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Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-Apr 29, 2011
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Tinker Date: 07 May 09 - 10:43 PM "In my personal prayers, I always say in my thoughts, "Lord, I'll stay as long as You need me, so show me what to do..." --Kytrad Thanks for doing what you were shown... May we all share the vision and the strength Hey Mick ... 'pears to be a posse of wise women circling round. Be aware. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Uncle Phil Date: 07 May 09 - 10:36 PM One of life's blessings is that we're able to lean on our family and friends when in need, or prop them up if that's what is needed. It would be a cold, lonely world otherwise. My 93 year-old Mom, when faced with medical indignities, tells me that old age isn't for cowards. - Phil |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Charley Noble Date: 07 May 09 - 09:48 PM Jean- Nothing you can say would appear stupid. It's life's wisdom. It can't be easy to be a few years ahead of us in life experience. My mother who is 91 is still actively painting but she knows she is doing that year by year, and there is so much that she is unable to do because her body just won't. Still, she says she gets much more done, when it's a painting, then she was able to do when she was younger, because she knows what she wants to do! However, she'd like to chuck her walker and she'd like to be able to see what she's eating when she's at a restaurant with friends when the light is romantically dimmed. We're looking around for an appropriate battery operated lantern for the restaurants but there's not a thing we can do about her lack of balance. So continue to do what you're able to do, and continue to astound and delight us. Cheerily, Charley Noble |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: katlaughing Date: 07 May 09 - 09:28 PM Writ on my heart, Jean, WiseWomon...thank you. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Janie Date: 07 May 09 - 09:16 PM Wrong adjective, Jean. Wise. Wise and honest. Thanks for that. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: kytrad (Jean Ritchie) Date: 07 May 09 - 09:10 PM Here. We're back- son Jon from a two-week hospital stay,still having tests after getting home as they still can't find what the trouble is. George from another series of test, taking 18 different pills a day, soon to be told to start dialysis. Myself growling around the house with a hundred aches and pains. I can see and feel big changes coming, and know that this long Growing-Old part of our lives is coming to an end--- We ARE old! I start reading sympathetically about poor OLD people, and suddenly it hits me: What? I myself am 86. What do we do with our house? Man- all these taxes, who'll pay them next year? Will we go to a nursing home? Have a live-in nurse? I tell you, it's so hard when you finally realize that Life makes you keep on learning- right up to the end. I guess, as long as I can understand Life's messages, I'll be able to go on. And I tell myself, "Just think of all the people that ever lived in this world. How many problems and worries and tragedies have they endured, along with the fewer joys and goodtimes and successes? And, when you come down to it, one is one and all alone and evermore shall be so. Or another way of putting it, You got to cross that lonesome valley by yourself. I don't dread it, once I accept it. I have so loved my Mother and Father, all my gaggle of sisters, my three brothers (only one out of all of them is still in the world with me). We hurt with them if they have pain at the end, but we cannot go with them or ease that journey. Someone said, "The dead always look peaceful." I believe they are. I believe that they have walked the valley and found at last the destination we all are are striving to find. What else is Life, but a trip towards something higher and better? People who have almost died, have talked of being in a dark tunnel with a faint but bright light far ahead; then their passage is forbidden and they have to turn from the light and return to Life- to do an unfinished task there? To help or guide someone else for awhile longer? I wonder- but it doesn't matter, does it? None of us can live forever. We must live Life to the fullest, then give those behind us a loving farewell. That's what I hope I can do. I'll stop, because I don't know what I'm trying to say, but I thought it ought to be said. I guess I was trying to understand, myself, that not all of us CAN live to be old, or WANT to, and so arrive earlier at that entrance into the next world. In my personal prayers, I always say in my thoughts, "Lord, I'll stay as long as You need me, so show me what to do..." Big Mick, feel better, and I hope that Fate, or Karma, or whatever, eases up on you. I know you'll be needed in this Life for a long time, so take the reins that have been handed to you, and have a good, long run. You have many who love you and are running along with you, and that lonesome valley is still far away. Love to you all, Jean PS: Darn- I bet y'all will think this is a stupid letter, and tomorrow I may think so myself! But it's what I felt like saying. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Charmion Date: 07 May 09 - 04:11 PM I'm sorry to hear of your trouble, Mick, and sorry to be so laggard in catching on. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: GUEST,Slag Date: 07 May 09 - 02:40 AM Big Mick, you are one of the most level-headed guys here at the 'Cat, never afraid to look at something from both sides or even a third side that no one had noticed. And Peace is right on, you are a big hearted fellow. I deeply appreciate that. My heart goes out to you and I do understand your grief, at least in part at any rate. My prayers ARE with you now. Be kind, gentle and forgiving---to yourself. I pray for your Mom. My Mom is 83 and has been widowed now three years. We do what we can when we can. God bless, Tom |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: scouse Date: 07 May 09 - 02:38 AM Just back up with New computer, Oh,dear, Mick this shouldn't happen to you. My thoughts and love go out to you. I'm lost for words. As Aye, Phil |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: georgeward Date: 07 May 09 - 02:26 AM No quota, Mick. We all need what we need when life goes hard, and in helping each other through we help ourselves as well. I'm trying to imagine, though, what joyful chaos it would be if we could all-at-once, all of us, descend from this virtual cloud, stand at your door and sing FOR you. We'd bring our own beer. - G |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Genie Date: 07 May 09 - 01:23 AM Mick, there is no quota for support here at Mudcat, and even if there were, you are a long way from using up yours. My thoughts and prayers are once again with you and your family, especially your wonderful mom. Please don't ever let these unfair slings that are slung at you kill the music in your big o' heart. Genie |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Ebbie Date: 06 May 09 - 09:44 PM Heal quickly and well, Skarpi. That sentiment fits for your mother too, Mick. And perhaps you also. You are in the midst of an energy stream, Mick. Rest in it. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Janie Date: 06 May 09 - 08:27 PM Hope your Mom is stabilized, Mick. Holding all of you to the light. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: skarpi Date: 06 May 09 - 01:10 PM Well the test goes on , this is the school of life I am in fourth grade now , so I guess you are somewhere near me . Your mom dorve her to the hostpital , well if thats not will to keep on livin , I dont know hat is , I am so sorry to hear all this Mick but you all will get through this . we do that in time . I am here now at home with broken legs, and I too drove to the hostspital with the leg already broken so ........ more people do this thing . Your mom is a hero , she went to the hostspital and got help ASAP and that is a big plus , I pray for her to come back on her right sight . Mick all the best to you and your family stay strong , and remember you must passed the test , he has given you . All the best Skarpi Iceland . |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: katlaughing Date: 06 May 09 - 12:32 PM Light and Love coming your way, Mickdarlin'. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Sandy Mc Lean Date: 06 May 09 - 01:00 AM Mick, your friends are with you! Life's most weighty burden is a heavy heart. Perhaps we can shoulder some small part of the load! Many of us have walked that road and understand that it has no end, but the going gets easier on the far side of the hill. Hoping that the best for you will prevail! Sandy |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Uncle Phil Date: 05 May 09 - 11:45 PM My sister and I are going to drive from Dallas to Baton Rouge and back this weekend to visit Mom and take care of some stuff for her. I've been grumbling about the long drive and all the things I'd rather do than spending a day at the old folks home. Mick, after reading your post I suddenly find myself looking forward to the trip. You say that your mother doesn't deserve this burden, and I believe that. But it makes me wonder what in God's name she and your dad ever did to deserve a son like you to help them carry their burdens. - Phil |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Art Thieme Date: 05 May 09 - 10:48 PM Mick, I've no words either--like many others here. I do have a story I sometimes remember when I'm in need of it. A fellow is trying to get home. The driving wind and rain has turned the countryside into a quagmire of mud. Every time he is able to achieve one step forward, he falls back three steps. Turning around, he went in the opposite direction-----and eventually he got home. Love to you all, Art |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Marion Date: 05 May 09 - 10:06 PM Hello Mick. I'm sorry to hear that you have more bad news. I hope the best for you, your mom, and all your family. Love, Marion |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Barbara Shaw Date: 05 May 09 - 09:31 PM Mick, we're all thinking of you and that has to be some comfort to know you're not alone with this burden. My father had an aortic abdominal aneurysm 10 years ago and did not survive, so think about how lucky you are to have the gift of these extra days with your Dad. The bad times will pass eventually, possibly to return, possibly to stay away. When it's all over, it's surely not about how easy our lives were, it's more about what we did with what we had. Sent with love... |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Charley Noble Date: 05 May 09 - 09:24 PM As your good friend Kitty Donohoe has said "There are no words," only a commitment to help our friends and family members carry on as best we can. I've been listening to your songs, the old ones re-released and the newer ones, on my way back from Michigan to Maine. You too have provided many others some comfort that they are not alone, Those songs are damn good! Charley Noble |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Ron Davies Date: 05 May 09 - 09:09 PM So sorry, Mick,, that your troubles are crowding in on you. Your faith--and possibly even your music--will carry you through. Even singing to yourself may help. And you know you have a world of friends here who wish the best for you and will always be here to hear anything you want to say. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2 From: Andrez Date: 05 May 09 - 08:08 PM There's so much sadness and tragedy in the world today. The love and good wishes sent to you Mick by Mudcatters reading this thread must surely push back the darkness if only a little bit further. Singing and making music hold the darkness at bay as well, although if you are down I guess thats a little harder to believe. All I can suggest is that if you cant sing, then find some space in the day or at least in the week to play some tunes: there are so many beautiful airs out there that say in sound what words cant. It might just help lighten up your heart and bring back some more of the light into your household again. On the other hand if you find you really cant do that and find that important parts of you are "shutting down" and you feel you cant stop the process please, please, please go and talk to someone and get some professional help :-) Love and light from yer Australian friends too, Andrez |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 05 May 09 - 08:05 PM Dearest Mick- Words aren't enough. Light and love and a huge, encompassing cyber hug to you and your mom and dad and family. Allison |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Hawker Date: 05 May 09 - 07:56 PM Mick! Sending lots of love and healing thoughts to you right now. Holding you and yours in my thoughts and prayersCheers, Lucy x |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Tinker Date: 05 May 09 - 07:05 PM Mick m'love..... blessings and light and all that shines brightest in the dark of night... Just remember that you've done your best to join into the harmonies and now take a moment and listen to it echo back to you... It takes many voices to make that amazing goose bump sound... don't try to carry the tune alone. Love and Light tink |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Joybell Date: 05 May 09 - 06:45 PM So sorry, Mick. My thoughts and love to you and yours. Joy |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Peace Date: 05 May 09 - 06:13 PM Mick, You are one of the people here I value most--despite more than a few differences over the years. You are one truly tough, good, soft-hearted and caring person. There are a few of these on the 'net, but they say essentially the same thing. A Grandfather from the Cherokee Nation was talking with his grandson. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves." "One wolf is evil and ugly: He is anger, envy, war, greed, self-pity, sorrow, regret, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, selfishness and arrogance." "The other wolf is beautiful and good: He is friendly, joyful, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, justice, fairness, empathy, generosity, true, compassion, gratitude, and deep VISION." "This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other human as well." The grandson paused in deep reflection because of what his grandfather had just said. Then he finally cried out, "Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win?" The elder Cherokee replied, "The wolf that you feed." You are the second wolf, Mick. You be as strong as you can, and if you need help to walk for a bit, let us know. All trails leave only one set of footprints in the sand at times. No one ever does it alone. Not your mom, not you, none of us. Best to you, buddy. Bruce |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: artbrooks Date: 05 May 09 - 06:08 PM Mick, I've never been very good with words - I guess that comes with being a management poyk - so I can't begin to match the wonderful sentiments of all your other friends here. Just know that we are thinking of you. Art and Jenn |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: JedMarum Date: 05 May 09 - 05:58 PM Time for the low D whistle and quiet space ... the music comes back as does the balance, and grace. My thoughts and prayers are with you, my friend - as are the blessings of this mountain of friends. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Neil D Date: 05 May 09 - 05:41 PM Sometimes it just never seems to end... our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. Christina and Neil |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Hollowfox Date: 05 May 09 - 05:22 PM "I know I have been crabby ..... no, a complete asshole, at times.." Let's get one thing straight, chum. After all you've been going through, I'd be worried if you weren't at least "crabby". Hrmph. Now, that being said, remember a few tips. You've been under so much stress for so long that you've probably forgotten a few of these, so: 1) Drive extra carefully, because stress slows your reaction time. 2) Your reading level goes down under stress. You'll still be able to read instructions, etc. but you'll have trouble reading a light novel. It'll come back, though. 3) Ditto short term memory. Write yourself notes. 4) Same for general cognative stuff. Take your time signing legal documents, erc. if you can. We're pulling for you, even if we can't give you corporeal hugs and backrubs. And as soon as I get home from work (about 30 minutes), The Genuine Purebred Midwestern $#@!-reduction candle series for you and yours will be started up. Thanks for letting us know what's going on. Take care, Hollowfox |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: GUEST,hg Date: 05 May 09 - 05:10 PM I bet you can only see one set of footprints when you look down, right now....but they aren't yours, Mickster... |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: My guru always said Date: 05 May 09 - 05:10 PM So sorry to hear this Mick, sending positive thoughts to you and yours across the pond. Candle lit! Hil |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: The Sandman Date: 05 May 09 - 04:53 PM sorry to hear your awful news. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Barry Finn Date: 05 May 09 - 04:51 PM HI Mick, so sorry you've been hit so hard these past couple yrs, you deserve better. If you weren't able to stand the hits Mick they wouldn't be as hard but nature only throws at you what she knows you're able to with stand & you can stand this just as well as you've stood before. Your whole career (not your presently retired career) has been fighting for the others so you'llk fair well in this battle to. Don't give up on the music, it'll help you through the tough times. I doubt I'll be seeing you this coming weekend now with all this but it would be a good place for you to be if you can see your way to being there, I'll see to it that you get enough music to dull your senses & I won't even pick on you, I promise Good luck buddy & to better times. Barry |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: open mike Date: 05 May 09 - 04:42 PM YOU HAVE GIVEN STRENGTH AND COURAGE to so many by just being there... myself included!! when i was in hospital with my mom, singing helped me get thru it, and also helped carry others along who enjoyed hearing the sounds... perhaps you could try to make music...i truly believe in the theraputic effects!! they can do so much for stroke victims these days... especially if treatment is begun soon...which must be the case if she drove to the hospital herself. (see previous thread on strokes....search for it..) hugs to you ((((( Mick ))))) and to all who are in this with you... |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Eve Goldberg Date: 05 May 09 - 04:32 PM Mick, I'm so sorry to hear about everything that's happened with your family. Sending you lots of love from north of the border... |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Aeola Date: 05 May 09 - 03:45 PM You and yours will pull through but it's hard, be positive, there's a lot of people rooting for you!! best wishes |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: MartinRyan Date: 05 May 09 - 02:43 PM Big Mick You mind yourself! Regards |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: RangerSteve Date: 05 May 09 - 02:33 PM You can add my name to the list of people offering thoughts and prayers. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: CapriUni Date: 05 May 09 - 02:08 PM Well, damn Big, virtual hugs from here, to you and all of yours, there. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Zany Mouse Date: 05 May 09 - 01:50 PM Hi Mick My goodness you have had your fill of bad luck! Sending positive energy your way. On a brighter side ... I had a major CVA when I was a mere 49 and came through, thanks to the Stroke Unit at a Northwick Park Hospital. Even though I have had several TIAs sinced, I battled through all. It sounds as though your ma has a pretty strong spirit and I'm sure she will do the same. The Stroke Unit told me that attitude has a lot to do with recovery. I wish her well. Blessings Rhiannon |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: mouldy Date: 05 May 09 - 12:49 PM Oh Mick, you have been saddled with, and come through more than most people would be able to cope with, and this just shows what strength you have within you! At some point, whatever has got it in for you is bound to turn its attention elsewhere: I am certain of that! I agree with Jacqui that at some point T'ai Chi might benefit your mum, as it has been proven to improve balance. It is also relaxing, and this may help if your mum gets a bit frustrated with her progress in recovery. There are even Chi Gung exercises and bits of T'ai Chi that can be done sitting down. The Yang 8 step form is one - we had an MS lady in a wheelchair in our group! I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts. Andrea |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Jeri Date: 05 May 09 - 12:49 PM Hugs, Mick. Not much I can say that would help. It hurts because you DO have people you love who love you. Just have to keep breathing and moving forward and loving them. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Rapparee Date: 05 May 09 - 12:44 PM This sucks. Why can't it happen to some rotten bastard? |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: ClaireBear Date: 05 May 09 - 12:41 PM Mick, prayers, loving thoughts and music from my part of California for your mother and for you, with plenty left over for your father and Ciara. I wish there was something more I could do, but prayer, love and song are the best I have to offer. Later, ehen I'm outside the office, I'll try to sing your family some healing. You've tapped into the Mudcat wellspring; drink deep. Blessings, Claire |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Bill D Date: 05 May 09 - 12:40 PM Damn, Mick! You & your family are now the poster family for the newest "Murphy's Law" calendar. Murphy himself told us: "Whatever hits the fan is not distributed equally." Are you sure that some other Lane family around there is not wondering why life has seemed so easy lately? Forgive my dark humor...I, like all these other folks who know you and As they say, and as I know you will - "Keep on keeping on!" |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: Little Hawk Date: 05 May 09 - 12:15 PM You've had to face a lot of pain and loss lately, Mick. The years can bring that. Getting old is a tough business for most of us...I know it is for me. I've had days and days after days when I wake up in the morning with the feeling that "I've got nothing left to live for anymore"...I kid you not. It seems like all the things that once were so exciting...all the romantic adventures that beckoned to call me out the door into the big wide world...seems like it's all gone past now and it can't be found again in this life. I feel real despair sometimes. I have not had to face as many of the kind of personal losses you have been dealing with. I have no children and my family circle is very small. My Dad passed away a couple of years ago, so just my Mom remains and she's 80 now. The other relatives I have are people I very seldom even see and I'm not particularly close to any of them. My close relationships are more with my friends, most of whom play music. I can only guess at the pain people go through when a child of theirs dies or is in some great difficulty. It must be terrible. But we all face pain in our own way. Each one of us. Whatever our situation. Ultimately we are all going to leave this place, the only thing is, we don't know when. I trust that when we do there will be further meetings of loved ones in a place of Spirit, I really have no doubt about it. Bonds of love are not just limited to this world, they go on. That's something I have faith in. It doesn't come from any specific religion or anything like that, it's just an inner knowing that I have and I trust it. Your love will not fail, Mick. It cannot. It's indestructible. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-May 5, 2009 From: wysiwyg Date: 05 May 09 - 12:06 PM I cannot even imagine the toll it would take on a man who thinks he has to personally shoulder every last thing (and address most of them through fighting hard). I suspect the AFGO in this is that you don't actually shoulder it, and you can't fight it-- for sure, not alone. ((( Mick ))) ~Susan |
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