BS: A Beautiful Gift

Subject: RE: BS: A Beautiful Gift
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 30 Dec 03 - 08:32 AM

Thanks for the wonderful message, KT. It is a beautiful gift, in itself.

Now, if you talk about the greatest gift we can give, it is very simple. The gift to give to the man or woman who has "everything."

Yourself.

Over the years, some of the greatest gifts I've received have been people: Art Thieme (who many of you know) and Pat Conte (a wonderful musician and raconteur who lives on Lon Gisland.) For many years, we kept up a correspondence that carried me through the darkest days of my life. And I believe that I gave something in return. I've been reading a wonderful book recently that talks about building community, and fellowship. In order to do that you need honesty (and I'll share a quote from the thread on Gargoyle: "Love without honesty is sentimentality: Honesty without love is cruelty.")You also need humility (another great quote: "Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it's thinking of yourself less.") You need frequency (Art and Pat and I shared letters three or four times a week,) and you need sympathy.

The beautiful thing about being a "gift" to someone else, is that you can be a gift no matter how poor you are (as KT has shown us in her message;)no matter how confused or depressed you are; even if you believe you are worthless and have nothing to give.

For a couple of months, my wife and I went to visit a woman who was in a psychiatric ward. I know what it is like to reach a point where you can't go on. Been there. When I'd talk to the woman, our eyes would lock onto each other and there was no subterfuge, no "chit-chat." There was a connection between two souls. Those visits had what the author of the book I'm reading calls "Authenticity." We all know what Authenticity is. It's more than honesty. And it is powerful. It is at the heart of caring about, and loving each other. That is something that we all can give. The woman we visited gave it to us, even though she felt she had no reason to live... and certainly nothing to give. I looked her in the eye and told her that in six months, she would come up to me and tell me how beautiful her life is.

At the time when I told her that, the doctors had to keep her so heavily medicated that there were times when we couldn't even see her. Now, six or seven weeks later, she is home, her smile could light up Madison Square Garden and she's starting to do volunteer work. It's not that she doesn't have bad days, but she is healing. And she's still got 4 and a half months to go... :-)

Everyone can be a gift. Even our troubled, often cruel friend Gargoyle.

And this thread is a gift to all of us, from all of us.

Jerry

Subject: RE: BS: A Beautiful Gift
From: GUEST,KT, not logged on at the moment
Date: 30 Dec 03 - 09:10 PM

Ah, thank you, Mick. You are very kind. I am excited to know that a song is brewing there. DO keep me posted, please!

Yes Jerry, the entire experience was pure gift for me, not only on that particular day, but each and every time I pause to reflect on the experience and the images therin.....

This is a wonderful thread, Jerry. Great food for thought. I'd love to hear some more............KT

Subject: RE: BS: A Beautiful Gift
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 30 Dec 03 - 10:05 PM

This looks like a good time to wish everyone a Glorious New Year! Don't just settle for Happy..

Jerry

Subject: RE: BS: A Beautiful Gift
From: katlaughing
Date: 31 Dec 03 - 09:14 AM

KT, thanks for sharing that; what a beautiful and peace-filled image it conjures.

Happy New Year. May Peace Prevail,

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: A Beautiful Gift
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 31 Dec 03 - 03:50 PM

"Happy and glorious" - as the line goes.

Subject: RE: BS: A Beautiful Gift
From: Art Thieme
Date: 31 Dec 03 - 05:55 PM

...and at Jerry's prompting, I finally found this thread. Just know that those letters Jerry and I wrote got me through a terrible time in my life as well. I truly was at the end of my rope. None of the spinal and neck fusions I'd had helped my problems at all and things were worsening incrementally as the years wore on. To finally, after a decade, get the diagnosis of MS was liberating. I'm still some angry at the doctors that never figured it out, but that makes me more thankful to those who did get it right. And I learned a ton from all those downer experiences too. Every coin has two sides. I'll never be able to tell Jerry how much I've appreciated those letters---to and from him. Writing let me get my head together and see in black and white where I needed to do work---. If I aided him, I'm certainly glad. I love you and Ruth, Jerry. This Mudcat place is unique and special. So are all of you 'Catters. ---- Tonight Carol and I have our granddaughter with us while her parents spend a quiet time with friends bringing in whatever comes down the bizarre pike that this life IS and will be in 2004. In a very real way, the humanity of it is NOT diminished by being virtual and long-distance via cyberspace. This group of friends I've made here are truly a beautiful gift.

A grand New Year to you all. Love, Art

Subject: RE: BS: A Beautiful Gift
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 31 Dec 03 - 06:53 PM

Thanks Art! This thread is a welcome respite.

And may we make the best of whatever the New Year brings.

Love,

Jerry