BS: Good excuses for refusing sex

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Big Al Whittle
Date: 20 Aug 06 - 02:31 PM

I went to Whitby on my honeymoon thirty five years ago tomorrow. It was freezing bitter cold. The sea mist was so low, you couldn't actually see the sea. It was like that for two days - more like January than August.

As I remember we watched the pictures a lot. There was Paint Your wagon with Clint Eastwood, and an Alistair Maclean thing - when Eight Bells Toll.

The sex......well you take that for granted at that age. But you're a fool if you forget that your parner's love is her greatest gift, something she has a choice about conferring. And you're sleepwalking through life if you think there's no element of competition - even after 35 very happy years.

By the way - if anybody feels the urge, I won't be annoyed or offended if you want to regard me as a sex object.

Go ahead, talk to me dirty like the cheap slut I really am.

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Slag
Date: 20 Aug 06 - 03:15 PM

George!! I'm shocked! Willy got your Willy?? I wonder if he'll mention it tonight. What will Winona say??? OOOh, OOOOH, I get it. THAT was just an excuse. A 1000 pardons. (snicker, snicker)

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Sorcha
Date: 20 Aug 06 - 03:20 PM

OK, Al...so where's yer pic? LOL

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Genie
Date: 20 Aug 06 - 07:10 PM

QUOTE: Bill D - Date: 10 Aug 06 - 11:27 AM

well, once IN bed is no time to announce your lack of interest. ...
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Um, what if you're already sound asleep (and went there for that reason)? ;-D


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Of course, you could always try, "It's been so long I forgot how."


On a serious note, I kind of feel like whichever party in a relationship WANTS sex should maybe use their powers of persuasion and seduction instead of asking for or expecting sex.
And if you have reasons for not WANTING to be turned on (e.g., you have a serious case of crotch rot or you're saving yourself for Mr/Miss Right - or both), well, the two of you need to talk about that.

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Mr Red
Date: 21 Aug 06 - 01:18 PM

Mayhap Mr Anonymous is reading this. I would think keeping the friendship was a goal worth striving for.
Holidays? A different matter. Looks like the decision is made anyway.

Enjoy.

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Paul from Hull
Date: 21 Aug 06 - 01:18 PM

Why would there EVER be a good excuse for refusing sex?

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Paul from Hull
Date: 21 Aug 06 - 01:24 PM

Ok that was too flippant an answer really, but I hadnt fully read through the thread.

Nw I have , I have to point out that there are times I have not had sex at Whitby too...

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: GUEST,Bruce Baillie
Date: 22 Aug 06 - 07:43 AM

...Just say, "Darling, I really, REALLY do want to sleep with you!" and then roll over and do just that!

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 22 Aug 06 - 08:51 AM

I keep reading the title of this thread as 'God excuse for refusing sex'

I have now reached the age where I prefer the 'Viva exam' to the practical, but recently had the unnerving experience of being told when I reminisced happily about the previous night's frolics. "Good I'm glad you enjoyed it, I was so pissed I can't remember much of it"
There was I with egg on my face, and a stiff neck!
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Genie
Date: 22 Aug 06 - 10:58 AM

Quote (Paul from Hull): "Why would there EVER be a good excuse for refusing sex?"

Why should you EVER have sex if you're not turned on enough to WANT it youself?

As I said, the one who wants it from you should be persuasive, not demanding or presumptive.

Quote (Bruce Baillie):" ...Just say, "Darling, I really, REALLY do want to sleep with you!" and then roll over and do just that."

Good one, Bruce!

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Paul from Hull
Date: 22 Aug 06 - 11:52 AM

Fair comment Genie!

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: foggers
Date: 23 Aug 06 - 04:46 AM

LOL at Giok -

"I have now reached the age where I prefer the 'Viva exam' to the practical, but recently had the unnerving experience of being told when I reminisced happily about the previous night's frolics. "Good I'm glad you enjoyed it, I was so pissed I can't remember much of it"
There was I with egg on my face, and a stiff neck!
Giok"

That is quite a put down you met with there mate!

We do a lot of that kind of reminiscing, (as well as still doing the practical) And in our case one of our fave recollections goes back 15 years to when we were with other partners but had a secret affair, and on a clandestine encounter managed to break a bed in a hotel in Filey.......My how we laugh!

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Mrrzy
Date: 23 Aug 06 - 09:15 PM

No, then change the subject. Remember Miss Manners - you don't have to have a reason to say No, you just repeat it, nicely if you want to.

How about it?
I really can't. What did you think of the weather?
No, really, why not?
I really can't. What about the Jon Benet case?
Really, why won't you?
I really can't. Have you changed your hairstyle?

And so on.

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Big Al Whittle
Date: 23 Aug 06 - 09:30 PM

why would you want to talk about the weather, or hairstyles to someone like that?

Honesty is the best policy. The words you are searching for is sod off.

Or maybe not - perhaps you like to pretend to the sucker there is some basis for a relationship based on these inconsequentialities -stick around , who knows.......

In which case you're a bit of an emotional rapist in my book. You see lots of guys hanging round women who despise them - and express the fact behind their backs, or sidelong knowing glances.

Its not nice.

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: gnu
Date: 23 Aug 06 - 10:11 PM

Well, I just read the first post. Nope. None. You don't like your partner, fook off. Let your partner find someone who appreciates them.

Subject: RE: BS: Good excuses for refusing sex
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 24 Aug 06 - 08:00 PM

If you don't want him, you don't want him. Don't fuck him up too.