I just got off the phone with Alouette. She is honored that you would like to make an orchestral arrangement! She would love a copy when you finish it, and a recording if it's ever recorded. And of course, if you make a million pounds from it, a wee fraction of the profit would be gratefully appreciated! (she is a self-employed psychiatric social worker, suffering from the insane policies of a broken health care system, and could use it!)


She also wants me to tell you that you and your daughter and family are in her thoughts and prayers. Mine, too.


03 Jan 13 - 10:09 AM (#3460825)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Thank you, Allison. Go to it, Nigel!


04 Jan 13 - 08:17 AM (#3461179)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Morning Nigel and all,

I do hope that Jane is still improving, those nasty side effects and infections can be very worrying,we have been keeping you all in our prayers this week and checking in here daily.

Such good news about your music,Nigel, two new projects to work on will give you so much satisfaction and help to keep you busy and as you say, give you a much needed boost!

We have had a difficalt week, since Christmas, my step son came for lunch on Boxing day and had a "bug"coughing all day ( I was not a happy bunny!!)My mother was taken ill with the infection on Friday night and we have had to send for the Dr twice, then Billy had a blood transfusion on Monday and had a dreadful chest infection so is on 5 different antibiotics??Our daughter, son in law and the two little girls have all had the same nasty chest infection so we are the " dont come near us" family!!

But the good news is that while Billy was at the hospital for blood tests yesterday his consultant saw we were there and called us into his room( No appointment!!) and said that the results are looking good, he doesn't want to see Billy for 5 weeks. He has booked a CT scan and Bone marrow biopsy for 8 weeks and says they will be the "acid test" so FINGERS CROSSED we are looking forward to the New Year with a little optimism.

Here's hoping similar good news for you all,

sailing on, with all our love
Wendy and Billy xxxxxx


04 Jan 13 - 11:13 AM (#3461245)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

That is great news, Wendy.


04 Jan 13 - 11:55 AM (#3461263)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Fingers and toes crossed, for all, here too.


04 Jan 13 - 02:38 PM (#3461323)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

been in norfolk for a couple of days following our friends bereavement but good to see things looking a bit brighter here though sorry to hear the "bug" is hitting your family now ,wendy.
its been all round ours too.hope theres no round 2!   pete.


04 Jan 13 - 07:22 PM (#3461464)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

That is very hopeful news to have, Wendy, whilst ya'll hunker down and heal up from that bad respiratory infection.

Hope your Mom has weathered the worst of it and is on the road to recovery.


04 Jan 13 - 09:24 PM (#3461521)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, Wendy, I am still reading this thread and full of hope for your family members.


04 Jan 13 - 09:38 PM (#3461525)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

LOL...Yeah, keep that chest thing over your way Wendy, but the other news sounds pretty encouraging and very hopeful. Tell Billy Ol' Spaw send the lad a big hug.....and you too {;<))


Spaw


05 Jan 13 - 05:18 PM (#3461893)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

From second from the bottom of the page to first on the top.


06 Jan 13 - 11:14 AM (#3462119)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

looks like round 2 is going round our area.some of my family sick and tommy not well again and we are waiting to hear from a doctor.we heard the local hospital even turned people away this week so we hope he does,nt have to go in while he,s down.
hope it dont spread anyone elses way.    pete.


06 Jan 13 - 12:05 PM (#3462137)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Oh dear Pete,

so sorry to hear that your family has this bug again! It is a really bad one and the cough seems to go on and on! Funny no one is talking flu this winter?But it seems to me that a very high temperature and shakes and shivers sounds like flu.

Hoping that Tommy does not catch it and that he doesnt have to go into hospital

xxxxxx Wendy


06 Jan 13 - 11:03 PM (#3462443)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Oh, Pete, I hope Tommy stays well.


07 Jan 13 - 07:42 AM (#3462553)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Is it only in the UK that we have to endure these dreadful 'bugs'? (Apart from 'Flu which seems to be universally troublesome). Wendy & Pete, you've certainly had more than your fair share & the level of concern always goes up a notch or two when children & seniors become infected. Ann & I wish you all a speedy & complete recovery. I remember a very eminent Doctor saying in a TV interview some years ago that the human body can heal itself of something like 90% of infections, if we are prepared to wait & let nature take it's course. I cannot vouch for the veracity of that opinion & speaking personally, I for one am not a patient patient! If I don't feel well, I want it sorted, pdq!
      A brief update on Jane. She is back home, which is better for her overall, but nothing fundamentally has changed. Food, feeding, keeping hydrated remain ongoing issues. Her chemotherapy is still on hold because she has not yet made up the weight loss. Ann & I are seeking support for ourselves from Macmillan Cancer Care. Jane & her Family have been offered similar support.
      Take good care of yourselves,
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann.
                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx


07 Jan 13 - 08:01 PM (#3462920)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

The moon isn't up yet, but it will be, and the stars are out. Stretch out your senses and experience, all of you - us - the radiant support, the care-the concern- that we wrap around one another.


07 Jan 13 - 08:21 PM (#3462932)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Nigel. First man I ever wanted to hug and give a back pat to.

There's a cue for me to talk about patting Pat in a joke but but I just don't feel like him. Read bwteen the lines, Spaw.

Re Bugs? They had to shut down one of the hospitals in my city to CLEAN IT. It was rife with infectionssss. "Free"... bullshit... health care comes at a price in Canada.

Aw, WTH... (((Nigel and all)))

Thank all of you for sharing. It DOES mean a lot to me. Don't wanna explain it... don't have to. Youse know. God bless all.


08 Jan 13 - 06:26 AM (#3463040)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Dear Nigel and Ann

Good news to hear that Jane is back home, with a break from the chemotherapy I do hope she has a chance to build up her strength , lots of loving care from her wonderful family and some good home cooking must boost her up.

I am so pleased that you and Ann are going to be supported by Macmillan, they are a fantastic group of nurses who will take care of you as well as Jane and her family. In my experience they help in so many unexpected ways.When someone is very ill it is often the carers that go downhill and they need support and advice from someone who has no emotional involvement but provides a listening ear and sometimes a shoulder to cry on.

You may know that my lovely mum has Dementia, over the last year I have had an Admiral Nurse ( a trained mental health professional who is there for the carer not the patient) I can phone her at any time when things get rough and we meet often for coffee and I can be honest with her about my feelings of frustration, sometimes anger, and most importantly she understands how ones feels the loss of a loved one who is with you in body but certainly not in mind! I can honestly say that I would not have got through the last six months of looking after mum while my husband was having chemotherapy. She has solved what seemed to me, insurmountable problems with sensible simple solutions, organised someone to stay over night so Billy and I could have a weekend away. The most important advice on day one was" Wendy stop feeling guilty!!"

The bad news? I had a letter the day after Christmas telling me that the service of Admiral Nurses in N E Essex is stopping at the end of January because of funding cuts !I am devestated, not just for me, I have good support systems in place that allow me to employ carers so that I can continue to run my business and therefore have some respite from being with mum 24/7. But I am very aware that there are lots of other people who are housebound looking after a relative with Dementia and the Admiral Nurse is their only contact! So I am on a mission, letters to the powers that be that have made this decision, our local MP, number 10 and also a reporter on the Daily Telegraph who interviewed me in December about my brilliant Admiral Nurse and how she has helped me.

So Nigel, take all the support and help you can, you and Ann must be kind to yourselves,the Mudcat Rainbow Crew all send love and prayers everyday and somewhere in the world they are thinking of you every minute of the 24 hours!

Much love,
Wendy xxxxxxxxx


08 Jan 13 - 03:32 PM (#3463253)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, I too am glad that Jane is home and hope she regains her strength and weight soon.

Wendy, I wish you success in your campaign to retain good services for your mother and others.


09 Jan 13 - 05:48 AM (#3463482)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, your beautiful words conjure up such potent images. It occurs to me that what we have created here & continue to maintain is our own 'Spiritual Internet'. It runs parallel to & is, of course ultimately dependent on Mudcat & the Internet for us to share & communicate in 'the real world', but away from that, all the connections we have established are active & vital & discreet, but as tangible as if we were all physically in the same space together. I derive great comfort & solace when, in a quiet, peaceful moment, I pause & simply imagine all of us, standing side by side together. No words are spoken; we become an entity with strength & power one hundredfold greater than the sum of it's parts. The geographical distances that keep us apart simply melt away.
       Wendy, is there any chance that the decision to withdraw the services of the Admiral Nurses might be reversed? I hope that you will be able to join with others, similarly affected, & bring as much pressure as possible to bear on 'the powers that be'. You say you are devastated; I'm certain that is something of an understatement! Ann & I wish you all the luck in the world with your campaign.
       Gnu, I'm more than happy to be hugged by you. It would be reciprocated in kind! Plenty of practise in a Family that thrives on Hugs & Kisses.
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx


09 Jan 13 - 06:39 AM (#3463503)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Hugs,hope,thoughts and love still on overdrive here to you all hanging tough out there. Wendy, I wish we didn't always have to fight for the smaller things that make all the difference to the rest of the road when the load is already heavy but I hope you win and I'd be there at your side too if I could. Nigel, Ann, Jane well - you know.... so do some of the rest of you. Love y'all for being here, there and for each other.
rum


09 Jan 13 - 08:18 AM (#3463528)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

Wendy, you are one of many around the world fighting stupid decisions by systems that value money more than people so cut essential services to save the great god Money. Keep up the fight & best wishes.

more love & hugs to you & your family & friends, & to Jane & her family & friends

sandra


09 Jan 13 - 08:26 AM (#3463531)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Thanks both,
I have e mailed our local MP Douglas Carswell he is usually very supportive over local issues. There is a debate on Dementia in the House of Commons tomorrow so I will watch with interest!

Sorry to say mum is still very ill and I am waiting for another Doctor's visit, they came out last night to her. Her oxygen levels are very low and she should have gone into hospital but with the Dementia we all agreed it would be too distressing as she would be very confused, so have decided to keep her at home and shoulder on!

Meanwhile Billy still has the cough but is much improved. I hope Jane is feeling stronger today Nigel.

Knowing you are all here with me side by side is a great comfort, thank you again Nigel for your wonderful thoughts.

Sailing on with a cup of Earl Grey,(kettle is on, help yourself)

with love

Wendy xxxxxx


10 Jan 13 - 04:27 AM (#3463863)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

For the first time in my life, I 'phoned The Samaritans Help Line last night. I'm home alone; Ann is staying at Jane's until the weekend but I have Doctor's appointments here in London. Making the 120 mile round trip three times was not a viable option.
    I was out getting some shopping & bumped into a colleague from my teaching days, who informed me of the death (from cancer) of a pianist with whom I'd worked, on & off, for over twenty years. What shocked me almost as much as learning of her death was the fact that she'd died 18 months ago & I had heard nothing via the local musician's 'network'. By the time I returned home, a list was forming in my mind of the Family members, close friends & colleagues, all of whom have succumbed to cancer. I stopped when I passed the twenty mark; it was all too distressing & overwhelming. A little later, I made my call to The Samaritans. I talked, a lady with a calm, gentle voice listened & said the right things at the right time. I went to bed a little earlier than usual & actually slept quite well.
    It's just after 09:00 & I'm feeling ok; a sense of balance & perspective has been restored. The emotional tsunami of yesterday has been displaced by something akin to rational thought. So, as Dear Wendy says: "Sailing on".
             With Love to You All,
                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                             xxxxxxxxxx


10 Jan 13 - 05:15 AM (#3463869)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

Good on you for calling for help - often all we need is to be listened to.

We are all fortunate to have so many resources - friends & family & support in "real" life & on phones & the internet.

stay balanced until the next time you need to reach out.

sandra


10 Jan 13 - 10:33 AM (#3463953)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Smart move, Nigel.


10 Jan 13 - 11:17 AM (#3463977)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Yep, exactly the right thing to do. Much as we can help, sometimes a listening ear and a voice is needed and that's why the Samaritans are there. Well done, NIgel.


10 Jan 13 - 12:36 PM (#3464027)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp

Is this the most honest site I have visited? It must be.

There are tales of true endeavour here.

This is one place where we are all truly in it together.

Best wishes to everyone.


10 Jan 13 - 04:24 PM (#3464148)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Saturday 12th January is our first anniversary. Twenty three of you responded to my initial post on the same day. Many of you '1st Dayers' still post regularly. I like to think that everyone who has posted visits our Thread from time to time, along with other Folk who have never posted, but voyage with us nonetheless.
       We've come a long way since January 2012 & none of this would have come to pass, were it not, My Dear Friends, for your Love & Dedication; your Care & Concern; your Wisdom & Knowledge & your ability to draw deeply from The Well of Life.
       Ann & I have some difficult days & months ahead, as do several others aboard our Reparative Craft.
       Come close; stay close. Together, we can achieve so much.
       With All our Love & Eternal Gratitude,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx


10 Jan 13 - 04:36 PM (#3464151)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, your compassion has touched so many hearts. And that's the truth!


10 Jan 13 - 04:55 PM (#3464160)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Indeed, 9!

henryp... "This is one place where we are all truly in it together."

You got that right, Clary.

Support, education, and comeuppance when ya need/deserve it... I've had all three and am better for it.


10 Jan 13 - 05:59 PM (#3464195)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

A little something on the "up"side. Not sure if I mentioned here that the necessary treatment at the time of my wife's heart attack was hard on her kidneys, and took that function down to a borderline issue. We've known for a while that she was gaining back enough to make that less worrisome. She saw the doc for that again today. He
said she is most of the way back to full function, and scheduled her next for 4 months from now.


10 Jan 13 - 06:29 PM (#3464213)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

gremlins somewhere i think as 2 posts got lost.
sadly tommy did have to go into hospital locally but later taken to evilena childrens hospital and is on a ventilator.he came off the assisted breathing early this morning but this evening had emergency procedure to put him back on it.physios shifting a lot of crud but due to the myotonia he is still at risk.the medical staff are wonderful but he is not a straight-forward case but needs continuous assesing.prayer much appreciated.
blessings on you all   pete.


10 Jan 13 - 06:39 PM (#3464220)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Ya got 'em coming, Pete.


10 Jan 13 - 07:00 PM (#3464230)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Prayers here Pete,
Lighting a candle for all our loved ones,good news Frogprince xx

Nearly midnight here, but will be awake sitting with mum, so sleep peacefully Pete and Nigel, I will take the night watch.

With love

Wendy xxxxx


10 Jan 13 - 07:59 PM (#3464273)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Prayers and loving hugs and thoughts from here too Pete. Good to hear from froggie about upward progress (flycatching?) - love and Wahey! smiles to J too - and Wendy - stay warm and safe - I'll take the dog watch xx


10 Jan 13 - 08:10 PM (#3464277)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Once again, the power of the Mudcat circle shines brightly. Much love and healing, Nigel, Wendy, and all.


10 Jan 13 - 08:41 PM (#3464296)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

I'll be on Middle Watch. So many worried minds, hurting hearts tonight. Remember Janie's quotation:"Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us." ― Meister Eckhart

We are, each in his or her own way, part of that light and further, responsible and eager to share the glimmer with one another.

Think of Rapparee and his wife as well; her mother has slipped off away the dock at last.

Kate & Anna McGarrigle and Linda Ronstadt : Heart Like A Wheel

Jody Stecher and Kate Brislin- "We Shall Meet Someday."

Gordon Bok's "Gulls in the Morning"

Jim Reid - I Saw The Wild Geese Flee

Bok, Trickett, Muir- "Hymn Song"

Steeleye Span- Somewhere along the road


10 Jan 13 - 09:26 PM (#3464331)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, I am glad someone at Samaritans was able to help you. I am sorry about the loss of your coworker. Frogprince, I am glad that your wife's kidney function is improving. Pete, I hope Tommy improves. Wendy, I hope your mom has a peaceful night. You and your loved ones are all in my heart, and I hope I didn't leave anyone out.


10 Jan 13 - 11:39 PM (#3464374)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

I don't think it possible, Chantylass, for you have left anyone out.

It seems to me that the open heart is absolutely inclusive.


11 Jan 13 - 12:24 AM (#3464379)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love to all from me

sandra


11 Jan 13 - 09:07 AM (#3464477)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

This is a beautiful crew here.......Makes me happy knowing that! My best thoughts to all.....Sounds bland, but sincerely meant.


Spaw


11 Jan 13 - 02:18 PM (#3464613)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Spaw + bland in same the sentence! Not every day ya see that.


11 Jan 13 - 02:55 PM (#3464642)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Well geeziz Gnu, this ain't the kinda' thread where I can just throw in a quick fart reference for a cheap laugh!!!

Besides, I think Al Roker has cornered the market after telling how he popped a shart at the White House and left his underwear in a WH bathroom. So old Al went Commando the rest of the evening. He yells the damn story and every US news channel plays it a dozen times a day for 3 days..........

Fiscal problems, gun control, more and more obstructionist crap from the GOP, and they're reporting that Al shit himself. Even YOU can do that Gnu!



Spaw


11 Jan 13 - 05:36 PM (#3464718)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Dan (olddude) has a threade going but he's been along here with us from the beginning. Seems he's been diagnosed with bladder cancer.......Let's get a few things his way as well.


Spaw


12 Jan 13 - 04:46 AM (#3464895)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Sure, Spaw...Dan- and Tinker as well as the rest are all held here. By the way...Isn't it funny that our modest Janie so neatly sums up how many of us feel?

Good morning, to all.


12 Jan 13 - 11:12 AM (#3465008)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Ann & I wish all of you aboard The Rainbow a very happy 1st Anniversary. It is a time to celebrate friendships old & new; a time to acknowledge the fundamental goodness that has become the core of our Thread; a time to thank each & every one of you for your gracious, compassionate words, often putting your own needs into second place. Such selflessness is a rare commodity in this hasty experience we still call 'Life'.
    I need to remain within the sanctuary of our 'Magical Metaphor' to continue. As I look to the horizon, there is a small, dark speck of cloud. As each day passes, it appears slightly larger & nearer, but a speck it remains for the present. Be prepared, we may be dropping anchor sooner than I had envisaged, My Dear Friends. In the meantime, go about your duties. The Rainbow is a fine ship; all her sails are set; she remains on course, but the barometer has fallen, just a mite, but sufficient for me to notice.
          With All Our Love on this auspicious Day,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx


12 Jan 13 - 12:14 PM (#3465029)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Sometimes it is hard to know what to share or say. Would it be supportive or hurtful and frightening, Nigel, for some of us to share from our own family's experiences with journeys similar to the one your family is now on?


12 Jan 13 - 12:15 PM (#3465030)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

as ever, I am apostrophe challenged.


12 Jan 13 - 12:39 PM (#3465043)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Well, Janie, look at this way... every one you get right is an apostrophy.

Maybe not as good as Spaw but I didn't have to go so far for it.


12 Jan 13 - 12:58 PM (#3465051)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, Ann & I would welcome the sharing of these experiences. Be assured, it would be supportive.
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann.
                               xxxxxxxxxx


12 Jan 13 - 03:18 PM (#3465085)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Dear Nigel

One year of the Rainbow Crew, I popped in on day two just to send love to you and Ann and, of course Jane.For some weeks I just sat on deck reading the compassionate words of wisdom from these(now) friends, not knowing what the next few months had in store for my family and me.

In Febuary my darling husband Billy had an operation for skin cancer, a melanoma on his back, which was more involved than we had thought and he was 6 weeks to recover.We were lulled into a false sense of well being then in March were told the CLL ( leuchemia) that he had been diagnosed with 7 years before had become a major concern and he needed chemotherapy.which he said he would not do!! However with the consultant and myself ganging up he did agree and you all know that he completed the six months treatment in December and we await the bone marrow biopsy in 8 weeks to see how the treatment has worked.

All through this we have looked after my dear old mum, Dementia has its lows(lots of them) but also we have times of hysterical laughter when mum has some lucid very funny thoughts, often saying things about family members that maybe she has supressed over many years, so now the truth will out!!

She has been very ill since Christmas and I have been very down over the past three weeks, but the Rainbow Crew have been here for me and I cannot thank you all enough, wish I could get you all in a big room and tell you how much your support and friendship means to me, HUGS all round.But Nigel all I can say is "Thank you" and you are in our thoughts every day and will be thoughout the coming days and months.

with much love

Wendy xxxxxx

PS after three nights without any sleep,zombie like, I have just got mum to eat a homemade shepherds pie, first food since Monday !!


12 Jan 13 - 03:20 PM (#3465087)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

It is hard to believe that it has already been a year except perhaps for when I look at the number of posts on this thread. They didn't get here overnight. Now let's continue together to work for another year. Rather than one day at a time, I'm thinking in terms of one year at a time.


12 Jan 13 - 03:43 PM (#3465097)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

And love to you and yours also, Wendy. Wish I could offer some instrumental help or respite.


12 Jan 13 - 05:13 PM (#3465132)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thankyou so much for your prayers and interest.tommy still deemed too unfit to take off ventilator although it is now assisting rather than breathing entirely for him.he sleeps a lot but has some more alert spells.i taped some of my songs for him and that seems to help him and amuses the nurse who has picked up on some of it and sings along!
when he becomes sufficiently alert they will try removing the tube again
as i read the above posts i lift my thoughts to God for your needs and pressures,and thank him for your kind interest and friendship.
,pete


12 Jan 13 - 05:40 PM (#3465149)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Bless you Pete,

Will be here through the night, get some sleep, The crew will keep us all sailing on

xxxx Wendy


12 Jan 13 - 06:04 PM (#3465157)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

As Wendy said, pete....


12 Jan 13 - 06:20 PM (#3465169)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Nigel, we'll be here whatever the winds that blow. Now that I've discovered this thread, I try to check in every day, though I don't always post. Wendy, Dan, Pete, remember that you, too, are being held in the hearts and minds of friends the world over.


12 Jan 13 - 07:34 PM (#3465196)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

So glad you decided to sign on fulltime Allison........So many fine folks sailing along here come what may. Full sail, reeefed down, spinnaker set or storm jib.....We all do our jobs and we can make it through together!


Spaw


12 Jan 13 - 08:02 PM (#3465205)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

we can make it through together! yes


12 Jan 13 - 09:37 PM (#3465250)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Rapparee and his wife are sailing along with us all. Sending sleep to all who need it; light in the darkness, and hope in the Slough of Despond.


13 Jan 13 - 06:03 AM (#3465343)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I don't usually make New Year's Resolutions & what I'm about to write is more akin to a Life Resolution, but it is my intention to maintain this thread beyond the end of Jane's Voyage. Originally, I assumed this would be a modest form of support for Ann & myself that would have it's own natural cadence. However, over the past year our Thread has grown in breadth & depth. It has become important to many more people than I ever expected. Indeed, I don't think I ever considered the possibility that other Folk might find Love, Help & Support here. I couldn't have been more wrong! I don't think it's possible or even necessary to attempt to quantify or define just what it is We have all created. What I will say is that it feels important, right & necessary that our Voyage continues.
      Today, my thoughts are focussed particularly on Wendy & Billy; Dan; Pete & Tommy; Rapparee & his Wife & several others of whom I'm aware, but who wish to remain anonymous.
      ChanteyLass summed it up perfectly: " I'm thinking in terms of one year at a time." I'm inclined to add: "....and the next, & the next &........."
                              With Love to You All,
                                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx


13 Jan 13 - 11:43 AM (#3465479)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Nigel, you set the tone at the beginning and it was reflected back to you, Ann, and Jane. That so many have found solace, etc. here has a lot to do with your eloquent, raw/honest, beautiful writings and the soul which shines from them. I think I can safely say this is the Best of the best threads on Mudcat.

I know I've been kinda quiet of late, but I do read this every day and I am giving thanks for the Guidance we all receive.

much love to all,

kat


13 Jan 13 - 02:34 PM (#3465555)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

During my father's year long illness with Melanoma Mudcatter's held all of us, and especially Dad and Mom in their thoughts and prayers. Although neither Mom nor Dad have ever been on Mudcat, I kept them informed that many from across the country and around the world were holding them in deepest positive regard. I really can not convey how meaningful the knowledge of those kindnesses from complete strangers meant to them.

At some point along the journey they opened a package to find a Mudcat Shawl done by Jacqui. It meant even more to my father than did the prayer shawl he had received from his church - I mean, one anticipates support from one's church, life-long friends and family. That shawl was the covering that stayed on the back of Dad's recliner, or wrapped around his shoulders or legs right up until he was confined to bed in the last 2 weeks of his life. Mom now has it carefully heirloomed and put away with the American flag that drapped the shrine at his Memorial Service.

That thread was also a blessing to me - a place where I could look for support at a time when my job in the family was to offer support and care. It was a place to share our story and to share a little something about my beloved parents and sister. Sometimes what we most need is to be able to tell our story and know that someone is listening with attention.

There is so much listening here.


13 Jan 13 - 03:36 PM (#3465581)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Pete, it is good to read that the ventilator is supporting Tommy's breathing. I hope he continues to need it less and less and soon can be off it.


13 Jan 13 - 03:39 PM (#3465583)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Nigel... your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.


13 Jan 13 - 07:50 PM (#3465721)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

I've also teared up reading Janie's post

love to all

sandra


13 Jan 13 - 08:01 PM (#3465723)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Well, I ain't opening this thread again until I have a box of Kleenex with me.


13 Jan 13 - 08:21 PM (#3465729)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Half-senile old coots like 999 and me tend to respond like that to things like this...


13 Jan 13 - 08:25 PM (#3465732)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Thanks, froggy, for not considering me a half-senile old coot... HEY! Wait a minute????


13 Jan 13 - 08:59 PM (#3465751)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

This is in many ways a collective thread of caring and sharing, and very powerful for that - thank you Nigel.

Awkard long sentence alert.

Fwiw, I sincerely hope for the many people posting here who are currently dealing with their own personal situations that those of you who wish and would find it supportive to reach out for focused support or need to share a focused narrative that you will not hesitate to post a separate thread also. I, for one, while holding all of you inclusively in my meditations, welcome such threads that help me to specifically recall and focus my attentional processes, and help me contemplate and relate on a very personal level.


14 Jan 13 - 06:08 AM (#3465827)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

I woke up this morning to bright sunshine, my brother stayed last night to sit with mum so Billy and I had the first good nights sleep since Christmas, also yesterday was a good day. I sent Billy off to spend the afternoon with Samantha and the grandaughters and he returned home with a roast dinner so I didnt have to cook.

While he was out I had a long and fullfilling phone call with our lovely vicar Robert and he is going to visit with mum sometime this week.

The absess on my wisdom tooth that has been a constant pain for a few days has gone overnight! Billy has just made me breakfast in bed!!

So sending very positive and loving thoughts to all the crew,
Wendy xxxxxxx


14 Jan 13 - 07:03 AM (#3465844)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Smiles for a good day for you, Wendy!


14 Jan 13 - 01:06 PM (#3465993)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, you raise a very important point. Mudcatters must always retain their right to create their own threads as & when necessary. I would be deeply unhappy if this thread were to create an atmosphere of usurping an individual's right to post individually & independently. By extending the thread, I have to own up to my own selfishness; I don't want to lose touch with a single one of you.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx


14 Jan 13 - 06:33 PM (#3466146)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i too was very touched by nigels and janies post and then warmed by wendys recounting of a good day.when the way is dark such shafts of

light shed a   little sunshine into our lives.

pleased to report that tommy was safely taken off the ventilator yesterday and appears to be making progress and is expected to move from intensive care to high dependancy tomorrow.thanks to you all again. blessings   pete.


14 Jan 13 - 06:40 PM (#3466149)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,

some time ago someone asked me if I thought I should start a thread for Billy amd me, but I thought then, and still do, that I felt safe here with the Rainbow crew,maybe not everyone who knows us on mudcat is sailing with us,but the enveloping love and support means so much to both of us.These friendships are long lasting and we will never lose touch!

Janie, very happy to be included in a collective meditation,and thank you we had a very good day,Billy saw his skin cancer consultant today and he does not want to see him for three months!

I feel stronger and better able to cope,thanks to the crew

sailing onward, through snow and sleet tonight with a happy heart,

Wendy xxxxxxxx


14 Jan 13 - 06:49 PM (#3466158)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Oh dear, Nigel - and others - I wasn't thinking that at all! I apologize for not expressing myself well.


14 Jan 13 - 06:56 PM (#3466164)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

For any who are going through, or have been through chemo, or know someone who is, you may want to check out the link in a new music thread HERE.

Love & Light,

kat


14 Jan 13 - 07:01 PM (#3466168)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Pete, wonderful news, buddy.


14 Jan 13 - 07:01 PM (#3466171)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Janie,
never apologise,your lovely words inspire and help us .
Pete, good news, hope tomorrow goes well,

Wendy xxx


14 Jan 13 - 07:07 PM (#3466175)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

pete... good news!

"By extending the thread, I have to own up to my own selfishness;"

I don't wanna hear any more of that.


14 Jan 13 - 09:13 PM (#3466241)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Glad to read the good news from Wendy and Pete.

When I have another medical crisis (none currently, thank goodness) I will probably start my own thread but mention ir here to let people know about it.


14 Jan 13 - 10:07 PM (#3466258)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Some of you know Bugsy from western Oz....He's having cancer surgery and I told him about this thread but his thread is over here.......Bugsy's thread

He could use a few good thoughts...a real good guy!


Spaw


14 Jan 13 - 10:55 PM (#3466270)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

Bugsy is a Good Bloke!


15 Jan 13 - 05:36 AM (#3466333)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, I clearly need to apologise to you too for grasping the wrong end of the stick, big time! On reflection though, I think, inadvertently, we have uncovered the potential to do more for the common good. Our thread remains, as is, but it can also serve as a 'hub', a conduit of news & information provided by individuals about their own threads & alerting us to the needs of others, of whose whose plight we may not be aware. ChanteyLass said that she would probably start her own thread if the need arose, but would still post here to let us know. Spaw has let us know about Bugsy. Almost certainly, I would have missed that.
    Positive news from Pete & Wendy; very good to read. Kat, thank you for the link to that wonderful story about Music & Cancer. If you haven't done so already, click on the link & be prepared to be moved & inspired.
    Janie, your post of 13th & Wendy, yours on 14th., in common with others, moved me to tears, but helped me to think & reassess my own situation. Today, the final words belong to Janie: "There is so much listening here."
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann.
                         xxxxxxxxxx


15 Jan 13 - 05:58 AM (#3466345)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person

If there's any spare thoughts, a musician friend of mine is having surgery today (UK) for bowel cancer. The hope is that its been caught before it spreads at all. His name's Richard.

Thanks

Paws


15 Jan 13 - 06:07 AM (#3466348)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Paws, I think you'll find there's enough good thoughts to include your mate Richard...


15 Jan 13 - 07:16 AM (#3466362)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

sending a few more spare thoughts to Richard

sandra


15 Jan 13 - 10:49 AM (#3466447)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

sending prayers and thoughts to Richard too
xx Wendy


15 Jan 13 - 11:28 AM (#3466469)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Paws & your friend Richard, you are most welcome to come aboard. I see you've already been greeted by Pete J., Sandra & Wendy. We all hope & trust that Richard's surgery is successful & that it was an early intervention. Paws, when you have a moment, read through some of the earlier comments in our Thread; get to know some of the most warm-hearted, generous spirited folk with whom it's ever been my privilege to correspond. A word of warning though, a few are definitely borderline crazy, but we find room for them, just the same! (-;
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx


15 Jan 13 - 05:03 PM (#3466630)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Paws, of course I'll have good thoughts for Richard, and Spaw, I'll make sure I wander into Bugsy's thread.


15 Jan 13 - 05:24 PM (#3466640)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person

Thanks, people. Richard is through the surgery successfully and is doing as well as can be expected: the docs think they've "got it", but need to do all the tests to be sure.

All down to your (and some of his other friends) help, I'm sure.

Much appreciated.

Paws


15 Jan 13 - 06:29 PM (#3466677)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

have just read of and expressed a prayerful hope that richards op had gone well and that any residual cancer will be effectively treated.

pleased to find tommy today not in high dependancy but straight to ward and much better.beckys [and tommys] GP was ,she heard, also very pleased as he had feared a long spell on ventilator for him might have proved fatal.thank God - and some kind friends!.

nigel- i hope that as the rainbow sails on that you will find some "fair havens" on the voyage where you,ann, and jane are able to replenish and take on board whatever is needed when the sea is stormy.
God bless    pete.


15 Jan 13 - 06:36 PM (#3466683)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

WellPAws, we'll still be thinking about you and sending good mojo Richard's way for awhile yet! Never hurts does it?


Spaw


15 Jan 13 - 08:28 PM (#3466736)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Glad tidings re: Tommie, Pete, & rowing hard for Richard. May he have fair weather ahead.


15 Jan 13 - 10:05 PM (#3466770)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

There are times I know things. Richard will be ok.

Bruce


16 Jan 13 - 12:05 AM (#3466813)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Bugsy

THanks for all the tboughts and prayers that have come my way.

My mate Roy is going for tests today to see if his cancer has spread. he currently has asophageal(?) cancer. If it hasn't, he MAY be a candidate for surgery. If it has he's been given 6-9 months. He's one of the friends I said makes me feel lucky to only have Kidney Cancer.

Thoughts and prayers for him would be much appreciaated.
He's told me he will let me know the outcome this afternoon (West Aussie time) and I'll pass on any info as soon as I hear. He's a Great Singer/Songwriter and an alround good bloke.

Cheers

Bugsy


16 Jan 13 - 07:38 AM (#3466915)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Just having a coffee if anyone would like to share, it is a big coffee pot!

I have just caught up with everyone and send the most healing thoughts to all, (such good news Pete,) so this crew is having a powerful effect. I am really so in awe of the collective love and kindness that the is being focused here, it is indeed a very important place in the mudcat family and is the first place I go to every morning and last thing at night.

At the moment my main concern is my dear mum, and when I am awake with her during the night the Rainbow is where I go to find companionship and support.

Long may we all sail together through fair weather or bad,

with love

Wendy xxxxxxx


16 Jan 13 - 11:49 AM (#3467039)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

The Dr has just been to see mum and says her chest infection is no better but also that mum has had a minor stroke which has affected her speech, we had thought that the speech problem had been caused by the chest infection making the dementia more complicated? Not quite sure which is worse? She is her usual smiling self, she is quite amazing!!

Wendy xxxxx


16 Jan 13 - 06:02 PM (#3467216)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

tommy is not as well as yesterday and has been moved to high dependancy tonight.hopefully it is only a blip as we were able to walk him in the ward a little and he puts up a fight everytime the suction come near his mouth!

prayer offered for roy as he awaits news.
wendy-you must get worn out but it must be a blessing that mum is smiling through it all.
blessings   pete.


16 Jan 13 - 06:16 PM (#3467223)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Pete, sending all our love tonight,

When I make a cup of tea in the early hours, I will wish you and Tommy good thoughts, you may well be awake too,

much love

Wendy xxxx


16 Jan 13 - 06:24 PM (#3467231)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

sending more love to all

sandra


16 Jan 13 - 08:04 PM (#3467306)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

will echo Sandra.

Janie


16 Jan 13 - 08:14 PM (#3467313)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Nigel, Ann, Jane and all of your family, holding you very close in my meditations tonight.


16 Jan 13 - 09:50 PM (#3467350)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Adding Roy to my list and stepping up my prayers for Bugsy, Wendy's mom, Tommy, Paws's friend, and of course Jane. And a general prayer for anyone else who needs it!


16 Jan 13 - 11:09 PM (#3467386)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Ditto that.


16 Jan 13 - 11:23 PM (#3467392)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

here, too...love and hugs


17 Jan 13 - 06:48 PM (#3467790)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

tommy a lot brighter today thanks .pete


17 Jan 13 - 07:04 PM (#3467809)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Good news, Pete. Bless ya, buddy.


17 Jan 13 - 07:39 PM (#3467836)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

sweet dreams Pete have a good night

xxx Wendy


17 Jan 13 - 08:18 PM (#3467860)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ed T

Good thoughts from here.


17 Jan 13 - 10:41 PM (#3467900)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

At any point in time for some storm clouds may gather and the waters roil while for others, the sun may appear, the wind may calm and seas subside. It can give the illusion we are on different boats, sailing separate waters.

A paradox. Existence is paradoxical. We are in fact all still rowing the same boat. Together.

Love and light to all.


18 Jan 13 - 02:40 AM (#3467938)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Damn but you're good Janie..............

All my best to so many fighting in the middle right now. May tomorrow bring better.


Spaw


18 Jan 13 - 03:22 PM (#3468192)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp

Thanksgiving and terror of loss
Make all but my love of life dross
And keep me in mind of the ones who are kind
And all of these just shareable thoughts.

I went to see Nic Jones last night. It was the most emotional concert that I have ever been to - I can still hardly speak. He sang this.


19 Jan 13 - 01:26 AM (#3468364)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

pete, hooray for Tommy and hoping this continues. Also hoping the best to all on this thread and others.


19 Jan 13 - 04:58 AM (#3468385)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Couldn't think of anything that hasn't been said, and said better, in so many of the posts. I pondered. Finally, I happened to read a past post of mine just above the box I am now typing in. I am now content with simply this... still here.


19 Jan 13 - 05:56 AM (#3468399)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Only four days have passed since I last posted & there's been so much activity. Things beginning to move in the right direction for Tommy & Pete.Then there's Roy and Bugsy, Wendy's mum, Paws's friend & probably a whole host of other Folk we haven't yet met! Forgive me for singling out one particular person......Wendy. She seems to have a most onerous burden to bear, yet her posts are full of optimism & light. You've come a long way, Wendy, since your first, tentative posts.You have grown into a shining beacon of hope, compassion & support. I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say you have the Love & Respect of the entire Crew.
       Henry, those beautiful words from Nic Jones resonate very strongly with me too.
       Janie, you wrote about paradox. You're timing was just about perfect. Jane's overall condition has worsened considerably. The cancer continues to spread, but not content with that, it has mutated as well, so a completely different Treatment Plan is now in place & herein lies the paradox. She has not been out of the house since before Christmas; unable to eat & drink & barely able to move from one room to another. Two days ago, she cooked a meal for her whole Family & yesterday, Ann, Jane, Jane's husband & myself had lunch at a local Italian restaurant. Jane polished off her main course AND had most of her desert too. By the time we returned home, she was understandably tired & duly slept for an hour or two; but her new treatment regime does not begin until next week! The pre & post Christmas 'paradox' is wonderful to see, but so difficult to explain. Life, in all it's many guises, never ceases to amaze & enthral me. I can live with the paradoxical & indeed, would find Life & Living less dynamic & vibrant without it, but it does tend to raise more questions than it answers!
       So, my Dear Friends, set the the sails; chart a course, onwards we sail,
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx


19 Jan 13 - 05:35 PM (#3468714)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Good to hear from you, Nigel, and especially good to hear that Jane has been much better the last day or so. Perhaps the chemo regimen she was on was particularly intolerable to her system and it has taken time for her to begin to recover from the effects. May the ensuing treatments not only be effective in holding the cancer at bay, but much better tolerated!

Still pulling at the oars for all and with all.

Janie


19 Jan 13 - 05:41 PM (#3468718)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Row, row, row your boat... lots a rowing of the collective boat going on here.

Nah... I still can seem to say anything poetic or "depthful".

Right. I'm just "here".


19 Jan 13 - 07:57 PM (#3468756)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Like others here, I continue to keep Jane in my thoughts and prayers. I wish there was more to do. If I had a magic wand, I would wave it in her direction.


20 Jan 13 - 07:21 AM (#3468913)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, you could well be right on several counts. The orally administered chemo seems to have been particularly troublesome. This week, Jane returns to intravenous delivery; small doses, different drug, over an extended period of time. The thought that fills our heads through every waking moment is that none of this treatment is curative. An extension of Life; a forestalling of the cancer for an undetermined period is the best that's on offer.
       Gnu, it's not the depth, it's the quality. What you bring to our Thread is a unique take on Life, full of quality & qualities found in no other posts. You're where you're needed most...here!
       ChanteyLass, if you DO find that wand, start waving pdq!
       From a very snowy, cold London,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx


20 Jan 13 - 08:47 AM (#3468941)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,

thank you for your kind words, must say that if you were to see me in the early hours making tea and trying not to wake Billy then finding mum back in a deep sleep and not drinking the cuppa that minutes before was the only thing in the world she needed, you might not be so kind and complimentary!! Can anyone explain that when you are woken in the night and simply must get back to sleep, sleep never comes? Cannot get up and do the hoovering or ironing as that would wake the house , as would putting the TV on or turning on the light to read a book!

So pleased to see that Jane was able to go out to the restaurant with you, here's hoping that the new treatment has no nasty side effects.

Sitting by a lovely log fire watching the snow fall in the garden,wishing you all a peaceful Sunday

much love
Wendy xxxxxxx


20 Jan 13 - 02:59 PM (#3469085)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Aw, Wendy, can you get a mini-book light, the kind that clamps on to the book or to a clipboard if you want to write instead of reading? Something like this:


20 Jan 13 - 03:01 PM (#3469086)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Oops! hate it when I click on Submit instead of Make a Link! http://www.barnesandnoble.com/p/mighty-bright-clear-xtraflex-led-booklight/16651005?ean=9781935009061


20 Jan 13 - 06:21 PM (#3469164)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

love it, thank you xx


20 Jan 13 - 06:45 PM (#3469177)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Just know that I continue to check the Rainbow's heading, and think of you all, each day.
                         Dean


21 Jan 13 - 10:22 AM (#3469454)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

My heart, love and good thoughts are with you all.

kat


21 Jan 13 - 02:40 PM (#3469550)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Like froggy said, every day.


21 Jan 13 - 06:51 PM (#3469672)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

stayed in london over weekend and we went to funeral in norfolk today,back to the hospital to find tommy still getting stronger and giving the nurses a hard time!.in late but checking in as you have still been in my thoughts while away.
God bless   pete


22 Jan 13 - 01:01 AM (#3469781)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

Nurse Ratchet would make Tommy behave

sandra


22 Jan 13 - 05:32 PM (#3470123)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I hope Tommy continues to improve.


23 Jan 13 - 07:48 AM (#3470334)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I've spent most of my adult working life concerned with time; time, that is within the context of Music. It was a detail largely predetermined by myself, over which I had complete control. I now find myself in a situation where a different aspect time has been wrested from my grasp; all control has gone & worse still, I have no knowledge of how much time remains & no one to whom I can turn who might provide that elusive answer.
      Much has happened & is happening this week, none of which can I bring myself to write about, not even in the most general terms; it's just too close to an inexorable truth I'm not ready to face.
      As ever, writing in the 1st person, but substituting 'we' for 'I' is something you may care to do.
      Janie, I will be replying to your profoundly moving PM just as soon as.
      With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx


23 Jan 13 - 08:08 AM (#3470345)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Nigel and Ann,

Sometimes we just have to endure. I'm there too.

Love,

Maeve


23 Jan 13 - 10:52 AM (#3470418)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Can't think of anything to say but "still here".

Pete


23 Jan 13 - 06:17 PM (#3470550)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

nigel-i can almost feel the pain and helplesness expressed in your post.still praying       pete.


23 Jan 13 - 06:51 PM (#3470565)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel and Ann

keeping you and Jane in our prayers

with love

Wendy and Billy xxxxxx


23 Jan 13 - 10:19 PM (#3470626)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, what you said brings to mind a profound exchange I read somewhere in the distant past. A mother said to her daughter, "I have loved you since you were born." The daughter replied, "I know that, mom, but I have loved you all my life."

You have no idea how much I wish I could take some of this weight from you.

B


24 Jan 13 - 12:09 AM (#3470646)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Nigel, I, too, have been feeling the unbearable which you all face. Words are inadequate, but please know a flow of empathy, love, and what comfort there can be in such a situation, continues from here to you all. Be kind to yourselves,,,it is a fragile time for all.

With much love,

kat


24 Jan 13 - 06:24 PM (#3470939)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm still here with you, too, Nigel, and still wishing I could do more.


24 Jan 13 - 09:13 PM (#3471033)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

As I think I said much earlier in this thread, I am not Buddhist but there are many practices and principals stemming from that philosophy that have been helpful to me personally, and which I have observed to be helpful to others in my work as a psychotherapist.

I stumbled across the work and writings of Stephen Levine 25 years ago while seeking ways to cope with my older sister's diagnosis of breast cancer and my own, less serious but very scary diagnosis and treatment for cancer during part of that same period.         


Softening the Belly... of Sorrow
by Stephen Levine • New Mexico

Reprinted from: Unattended Sorrow: Recovering from Loss and Reviving the Heart ©
by Stephen Levine (Rodale, 2005.)

(Note to Mudcatters: I copied this from another website that reprinted it - Janie)

We hold our grief hard in the belly. We store fear and disappointment, anger and guilt in our gut. Our belly has become fossilized with a long resistance to life and to loss. Each withdrawal, each attempt to numb our grief, turns the belly to stone. Have mercy on this pain you have carried for so long, the pain that sometimes makes you want to jump out of your body.

Quite naturally, in the process of girding for self-protection, our belly guards old wounds and steels for the battle. Over the years, we have buried the ache of impermanence and the remnants of fear and helplessness there. A shield develops across our abdomen, which mirrors the armoring over our heart. As we soften around the sensations and gradually move into them, they melt at the edge. It's not opposing the hardness but rather meeting it with soft mercy, knowing that we cannot let go of anything we do not accept. But sometimes, as much out of exhaustion as self-mercy, we momentarily let go of the rigidity that holds our suffering in place. Our belly softens just for a moment, and we get a glimpse beyond grief.

When we soften the fear-hardened belly, letting go of the tightness gives us space in which to process afflictive emotions. When we begin to soften to the knot of sensations that accompany a sense of loss in the belly, heart and mind, there is a gradual release of pressure. As we soften to the fear, anger and distrust that hardens us against life, we discover a lifetime's worth of grief in the belly. This is our unattended sorrow, from beyond which some inherent mercy calls upon us to release the heart.

As we soften the belly, letting go of trying to control the rise and fall of each breath but instead observing it as sensations come and go with each inhalation and exhalation, we begin to free level after level of holding. In the levels and levels of softening are levels and levels of letting go. Let old holdings begin to float in the new openness created by softening, as there arises a new willingness to heal, to go beyond our pain. As we begin to soften the belly, we unburden the body and mind of their automatic withdrawal from and walling-off of pain. As these burdens begin to lift, we find ourselves a bit lighter and the road ahead that much easier to travel; we're a bit more able to continue on with our lives.

"Going on with our lives," though it may seem somehow sacrilege, is in our own time the work we do to honor the life we share with all who have ever been born and will ever die. By opening into the possibilities of the heart, expanding the space that is able to absorb all that is let go of, we are able to find our own true compass of what is appropriate to our own healing and go mercifully on with our lives.

Gradually, our attention settles into the abdomen and begins riding the rising and falling of the ocean of our breath. On the inhalation, the belly rises with the tide. On the exhalation, the tide goes out. A liberating awareness begins to settle in as we soften to the breath and to the distrust that hardens us to life. Let thoughts come and let thoughts go in a soft belly, without holding, and without resistance.

The healing practice of attending our sorrow is done by: Sitting quietly, closing your eyes and just letting your attention come into the sensations of the body. Feeling the body you sit in, you begin to bring your attention into the abdomen, feeling the belly rise and fall with each breath. And you begin to soften the abdominal muscles, letting go of whatever holding tightens your belly and maintains your suffering, softening the tissue all the way into the belly.

Make room for the breath as it breathes itself in soft belly, noticing how much grief there is in the form of resistance and an ache held deep in the belly. So much fear and armoring. Let it all float in soft belly, not hardening it to suffering, just letting it be in soft belly, in merciful belly.

Let go with each inhalation, softening the belly. Let go with each exhalation, making peace. Soften the belly to uncover the heart. Each exhalation lets out the pain. Make room for our life in soft belly.

Expectation, judgment, doubt and all sorts of old griefs congregate in the belly. Softening allows them to disperse. Pains, fears and doubts dissolve into the softness, the spaciousness of a merciful belly. Even the hardness floats in the softness. And there's nothing to change; we are just attending to ourselves; there is no urgency in soft belly.

There is room for our pain in soft belly. The spaciousness in the belly mirrors the opening of the heart.

When you open your eyes, maintaining this increased awareness, notice at what point the belly tightens once again. At what point does the sense of loss reassert itself and you feel a need to protect against further pain? At what point does the armoring reestablish its long presence?
Soften with the eyes wide open to the world, softening to the pain we all share and the legacy of healing exposed in our deepening softness.

Many people say they come back to softening the belly dozens of times a day. And it's a better day for it. Some begin the day with this exercise for fifteen minutes or more and notice how this softening in the body produces a deeply relieving letting go in the mind.

There are considerable gradations of our capacity to stay soft and work with things that we don't think we can. When we think we're not up to our grief, that's a form of grief. When we distrust ourselves and the process, our grief sometimes misinforms us about our capacity to work with it. When we soften to that grief, we find that even when we feel hopeless, we are not helpless.
Softening the belly won't perfect us, but it can set us free. It initiates a letting go which frees the mind to open the heart.

We hold our unattended sorrow hostage in the belly, marbled in the muscle tissue with fear. Our resistance to life and our impatience with ourselves rigidifies the belly and excludes the possibilities of the heart. It makes shallow the breath. But softening the muscles, softening even the flesh, letting go of the age-old tension held there as if our life depended on it, invites the breath, invites life, deeper within.

When we come back again and again throughout the day to a soft belly, a sense of ease increases, which allows the quality of being loving to flow unimpeded, as natural as breathing.
Softening the belly demonstrates how self-mercy affects our reality.

In a soft belly, there is room to live and to grow, as our nature allows. Room to let go of the judgment that considers us somehow imperfect, room to send with each softening breath loving kindness into the grateful heart.


Stephen Levine has written a number of books. I have looked at many of them, bought a few that I couldn't make my way through, but found a couple of them extremely helpful and those couple are books I still go back and read and draw from in my work and in my personal life.
In particular, I recommend Healing into Life and Death


24 Jan 13 - 09:46 PM (#3471040)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Nothing much I can say to add to the beauty here. We are all here Nigel, and here we will remain.

Spaw


24 Jan 13 - 10:13 PM (#3471045)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Something I've never written before; so Spaw, if I may crave your indulgence:

    "Nothing much I can say to add to the beauty here". Ann & I are here & here we will remain.

                  With Love & Deepest Gratitude to All our Precious, Precious Friends,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

PS   Janie, I'm writing this at 03:06. I was awakened by an uncomfortable ache....in my stomach! True!!
                        N x


25 Jan 13 - 03:12 AM (#3471088)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Janie, Thank you!

Nigel and Ann, still here,

much love,

Wendy xxxxxx


25 Jan 13 - 04:29 AM (#3471103)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love to all

sandra


25 Jan 13 - 02:05 PM (#3471333)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

How well I know that ache in the belly, my friends. Nigel, I am here keeping vigil still. Holding you and your loved ones in the light.


25 Jan 13 - 07:19 PM (#3471437)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

still thoughts and prayers   pete


25 Jan 13 - 07:29 PM (#3471444)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

The Keekee birds are froze solid here but there is warmth and comfort on this thread. That may sound odd but the warmth and caring that I witness herein warms my heart. Much more than the "block heater"??? on my Ford truck... remote start my ass!

That wasn't a direction, Spaw... just a whine.


25 Jan 13 - 07:30 PM (#3471446)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Walking...swimming alongside.

Maeve


25 Jan 13 - 08:12 PM (#3471460)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

maeve just reminded me of this,; I don't know if it's familiar outside the U.S.


26 Jan 13 - 04:51 AM (#3471575)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Beautiful song, I had not heard it before, started my day in a thoughtful way,
Thank you

Wendy,Still here Nigel,
xxxxxxxxxxx


26 Jan 13 - 04:55 AM (#3471576)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Thanks Dean. Yes- that's the feeling.

It's dark and bitter cold here, but I know there is light for all.


26 Jan 13 - 05:11 AM (#3471582)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

thanks for the link, I know "Never Turning back" but didn't know who wrote it.


26 Jan 13 - 05:55 AM (#3471596)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Thanks froggy... beautiful tune.


26 Jan 13 - 07:44 AM (#3471616)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Janie, I can't thank you enough for the trouble you've gone to to bring "Softening the Belly... of Sorrow" to us. A remarkable piece that resonates with me on several different levels. I have not come across the work of Stephen Levine before. A writer I have found helpful & insightful in the past is Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, particularly when one is dealing with end of life issues.
    Dean, 'Swimming on the Other Side'. A beautiful song, beautifully sung & played. And you're right, I don't think it is particularly well known in the UK. Thank you for thoughtfully providing the link. From this musician's p.o.v., it has a James 'Tayoresque' feel to it.
    Maeve, Gnu, Wendy, Sandra, Pete, Allison, Spaw, Chantey Lass, Kat, all of you who have come on board, next week is going to be particularly stressful for Jane: five consecutive days of radiotherapy delivered to her brain. Scares the hell out of all of us & yet Jane is remarkably sanguine about the forthcoming treatment.
    Today, I want to finish by re-quoting Bruce: "I have loved you since you were born." The daughter replied, "I know that, mom, but I have loved you all my life." Truly a pearl amongst a sea of tears. Bruce, you don't need to do any more than you do already to lighten my load. Knowing that You; knowing that all of you are out there, so far yet so near is more than I could have ever hoped for. Your resilience & steadfastness is breathtaking,
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx


26 Jan 13 - 07:51 AM (#3471619)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

hugs to Jane & her family & friends next week

ssandra


26 Jan 13 - 08:58 AM (#3471640)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Fervent hopes for good results from the radiation therapy.


26 Jan 13 - 03:24 PM (#3471769)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

As always, I am hoping for the best possible results from the five days of treatment Jane will have. It sounds like truly a "One Day at a Time" experience. I wish her and all her family fortitude.


26 Jan 13 - 03:42 PM (#3471776)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Just updating my best thoughts to you and yours, Nigel.
Charlie


26 Jan 13 - 11:35 PM (#3471913)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Nigel, remember, if you need to rant, weep, etc. , it's okay...don't "be brave" on our account. We can be your strength.

I don't know if there is any significance, but at 345 am, my time (7 hrs behind London time), early Saturday morning, I woke up with you all very clearly in my mind.

Much love and thanks givings for the best possible outcome for all concerned,

kat


27 Jan 13 - 06:33 AM (#3471957)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Kat, at that time (London time) on Saturday morning, Jane would have been taking a short drive (her husband driving) to watch her eldest daughter play in a Netball match. As Ann has come home for the weekend, we don't know whether she actually made the match. Netball is a game Jane played (and loved) into adulthood, right up until about a month before she received her initial diagnosis. So yes, something significant was (we hope!) happening in that Jane was going to watch her daughter play a game they both love & at which they both excel(d).
       Charlie, good to hear from you. How was Burn's Night?
       ChanteyLass, you used the word: "Fortitude". The Oxford English Dictionary defines "Fortitude" as: "Courage in pain & adversity". You couldn't have chosen a more apposite word.
      
       As most of you know, my working life has been devoted to Music. What most of you don't know is that some years ago, a complete career change presented itself. I went back to uni, part time & for six years, trained as a Psychotherapist. Whilst on my final clinical placement in a hospital, my own health gave way & the therapist became the patient.
       My point is that, despite a wealth of knowledge & experience of 'The Human Condition', it counts for very little when one's own Family is concerned. That's where you Good Folk come in; that's why I used words like 'steadfast' & 'resilience'. I know well enough how to support others, but I'm rendered impotent when it comes to supporting myself. Ann & I can't cope anymore without You All. Kat, you wrote: ".....it's ok, don't be brave on our account. We can be your strength". As I said above: "Your resilience & steadfastness is breathtaking".
      With Love & eternal Gratitude,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                   xxxxxxxxxx


27 Jan 13 - 08:08 AM (#3471974)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Hey, Nigel. Much as I love living in Scotland, we don't do Burns night. At my grandchildren's primary school it was Haggis,neeps and tatties for school dinner but many of the kids prefer a packed lunch. Most of the classes had a Burns themed lesson on Friday but my only contribution was a glass of Jameson's.
I've just realized that Jameson's is NOT scotch. Forgive this weary sassenach, please Mudcat Caledonians.
Best as usual, Nigel.


27 Jan 13 - 08:15 AM (#3471975)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,

have just re-read the last two posts from you, I wish I had the words to express how both Billy and I feel for you, Ann and Jane and her family, just so pleased that they were able to go to the netball game and be "normal " for a day! We know how your life is turned upside down by a serious illness.Often Billy has commented to me that the only time we go out together is on a trip to the hospital, and conversations with family and friends are about either Billy or mum's health. So I will attempt some "normal " conversation...

The sun in Frinton is shining from a clear blue sky, yesterday was beautiful in the morning and after I had finished my last client, Samantha and David and I took the little girls for a walk along the greensward to check out the beach hut. Lots of dog walkers on the sands and even two speedboats heading for Walton Pier! Hot Chocolate at the hut and all was well when we opened up, I always wonder how a little wooden shed on stilts can withstand the North Sea and East winter winds.Bunny and Prudence are a joy to be with and ask such funny questions,this morning talking on the phone Pru told me that the snow had all gone and WHY was it not summer today then? Summer seems a long way off, but the daffodils are venturing up in my garden,I must go and see if the snowdrops are out yet? Lots of little finch type birds have been at the bird table to investigate if that pesky squirrel has left them any nuts!

Will be holding Jane in my thoughts this week, and sending you and Ann all the strength I can muster. Wishing you a peaceful Sunday

With love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxx


27 Jan 13 - 01:09 PM (#3472100)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I didn't have to wear my longjohns today, just in case anyone was wondering.


27 Jan 13 - 06:48 PM (#3472218)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Sadness tonight, softened by time and cherished memories on this 22nd anniversary of the passing of my older sister. Tomorrow, though, will joyfully celebrate the 60th journey of my younger sister around the sun.


27 Jan 13 - 06:52 PM (#3472221)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

"I didn't have to wear my longjohns today, just in case anyone was wondering."

And thankfully I didn't have to wear your longjohns either. Thanks, gnu.


27 Jan 13 - 07:31 PM (#3472233)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

9... that's what friends are for. We're all in this together... Red Green (Steve Smith.)

Keep yer stick on the ice, eh?


28 Jan 13 - 06:53 PM (#3472671)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Can't have this 'un droppin' off the screen!

Speaking of refresh, about your long johns, gnu....


28 Jan 13 - 07:46 PM (#3472692)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Well... longjohns are required for the -40WC we have had for a bit but we got 8C comin Wed and rain and 11C comin Thu! IT's JANUARY!??? This Global swarming is gettin weird.


28 Jan 13 - 09:10 PM (#3472729)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I've been thinking of Jane a lot today.


29 Jan 13 - 04:17 AM (#3472813)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Day 2 for Jane,
love and hugs Jane,Nigel and Ann

Wendy xxxxxxxxx


29 Jan 13 - 06:14 AM (#3472844)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Bruce & Gnu, thank you for lightening the mood. The humour was much needed & much appreciated. Laughter is in pretty short supply in the Paterson household at present.
       Yes, day two for Jane. Day one seems to have passed without anything unduly unpleasant occurring, so let's hope for more of the same today.
       Several of you have taken the trouble to PM me. I'm moved by the intimacy of your writings, encouraged by the wisdom of your words & overwhelmed by the depth of your compassion,
                  Stay Close,
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxx


29 Jan 13 - 10:24 AM (#3472952)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

With the time difference from here to there, Day 2's treatment may also be done. I hope it went as well as Day 1's.


29 Jan 13 - 04:40 PM (#3473196)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Fingers crossed.


29 Jan 13 - 07:53 PM (#3473295)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Still pulling at the oars along with the rest of the crew. Looking around and - Oh! Everybody, Look! Off to port! Dolphins playing along side. And do you notice the play of light from the sunbeams breaking through the patchy clouds?


30 Jan 13 - 11:14 AM (#3473506)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

sunbeams here too!
Ho hum, drove to hospital for Billy's consultant appointment and we were too early!! One week too early, and I thought mum had the memory problems?

Love the Dolphins,

Wendy xxxxxx


30 Jan 13 - 06:04 PM (#3473665)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

we were glad to take tommy from hospital on monday - although frustrated that the delay in getting the discharge bits meant driving home in the london rush hour.from there we went to evilena childrens hospice for further recouperation and training for us re new equipment.becky and i came home today while tommy continues his "holiday".he is pretty much back to his usual self now.thanks again for your interest and prayers.
while we were away i continued to remember in prayer,nigel,ann,and jane and everyone else.God bless    pete.


30 Jan 13 - 06:40 PM (#3473674)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Backatcha, Pete.


30 Jan 13 - 07:40 PM (#3473699)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Good news Pete,

with love
Wendy xxxx


30 Jan 13 - 09:15 PM (#3473732)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Wendy, I went to a doctor's appointment one month early! And I have my mammograms done annually in the same building. The doctor is a breast surgeon. I haven't needed surgery, but I have had a few questionable mammograms and needed stereotactic (needle) biopsies. Several months after my arriving one month early and returning on the correct date, I went in for another "routine" mammography. Instead, I went to the breast surgeon's office! I put it down to tension. Breast cancer killed my mom and some other family members.

Pete, I'm glad that Tommy is out of the hospital

I am continuing to think of Jane and hope her second and third days of treatment have not been too awful..


30 Jan 13 - 11:44 PM (#3473762)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

I am continuing to think of Jane and hope her second and third days of treatment have not been too awful..

what ShantyLass said,

sandra (who recently stopped just outside the physio's office to check her diary - I was a week early. I slunk away before they could see me)


31 Jan 13 - 11:13 AM (#3473870)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Days 1,2 & 3 of Jane's radiotherapy have gone as well as we could hope. It is distressing for her, but not painful. The process involves wearing a close-fitting mask so that the laser can be accurately targeted. Jane then has to be strapped down firmly so that no movement is possible. Mercifully, each session lasts for about ten minutes only. Whilst prone & immobile she visualises many of the beautiful places she has visited in the Middle East; our Dear Darling Daughter suffers from claustrophobia! The visualisation technique is the only way she can cope with this constrained form of treatment. It's good to see Jane eating more. Her oncologist has encouraged her to eat anything & everything she fancies; the more calories the better. The chemotherapy part of her treatment can't be restarted until she's regained as much of her weight loss as possible.
       Some lovely posts above...positive news about Tommy; Wendy, ChanteyLass & Sandra bringing us some smiles, despite the underlying seriousness of the situation & Janie with the dolphins, a visualisation for us all, to which I want to add: don't lose contact with your 'Inner Child'. The ability to play is just as vital in adulthood as it was in childhood. Swim after the dolphins & PLAY!
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx


31 Jan 13 - 06:28 PM (#3474074)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

My Dear Nigel,

The "inner child" here went out to play! I went to see Les Mis the film, with my daughter last night! Oh the joy of going to the "pictures" such Fun!! We got two for the price of one thanks to our mobile phones, and, because we had two scoops of icecream each and a fizzy drink, earnt so many points that we can get a free ticket next time( as long as it is on a Tuesday?)I have to say ,loving the stage musical so much, I went with an open mind to not compare! But I thought the film was wonderful and loved that it was filmed quite a lot in Greenwich at the Royal Naval College so near to where I spent my childhood.Got back home to find that Billy had a rather difficalt evening with mum, but they were watching a concert of Glen Campbell at the Festival Hall ( circa 1970 something) and ,bless him, Billy was delighted that Samantha and I had enjoyed our girls night out!

Hope Jane gets through Friday with her fantastic determination that she has shown throughout!Thinking of you all,as always,

Fondest love

Wendy xxxxxxxxx (still looking forward to tea at the beach hut in the spring)


31 Jan 13 - 07:46 PM (#3474116)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Speaking of dolphins and what lies below, a shorter version of this was on FB. THIS is the original, amazing footage with text commentary and a great message. The whole 8+ minutes are worth watching, but the close-up action starts about 4 minutes in. Perhaps a few minutes of respite for us all.

luvyakat


31 Jan 13 - 08:34 PM (#3474132)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Nigel, your family makes me happy to ever have come here. And all of you like myself are fortunate to be crewing here. My very best thoughts to all.

As for my situation...........

After several weeks of testing and transfusions I have been being treated for the past 5 weeks with weekly shots for Myeloplastic Dysplasia. Basically, the bone marrow isn't producing the required red blood cells. The drug, Aronesp, isn't working as much as we had hoped but it seems to have started to do a bit of something.   The Doc wasn't pleased however and we're upping the dose for a month and see how it goes. I hope the progress keeps up.

If not we will start on Vizada, a form of Chemo, which knocks out the nasties and allows the goodies......or something like that....LOL.....Anyway, the MPDS that I have can and probably will develop into Leukemia but of a type that doesn't respond well to treatment. The Vizada is about the only thing which has shown doing much both in terms of forestalling the onset of the Leukemia and improving to some degree the morbidity rates.

So we're going along for now and seeing what is working. Hopefully the Aranesp does better and we'll move on from there. Whatever it is and however it goes, we're taking it one step at a time.   Like Woody said, and I intend to take his advice, "Take it easy.....But take it." HEY! Matter of fact....Let's all do that.......

Take it easy...But take it.


Spaw


31 Jan 13 - 08:45 PM (#3474139)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Spaw, good luck with the increased dosage for your treatments.

Kat, nice video.

Wendy, I'm glad you enjoyed a night out.

Nigel, I was wondering if your daughter's treatments would involve restraints and a mask. I know someone else who has undergone similar treatments. I, too, have claustrophobia and would try to visualize something pleasant. I am so glad that she has only one day of this left.


31 Jan 13 - 09:08 PM (#3474152)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

I've got my fingers and eyes crossed in hopes of a good response for you, Pat. You still having to make that long drive to stay "in-network?" Orion is bright in the sky here tonight. Very clear sky, the atmosphere well-scoured by the high winds of the last couple of days. I think it may be snowing in your neck of the woods, but even if you can't see it, Orion will soon be directly overhead where you are also. My aim ain't that precise from such a distance, but I tried to concentrate on the triple star cluster, Rigel, it being the brightest and a triple and all, eh? May as well aim for the mostest. Anyways, while I've never figured out if Rigel marks Orion's left foot or the left corner of a bad hem job on his tunic, moonbeams and starlight channeling love and light to all, and tonight, especially to 'Spaw, Karen and the boys.

Good to hear from you, Nigel, and to hear that Jane is tolerating the radiation treatments. She is obviously determined and resilient. Probably like her loving parents. May she have and be able to execute wonderful food cravings!


31 Jan 13 - 10:22 PM (#3474183)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Thank you Janie and CL.....but Janie Bud, not to worry yet......LOL.....and I just realized I'm also DYSLEXIC!....LOL....The chemo drug is Vidaza not Vizada............


pSwA


31 Jan 13 - 10:27 PM (#3474187)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

go ahead - blame dyslexia on poor keyboard skills. See if I care!


31 Jan 13 - 11:01 PM (#3474200)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Gee... I just feel inadequate. I have no words for any of you except to say I like to hear good news and don't even wanna her anything BUT good news. But, that is life. Had a bunch of bad news today... but... that is life. Sometimes, that is all there is to say other than... I am still here and I am in for the long haul because there are no finer people I would want to row my oar beside. Thanks.

Time to thread a bit... rant... cajole... listen to music... and hope the f***** power doesn't go out again tonight! It's a tad windy here.

God bless youse... yer a good bunch.


01 Feb 13 - 05:50 AM (#3474293)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

As gnu alluded to, it is a very humbling experience to spend thread time with truly beautiful people. It speaks to a goodness found in the human character too often overlooked in our day to day lives. I think no one will visit this thread and remain untouched by the thoughts of others or the depth of compassions we may not have known we had within ourselves. It ain't quite a miracle on 34th Street but it's darned close.


01 Feb 13 - 10:22 AM (#3474414)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person

More good news: my friend Richard who I requested thoughts for a while back is out of hospital and recuperating. There's been a couple of minor hiccups (an infection and some nausea) but he's improving now.

Yesterday he got the test results on the tissue and its all clear, the surgeon removed the only tissue that was cancerous.

So thank you to you all for being so positive....it really does help.

And best wishes to all those still in the throes of surgery / radio / chemo.

Thanks

Paws


01 Feb 13 - 11:06 AM (#3474422)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

that's great news, Paws!!

Spawdarlin'...I told you you can quit being the evil twin, now! luvya


01 Feb 13 - 11:29 PM (#3474737)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Paws, your post about Richard makes me happy.


02 Feb 13 - 03:16 AM (#3474763)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Lovely to get some good news, thank you Paws,

Hoping all went well this week for Jane, Nigel

Wendy xxx


02 Feb 13 - 03:29 AM (#3474765)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Wonderful, Paws.


03 Feb 13 - 12:47 AM (#3475149)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

We're still waiting anxiously to hear from a few and especially how things have gone with Jane. I know I've been sending the best mojo I got everyday.

I have received a number of PM's regarding my situation and let me assure all of you that I'm doing fine with the whole thing and it just ain't time to worry yet. I'll let you know when and we can all worry really hard for about 15 minutes then and get it over with. Maybe we can schedule it.

Love you all and my love to all,


Spaw


03 Feb 13 - 01:47 AM (#3475156)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

The moon is rising.


03 Feb 13 - 03:56 AM (#3475160)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Apologies to you all, my Dear Friends. Depression has slowed me almost to a standstill. Spending far too much time sitting, staring into the middle distance, unable to do anything.
Kat, I haven't watched your video.....I will.
Spaw, I should've written immediately; you are in great need of support & I fell short of the mark.
The news about Richard is very good to read, thank you, Paws.
Jane has completed her five sessions of radiotherapy without undue distress. Followup consultation next week. She found the energy to make it to the kitchen on Friday & baked a cake. Her sense of achievement was palpable (and almost unbearably moving to witness).
                            With Love to You All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx


03 Feb 13 - 06:58 AM (#3475195)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel and Ann,

Thinking of you

xxxxxxxxxxxx

With love

Wendy


03 Feb 13 - 09:58 AM (#3475233)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

That is pretty fine news about Jane as things could have been infinitely tougher. And the fact she baked a cake? Yeah, I bet she felt good. You and Ann have a strong minded daughter Nigel. Good vibes still coming from Ohio.

And Nigel.....There is no mark to fall short of. You and this crew have proven your capacity to support and to care and to love. Never make your level of caring a goal when everyone knows how wonderful you've shown it to be.   Guilt is the one thing we will not allow aboard.

And that goes for the rest of you!!! Keep the voyage alive..........and this thread on the page....LOL


Spaw


03 Feb 13 - 11:48 AM (#3475290)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

I'm still here, heeding Spaw's call to make sure it stays on the page...


03 Feb 13 - 09:09 PM (#3475458)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Nigel, when you are ready to tell us more, we will be here to read it. Share in your own good time.


04 Feb 13 - 01:20 AM (#3475500)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Friends are here in the dark of night...depression can be a way to sort fears from reality. It's Janie's quote about the light that's visible because of the darkness. We must face it on our own, but we are not alone.

Whether we put the fears onto paper, play them on an instrument, or carve words to speak them, the agony of depression is at once anesthesia and exploration of What Is...yet is never All That Is.

The cold of tonight's winter wind brings fresh breath to stagnate lungs. Breathe in...out...in...out...


04 Feb 13 - 05:32 AM (#3475542)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

cool summer breezes here - from my fan!

but still thinking of everyone

love to all

sandra


04 Feb 13 - 09:16 AM (#3475615)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

me, too.

Maeve, that is beautiful, thanks for sharing it.


04 Feb 13 - 08:59 PM (#3475875)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

maeve, what you said is beautiful. More importantly though, it is very, very wise.

Love to all.


05 Feb 13 - 12:45 PM (#3476100)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

im sure we have all been in the place where it all seems just too much effort.glad janes treatment went quite well and that she even had enough energy to do the cake.sometimes the loved ones looking on and feeling helpless take it worse than the one directly afflicted.
yet the knowledge of such love will give encouragement to the sufferer.blessings   pete.


05 Feb 13 - 04:04 PM (#3476165)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Some beautiful & comforting posts here. Maeve, I read & re-read, as Janie described them, your:"...very, very wise" words. As a direct consequence, I am endeavouring to compose my way out of my depression. Today, I have roughly two minutes-worth of a new piece residing in my computer. I'm content with the results so far & my mood is lighter. Without all You Good Folks & my Music, I really would be adrift & rudderless,
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx


05 Feb 13 - 09:18 PM (#3476275)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

And we are still here and will be when you need us.


06 Feb 13 - 04:43 AM (#3476342)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Still here Nigel xxx

Sunny here in Frinton this morning, we are off to the hospital for the consultant appointment ( hopefully on the right day after last weeks arriving one week early) may throw my hat in first to see if it's thrown right back?

Many wise and wonderful people on this thread,

Love to you all

Wendy xxxxxxx


06 Feb 13 - 04:08 PM (#3476499)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i hope it was a positive,encouraging appointment wendy
.pete


06 Feb 13 - 05:25 PM (#3476522)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Hi Pete,

thank you, yes some positive thoughts, the Leuchemia count is down from 200 to 2.5!! But the other blood counts have not come back up, probably because of the chemotherapy, but not so low that Billy needs a blood transfusion. Bone marrow biopsy on March 4th and CT scan, then another big follow up appointment two weeks later to see how Billy has done on the trial so fingers crossed for a while!

Hope Tommy is still doing well?

Still here thinking of Jane and her lovely parents

with love

Wendy xxxxx


06 Feb 13 - 07:20 PM (#3476557)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

I'm checking in, spending less time in front of the screen these days and more time teaching, reading, being with family. My heart is with all here who are waiting for the dark times to end.


06 Feb 13 - 07:22 PM (#3476558)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Good job billy and of course Wendy too. Keep it up and so will we. The news across the boaard here isn't too terrible right now but we're all goin' to keep keep this boat moving forward.....making waves!

Okay......Got a request.......

I went in for my weekly Aronesp shot and after increasing the dosage last week, this week I have continued to improve. We were at Connie and Wayne's on Sunday and I did pretty fair.....at least a good bit better than I had been and I had already gone past my record for being without a transfusion.   Today I feeel better that I have in months and was figuring thqat maybe I had picked up as we'd been hoping and would be on my way to avoiding the Vidaza.

My hemoglobin DROPPED a tenth.......I was dissappointed to say the least.   And yet, as we left I walked at a reasonble clip to the car with Karen.....she has been coming around and picking me up. AND all the way to the car I am talking and jumping around the ice patches. I haven't felt this good in months and yet the damn Hemoglobin went down. DAMMIT!   We stopped at our favorite Thai restaurant that we used to stop at every month but haven't been there in 3 or 4 even though we've been to Columbus weekly.....and we enjoyed the meal!!!! I'm telling you it was a damn good day and a way above the norm week.   Dropped a damn tenth...........

Okay....I may not be thinking the thing hard enough SO.................

This week when you think of this thread even though you may not be posting at the time....let's say it just crosses your mind.......Think "UP SPAW." That's it......just think "UP SPAW" whenever.............okay. You can do whatever other things we all do differently and personally in our prayers or Mojo or best thoughts or whatever ta' hell VooDoo You Do or I Do.........But also think "UP SPAW."

Now I'm prepared for the possibility this may not not work but let's give the Aronesp an assist the next 7 days. Hey......who knows? Can't hurt.


Spaw.....as in "UP SPAW"


06 Feb 13 - 07:32 PM (#3476561)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

"UP SPAW"...of course. Similar felicitous thoughts are rolling for each one here.


06 Feb 13 - 08:05 PM (#3476568)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Way-hey, UP SPAW rises!

I had some good news at the kidney doc's today. All numbers are normal for me, but creatinine went up. Good news, it's probably due to low BP, so i get to reduce another med. Really relieved.

love to you all


07 Feb 13 - 06:52 AM (#3476682)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Great to hear good news.

UP yours SPAW!


07 Feb 13 - 09:00 AM (#3476737)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

UP SPAW!


07 Feb 13 - 11:29 AM (#3476791)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp

Nigel - you're not alone.

You know that everyone here one is willing you and your family to bear this awful load.

You have the strength of us all.


07 Feb 13 - 09:33 PM (#3476914)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

It's always a pleasure to read good news from some of you.

In addition, UP, SPAW!


07 Feb 13 - 10:39 PM (#3476933)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Ditto!!!


07 Feb 13 - 11:54 PM (#3476947)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

When I say "UP SPAW" it reminds me of a German wedding I was at. They spent the night with a polka party at the grange. i heard a lot of "Oop-pah" or something similar. Quite an image...Spaw swinging round at a polka dance!*bg* UpSpaw! May it be so!

We've had an air inversion cross the valley, so very washed out gloomy skies until today. Big, warm, beautiful Rocky mtn. sun. I could just *see* it shining on all those in need. Wishing you all the best.

In the meantime, whether you agree with Tibetan Buddhist practices or not, here is a favourite HEALING MANTRA with beautiful images, text, and music. I find it very calming.

luvyakat


08 Feb 13 - 07:06 AM (#3477040)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

we all doing our best to SPAW UP the drop
tommy doing well,thankyou for asking wendy.becky has been dozing in his room as he needs more checking for his breathing on the new equipment.she thinks i might not wake up if i do it!.are you still up at night with your mum?.
blessings pete.


08 Feb 13 - 07:22 AM (#3477045)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Glad Tommy is doing well Pete,bless Becky ,I know the feeling! I have turned the " baby" alarm off for the last two nights as mum is able to walk out to the bathroom safely in the night now so I am sleeping better at last!However last Friday woke up in the early morning and heard a high pitched whistle that sounded like the fridge door was left open so I assumed mum was up and about in the kitchen( not very safe) so jumped out of bed and ran downstairs to find mum fast asleep, no one in kitchen but the dustcart was reversing down our lane and that was the noise!!Those baby alarms work a little too well!

SPAW UP you go

with love to all

Wendy xxxxxx


08 Feb 13 - 10:11 AM (#3477137)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Thanks for all the UPS!!!

So good to keep hearing of progress for so many. Pete brings up a point that we often need to remind ourselves about......Caregivers are in need of a some backup too. Many here are Caregivers and I suppose you could argue that this group is here to help in that support function. But I think we need to throw out some good vibes, prayers, Mojo, or VooDoo, to them.

Personally, I am sorta' in awe of how they do what what they do without completely freaking out and wearing out. I know what Karen often goes through with me and reading above about Becky and Pete and Wendy just triggered the suggestion in my lame brain that we all need a rousing "GO TEAM" sent out to all of them be they parents, sisters and brothers, ........To ALL of those who are weary to the bone yet we stupidly call them tireless because that is what they seem...........To everyone from the Nigel and Ann to all who have told of loved ones they have cared for...........

THANK YOU
GO TEAM


Spaw


08 Feb 13 - 11:10 AM (#3477164)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Good point Spaw. I am in awe of my Rog and how he takes care of me, goes to work, and a myriad of other things. Since last summer, he's had to take on a lot more in caretaking me. I am grateful, but worry about the stress on him.


09 Feb 13 - 04:03 AM (#3477424)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Up Spaw, up Spaw, the only way is up.
Up Spaw, up Spaw & down another cup.
Down another cup my boy & down it to the dregs,
Then sleep it off upon your bunk & dream of grog filled kegs!

       With Much Love & Healing Thoughts,
                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx


09 Feb 13 - 06:25 AM (#3477455)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Up Spaw, up Spaw & raise another glass.
Up Spaw, up Spaw, you've fallen on your arse!
The grog has proved too strong my boy & gone straight to your head
So get ye down below the decks & get ye straight to bed!

       Love & Hugs,
                           Nigel & Ann.
                           xxxxxxxxxx


09 Feb 13 - 07:33 AM (#3477474)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

very poetical, Nigel!

sending good wishes to the sick & their caregivers

sandra


09 Feb 13 - 08:23 AM (#3477485)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

UP SPAW!
With my spotty rural internet it's been hard to load this thread very often, but somehow today, even with Nemo blasting through, 8'm able to be here (UP SPAW)!

I know I'm blessed with good health and healthy family, so I am more than willing to put my energy towards all of you in need of it (UP SPAW).

So, here's to the healing, the ailing, and the caregivers: GO, TEAM!



UP, SPAW!


09 Feb 13 - 09:08 AM (#3477496)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Just checking in to wish everyone well.


09 Feb 13 - 01:17 PM (#3477593)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Well if all this doesn't do it, especially with the additions from Nigel so musically spoken, then I'll just have to figure this is the wrong medicine or I need an additional one!

Thanks for all the UPS!!! LOL.....Surprised I can type being that grogged UP..........



Spaw


09 Feb 13 - 08:14 PM (#3477720)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Yer on the grog? I'll raise a jar wit ye. Here's to you and here's to me and if we chance to disagree... you know the rest.

Take care of youse and yours.

Bless all.


09 Feb 13 - 08:30 PM (#3477724)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

UP SPAW and at 'em! and UPS to everybody here along with the usual and sincerest repetitions of love, hope and hugs and you're never far from thoughts all of the time xxrum


10 Feb 13 - 05:10 AM (#3477788)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

It would be good to hear from all those Crew Members in America & Canada who have been deluged by the snow storm. Assuming you have power & your internet is up, a quick check in just so's we know you're ok. If you know of anyone who is cut off, no power etc, etc & can't check in, let us know too, then we can paint a rainbow around them, keep them safe & warm & maybe, who knows, perhaps the snow will melt a little faster.
                              With Love,
                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

PS Up Spaw & at 'em, but stay away from the grog!


10 Feb 13 - 05:33 AM (#3477791)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Still having light fluffies here. Approx 40cm but the wind was 60 to 90kph so we had some drifting. Didn't lose power. Cleanup begins in about 3 cups of tea.


10 Feb 13 - 05:34 AM (#3477792)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Hey, Nigel. We had a foot of the white stuff for the third or fourth time in a month and are eagerly anticipating the onset of winter.

Summer scene in southern Quebec.


10 Feb 13 - 05:40 AM (#3477794)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

This is what happened the last time gnu had three cups of tea.


10 Feb 13 - 07:04 AM (#3477822)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Hahahahahaaa!

Tandem shovelling. Been there, hated it.


10 Feb 13 - 08:32 AM (#3477847)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

did you say summer scene bruce!


10 Feb 13 - 08:52 AM (#3477853)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Good morning all and UPSPAW!


10 Feb 13 - 11:11 AM (#3477898)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Hey, Pete. Howzit? Just fooling around with the summer scene remark. Gnu would understand because that's often what people think the country is like year 'round. We had a wee bit of snow--a half meter in places. Nothing major. At least nothing to prevent people getting out and about.

Good 'seeing' you.


10 Feb 13 - 12:01 PM (#3477912)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

I could tell that last photo was a fake; if gnu had peed that hole in the snow, the snow around it would have been yellow.


10 Feb 13 - 12:35 PM (#3477924)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

good thoughts needed for one of my best friends, had some chemotherapy recently for some months, now having stem cells taken tomorrow, he is a very well known folk musician in the UK , but would not like me to mention his name. But mudcat mojo is going to help I know. Pete, I think you may know who he is so pm me and I will give you more information.


10 Feb 13 - 08:17 PM (#3478065)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Good thoughts on their way to your anonymous friend, billybob.

Nigel, there is a thread about the recent storm In the US and Canada here. thread.cfm?threadid=149449&messages=108 In the US, Connecticut may have got the worst of it.


10 Feb 13 - 08:42 PM (#3478080)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

billybob best friend - best wishes... T&Ps.


10 Feb 13 - 08:55 PM (#3478084)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Hello, all. Here in New Hampshire it was just a blizzard out of the good old days. We didn't even lose power! Alouette and I and a few of our friends attended the village church service this morning, at the request of a dear woman celebrating her 90 th birthday today. All she wanted for her birthday was for the five of us to sing a sweet song we do called "Here in this place" by Peter Fischmann, about the beauty of rural New England in February. The chorus goes:

Here in this place, I have all I ever wanted.
Here in this place, I have everything I need.
I have love, I have beauty, I have grace,
Here in this place.

I am grateful that I can sing this song with a full heart- every word is true. May it be true for us all.


10 Feb 13 - 10:11 PM (#3478101)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Thank you so much, Allison.


11 Feb 13 - 07:00 AM (#3478221)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

hi bruce-we went to the toronto area some years ago [i know its a long way from you] and the first day there i went for a cycle along the lake.it was very refreshing but perishing cold,even without snow.

hi wendy-is this folkie a regular at footscray or kemsing sessions?
apart from those i mostly do open mics.i dont know how to do a pm but maybe if he wanted me to know he will mention it.
posted with a prayer-God knows who he is.
blessings    pete.


11 Feb 13 - 07:36 AM (#3478230)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

I too lived in Toronto for a year in 1980, we were on St Clair, loved the city in winter, a different cold to the UK!I remember taking the children to see Niagera falls when it was frozen very beautiful!

Pete my friend is very well known in Kent, thank you for your prayer!
Now we have heard that my brother in law in New Jersey has had a heart attack. What is going on ? Is it because the year has a 13 in it?

Sailing on with love to all aboard,

Wendy xxxxx


11 Feb 13 - 07:42 AM (#3478233)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

adding my good wishes to the UK folkie - & everyone!

sandra

Pete, you need to be a member to send a Personal Message. If you want to join Mudcat, send an email to joe.offer@mudcat.org & he will join you up.

To send a PM you either click on the little blue PM in the From: line or go to your personal page & search for the member's name.


11 Feb 13 - 07:38 PM (#3478449)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Wendy, I hope your brother-in-law recovers quickly and fully.


12 Feb 13 - 08:04 PM (#3478849)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Rise Up Thread!


13 Feb 13 - 04:37 AM (#3478921)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I guess I've been taking a bit of a back seat over the past few days...been concentrating on composing. Apart from the fact that it's something I enjoy immensely, the 'creative process' has helped lift the severe depressive episodes I have been experiencing over the last month or so. What is also pleasing is to read your posts, safe in the knowledge that our Thread is in good hands.
       So we have information about the snow storm in America & Canada; beautiful words from a beautiful song (would it be considered a hymn?)...more folks in need of our thoughts & prayers...interesting personal anecdotes & a cheery sprinkling of humour. Nourishment for the Heart & Mind.
       Jane is 'between treatments'. She has finished with the radiotherapy, but can't resume chemo for another couple of weeks. She remains cheerful, but needs plenty of timeouts to rest. Jane is trying to set herself one, achievable task, job, a pleasurable, personal moment. One special thing for each day. So far, she has not missed a day. She is a wiz in the kitchen, so that's where she often ends up, but what the hell, her sense of satisfaction & achievement is worth it's weight in gold. Jane has even gone out of her way to make (and buy) diabetic friendly food, just for me. With everything she has on her mind, she still makes time for others. I love her so much.
      Keep warm, stay safe,
                                       With Love,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx


13 Feb 13 - 11:44 AM (#3479063)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Who wouldn't?


13 Feb 13 - 12:42 PM (#3479104)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

lovely to read of janes positive and thoughtful spirit and enjoyment of accomplishment in the kitchen when she might justifyably not have found the energy.good too,nigel ,to see that your music construction is countering the depression.
continueing to wish the best to the well known folkie and to wendys brother in law.[i,m sure the 13th is incidental!]


13 Feb 13 - 03:58 PM (#3479196)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Something else that has spoken to me for several years now . David Tamulevich, on the right, wrote it; they're in our area, and we get to see them fairly often


13 Feb 13 - 05:56 PM (#3479245)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Let me report that the UP campaign has met with moderate success!!! I was overjoyed to find that I maintained the same number from last week. When you have been going down pretty regularly that's damn good. We'll see where we are next week and continue on from there. Throw in the occasional UP thought if you get a chance and I thank you for all the ones given last week that seemed to help!!!

Nigel, tell Jane I know something of what she feels.   I love to cook and those times over the past years when things have been bad, I never felt right or myself again until I was cooking. It brings on the feeling of normalcy and usefulness like nothing else for me. Everyone has something different I suppose but I can really identify with Jane in the kitchen.   

Sending a giant cast iron soup kettle of great thoughts Jane's way today!


Spaw


13 Feb 13 - 06:10 PM (#3479255)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

UP HIGHER, SPAW!
Frogprince, that's one of my favorite songs by Mustard's Retreat.
Nigel, I think Jane's plan to do one special thing each day is wise. And as she moves around her kitchen, she might gradually rebuild some strength.


13 Feb 13 - 06:41 PM (#3479268)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

"It brings on the feeling of normalcy and usefulness like nothing else for me."... cool. I can relate to that, Spaw.

Wire brush sideways.


13 Feb 13 - 09:41 PM (#3479361)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

My heart feels warmed by all of you.


14 Feb 13 - 07:39 AM (#3479493)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Note to self ........ when mother sits down make sure her glasses are on her nose and not beneath her derriere!!

whoot,
rowing on......

Wendy xxxxxx


14 Feb 13 - 09:33 PM (#3479826)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Ah Wendy, a good sense of humor is a precious gift to remember we have on occasion, eh?


14 Feb 13 - 10:01 PM (#3479834)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Well. Billybod,


there are advantages to hindsight....


15 Feb 13 - 07:23 PM (#3480191)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Up Spaw, Jane, billybob, tommy, et. al.!


15 Feb 13 - 09:13 PM (#3480210)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I heard a song on the TV program, "Judging Amy," many years ago that just struck me hard with a combination of tune and lyrics. I like the writer, Peter Himmelman, who did all the music for the show. It took him years to record it and it finally hit YouTube.

The song's name is "The Best Kind of Answer." Why am I posting this stuff here? Because there is something in the lyric that speaks to me about the transcendency of real love......that love is all powerful and can heal our pain and transcend words. This isn't to say I don't like to say the word. On the contrary! But it's like knowing that people in this group love each other and their families.
The kind of love that you know is there when you just look into the eyes of someone. Nigel and Ann......Is there any doubt that Jane knows how much you care just by looking at the two of you? Wendy? Know what I mean? I know Janie does.....and Maeve though none of us have met.

The song says the best kind of love can wash away pain, and the best kind of answer has no sound.   I believe that......I really do. Enjoy.

The Best Kind of Answer


Spaw


16 Feb 13 - 12:29 AM (#3480248)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

By the time I heard that chorus a couple of times, I was picturing a number of good moments in my life that had little or nothing to do with words.

May the whole "crew" have a night of quiet rest; then UP ye all.: )


16 Feb 13 - 03:08 AM (#3480264)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Just checking in to let you all know that Ann & I are ok, but we're becoming increasingly concerned about Jane. The cancer has made her bones so brittle that she may well have broken her hip. She's been back in hospital this week. I'll know more after the weekend. Ann's been with her all week, I've been at home because of my own appointments. There is a building momentum with Jane's state of health of a kind that is starting to make us deeply anxious. Methinks that spot on the horizon is closer than we thought.
             With Love to You All,
                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                             xxxxxxxxxx


16 Feb 13 - 04:56 AM (#3480275)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel and Ann,

just sending " the best kind of love"

xxxxxxx

Wendy


16 Feb 13 - 07:16 AM (#3480311)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Oh dear. My thoughts & prayers continue.


16 Feb 13 - 09:02 AM (#3480338)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

More from Staffs as well.


16 Feb 13 - 09:10 AM (#3480339)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Best love and good thoughts as time inevitably passes.........Holding you tight.


Spaw


16 Feb 13 - 10:32 AM (#3480361)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Sending "Courage" "Courage" by Cindy Kallet & Grey Larsen- lyrics here.

"Going Away"- Utah Phillips- Sung by friends
Maeve

PS- Thanks, Pat.


16 Feb 13 - 02:36 PM (#3480445)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

thoughts and prayers- nigel,ann,jane in these hard times.

lovely songs maeve and poetic expression.
blessings    pete.


16 Feb 13 - 06:14 PM (#3480521)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Keeping you in my thoughts, Nigel.


16 Feb 13 - 06:59 PM (#3480536)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Yes, we'll land on the shore/yes we'll land on the shore/yes we'll land on the shore/and be safe forever more

Holding you all in the light and giving thanks for ease and comfort through the rocky shoals.

much love,

kat


16 Feb 13 - 08:21 PM (#3480547)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

Love, hope, hugs all positive, upward and safely anchored. Holding fast.
rum


16 Feb 13 - 09:02 PM (#3480561)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Like so many others, I'm sending love. I am sorry the seas have turned so stormy.


16 Feb 13 - 11:58 PM (#3480587)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

I should have included a link...there is a sample of "Sisters now our meeting is over" as sung by Libana. Of course one can replace "sister" with whomever. It's a beautiful song.

CLICK, choose the cd entitled A Circle Is Cast, then scroll down to the last song.

Much love,

kat


17 Feb 13 - 07:36 AM (#3480651)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Tried to write something cogent this morning, there are so many wonderful posts, full of love, compassion & music...my tears got in the way. So moved by the presence of all You Good People & so horrified & scared by what Jane showed me yesterday. She has a tumour the shape of a small American football on her right hip. It was all I could do to stop myself from exclaiming out loud. I settled for a muted OMG. X-ray, scan results tomorrow, but she has received no chemotherapy since December because of her weight loss & the administration of steroids. Ann & I are haunted by the thought of what further damage the unchecked cancer could be perpetrating. The hip tumour may well be partial evidence; who knows? What to do, what to do?
                With Love to You All,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx


17 Feb 13 - 08:24 AM (#3480660)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel and Ann,

just sending love and hugs,hope you both have a peaceful Sunday, be kind to yourselves today to give you strength for whatever tomorrow brings.

always in my prayers and thoughts

Wendy xxxxxxx


17 Feb 13 - 08:30 AM (#3480664)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Dear Nigel- I'm so sorry. I offer the following:

"Bear where thou goest the word of love
Say all that words can say
Changeless affections strength to prove
But speed upon the way"

"Row On"
Listen here...


Maeve


17 Feb 13 - 11:53 AM (#3480712)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

Breathe love in. Breathe love out.


17 Feb 13 - 07:52 PM (#3480849)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

That 11:53am post was me, on Mom's computer up in West Virginia. Home now and logged in, and still sending light and love.


17 Feb 13 - 08:21 PM (#3480860)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Nigel. I recently went thru such trauma. Not with someone so close as you are experiencing so I can't imagine your despair. The only words I can offer are these. Love her. Accept the future now, all the while hoping for a miracle, as we must. Talk with her of good things of the past, whatever those could be (only you can know of them) and how they matter to you and to those she loves. Most importantly, reinforce the good things of the past to provide the solace of knowing it was ALL worthwhile... EVERY minute of it.

I'll stop there. I am no priest and I certainly ain't no saint. Just an ordinary guy who wishes he could shoulder some of your burden and knows he can't.

I ain't religious much at all needer, but... God Bless.


17 Feb 13 - 08:33 PM (#3480868)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

gnu, not everyone with religious credentials has what it takes to give counsel like that.


18 Feb 13 - 06:05 AM (#3480968)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Geeziz.....That's unbelievably great coming from a gnu. Maybe we need to consult with a yak and a warthog as well and forget about the religious leaders.........

Nigel, I'd say I can only stand behind gnu...............Then again maybe not literally as that could be bad...........Damn good advice though.


Spaw


18 Feb 13 - 06:15 AM (#3480973)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Ya had me scared fer a minute there, Spaw. Side by side? Great. Shoulder to shoulder? Fer sure. But I'd be straight up nervous if ya ever got my behind... er... got behind me.

Freudian slap?


18 Feb 13 - 07:53 AM (#3481005)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

sending more love

sandra


18 Feb 13 - 10:43 AM (#3481052)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Therein beats the heart of a poet. Beautifully said, gnu.


18 Feb 13 - 11:08 AM (#3481059)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

I'll second that.


18 Feb 13 - 02:46 PM (#3481123)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

well i reckon i will third it.
even as a practising christian i still feel inadequate in the face of suffering.i know the theology of how it came about but i know that that usually dont make it better.
another "God bless" wished on the paterson family.,,,pete


18 Feb 13 - 04:07 PM (#3481158)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I am sending love again, too. There are so many caring thoughts on this thread.


19 Feb 13 - 12:10 AM (#3481295)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Such a wild roller coaster ride. It is one thing to know you or a dearly beloved is bound to die much sooner rather than much later. But there is no way to know, with cancer, just how near or how far away the crossing of the bar may be. Relish each day, embracing both the joy of the present and the love you share, and the fear and anticipatory grief, but live in the present. Let Jane lead the way and set the tone. Reminisce? Yes. Look to the future and what it may hold? Yes. Live in the precious present? Always. Let the present be exquisitely sweet.


20 Feb 13 - 09:17 AM (#3481619)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

nothing to add but checking in again with thoughts and prayers   pete.


20 Feb 13 - 09:19 AM (#3481621)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

me, too


20 Feb 13 - 10:15 AM (#3481639)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill

Nigel, what can I say except that you are such a loving father and that will mean so much to her.

..and in the meantime..

x freda


20 Feb 13 - 01:17 PM (#3481700)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Still here,

as you said so well Freda

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxx


20 Feb 13 - 03:11 PM (#3481729)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd

Nigel, I do so wish I could say something profound right now but please accept my very best thoughts and wishes as always.
Charlie


20 Feb 13 - 07:59 PM (#3481830)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm still here too (though I wasn't last night when Mudcat was offline, but I still thought of you, your family, and many others).


20 Feb 13 - 09:43 PM (#3481864)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I've maintained the same Hemoglobin level now for 5 weeks which means the Aronesp is at least working but not enough to forestall the chemo crap. Y'all have done a great job as I had been been losing weekly and being transfused every 2-3 weeks....AND I THANK YOU!!

Otherwise I can only echo the wise woman from the mountains who said above so beautifically......Live in the precious present? Always. Let the present be exquisitely sweet.

Nigel and Ann.......We're always here living the present and sending our love and hope for all of you to be doing the same.


Spaw


20 Feb 13 - 10:03 PM (#3481867)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Up Spaw!


21 Feb 13 - 03:41 AM (#3481902)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

I'll second that & add a hug.


21 Feb 13 - 05:48 PM (#3482200)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

WAY UP, SPAW, again. I'm glad we've helped, but I hope we can do more.


22 Feb 13 - 08:03 AM (#3482400)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Morning cheer to all friends here.


22 Feb 13 - 08:47 AM (#3482423)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Nigel, wazzup buddy?


22 Feb 13 - 10:27 AM (#3482461)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Been 5 days now since Nigel posted...


22 Feb 13 - 01:47 PM (#3482533)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Sending love and thoughts Nigel

Wendy xxxxxxxx


22 Feb 13 - 02:05 PM (#3482539)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

5 days. Yeah. Every day gets a little more anxious, don't it? I am hoping Nigel just needs a break.

Spaw's gonna need a flashlight and a map soon.


22 Feb 13 - 02:55 PM (#3482554)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

whenever you do check in nigel you will know that friends have thought about you and yours and have prayed.God bless   pete.


22 Feb 13 - 03:09 PM (#3482559)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Exactly right Pete.........The important thing is that we do keep sending our best thoughts to Nigel and Ann because they will be needing to know we are always here............and we are.

Love and Hope


Spaw


22 Feb 13 - 03:29 PM (#3482567)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Always following, and ever mindful. Hoping for at least peace and comfort for these good people.


22 Feb 13 - 08:30 PM (#3482685)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I'm still here too with the rest of you.I can wait. I can be patient. I can also keep sending good thoughts, prayers, and love.


22 Feb 13 - 10:30 PM (#3482720)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Sometimes the wind fails or fades. We are all pulling at the oars now, Nigel and Ann, keeping a steady course, and here as wanted or needed.


23 Feb 13 - 04:29 AM (#3482768)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I'm so sorry to add to your collective anxieties by not posting. 17th Feb. does seem a long, long way back. Reading through your posts since then, there is so much I want to comment on, so much thanks due.News, beautiful, compassionate outpourings; simple, sincere support; links to Music; the list seems almost endless. I've always wanted to & tried to respond to you individually, within each post. It would be more manageable for me to take an 'all embracing' approach, rather than individualising. Life being what it is, there will always be exceptions to this. What energy I have is divided up between Jane, my Marriage with Ann, Our Thread, mine & Ann's personal health issues & my Music. That 'energy supply' seems to be depleting in proportion to the rate of deterioration in Jane's health, so keeping on top of everything gets just that little bit harder, day by day, week by week.
       In the last week, further complications have come to light regarding Jane's health. I can't write about them publicly, but suffice to say, I have nothing good or positive to report.
       I want you to know that my love for all of you grows deeper as each day passes.
       I want you to know that my gratitude knows no bounds.
       I want you to know that without Our Thread, life, with all it's current awfulness, would be an unbearable nightmare.
       I want you to know that you have made a difference to my life, to Ann's life & through us, to Jane's life.
                         With Much Love to You All,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann.
                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx


23 Feb 13 - 05:36 AM (#3482780)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Nigel, you and Ann are stuck with us whether you use your precious store of energy to post or not. Row on!

Maeve


23 Feb 13 - 05:52 AM (#3482782)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

YEAH! What maeve said.


23 Feb 13 - 07:25 AM (#3482807)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Nigel, you and your family have been in my heart and my thoughts on a daily basis even when I have not been on line. At present I am traveling, visiting friends and performing in Brasstown, North Carolina. But you and I and all of us here are linked together, whether or not we are posting. One thing I learned, right here on Mudcat during my own bereavement:
LOVE NEVER DIES.

So, UP SPAW AND ALL Y'ALL.


23 Feb 13 - 09:01 AM (#3482853)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love to all


23 Feb 13 - 11:04 AM (#3482887)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

One day at time, Nigel. Don't neglect yourselves either.

Keep it UP Spaw!


23 Feb 13 - 11:32 AM (#3482898)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

As Maeve and others have said, we're thinking of y'all whether or not you are able to post. Part of friendship is understanding.


23 Feb 13 - 05:17 PM (#3483020)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

What the others have said!


24 Feb 13 - 04:38 PM (#3483350)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

we all continue endeavouring to take some of the strain as you face stormy weather nigel,and friendship makes no demands on anothers time and energy,so dont be under pressure to post.catch up and find encouragement here when you can.
blessings pete.


24 Feb 13 - 04:52 PM (#3483351)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Beautifully said, Pete.


24 Feb 13 - 05:14 PM (#3483360)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

I'll 3rd Pete's remark!


24 Feb 13 - 09:29 PM (#3483416)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

The moon is a tiny fraction from full here tonight. Clear skies, and the temps very mild. A good night to send caring thoughts on moonbeams from this little plot of earth.


25 Feb 13 - 05:21 AM (#3483472)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Two moments of lightness & brightness. Last week we took our two Granddaughters to see the stage show of 'Mamma Mia'. They are NOT 'Abba generation' kids by any stretch of the imagination, but they absolutely loved it. This gives me the opportunity to 'come out'...I love the Music of Abba too; there, I've said it! I realise that some of you may be shocked to read this admission, but it is my considered opinion that Björn & Benny have written some of the finest popular songs of last few decades, bar none.
          Our second 'moment' was the arrival of Jane's younger sister, all the way from Charlotte NC. She brings laughter & sunshine with her, wherever she goes. She has to fly home on Tuesday, but the few days she has spent with us have been a real tonic.
         Tomorrow, Tuesday, Jane has a 'key' consultation with her oncologist. Be with us on Tuesday, please,
          With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx


25 Feb 13 - 05:37 AM (#3483474)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Dear Nigel,

How lovely to read your last post,just proves that music lifts our spirits in a wonderful way and to share ABBA with the grandchildren is great, our grandchildren have been singing along to the DVD of the film since they were tiny and ,yes, I sing along too!

We had "a moment" on Saturday, as you know we are not able to go out often as we look after mum and, all last year avoided crowds because of Billy's chemotherapy. But we went to see Patricia Routledge and Piers Lane in " Admission one shilling" the story of Dame Myra Hess and the war time concerts in The National Gallery. It was a lovely evening.My son is the Theatre Manager ,St Georges in Great Yarmouth, a beautifully restored Wren Chapel now a Theatre and Arts Centre, so we shared the evening with seeing him.

So glad your other daughter is here,enjoy the rest of her visit.
Will think of Jane tomorrow as always,

much love

Wendy xxxxx


25 Feb 13 - 05:59 AM (#3483480)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Good on yas.

Nigel... here every day I can be. If I don't get to read up, I still think about yas. Even Spaw.


25 Feb 13 - 10:09 AM (#3483540)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

I'm with you there, Nigel, I like Abba's music as well!


25 Feb 13 - 11:30 AM (#3483564)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

I'm with you and Pete, Nigel. This oughta bring a few thoughts and maybe a few tears. Easy song to share: The Way Old Friends Do .


25 Feb 13 - 03:24 PM (#3483624)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I liked Abba's music and it's far reaching appreciation is clearly evident. Don't care for it as much these days but I can still tap my foot to some tunes if that's what's the best choice is.

I like any kind of music that I like and dislike anyone who judges me upon what I like... >;-)


25 Feb 13 - 08:12 PM (#3483706)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

fun days & lovely memories, Nigel

sandra


25 Feb 13 - 08:23 PM (#3483710)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

i,m no abba fan bruce,but that was a lovely song.
thinking of you nigel for later today.    pete.


25 Feb 13 - 11:31 PM (#3483748)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I enjoy ABBA's music, too. I wouldn't spend money to hear it but I smile, tap my foot, and hum along when it's on a radio, and I borrowed the Mamma Mia DVD from the library.

I'm glad you have had some lighter moments. You, too, Wendy.

I plan to be here tomorrow, though probably not until quite late. And one reason I'm so late tonight is that I had trouble connecting to the Internet tonight. I hope that doesn't happen again. I don't know what caused the problem, but I jiggled some cords and clicked some switches and everything's working at this moment. Anyway, I hope the angels hold Jane's hand during tomorrow's consultation.


26 Feb 13 - 04:27 AM (#3483808)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,Ann and Jane,

thinking good thoughts for you all today,

much love

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx


26 Feb 13 - 06:44 AM (#3483851)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Nigel, you had far better things on hand with your other daughter bringing her obvious lightness............We're all just a cheering section!

But we cheer pretty loud sometimes and I want to thank all those who do!

Wendy......What a fine time!


Spaw


26 Feb 13 - 01:31 PM (#3483952)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I received a beautiful email recently, the subject of which was: "How be Ye?" I couldn't get those three words out of my head. I felt compelled to write the following:


How be Ye, this cold & frosty morn?

How be Ye? Time has passed since thee was born.

How be Ye? My trusted, dearest Friend.

How be Ye? When 'End' doth mean: 'The end'.

How be Ye? When the laughter turns to tears.

How be Ye? When days are left & no more years.

How be Ye? As the sun begins to set.

How be Ye? Must remember, can't forget.

How be Ye? As the vigil takes it's toll,

How be Ye? Sick at heart, bereft of soul?

How be Ye? As the darkness gathers in.

How be Ye? A fight that's lost, not one to win.

How be Ye? When the time to go arrives.

How be Ye? 'Twill be our Love that us survives.

                   With Love to You All,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx


26 Feb 13 - 02:02 PM (#3483965)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Nigel, I am without words to say what I want to say about that wonderful piece of work...........Geeziz......that's beautiful........


Spaw


26 Feb 13 - 02:14 PM (#3483968)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Beautiful indeed, Nigel.


26 Feb 13 - 02:49 PM (#3483976)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,

So beautiful

Wendy xxxxxxx


26 Feb 13 - 04:10 PM (#3484002)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Ditto... ditto... ditto... I am speechless, Nigel.

No... wait... I don't know if this makes sense. This is the first time I read something like that which is so beautiful, I knew I was going to cry but I didn't. Damn close but then a calmness came over me.


26 Feb 13 - 04:49 PM (#3484015)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Just beautiful, Nigel.
Love flowing.


26 Feb 13 - 06:24 PM (#3484041)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Just now reading your poem, Nigel.

I am crying, it resonates so much. Seeing rainbows through the tears when I look off over the waters to the west.


26 Feb 13 - 06:27 PM (#3484042)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

Nigel, that cuts all the way to the core; it's at once so beautifully, and so frankly, expressive.


26 Feb 13 - 09:23 PM (#3484089)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Beautiful indeed. And remember, we'll be here no matter what and no matter how long you need us.

(Unless my Internet connection dies. I had trouble again tonight. But even if it does, I'll still be thinking of all of you.)


27 Feb 13 - 11:00 AM (#3484294)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Deeply moving words, Nigel.

More good thoughts coming South.

Pete


27 Feb 13 - 12:50 PM (#3484345)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

you wrote that nigel? i seem to remember ,or am i mistaken,that you had said you were not gifted in composing words.seems that you certainly are.
it is late afternoon now so presumably janes appointment has happened.i hope there was some encouragement.
blessings    pete.


27 Feb 13 - 04:42 PM (#3484447)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

The news following Jane's latest consultation is not good I'm afraid. The cancer is an extremely aggressive type, the most aggressive in fact. She begins another course of chemotherapy next week. If this programme of chemo proves ineffective, Jane's oncologist said there was nothing more they could do for her. If the chemo is effective, we are looking at a prolongation of life, not a cure. Desperate, desperate times.
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx


27 Feb 13 - 09:05 PM (#3484536)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I wish the news had been better. Sending love that will continue no matter what the future brings.


27 Feb 13 - 09:40 PM (#3484544)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

Email me.

Bruce


27 Feb 13 - 09:53 PM (#3484549)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT

Holding you all in heart and mind on this February evening...Love and caring from another far-away mud pal.
KT


27 Feb 13 - 10:43 PM (#3484561)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

I doubt anyone here can relieve the pain all of you are going through now and,sadly, that which is yet to come. The many words from you yourself and all of us can only provide scant solace but we have nothing else...........I wish we did. I give you my best in love and friendship for strength and for the best possible outcome whatever that may be for you and Ann......and for Jane.

Your post from the other day reminded of this song verse by Patrick Sky..........

For you the years will heal all the wounds that have been opened
Just like time will cleanse the fields of all the flowers that have ripened.
Of all these things you can be sure.......
Only love will endure


Spaw


28 Feb 13 - 01:12 AM (#3484568)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf

There are no words that can help, but I too am holding you and your family in my prayers.


28 Feb 13 - 03:58 AM (#3484586)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love


28 Feb 13 - 04:21 AM (#3484590)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Love from Billy and me xxxxxxxxx


28 Feb 13 - 07:25 AM (#3484626)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Oh.


28 Feb 13 - 09:32 AM (#3484662)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

Dear Nigel and Ann,

I am away from my computer caring for an ill relative, but found a way to check on you. I wish you ease of heart, mind, and body as you sail into unfamiliar seas.
Continued love and the blessings of family and friends surround you.

"Round our skiff be God's aboutness..."

More when I'm home,

Maeve


28 Feb 13 - 09:37 AM (#3484665)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Maeve

'Twas I in the previous post.
Maeve


28 Feb 13 - 10:58 AM (#3484702)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

any encouragement from that consultation was certainly slim but as you sail on into yet more turbulent waters it may be that there may still be some settled sea beyond the current horizon,please God that it be so. pete.


28 Feb 13 - 12:47 PM (#3484732)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Manuel

A little confused. Is the "Maeve" who posted twice today (so beautifully the first time)the "maeve" who often posts on this site?


28 Feb 13 - 01:20 PM (#3484739)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

SPECIAL REQUEST NEWS

Yo Folks!!!!

Just got a call from kat at the hospital. The infectionn in her fingers is staph and it is beyond the antibiotic stage. They are going to cut them open and clean/scrape them out.   I'm sure additional antibiotics will come into play in the process but taking this step is big.....and absolutely critical/necessary/lifesaving. I am not being dramatic here.   

How serious do hospitals and Docs take this? If I go into a crowded ER and say, "I'm running a fever and I have an artificial mitral valve," I move past bleeding old ladies to the head of the line.

As you all know kat has had heart problems and surgeries and staph infections anywhere in your body tend to go pretty quickly to the heart and destroy valves. One can very easily find themselves in a very narrow window here so let's all get real damn serious with whatever mojo you send out....Do it NOW!

Kat and I came here at about the same time over 14 years ago and we've been Buds ever since. She's got everything I can send. Join me.........Can't type anymore.....Do it..............


Spaw


28 Feb 13 - 01:59 PM (#3484759)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

SOB! That's absolutely terrible news!

Hard to comprehend that she has been "let be" by the docs and it has come to this. DISGUSTING! Heads should roll IN COURT and it should be investigated by the medical association and government.

Donuel.... maeve is indeed tending a sick relative. Probably her post. She needs to be kept in our thoughts and prayers as well.


28 Feb 13 - 02:30 PM (#3484779)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

sending out every Mojo thought I can muster

xxx Wendy


28 Feb 13 - 08:49 PM (#3484894)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Guest, Manuel- Yes, my member name is "maeve", but I've been signing my important posts more correctly as Maeve for some time.I'll post the rest of that lovely little song when I have time.

Spaw- Thank you for the update on our kind kat. Count on me.

Nigel & Ann- Home again briefly,and dipping my little oar with all my might.

Rest and peaceful dreams for us all tonight,

Maeve


28 Feb 13 - 09:34 PM (#3484910)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Deepest care and concern from the center of my heart for all. We need a good rowing song!


28 Feb 13 - 10:24 PM (#3484919)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Manuel

Maeve, thanks for taking time out to clarify for me at a time of night when you must be weary. I do hope things go well for your ailing relative and I look forward to seeing the remainder of the song.


28 Feb 13 - 10:26 PM (#3484920)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

Earlier, I quoted from this simple, lovely song:

Round Our Skiff

Round our skiff's be God's aboutness
Ere she try the deeps of sea

Sea-shell frail for all her stoutness
Unless Thou her helmsman be

Text: Trad. Hebrides    Music: © 1984 Kathy Wonson Eddy
"Kathy kindly sent me this song among many others a few years ago: she is a great source of liturgical choral music. I have sung it with our chorus and another smaller group, but Carol and I wanted to keep it in our repertoire, so here's a third way to sing it. Kathy lives in Randolph, Vermont." Gordon Bok

(Round Our Skiff is recorded on the album Herrings in the Bay)
http://www.timberheadmusic.com/disc/roundourskiff.htm

mp3 sample here


28 Feb 13 - 11:41 PM (#3484936)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Spaw, thank you for the update on Kat. I haven't got to her thread yet, but I'm already increasing my Mojo. Maeve, I'm sorry about your relative being ill. And of course my prayers for Nigel's Jane continue.


01 Mar 13 - 03:45 AM (#3484970)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

what ChantyLass said


01 Mar 13 - 05:02 AM (#3484989)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Oops! Sorry Manuel. I musta been dazed and confused by the news about kat.


01 Mar 13 - 08:06 AM (#3485061)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

The news about Kat is very worrying. I think Spaw's post is a clarion call to action. Everything positive that we can send her way in copious quantities. She has been most gracious & caring to Ann & myself over the last year, now it's our turn to send loving, healing thoughts to Kat. Maeve, Ann & I are holding you & your relative in our thoughts too.
                      Much Love to You All,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxx


01 Mar 13 - 09:55 AM (#3485092)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Manuel

Maeve,so very generous of you to share this with all here. And Gnu, all's well, I do understand.


01 Mar 13 - 11:45 AM (#3485125)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

gnu, Nigel, ChanteyLass & all- Thanks for your kind thoughts when so many are in dire need.
Manuel- I am glad to share the song; thanks.


01 Mar 13 - 02:02 PM (#3485156)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,SINSULL

Nigel and Ann,
I include you and your family in my prayers.
Stay strong.
Mary


01 Mar 13 - 02:55 PM (#3485175)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

I've just returned from a long road trip, tired but happy with the trip and happy to be in my own sweet, dear home. I am seeing this news and the news of Kat for the first time and I only wish I had wings that would fly me to the sides of those who are hurting and in need of healing.

Nigel, all I can do at this moment is stretch imaginary arms around you and hold you and your wife and daughter and her family tight, with love flowing. You are such an inspiration and we have all grown through you.

Kat, you know I am with you in healing love.

I think it's time for a healing song circle. If folks here would like it, I'll start a thread and suggest a time (I'm thinking this Sunday, 3/3, at around 8 pm Mudcat time).
I'll wait and see what some of you think before I take the plunge and start the thread.


01 Mar 13 - 05:56 PM (#3485216)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

with prayerful thoughts for kat as she faces such a serious procedure and for spaw in his worry for her.not forgetting jane in her affliction and uncertainty and nigel and ann in their anxiety.God bless   pete.


01 Mar 13 - 07:40 PM (#3485242)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

I'd like that, Allison.


01 Mar 13 - 08:15 PM (#3485257)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

The healing circle sounds good to me, too.


01 Mar 13 - 09:24 PM (#3485271)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

8PM Mudcat is a tad late in yer eastern readership... no?


01 Mar 13 - 09:49 PM (#3485281)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Of course, what was I thinking? The circle can start whenever it starts, and last for as long as it lasts, but for those who would like to feel that we are singing together, how about 4:00 pm Mudcat time? That would be about 9:00 pm in the UK, for example, I think?


01 Mar 13 - 11:14 PM (#3485306)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

4:00pm Mudcat time works for me. Anytime on Sunday after, say, 9:00am Mudcat time works for me.


02 Mar 13 - 05:22 AM (#3485366)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

good for me too!so Sunday at 9 pm here in the UK, I will be there

Wendy xxxxxx


02 Mar 13 - 06:02 AM (#3485388)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Not sure whether I'll be here or not on Sunday afternoon but I'll be round to join in later if I'm not!   What a fine idea Allison. We used to do those a lot around here......Good idea!!!



Spaw


02 Mar 13 - 07:51 AM (#3485425)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

9pm Sunday, I'm in.


02 Mar 13 - 10:51 AM (#3485482)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

OK, Here you go: Healing song circle 2013


02 Mar 13 - 05:59 PM (#3485614)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Got it!


03 Mar 13 - 12:15 PM (#3485854)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Up thread!


03 Mar 13 - 01:51 PM (#3485896)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Allison, I think the Song Circle is a wonderful idea. Sadly, Ann & I will be out until quite late on Sunday, but we will be with you in mind & spirit. My song choice would be James Taylor's 'You've got a Friend'.
                               Much Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx


03 Mar 13 - 03:12 PM (#3485922)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel,

your song choice sums up this beautiful thread perfectly,

sending love to you and Ann and Jane

Wendy xxxx


03 Mar 13 - 05:52 PM (#3485998)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

what Wendy said.

love to all from sandra


03 Mar 13 - 05:55 PM (#3486000)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

quite a few friends .blessings pete.


03 Mar 13 - 06:02 PM (#3486006)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

You've got a friend indeed, Nigel- quite a few in fact.

We're singing here- and we'll all be singing in our hearts for you.


03 Mar 13 - 06:37 PM (#3486017)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Mine... Bill Withers... Lean On Me...,

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Please swallow your pride
If I have faith you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don't let show

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

If there is a load you have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me (call me)If you need a
friend (call me)call me(call me) if you ever need a friend


04 Mar 13 - 12:38 PM (#3486278)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

No falling off the page...


04 Mar 13 - 09:36 PM (#3486442)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Still rowing. Still singing.

Spaw, I so hope the latest numbers on the blood work are, at a minimum, holding their own.


04 Mar 13 - 10:41 PM (#3486457)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Aw well Janie.....they're not. I have gone 7 weeks without a transfusion (I was going only 2) of 2 or more pints. The Aronesp is working but below what it needs to be doing. Last Wednesday I was 8.0 on Hemoglobin so I knew it wasn't going to be long. The good thing is that the Doctor felt it has taken hold some butwe will be starting the Vudaza the3 end of the month.

I was still hanging in Sunday but I sstarted calling to get the transfusions scheduled this morning and I have 2 pints going in tomorrow morning. We had to make another 100 mile round trip to Columbus to have the blood draw for the type and crossmatch and we'll do it again tomorrow. Of course Karen drives that route daily but all these extra trips are getting pretty old. We have great insurance through Karen's job at the hospital, buy we need to use their Docs which are ALL in Columbus. Hard on Karen, hard on the car, hard on the wallet...........But whaddaya gonna do?   Damn Aronesp is $2700.00 per shot and I can assure you the chemo will be equally bad. I'm hoping after awhile we can work something out to get the chemo shot closer to home but I'm not holding my breath.

Gotta' go to bed so I can get up and shower at 5.......Forgive any typos........


Spaw


04 Mar 13 - 11:53 PM (#3486468)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Love you, Spaw.


05 Mar 13 - 04:06 AM (#3486493)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love & hugs to you & Karen, spaw

lots more good wishes winging your way.

sandra


05 Mar 13 - 04:16 AM (#3486498)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Love and hugs from Billy and I to you Spaw and Karen xx

Billy had his CT scan and bone marrow biopsy yesterday ( results in 2 weeks) and our round trip was only 32 miles, made me count our blessings when I saw your post. Also all his treatment for 7 years has been on our good old National Health Service, hate to think how much money it has cost?

Hope today goes well and you both get home tonight safe and not too tired

rowing on

much love to all the crew
Wendy xxx


05 Mar 13 - 12:14 PM (#3486641)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Love and light to Spaw and Karen- looks like you'll have plenty of time to sing "100 Bottles of Beer on the Wall,", "The Ants Go Marching One By One" and all of your favorite commercial jingles!



Or you can just sit back and close your eyes and picture all of your dear Mudcat friends who love you and wish you health and comfort and happiness.


05 Mar 13 - 03:32 PM (#3486713)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

as wendy said,certainly makes you count your blessings.the NHS is far from perfect but at least treatment seems to be more accessible.wishing effective help for spaw,billy,jane and some restful peace for their loved ones supporting them.God bless    pete.


05 Mar 13 - 04:33 PM (#3486732)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Ts & Ps to all.


05 Mar 13 - 05:08 PM (#3486744)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Home.........Feeling better already but a decent sleep and a about a 12 hour assimilation and I'll be in top notch shape.....or at least feeling decent. We did the drive yesterday and today and Karen goes to work again tonight.............Gawd I love her and I have no idea what I would do without her. Of course from the time I met her and on, I never did know what I'd do without her. While in Columbus we also got the weekly Aronesp shot so that's it for the week!

Wendy, with this renewal of energy I'll be keeping things crosssed and holding out good thoughts for some good news from the marrow biopsy and scan. Waiting is the pits.

And to Allison and Janie and gnu and pete and Nigel and the entire crew.....THANKS!!! This is a great crew and a fine boat to sail on.


Spaw


05 Mar 13 - 08:31 PM (#3486829)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Aw, Spaw, I'd hoped your situation would be better than you described. The driving sounds distressing, too. Wendy, I'll hope for good results on billybob's bone marrow test.

And Nigel, I'll still be here when you are ready to check in again. And I mean when You are Ready. No pressure. Take your time.


05 Mar 13 - 08:49 PM (#3486831)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Yo. Spaw... UP yours with love.

I often say, "Yer one of the good guys." to people I respect. No need to say it to you... it's a given.

Thanks.

Now... EVERYBODY HEAL!


06 Mar 13 - 07:29 AM (#3486979)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Up Spaw!

Still here, Nigel.


06 Mar 13 - 08:12 AM (#3486994)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c

Haven't been into this thread in the longest time. That will change.   

Good thoughts going out to all those in need right now.


07 Mar 13 - 07:53 AM (#3487470)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

A brief check in...much goodness, love & compassion here to encourage & comfort. Ann is with Jane, I'm home in East London. Jane had her first chemo session since December this Monday past. Scans & consultations to follow with further chemo if deemed necessary or advisable. As Spaw says: "Waiting is the pits". Jane is unable to walk unaided now. It's hard to believe that just over eighteen months ago she was playing Netball, driving the girls to school, keeping house, socialising.....cancer is such a cruel, insidious disease.
          Stay close, my Dear Friends, we really can't do this without you,
                           Much Love to You All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx


07 Mar 13 - 07:58 AM (#3487471)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

love to you, Nigel, to Ann, Jane & her family

sandra


07 Mar 13 - 03:34 PM (#3487663)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

We're right here, dear Nigel. You and Spaw and Kat are in my heart all the time. You are loved!


07 Mar 13 - 03:43 PM (#3487666)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,maeve

Far away but here, Nigel and Ann.

maeve on borrowed 'puter


07 Mar 13 - 03:46 PM (#3487670)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I am here.


07 Mar 13 - 03:56 PM (#3487675)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

We're with you all, Nigel.


07 Mar 13 - 06:05 PM (#3487722)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Billy and I are here too, not too far away down the A12 but very close in our hearts.

Wendy and Billy xxxxx


07 Mar 13 - 07:06 PM (#3487744)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

I'm standin' in the circle next to gnu and 999, all hands joined.


07 Mar 13 - 07:35 PM (#3487756)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

me too - still praying.


07 Mar 13 - 09:52 PM (#3487810)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

Holding all of you, Nigel, very deeply in my heart and mind.


07 Mar 13 - 10:03 PM (#3487820)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

There it is. We are here... to wit... from another thread... one of the nicest posts I have ever been privileged to read...

Subject: RE: BS: kat needs a little mojo, please
From: Megan L - PM
Date: 06 Mar 13 - 04:44 AM

I remember once on a tour of our local croft museum the man was showing us carding and weaving, at one point he cut a length of the spun yarn and handed it round everyone pulled and picked at it in their curiosity till it fell apart. One person pointed out how fragile the strand of yarn was, how easily it was pulled apart and unravelled.

The auld lad guiding us round nodded acknowledgement of what had been said. He then pointed out that when that frail thread was woven together with all the other frail threads it made a fine blanket strong enough that we could toss someone up in the air and safely catch them. That is the wonder of Mudcat individually we may be weak but when we come together to become the Mudcat blanket the strength and warmth we generate spreads like sunshine round the world.
********************************************************************

We are here. We want to be a wool blanket.

Thanks again, Megan L. Those words will resonate thru my very soul for the rest of my life.


07 Mar 13 - 10:06 PM (#3487821)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

She has a way with words does that gal. Beautiful.


08 Mar 13 - 05:00 AM (#3487903)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

We have been voyaging together for nigh on fifteen months...almost impossible to believe it's been that long. That you have all chosen to stay the course & take precious moments out of your day to send Words & Music of Love, Comfort, Care & Compassion, says much about the type of People you are. That I will likely never meet any of you grieves me. That I have you in my life fills my heart with Joy & restores my faith in Humankind a thousand times over. Your capacity to do Good is boundless & as it's recipient I stand humbled, grateful & moved to the core of my being, a blanket hugged tight around my shoulders.
                From our Hearts to Yours,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx


08 Mar 13 - 06:07 AM (#3487920)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Can I just say "Ditto?" Seriously Nigel, your comment is wonderful but moreover I think it applies to and might have been written by all of us on this voyage.

I have personally been the recipient of so much from so many around here for such a long time....since 1999! And I too am saddened that most of us will never meet but I value these friendships as some of the best in my life. This group on this thread has crystalized all the best of what Mudcat can offer and the power to both give strength and draw it from each other at the same time is something I find quite singular.

For all of that and more, thanks to "all the good people" who enrichen my life.


Spaw


08 Mar 13 - 06:28 AM (#3487924)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST

Checking in, just to let you know I'm here.

Pete


08 Mar 13 - 06:31 AM (#3487925)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

That guest was me, sans cookie.


08 Mar 13 - 06:46 AM (#3487929)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Sans cookie syndrome is going around. I had a bad bout of it when I got my new laptop. The nasty virus comes embedded in WIN8 and until you s*** it out completely, it can flare up at any moment.


08 Mar 13 - 07:09 AM (#3487940)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Spaw, couldn't agree with you more. You've demonstrated your skill of finding 'Le Mot Juste' on many occasions,
                              Nigel xxxx


08 Mar 13 - 10:31 AM (#3488036)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

nigel,as spaw inferred you also have become part of that big blanket wrapped around others, though this thread began out your own great concern for jane.God bless    pete.


08 Mar 13 - 02:11 PM (#3488130)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

love this big blanket, remember when we were little and made a tent with the blanket and felt warm and safe from everything outside?

Still here Nigel
sending so much love to you and your family, to spaw, Pete and all the crew on board

Wendy xxxxx


08 Mar 13 - 08:54 PM (#3488250)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

"Faith is the bird that feels the light and sings when the dawn is still dark."    Rabindranath Thakur-(aka Tagore)

"A main purpose of life is to make connections."    Robert Frost


08 Mar 13 - 10:26 PM (#3488271)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,maeve

"Be like the bird that, passing on her flight awhile on boughs too slight, feels them give way beneath her, and yet sings, knowing that she hath wings."


― Victor Hugo


09 Mar 13 - 12:24 PM (#3488434)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I've been off Mudcat for two days, but, Nigel, you and others here have not been out of my thoughts and prayers. After posting on some other threads I started to open this one, I realized I'd lost my internet conncetion. I jiggled some cords and I'm back for now. Anyway, even if I'm not here (on Mudcat) for you, I am here with you in spirit and sending my love.


09 Mar 13 - 01:26 PM (#3488464)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

me, too, Nigel...here in Spirit, Love, and Light.

luvyakat


09 Mar 13 - 06:34 PM (#3488481)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Joining you all in the blanket fort- and Kat, too! So much love to go around, and more to spare. Remember the Magic Penny:
Love is something, if you give it away,
you end up having more!


09 Mar 13 - 08:27 PM (#3488513)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Wendy... "remember when we were little and made a tent with the blanket and felt warm and safe from everything outside?

Thanks, Wendy. Thanks, Megan. Thanks...

I like our blanket as woven by the wonderful people who have posted to this thread. Thanks. It helps keep ME warm and safe too.

Bless you all.


11 Mar 13 - 08:07 AM (#3489072)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,maeve, still sailing to another virtual isla

Nigel, Ann, and Jane- We are still beside you in spirit. I know you are looking for and making use of every bright reflection on the water as you navigate through these tricky channels.

Warmly,

Maeve


11 Mar 13 - 08:24 AM (#3489079)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

the blanket tent is a wonderful image.

Years ago I attended a folk club in an unheated building on a cold Sydney winter night (much warmer than a snow-season winter night, but still cold!) so a member went to his car & brought in 2 ginormous toasty blankets & half the small audience snuggled under one, the others under the second! Cosy!

sandra


11 Mar 13 - 01:50 PM (#3489197)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

hoping the warmth of this collective blanket provides some sense of security and comfort to those suffering the icy blast of misfortune at this time.blessings   pete


11 Mar 13 - 08:00 PM (#3489349)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

I like the idea of the the blanket tent being set up on Nigel's boat!


11 Mar 13 - 11:22 PM (#3489393)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

And a warm blanket wrapped around you and your's also, maeve.

Soft-belly...open heart. Love.

Nigel, I'm rendered silent in many ways because while I imagine your family's journey is similar to what we experienced during my family's journey with my beloved sister, I also know your experience must be different, because you are a different family, and your personal experience is even more different because you and Ann are the parents, and I was (am) a sister.

What I can do and will continue to do, is keep pulling at the oars with the rest of the crew.

Holding all of you in my heart with great tenderness.

Janie


11 Mar 13 - 11:34 PM (#3489398)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I've taken out a hand knitted wool blanket knitted for me by a special person in my life from my bed chest (handmade chest by artisan gnu) and it's to be laid over and under sheets and a quilt until warm weather in lieu of my father's woolen army blanket which has kept me warm since he passed. I also have taken out of my chest the green and white woolen blanket knitted for me by another lover and it will cover my legs while I type until warm weather. Me knees is toasty as I type. Feels good... warm... safe. Wool seems to be all the rage these days. Seems there is strength in these woollies.


12 Mar 13 - 03:17 PM (#3489614)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

still here,still hoping and praying.pete.


12 Mar 13 - 06:40 PM (#3489695)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

wrapped up safe in the blanket handmade for us many years ago by Billy's mother, sending love and comforting thoughts to all the crew, but thinking of Nigel, Ann and Jane and family on this bitter cold night in England.In our prayers tonight as always.
Wendy and Billy xxxxx


13 Mar 13 - 02:52 AM (#3489818)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

sending warm & woolly hugs to all

love from sandra


13 Mar 13 - 05:53 AM (#3489858)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

I've read & re-read dozens of your posts...a veritable plethora of Love, Wisdom, Experience, Humour, Anecdotes, Advice, Compassion...the list is practically endless. As the saying goes: "All Human Life is here".
      I love the blanket theme. A dearly loved Mudcat Friend made two blankets for Jane & Ann some time ago. Hand made treasures are so special. I am immediately reminded of my Father wrapping a large towel (stand-in blanket!) around me after he had washed me in the tin bath in front of the fire. This would be followed by a big hug, some energetic drying off & straight into my pyjamas & dressing gown...no central heating in our house, back in the 40s!
    Jane is getting weaker by the day. She is in considerable pain, despite regular analgesia. She has been offered a few days at the local hospice to get the pain under control, but refuses to go. Her right as an adult to refuse, but Ann & I know through our experiences with our Parents, she would be so much more comfortable & her dignity protected.
    I may be wrong, but I think this part of our Voyage may ending sooner than we had expected.
             Thank you for your Love, Your Hugs, Your Blankets, the quotations from Frost & Hugo.
             Please keep within hailing distance,
                                                                   With Love to You All,
                                                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx


13 Mar 13 - 09:16 AM (#3489917)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Janie


13 Mar 13 - 11:01 AM (#3489951)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Oh, Nigel.

Could it be that Jane is thinking privately that if she goes into the hospice she may not come out?

Stay strong. Pete.


13 Mar 13 - 06:52 PM (#3489975)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Oh my dear Nigel

my Godmother too refused to go to a hospice, but eventually did, her pain was controlled and she came home and returned to St. Francis Atte Bower a number of times, her pain was gone and she came and danced at my daughters wedding.
But I know you dont need to be told that , you know how wonderful the hospice movement is. May you and Ann,with your wisdom,guide Jane in the right direction.
Holding you all in our hearts, our dear friends, God bless you

With all our love and thoughts

Wendy and Billy xxxxx


13 Mar 13 - 08:34 PM (#3490027)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)

Oh, my friend, in my heart I am wrapping a blanket around you and Ann and especially Jane as she travels this journey and you with her. Let the warm memories of your father's care remind you that love never dies, and your love for Jane and hers for you will keep you wrapped in love for all time.


13 Mar 13 - 08:42 PM (#3490033)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

I have my blanket about my shoulders. I turned down the heat on this "warm" spring-like day and opened the windows to blow out the stale stink of winter. I am allowing the passive stored heat in the house to bring things back to "non-chatter".

Dearest Nigel... I feel comfort in your words. I shall not explain that. Some things, eh? Bless.


13 Mar 13 - 09:23 PM (#3490053)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Pete Jennings took the words right out of my mouth--er, pen--er, keyboard.

Nigel, I wish Jane, Ann, and you continuing strength to face whatever lies ahead.


14 Mar 13 - 06:14 AM (#3490155)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Jane suffered an extreme reaction to a chemo session yesterday. The infusion had to be stopped immediately after literally just a minute or two. Here is part of an email from Ann which sums up the situation:


My Darling Nigel
Latest news is that Jane has signed a paper to the effect that if she has a cardiac arrest ( a real
possibility ) she does not want to be resuscitated. Now that there is nothing that can be done
for her she has had enough,but still resisting hospice care.........

Lots of love
Ann xxxxxxxxx

Pete, you're absolutely right, that's precisely what she thinks. The sad truth is that that is almost certainly now what will happen. It is our fervent wish that Jane spends her final days & hours, free from pain, dignity preserved, surrounded by her Family, in a peaceful environment with caring professionals waiting in the wings for when they are needed. I spoke to Ann this morning & she intimated that Jane might be having a change of heart.
         Wendy, I know St.Francis Hospice well. My Father spent his final days there.
         All of your most recent posts are filled with so much Love & Tenderness. I am rendered speechless.
         Gnu, "Some things..." Without knowing, I know & understand.

         I suspect we shall be dropping anchor soon,
                      With Deepest Love to You All,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx


14 Mar 13 - 06:37 AM (#3490160)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

As the fire burned in the dark, I snatched a covering from our bed. After we managed to get outside to the cold and the snow, I saw it was the star quilt made by my grandmother. Let it cover us all; warm, soft, strong... made with love and the fabric of time.


14 Mar 13 - 07:15 AM (#3490171)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci

that blanket has room for us all and all the hugs and love possible


14 Mar 13 - 07:26 AM (#3490177)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

no words, just love to all


14 Mar 13 - 07:37 AM (#3490183)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob

Nigel, Ann,


holding you both in my heart,

no words,

All the love I can send

Wendy xxxxxxx


14 Mar 13 - 08:30 AM (#3490199)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c

Here and thinking of you all.

xxxxxxxxx


14 Mar 13 - 08:53 AM (#3490206)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve

This might also be a good time to listen to Nigel's own music:

https://soundcloud.com/nigel-paterson-music; "The Voyage of The Rainbow", "All Hands on Deck", "On Solid Ground", "Meditation on The Comfort of Singing Voices"... so many!


14 Mar 13 - 09:51 AM (#3490228)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49

Fine idea maeve.....There are so many songs and words on this thread that at this point I think it ranks as one of the best Mudcat has ever had while at the same time being one of the most unusual. What sets it apart is what created it and sustains it. The amount of love and care embodied here is beyond what has ever happened before. It was all about Jane but soon became about so many.

As these coming days pass, our love and support are all we can offer even as we know that nothing else is within our power. This will be a legacy Jane has created through wonderful, loving, parents, that has given more than she would ever believe possible and has meant more to me and so many others that words escape me to describe it.

We hold each other as we hold Jane, Nigel, and Ann.......Wrapped in a blanket of comfort and love. And right now we pull the blanket tight. I love you all.


Spaw, aka Pat Patterson


14 Mar 13 - 09:54 AM (#3490232)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug

Thinking of you in this most difficult of times .... blankets of love!


14 Mar 13 - 10:52 AM (#3490251)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999

Was thinking about you today as I do most days, Nigel, and I tripped over this:


Most of the important things in the world
have been accomplished by people
who have kept on trying
when there seemed to be no hope at all.

Dale Carnegie


14 Mar 13 - 11:59 AM (#3490281)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu

Beautiful words and thoughts.


14 Mar 13 - 12:11 PM (#3490292)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince

There's no way we can presume to relieve this sort of pain. I just hope that in some measure we can help you to bear it.

               Dean


14 Mar 13 - 12:12 PM (#3490294)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Wise, wonderful, moving words from so many of you since I last posted, earlier today. And we have a new Crew Member (I hope I'm right), you are most welcome, Frug.
Maeve, thank you for highlighting my Music. All the titles that Maeve has listed were written when I needed the Sanctuary of Music the most. I need that Sanctuary more than ever now.
My Dear Bruce, perfect quotation from Dale Carnegie...there certainly does seem to be no hope left.
Spaw, my namesake (I can forgive the double 'T'!). My Father was always addressed as Pat, despite the fact that his first name was Laurence. I have dim, childhood memories of one relative calling him Laurie. He was Pat to everyone, including my Mother.
The latest news on Jane is what we have been expecting for some time. Her Oncologist has given her three weeks maximum, but with a warning that Jane could die at any time. Three weeks could suddenly become three days, three hours, three minutes. Jane's Husband, Ann & Jane's children are at the hospital as I type this. Physically, I'm ok, but mentally very fragile. I carry with me your Love, your Blankets, your Care & Compassion; everything a man could ever need to see him through this maelstrom.
       With Deepest Love to You All from both of us,
                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx


14 Mar 13 - 12:24 PM (#3490298)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings

Well, I guess we've all been expecting this news, truth to tell. Same happened with my lovely sister, Kathleen, back in 2002: we'd been expecting it then but it didn't make it any easier.

My thoughts are with you as we approach the shore.


14 Mar 13 - 11:04 PM (#3490530)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie

The suchness of opened hearts....


14 Mar 13 - 11:04 PM (#3490531)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link

in wordless prayer for you,i guess most of us revisit our own painful losses as we travel with you - the fellowship of the brokenhearted.we are all feeling for you and with you, to some measure,,, your pain.
God bless you      pete.


14 Mar 13 - 11:22 PM (#3490536)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing

Knowing really doesn't help much, ecxept to give you the time together to say see ya later, we love you. A priceless gift to some. you have all shown such courage, love, sharing. may our shoulders continue to add solace for tears, hugs, etc. you,nigel, let your emotions out. we'll be here for you. may jane find peace and rest through and from this incredible journrey.

perhaps we'll land on Avalon, a place between two worlds visited on commemoative dates. with much love and solace,

kat


14 Mar 13 - 11:24 PM (#3490537)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT

Dear Nigel and Ann,
Gazing out at a sliver of a crescent moon tonight, so beautiful against the deep blue twilight sky, thinking of you both, and Jane... hoping that somehow, the love in all of these hearts gathered here can reach you, and comfort you in some small way...
May it be so...
KT


15 Mar 13 - 12:54 AM (#3490555)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass

Hugs, hand-holding, whatever you need that I can do . . .


15 Mar 13 - 04:26 AM (#3490596)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney

waiting with you all


15 Mar 13 - 11:20 AM (#3490716)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall , Wakefield

I feel like a fraudulent , voyeuristic marathon runner who has only just managed to jump on board a race ( holding on to his blanket) for the remaining laps ! Sadly this is my first contribution ...and it's just to say that my thoughts are with you ALL . I have spent time reading the comforting words of genuine love, warmth,hope and affection flowing from a group to a family and back again. This is a group and a family who are so bonded and I have found it all to be so very uplifting and inspirational.

Jane , Nigel and Ann are very much in my thoughts . I hope you are ALL able to find some comfort in this little poem I found which I would like to share with you . It seems to describe what MUDCAT supporters have done , are still doing and will continue to do ! I think it also reflects what Jane ,Nigel and Ann are also achieving in respect of their own lives even in such difficult times . Thank you for lightening my life through your heavy burden.


WHAT'S LIFE          BY JESSICA LEE WORKMAN


Life is a challenge - meet it
Life is a gift - accept it
Life is a sorrow - overcome it
Life is a tragedy -face it
Life is a adventure -dare it
Life is a duty - perform it
Life is a mystery - unfold it
Life is a song - sing it
Life is a opportunity - take it
Life is a journey - complete it
Life is a promise - fulfill it
Life is a beauty - praise it
Life is a goal - achieve it
Life is a puzzle - solve it
Life is love - love it .

David


15 Mar 13 - 11:34 AM (#3490719)
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson

Welcome, David. It's never too late to join our thread. You've made quite an impact with y