Obit: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline's grandson) 2009

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Michael Harrison
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:19 PM

I am but a petty rhymeister left without words - so filled with sorrow for you. I send you prayers.

mwh

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: maire-aine
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 10:43 PM

I am so sorry. You'll all be in my prayers.

Maryanne

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 09:06 PM

Sandy and Caroline - -I have mot you but have heard so much about you that I feel I know you.   There are no words I can use to help --- but please know my heart is with you....

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: topical tom
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 08:21 PM

I am so sorry to hear this sad news. Somehow I missed this thread and someone pointed it out to me. All my sympathy and prayers go out to the Paton family.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Art Thieme
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:48 PM

This evening I spoke with Caroline and David. The great support of so many of you is truly appreciated there in Sharon. Our own grandson will be one year old on the 20th of this month. The sadness of Kaelan's passing has, for us, highlighted the wonder and love Carol and I have for young Byron and his sisters, Siera and Chloe, and of course for Chris and Kat. ---- The Personal emotions I feel since hearing this sad news are complex, surprisingly intense and varied.

It is good to have this thread to try to come to grips with my own feelings now.

Thanks Mudcatters! --- Art

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:45 PM

There are no words....but words are all we have.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Bob and Amba Coltman
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:39 PM

Sandy, Caroline, David, what can we say? Our hearts ache for you and we are with you in spirit in these terrible hours. Love,

Bob and Amba

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: skarpi
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:20 PM

úff , I saw the picture of the water .......


Very sad to hear.

Condolences to you, your family, and all the friends.

and may god stay by your side .

All the best Skarpi Iceland .

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Mrrzy
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 06:33 PM

The day before we knew the final truth about Dad was probably longer than the 25 or so years since his death... I am so very, very sorry you are having to go through this. I will keep thinking of you, and those are beautiful pictures, thanks for posting them.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Kent Davis
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 06:31 PM

Now is the time of anguish and tears. In the days to come, may the God of all comfort bring calm to your soul and may you remember, and cherish, the courage of his death and the joy of his life.

Kent

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Richard Taylor
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 05:28 PM

Sandy, Caroline and the Paton family, on my own behalf and that of the members of the Folk Song Society of Greater Boston, please know that we are thinking of you at this tragic time.

Richard

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: My guru always said
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 05:15 PM

I am so sorry to hear this news, sending positive thoughts and have a candle lit in hope.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:32 PM

There are no words. We're so sorry to hear of your loss.

Love

Khatt and Paul

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Matthew Edwards
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:32 PM

This is indeed heartbreaking. My deepest sympathy to all the family.

Matthew

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Bobert
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:22 PM

Though everything has allready been said add my feelings of deepest sorrows for your loss and may the Good Lord be with you all during these difficult times...

Bobert

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Cool Beans
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:44 PM

I am so very sorry.
Marty

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,The Bristow Family
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:32 PM

A Child is born to shine their light. Kaelan's shown brighter than most. I had the privilege of knowing Kaelan as my son was a good friend of his. He brightened not only the room but each soul with his smile and his joy. Fate works in strange ways and I must say I am baffled as to her reasons. He must have a greater purpose in a better place than here.
"...Though we may stand on the shore and wave a tearful farewell, murmuring there...there he's gone. Know there are others, on a distant shore, who are waiting...watching, hopefull to raise the cheer, there...there he comes!..."

Our hearts are with you and with Kaelan
Karen Bristow

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: olddude
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:06 PM

I have no words other than
my prayers are with you and your family and deepest sorrow for your loss

Dan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Duane D.
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:04 PM

I was in northern NJ yesterday when bbc phoned me to tell me this sad news. My heart has been sick and sad ever since. I share the sadness and sense of loss with the Paton family. bbc and I attended the Paton family reunion dinner on June 13, 2009, as guests of Sandy and Caroline. While there we took many digital images. I looked through all of mine last night and found ten of Kaelan. I added these into a set on my flickr gallery for the Paton family and friends and it may be viewed here.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: frogprince
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:56 PM

With my background, I still at times think of God as a loving Father figure. At numerous times thru life, when I've seen someone suffer a loss like this, I've heard someone say, "God must have had a reason".
My mind forms a different picture. I see God greeting Kaelan with open arms, saying "Kaelan, I'm so proud of you for what you did; but I'm so sorry that this took you from your family and friends much too soon."
I'm so sorry, and I know you will miss Kaelan with all your hearts.
                      Dean Elkins, in Michigan.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Dani
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:19 PM

Thinking of you all with deepest sorrow and prayers for comfort.

Dani

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:56 PM

Oh, no- prayers ascending. Light]

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Little Hawk
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:39 PM

I'm very sorry to hear about this and can only send my sympathy to the entire Paton family. I almost lost my own life to deep water one time. We know that we all die sometime...but it's a terrible blow to lose a child or a grandchild. May you find strength and comfort to get you through this tragedy.

George

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Beer
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:18 PM

Been away all morning and someone just sent a p.m. for me to have a look. I just did, and I am very sorry for your loss. Strenght to all concerned.
Adrien

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Joe Offer
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:17 PM

I don't know what to say, Sandy and Caroline. I'm sure this is so hard on you. May the love of your friends and family give you comfort at this time.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Tradsinger
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:17 PM

I'd like to add condolences and sympathy from England.

Gwilym

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Morticia
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:06 PM

I am so sorry, my thoughts are with you all

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:59 PM

Is that you, Hawker?


Someone asked me how much good a note in a thread like this, from a rank stranger, can do. I replied:

When I was new here, the Patons personally invited me to come to a festival. That's how they feel about rank strangers. :~)

I Flow blessings to all who have lost a dear one, young or old, recently or not so recently. This is a community that stays close in the hard times, and I give thanks to be a small part of it.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:55 PM

Hugs to the whole family, nothing more I can add, you are all in my thoughts x
Lucy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: ClaireBear
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:46 PM

My heartfelt condolences. Prayers flutter on the breeze from California to you. May they bring a tiny spark of comfort.

Claire

P.S. This passage has helped me though some difficult times, although I have never had times as difficult as yours:

"The death of each of us is in the order of things: It follows life as surely as night follows day. We can take The Tree of Life as a symbol. The human race is the trunk and branches of this tree, and individual men and women are the leaves, which appear one season, flourish for a summer, and then die. I too am a leaf of this tree and one day I shall be torn off by a storm, or simply decay and fall — and become part of the earth about its roots.

"But, while I live, I am conscious of the tree's flowing sap and steadfast strength. Deep down in my consciousness is the consciousness of a collective life, a life of which I am a part, and to which I make a minute — but unique — contribution. When I die and fall the tree remains, nourished to some small degree by my manifestation of life. Millions of leaves have preceded me and millions will follow me: but the tree itself grows and endures."

— Herbert Read

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,stallion
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:16 PM

Deepest sympathy from all of us

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:12 PM

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Big Mick
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:10 PM

I spent yesterday at the hospital with my Dad. I came home to find this and I am beyond grief stricken. As has been stated so eloquently by so many, to be a friend with these wonderful people is to be a part of a very large family of friends. Caroline and Sandy embrace you with loving arms and just pull you in. In my own case, they have become something we call "chosen family". I have sat in that wonderful house on Sharon Mountain, over a cup of coffee and watched Caroline dote on Linnea, and saw the pride in her eyes as she spoke of her grandkids. Knowing that this searing pain is something that they will have to bear, and that there is nothing that those of us who love them can do to ease it, is one of the worst feelings ever. What I can say to, beloved "chosen family" is that I share your grief, and you are in my constant and loving thoughts and prayers.

David, and family, I have always said I can tell a great deal about people by the children they raise. In the case of your parents and grandparents, it is clear they have raised exceptional children and grandkids. Look to the love they have given you for the strength you will need in the coming days, weeks, and months. And know that you carry with you the love and sympathy of all of us that your family has touched.

Mick Lane

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Becca72
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:56 AM

Having just experienced something similar, I offer my heartfelt condolences and a shoulder to cry on if needed.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Severn
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:50 AM

My thoughts and prayers go out to all the
family, as well.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Waddon Pete
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:49 AM

......Thinking of you all.

Peter

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Ebbie
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:44 AM

I am so sorry.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Neil D
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:38 AM

Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. So very sorry.

                                 Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: fat B****rd
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:31 AM

Best regards and condolences from Charlie in Scotland.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 09:37 AM

I don't have any words that haven't already been said.

Holding you in our hearts, thoughts and prayers.

Linn

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: John Minear
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 09:28 AM

Such loss is beyond bearing. May all of our thoughts gather round and help bear you up, now and later. John

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Keith A o' Hertford
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 08:48 AM

I am so sorry for you all.
Vey best wishes,
keith.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Lorraine
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 08:27 AM

My thoughts and love to all involved. Caroline-Sandy if you'd like to just talk at any point please feel free to call. You have my numbers I think. I'll send them again in case. Hugs and love
~Lorraine

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:16 AM

Sorry, folks. I was hurrying & blew the link. This one should work:

Photos of Kaelan

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:13 AM

Here are a few photos I took of Kaelan at the Paton family reunion on Saturday, June 13, 2009--3 days before his death. The young folks sat together & they had a great time.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mudder_bbc/sets/72157619803374081/

My favorite memory of Kaelan was an evening when he joined Sandy, Caroline, & me for dinner & a movie. He was in 5th grade then, the same age as my students. He & I had a lengthy discussion about literature. He was informed, articulate, fun! He recommended a fantasy series that I, subsequently, read & purchased for my library. Many of my students have enjoyed it & I like to tell them that I bought it on a young person's recommendation. What a terrible loss this is!

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: sian, west wales
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:06 AM

This tragedy tears at the heart. I've never met the Patons but am eternally grateful for all they've done, and am keeping them in my prayers.

sian

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: SylviaN
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:20 AM

My heart goes out to you.

Sylvia

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Anglo
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:43 AM

I can only echo George Ward. I just heard the news, and have very little to say except to add sympathy and condolence. I am reminded of Gamble Rogers, much older, who also drowned trying to rescue someone. And the song "Don't take the Heroes" but so often they're the ones to go.

John R

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: eddie1
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:08 AM

One of the worst pains in the world is for a parent to haave to say Goodbye to a child, For a grandparent to lose a grandchild is a step even more painful. It's not "supposed" to be like that.
To the Paton family, I've never met you, never e-mailed you, never called you but, through the pages of Mudcat I feel I know you. Please accept my deepest sympathy.

Eddie

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: georgeward
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:45 AM

Dearest Patons,

It is no surprise at all that any one of you would try to help a friend in trouble. No surprise to anyone here, I imagine. May you find the strength to help each other through this. And may we find enough ways to help.

I love you all,

- George