BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom

Subject: BS: Obit: Ramger Steve's Mom
From: RangerSteve
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:18 PM

I just got the news this morning. I can't say it was a surprise, as she was in her 80's and had Parkinsons Disease for a while with all kinds of complications. For the last two years she seemed not to know what was going on very much, and my last visit (Thanksgiving) was hard, as she didn't seem to care much about anything or understand what was going on. My last phone call, last week, she didn't quite understand anything I said. What's so hard about it is that she was so lively up into her 70's. When she was 73, she drove from Florida up to my house in New Jersey, then up to my older brother's in Mass. all on her own. She loved to travel like that. She moved in with my younger brother in South Carolina about 5 years ago, and her health went down hill, until she had to go into a nursing home. It had to have been tough for someone as independent as she once was. So, in a way, I'm relieved that it's over, and I'll pull through, but I'm sad right now. Thanks for giving me a place to get this off my chest.

Steve

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:27 PM

Commiserations Steve, from what you say, it's perhaps for the best.
As I always say, celebrate her life as you mourn her passing.
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: wysiwyg
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:27 PM

Steve, what you are describing fits a number of our departed parishioners to a T-- sometimes, they just sort of stop being there as they pull themselves further and further inward. I guess it's their time when it's their time-- but it never feels like the right time, does it, to those left behind?

You'll be in our thoughts.

~Susan & Hardi

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Rapparee
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:30 PM

Remember: it's only tough on those left behind, and you don't get over it anytime soon. Grief support will help. In the meantime, I'm thinkin' of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Partridge
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:37 PM

Hi Steve,

Thinking of you

love

Pat xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:38 PM

You've had a rough year, haven't you. My best wishes for a quick return to knowing the joy that you have had from her in the past.

({{{{{hug}}}}}}}

Eb

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:46 PM

Thoughts sent from Yorkshire. It's very, very hard - it will take time.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: gnu
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:03 PM

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: jeffp
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:15 PM

My sympathies.

Jeff

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: fat B****rd
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:25 PM

Please accept my condolences.
Best regards from Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: skipy
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:26 PM

Sympathies and thoughts, be strong.
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Hawker
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:37 PM

Lots of love and hugs to your family and yourself, hold onto those happier memories.
Lucy

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Becca72
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:00 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:26 PM

The hardest feeling to cope with is the guilt of being relieved that it's over. This feeling passes, as do the others of grief, loss and deprivation. Thinking of you.

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Mooh
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:31 PM

Very sorry, and our hopes and prayers for you and yours.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Janie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 05:12 PM

I'm sorry, Steve. Peace and comfort to you and your family.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 05:53 PM

Not easy to lose a parent. Our sympathies and strength to you, as well as thanks givings for peace and comfort for all. (Well said, Janie.)

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:38 PM

Hey, Steve: I went through the same thing this year. It's different for everyone, but it's always hard. The best you can do is carry the loving memories with you. My Mother used to say "Life is making memories, so you'd better make the best ones that you can."
In the long run, they carry you through.

Jerry

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Irish sergeant
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:33 PM

Steve;
My condolences on your loss. Neil

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: SINSULL
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:41 PM

I am sorry, Steve. Celebrate her life.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Bee
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:54 PM

Sorry for your loss, Ranger Steve.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Paul from Hull
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:13 PM

My sympathies Steve. I lost my Mum a month ago.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Slag
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 12:06 AM

Best wishes for you Steve. I know how hard it can be and my prayers are with you.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 03:31 AM

Thinking about you and your family

Khatt

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: alanabit
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 07:49 AM

Me too. Alan.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: ranger1
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 08:55 AM

So sorry, Steve.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: open mike
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 09:59 AM

wishing you and your family the strength to get thru this.
Laurel

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Metchosin
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 11:07 AM

So sorry for your loss Ranger Steve.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: jacqui.c
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 06:47 PM

Good thoughts coming from Maine. Your mother sounded like one to be proud of.

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: catspaw49
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 06:59 PM

All my best thoughts

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: Megan L
Date: 14 Mar 07 - 04:36 AM

May your pain ease and good memories rise.

Dauvitt and his Meg

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: RangerSteve
Date: 14 Mar 07 - 09:47 AM

Thanks, everyone. I finally came to grips with the idea that she's really gone. There's going to be a cremation, with a memorial service later one, since she could never abide the notion of being laid out for viewing at a funeral home.

One of her favorite things to do was to get in her car and drive, no particular destination, just going somewhere where she hadn't been to see what's there. I think I may have inherited that hobby from her. After she reached the stage where she couldn't drive long distances on her own, I'd go down Florida, and later, South Carolina, and I'd take her out driving, and those were some of the best trips ever. I know it had to be hard on her once she became bedridden. I'll take a road trip later on this week in her honor.

Steve

Subject: RE: BS: Obit: Ranger Steve's Mom
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Mar 07 - 10:08 AM

My mom was the same way, Steve. She always wanted to see what was "round the next bend." Driving just to see what was out there was always so much fun. I still love doing so, too. Next time I do, I will think of you and your mom and my own mom.