BS: reevaluating what's really important

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 10:10 AM

Perfect Amos........You're never too old for a "growing up" experience and if you are its time to go..............Spaw hug your way Tami!


Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Amos
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 09:13 AM

Hugs, Tami. Nice job of living!


A

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 09:05 AM

good on ya!

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: ranger1
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 06:59 AM

Meg, thanks so much for sharing that.

I stopped in on a friend last evening before coming home to have a chat and a cup of tea after a long day at work. She told me about a friend of hers who always told her children on their way out the door "be kind". I think that's as important as making happy memories. Or perhaps it's part of making happy memories. All I know is, I have lots of them and I plan on making many more.

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Megan L
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 03:23 AM

Dauvit had an aunt to be honest she was the family pain. Nothing was ever quite good enough if you wnet to visit someone before her or stayed with them longer than you did with her it was moaned about. Visiting with her was something folks did out of duty.

One day Dauvit had to go the 15 miles to town to do some business instead of the hour and a half it normally took he was gone for hours and I was begining to get worried (No mobile phones for us back then.)

On his return he told me he had had a sudden notion to go visit his aunt. They had spent almost 5 hours sitting together chatting pleasently about when she was young on one of the outer islands and had a great time together.

I was so glad he had responded to the idea when he had it, even more so two days later when her son phoned to tell us his mum had been found dead when her neighbour had gone in the day before.

Had he not gone his memories would be of a rather bitter old lady instead he could smile at thoughts of her as an adventurous teenager who travelled alone to the main island to look for work, and dancing in a sparkly dress that her Plymoth Brethern parents would never have aproved of.

MAKE HAPPY MEMORIES

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: LilyFestre
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 02:00 AM

It's amazing what happens when you let go of all that stressful BS stuff and focus on what's really important to you. I'm glad you were able to do that for yourself. I had an unwelcome health issue that almost forced me into really seeing what is important and equally as important, what's not. I don't recommend waiting to figure these things out or to be forced into figuring them out. It seems that human beings like to think that we have an infinite amount of time to focus in on the important stuff...not true. Good for you for getting rid of the stress...perhaps you had some loss but I'll bet the gains were SO worth it!

XOXOXO

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Jun 12 - 11:07 PM

My day on Saturday ended with leaving Gramma's house many hours after I'd planned, stopping in to see if my brother's girlfriend was feeling better after her oral surgery the previous day, and making the snap decision that it had been way too long since I'd seen my step-mum and spending a pleasant hour with her. I got back home way too late, was way too wired on caffeine, and got absolutely no sleep between getting home at midnight and leaving for work at 7 AM. It was insanely busy at the park and being well-rested would have helped a bit, but it was all worth it. That point was driven home today when my boss got the news that his father passed away following emergency heart surgery this afternoon.

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 10:06 PM

(That BillD is such a show-off!**bg**)

You've had a lot on your plate the past few years, Tami. I always say no experience is wasted if we learn something from it. You have been open and receptive to alternatives AND paid attention to yourself and what YOU know is best for you and those you love. Congratulations for having the courage to act on that knowledge and for the wisdom you've shared about time well spent.

May you have many more well spent days.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Bobert
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 08:44 PM

Sometimes things do happen for the better... One door shuts and a better one opens...

Glad to hear when the better one opens, Ranger1...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Bill D
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 08:32 PM

What they said³!

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Janie
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 08:11 PM

Lovely, Tami.

You are clear about your priorities. I hope the guy moves on, or another full-time position at another park with a rational and reasonable boss comes along for you in the future. In the meantime, you accepted the reality of the situation, weighed the costs and benefits, and have moved on. Not without cost, but with a clear sense that the benefits outweigh the costs for the time being.

You are a smart, insightful Lady!

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Leadfingers
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 05:40 PM

Contentment is far more important than mere financial gain ! Nice post .

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: gnu
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 05:25 PM

Heartwarming. Good on ya!

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 04:47 PM

It's been a week of happies for me. I had my 15-year-old nephew for the week, and he is always a joy. It was a lot of fun taking him to work at the park and teaching him new skills (he now knows how to disassemble a Stihl chainsaw, clean it, and put it back together, as well as how to prune trees properly, and it was a joy to have him ask if we could go visit Kendall and Jacqui.

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: fat B****rd
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 04:02 PM

Ranger1, I'm very happy that you're happy. Thank you for a very positive post.
Charlie in Dunfermline

Subject: RE: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: Megan L
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 04:00 PM

Sounds like you had a memory day lass may you have many more. Take time to make memories some day we all need them.

Subject: BS: reevaluating what's really important
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 03:57 PM

Last fall, I made up my mind that I needed to transfer from one park to another, but it meant going back to being seasonal and losing my health benefits in the winter. I was in a very stressful environment and it was starting to impact my health, both physical and mental. This spring, I made the jump, and have felt better than I have in a very long time. I am able to take time off to spend with my family, which was made very difficult at my other job. Last night, I was able to be present to watch my niece Brenna and our cousin Katrina graduate from high school, and spend time with my brother and his other five children. My brother is going through a rough patch and it meant a lot for both he and Brenna that I made the trip down.

My plan was to spend the evening with them, the following morning with my mother and grandmother, and then drive to Portsmouth (NH) for the shanty sing. At the last minute, I decided that there will be other shanty sings, but my family will not be here forever. I mowed the yard for my mum while she was taking my nephew back to his mum's. Mum's got a tooth abscess and isn't feeling well, and Gramma's almost 88. Me, I do this for a living, and I wouldn't have felt right leaving the chore for my mum. And spending a pleasant afternoon with my grandmother on the porch chatting about a large variety of topics is a fine thing as well. It was well worth it, seeing the relieved, happy look on Mum's face when she drove back into the driveway and hearing the pride in Gramma's voice when she told her friend that I'd taken care of the lawn for them. Guess they did a good job raising me.

Just wanted to share this with my Mudcat family.