Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: MaineDog Date: 22 Jun 09 - 10:42 PM I am a poor, wayfaring stranger while trav'ling through this land of woe, Yet, there's no sickness, toil, nor danger in that Fair Land to which I go. Jim |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Sheryl Kennedy Date: 22 Jun 09 - 09:48 PM To the Paton Family I continue to think of you morning and night, and in between. I send my love and condolences again, and always. Sheryl Kennedy |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: katlaughing Date: 22 Jun 09 - 05:44 PM Barbara and Nathan - beautiful poems. Norma, thanks so much for posting. I echo what Janie and the others have said. Cherish him and you will always honour Kaelan. With gratitude, kat |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Cool Beans Date: 22 Jun 09 - 04:54 PM Gamble Rogers |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Amergin Date: 22 Jun 09 - 04:52 PM The Final Note It is a celebration of your life And the mourning of what might have been It is a joyous cry of your love And the tearful anger of your death It is the alleviating conclusion Of a transitory moment of anguish To find yourself galloping blissfully Through the golden orchards of Tír na nÓg It is a moment for those of us who linger To gather the tokens of your life In tear stained photographs And the scattered recollections Of the fleeting seconds We depleted at each other's side It is a occasion to weep at your departure As the piper resonates his concluding note Duplicating the banshee's dying requiem. Nathan Tompkins |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Sandy Mc Lean Date: 22 Jun 09 - 04:07 PM My deepest sympathy! As he died a hero may his memory shine in your hearts with pride after the initial grief has passed! Greater love hath none than he who lays down his life for a friend! God bless..... |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: Stringsinger Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:51 PM Sandy and Caroline, deep condolences. I am saddened by your loss. Frank Hamilton |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Barbara Shaw Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:46 PM Dear Sandy & Caroline, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandson. If there's any comfort to be had in this poem/song I wrote, please read it with the love intended. Not Mine For Long Barbara Shaw, 2004 Not mine for long, I always knew Those two bright cheeks and smiling eyes So wise, so piercing to my soul Would one day grow forever old And move beyond my range of view. In little steps in little ways The days went by and I was sure Those pure and joyful times would fly And one day we would say goodbye And move on to the coming phase. Moving out to change the world To learn and play and push the edge To jump the hedge of home and heart And find new routes and roads to start To view the tapestry unfurled. Becoming person of the earth Whose worth is yet to be displayed Who stayed not longer than a flash With us whose memories are ash That rose in triumph at the birth. Moving out and quickly gone Drawn to the ultimate design Not mine for long, I always knew Yet mine forever, always true Moving out and moving on. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Greg B Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:34 PM The story puts me in mind of another hero's manner of leaving us... Stan Rogers. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: Sandy Paton Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:18 PM Thank you so much, Norma. Your story of what happened is exactly as one of the other boys gave it to us, and, apparently, to Jim Moore, who wrote the fine articles in the Waterbury Republican-American. We're grieving, of course, but proudly, knowing that he did what he did to help Frankie, knowing the danger involved. He was a wonderful young man, and such a great grandson to Caroline and me. Thank you for sharing a little of his greatness with our friends on the Mudcat Forum. That was very thoughtful of you. Sandy Paton |
Subject: Abrazos: Kaelan Paton Missing - From: wysiwyg Date: 22 Jun 09 - 10:55 AM Norma, My husband and I do a fair bit of pastoral counseling and crisis ministry, and it is from this context I share the following. It sounds to me like Frankie is still in the shock phase of processing what occurred, and that right now he has not yet started the phase more commonly known as survivor's guilt. Processing and healing from that (through that) will almost certainly be an issue to address, thoguh just companioning him as he lives and addresses present-time is most important now. In companioning, caring adults can help implant the knowledge that Kaelan, his good friend, gave his life not "in vain" but would, as a good friend, certainly want to celebrate all the wonderful things Frankie will experience as his life unfolds-- from what I have heard about Kaelan, and from what we know of youth in general, I would bet that he would want Frankie to embrace life and "make him proud." Kids that age make huge use of "sideways" wisdom; wisdom offered in relaxed understatement provokes thought, as opposed to the type of insistent agree-with-me communication "middler" adults so often offer instead "for their own good." This is exactly the type of wisdom a grandparent is so often in a position to offer-- our maturity lends a bit of credibility to young people searching not for answers, but for promising clues they can investigate for themselves. I celebrate all that Kaelan's grandparents gave to nourish that young man, and I celebrate how you will continue to nourish your young Frankie. Abrazos, ~Susan |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: Big Mick Date: 22 Jun 09 - 10:08 AM Norma's post touches me deeply. We are but a week or so short of the one year anniversary of the accident that my daughter survived and her best friend did not. I know in an all too familiar way the awful pull of conflicting emotion. Frankie needs support and understanding so that he gets that this was simply an accident. Mick |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Naemanson Date: 22 Jun 09 - 09:46 AM In December we lost a student at school. He was one of my students, very personable with a great future. His loss tore out my heart. About halfway through the next quarter one of his friends told me they had been together in the surf on kayaks and then he was gone. They never found him. The friend commented that he wanted to go into the surf to find him but that the other people on the beach wouldn't let him go. I told him that Jerod would not have wanted him to risk his life that way. Then, in March, one of the members of my Academic Challenge Bowl team went on a church outing to Tarzan Falls. Apparently he slipped on the rocks, hit his head, and was gone before anyone saw anything. They did eventually find him but it was too late. I will never forget this school year. It has been the most difficult, emotionally, that I can imagine. I have spoken with veteran teachers who tell me they have never experienced anything like this and hope they never will. All this is the long way of saying that I hope someone remembers to comfort Kaelan's teachers, mentors, friends, and anyone else who him in their hearts. He sounds like he was a great kid, as special as those two were to me. I hope they can find their own peace. And Sandy and Caroline, I am still thinking of you and hoping for the best for you and for Kaelan's parents. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: nutty Date: 22 Jun 09 - 09:36 AM Some years ago I wrote these words to be spoken at my funeral. Others have asked to use them when speaking for their loved ones. They seem to be relevant for both young and old. If they give you comfort, please, feel free to use them. When my life is done And my spirit's at rest And there's nothing on earth that can save me Don't weep and don't mourn Send me off with a song And reflect on the pleasure that knowing you gave me |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: bbc Date: 22 Jun 09 - 07:04 AM Norma, Thank you so much for writing! Most of us know little of what really happened that day & your post helped me to understand. I agree with everything that Janie wrote. There is & should be joy that Frankie was saved; may he savor a long, full life! I think that times like this serve to remind us to hold our loved ones near & to recognize that we just get one day at a time; life is precious! Lisa, I am sorry for your loss. Growing up, I lost a close friend to a motorcycle crash the weekend after school closed. As trite as it sounds, our best part is to just love each other through these times--making ourselves available to hug, to listen, to show that we are with those who grieve. best, Barbara |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Guest: Lisa Null Date: 22 Jun 09 - 01:32 AM Sandy: As you know, I have spoken with Caroline and we will talk ourselves in time. It is not easy for me to put in words what I feel. I remember a few minutes of stolen serenity on a bench outside in early May as people sang and plunked in the distance. You were the chauffeur bringing one of your grandchildren somewhere or other or perhaps picking him or her up...I took it for granted. I have watched your grandchildren grow, knowing they were enriched by not just one but two generations of love and care. This is so rare and so important. You and Caroline have given them the very best of yourselves. Kaelan's time was short, and it doesn't feel long enough, ripe enough... but he was the best he could be while it lasted, and you helped see to that. Take pride that you gave him so much and that he grew up as well as he did. I lost my brother when he was just a few years older than Kaelan-- this is not something one ever gets over. All I can say is I love you like my own family and that some of the most beautiful flowers bloom but for a short time. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Deckman Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:56 AM MY GOD .... bob |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: Janie Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:50 AM Dear Norma, I hope you (as well as Frankie and the rest of your family) know deep in your hearts that it is not only possible, it is absolutely OK to rejoice that one was spared, even while you grieve that one was lost. The relief that Frankie lives is a separate emotion from grief of the tragic loss of Kaelan. Frankie did not intend to put himself in danger, nor did Kaelan. This was an awful accident, but an accident, nonetheless. None of the boys would have gone into the water initially, or to rescue one another, if they had thought there was serious risk that any of them would be injured or would die. My heart aches for all of you. I have a 15 year old son that I realize could be Frankie or Kaelan. May all who love all of these children know they are surrounded by light and love, and find some measure of comfort in the midst of profound sorrow. Janie |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: open mike Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:46 AM Sincere condolences to his family, mother, father, grandparents, friends and especially for those who were with him on that day. treasure your memories. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Norma - Frankie's Grandma Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:25 AM I am the Grandmother of Frankie, the friend whose life was saved by Kaelan. I can not really put into words how we feel. When my daughter called me from the Hospital, she was so hysterical, I could not understand her. However, I did hear her screaming "Frankie's all right! Frankie's all right!" I felt a cold chill roll over me, then relief..but then she screamed: "Kaelan is lost! Frankie is asking for Kaelan..he said he was there, and then he was gone!" The cold chill returned, and it remains with me. As I understand it - and no one is exactly clear about it, Frankie was being swept by the current, and Kaelan ran ahead to some rocks, and extended his hand. Frankie grasped it, but the current was too strong for him to get out. Kaelan jumped in, and pushed Frankie to a rock, which he grabbed. He was losing his grip, and worked his way into a crevice by the rock, and turned around for Kaelan, but Kaelan was gone... The joy of having Frankie still with us is so strong, but at the same time, it is so painful to even try to imagine the anguish you all must be feeling...I have tried to do so, but the prospect of even trying to imagine it is more painful than I can bear to go to at this time. All I can say is that Kaelan is and always will be such a hero to Frankie and all of us - he is devastated by Kaelan's loss, and I know he thinks of it all the time - as do I. This is a loss of such magnitude; it brings a pall over everyone and everything. I have asked all my friends for their thoughts and prayers on behalf of Kaelan Paton, a hero to whom all of us owe such a great debt. God Bless him. We are still praying for a miracle... Kaelan gave one to us...His memory will be with us forever... |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Skivee Date: 21 Jun 09 - 07:17 PM It's so sad to hear of this continueing tragedy; a cold echo of the Kendall, Jacqui, and Big Mick's recent devestating losses. My heart goes out to you all. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: Rowan Date: 21 Jun 09 - 07:00 PM As a member of the local Search & Rescue group I've been on two searches for people who were never found. Although I approached those situations with professional attitudes, the sadness was profound, and I wasn't a member of the family, for whom "excoriating" seems the most accurate, if inadequate, expression. My thoughts are with you. Rowan |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Partridge Date: 21 Jun 09 - 11:48 AM So very very sorry to hear this. Words seem pathetic as they hit the page. I just dont know what to say. Please know I'm thinking of you and yours much love Pat xxx |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 21 Jun 09 - 11:20 AM Still holding you all in the Light- Allison |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Glen Reid Date: 21 Jun 09 - 09:43 AM Such a terible tragedy. My most heartfelt condolances to Sandy Caroline and David. Sincerly, Glen |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: open mike Date: 21 Jun 09 - 12:33 AM oh, no, another water tragedy for one of our young men. If there is any chance that our two fellows are together above, that is something, at least, to hope for. hugs to all, and thank you for raising a son and grandson to whom generosity and helping friends was such a powerful priority. my sorrow joins yours.... oh, silly words..... |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: GUEST,DADGBE sans cookie Date: 20 Jun 09 - 11:32 PM My God! Sandy, Caroline, David, Robin my heart aches with you and for you. Ray Frank |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: Michael S Date: 20 Jun 09 - 05:39 PM I had held back from adding to this thread. I didn't know Sandy and Caroline, and didn't know Kaelan and his parents. I talked to Sandy and Caroline once, many years ago. It was a formal context, an interview. They were very friendly, but I know it's not a very personal connection. Then I found myself checking in here frequently to see if searchers had found Kaelan. I have two teenagers. My daughter is Kaelan's age, and also just completed the 9th grade. There's a kinship among everyone who loves someone else deeply, and eventually it seemed OK to me to express my sorrow. So, finally, I came here, as so many others did. I am so sorry and I hope that there is peace and acceptance at the end of grieving. My thoughts are with this family, that has offered so much. Michael Scully |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: GUEST,Bob Tedrow Date: 20 Jun 09 - 12:11 PM I am very sorry to hear the news. My families deepest sympathy. Bob Tedrow |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Lighter Date: 20 Jun 09 - 10:00 AM Sandy, we've met only in cyberspace, but I trust that you and Caroline will accept my sincere condolences anyway. I am so sorry to hear about this terrible tragedy. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: bbc Date: 20 Jun 09 - 08:01 AM Hi, folks, Duane & I shared hugs, tears, & chat with Sandy & Caroline last evening. To date, Kaelan's body has not been found. Sandy & Caroline are bearing up, but this will be a long, long haul. Kaelan leaves a hole in the life of his loved ones that, although, over time, may hurt less intensely, will never be filled. He was such a special person. To die, at fifteen, with so much potential unfulfilled is a crushing blow. Your love, thoughts, prayers, & good wishes are deeply appreciated. The phone may not be answered, but Sandy is sitting at his computer, reading. To communicate with Caroline, letters might be more appropriate. love, Barbara |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: adventure Date: 20 Jun 09 - 07:51 AM David, Caroline, Sandy and Family, We are thinking of you all...... Sincerely, Peter and Joanne |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Naemanson Date: 20 Jun 09 - 03:40 AM Did they ever find him? I lost a student this year in the ocean and they never found him. It adds to the sorrow and grief. Sandy and Caroline, I only met you briefly, one face in thousands, yet your love and gentle hearts touched me and still ride with me. I wish you peace and relief from your grief. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,ScuttleBob Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:39 PM Oh, Dear Friends, My heart breaks for & with You All! And all these warm words from so many who have been touched by your Music, Your lives and sense of family. I wish I could be with you-but my thoughts & prayers are joined with this Greater Family that surrounds you...in love and careing. Be strong, be well... I Love You All Bob Z |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: wysiwyg Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:37 PM Still keeping watch with you. ~Susan |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Jan and Ken Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:01 PM To the Paton family - we met so briefly but you are high in our thoughts so many times- and we often relate the story of your kindness, warmth and hospitality. No words can say how much we are thinking of you this has really touched our hearts - and today when our grandsons came to visit I gave them an even more special hug - because I was also thinking of you - and felt priviledged and humbled that I could hug them - please keep on hugging Kaelan in your hearts and remember all the joy he gave you in the years you had together. I am weeping as I write this but send you all the love possible from here in England. Very much in our thoughts Jan and Ken |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Burke Date: 19 Jun 09 - 04:38 PM I haven't been around much, but I was alerted to this thread. I'm so sorry to hear about this. My prayers are with all of the Paton family. Knowing a family that lost a father in very similar circumstances, I'll also hold the boy he was trying to save in my prayers. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Mark Ross on the MONDAK border Date: 19 Jun 09 - 03:58 PM I've been out of touch here on the Plains playing for a Buckskinner Rendezvous. My best to Sandy & Caroline, we never know when these things will happen do we? Cherish those around you for you know not when they will leave you. Mark Ross |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: M.Ted Date: 19 Jun 09 - 01:43 PM I am so sorry to hear about this--this is the worst fear of every parent, grandparent, uncle, aunt or caregiver. You have my greatest sympathies, and all my prayers. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: momnopp Date: 19 Jun 09 - 11:06 AM {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Paton Family}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Holding you in love and light. JudyO/momnopp |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: katlaughing Date: 19 Jun 09 - 10:12 AM Brave youth can bring such courage which brings such sorrow with never a thought for themselves. Many years ago, I knew a family who lost three sons in a matter of minutes as they went to rescue each other from the Colorado River. Somehow their family did carry on, for many years and they were well remembered and loved. I can just *see* Sandy and Caroline's spirits in those photos of Kaelan; there is a gleam in his eye and it looks as though a smile came easily and lit up his whole being when it did. Sometimes, those bright spirits burn out too quickly by our estimation. SandyGramps, thank you for taking the time to post and please do not feel any onus to do so any time soon...take care of yourselves and just know we are here for you. luvyaKat'leen |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: GUEST,Gloucesterman Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:23 AM A quote from one of my father's sermons: The reality of grief is the solitude of pain, the feeling that your heart is in pieces, your mind's a blank, that "there is no joy the world can give like that it takes away." (Lord Byron). No child should predecease a parent, let alone a grand-parent. When you mourn him least, you'll remember him best. It will come, I promise. Godspeed. David Coffin |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Uncle Phil Date: 19 Jun 09 - 08:06 AM Please add our sympathy and condolences, and add two more names to the circle gathered around you here. Phil and Michelle |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: RoyH (Burl) Date: 19 Jun 09 - 07:31 AM Sandy and Caroline, our thoughts and prayers go out to you and all the Patons. We are grandparents too. We feel your loss almost as if it were our own. Loving thoughts to you. Roy & Elaine. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Mooh Date: 19 Jun 09 - 07:18 AM Very, very sorry to hear of this. Our hopes and prayers for you all. Peace, Mooh. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Zany Mouse Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:59 AM There is nothing left to say - it's all be said. Positive thoughts winging their way across the pond. Blessings Rhiannon and Mick |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: Allan C. Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:02 AM Others have said it as well or better. My thoughts are with you, Sandy and Caroline, and with the parents of that brave young man. |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson From: KT Date: 19 Jun 09 - 05:37 AM Dear Sandy & Caroline, I'm so very sorry. Holding your family in my heart. KT in Alaska |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: Big Mick Date: 19 Jun 09 - 01:11 AM It is incredible to me that you, in the middle of this, take time to honor us. This is a perfect example of why we all love you and your family so very much. Know, dear friends, that we weep with you. Love, Mick |
Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran From: GUEST,Sandy Paton Date: 19 Jun 09 - 12:39 AM Dear friends: Please know that your thoughts and words do help. We will try to write more when the weeping stops. Sandy and Caroline |
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