I fixed the link to the former "The importance of being" thread and I removed the content that had nothing to do with the topic.

That leaves this and the opening post.

There was a particularly nice remark from Amos:

For reflection, I suspect that every dead eye and pained heart you meet is sitting on a time when they had to (as they saw it in the moment) give up being. This happens in time of loss, overwhelm, guilt or great pain.

Makes it look like they are hiding; but they are just trying to find their own ways back home. Some are deeper lost than others, though.

Followed by

GUEST,Neil Lowe

So why is it such a sad comment on our times: that, increasingly, we have to chemically induce happiness?
Yours in Prozac, Neil


From: Amos

My $.02, for what it's worth, is that the same pain that causes an abandonment of being causes, as well, a solid entanglement with meat as a safe hiding place.

Once you go down that path, chemical solutions to emotions are a logical trap that becomes exceeding easy to fall into withal.

and a gem from Katlaughing:

Annap, I know many people like that, also. They sometimes seem to be like hamsters spinning in a wheel. They are afraid to stop and actually BE.
Amos, you said, every dead eye and pained heart you meet is sitting on a time when they had to (as they saw it in the moment) give up being. This happens in time of loss, overwhelm, guilt or great pain

That may be true for some, but I've found that in those times of extreme stress, just Being is ALL I can do. IT is the only way I can find solcae to continue on through all of the pain of whatever as happened.

I do understand the converse of that, though. My mother was the type who always had to be doing something no matter what had happened, except for one time when she gave up in depression. I believe her need to always be doing was what kept her from knowing how to cope with retirement.

All the best,

katlaughing

And Bill D posted a poem that I haven't had time to read yet. here.