BS: I'll miss my friend

Subject: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: GUEST,Pseudolus at work
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 03:14 PM

Several years ago a friend of mine and I met at a bar where I was playing. I invited him to stop by my church where I had been playing contemporary Christian music every Saturday night. I didn't know my friend was an alcoholic. He eventually came to church and was inspired in a big way by the message that night. He cleaned up, got sober, and on more than one occasion credited me with saving his life. He said without that invite he was sure he would have been dead in less than a year. I just wanted him to hear me play the drums but it was kind of a rush to hear him say that I was a part of what saved him. My friend struggled over the years but for the most part did great. Last night he lost control of his car and hit a pole and died. There is no info at this point about whether there was alcohol involved...but I hope not. It shouldn't matter because he is still gone.

My friend loved his family, he loved his friends and he loved God. Whatever happened, alcohol or no alcohol, I will miss him. I wish I could have saved him this time...because his was a life worth saving. I miss you my friend....

Frank

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 03:18 PM

'My friend loved his family, he loved his friends and he loved God'
'For the most part he did great.'

You have summed up his life beautifully Frank. Your friendship helped to make him the man he became. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Eliza

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: SINSULL
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 03:25 PM

You were lucky to have each other, Frank. It sounds as if you got at least as much out the friendship as your friend did.
He is resting peace.
I am sorry for your loss.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: gnu
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 03:28 PM

Me too... words are hard to come by.

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: Lizzie Cornish 1
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 03:32 PM

Big hugs, Frank.

He wasn't to be saved, simply had lived the life he was supposed to, for the time he was supposed to. You added greatly to that life for him, and him for you. Keep his Spirit always in your heart and you'll be just fine. x

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: gnu
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 09:13 PM

Gosh... the ladies on this thread have had "the words". Unfortunately, I can only read them and offer my endorsements. I feel inept and at a loss. But, I am a rather stunned guy so all I can say is ditto and I wish I had such words. I only see there was good in your heart and in your actions and that your friend was helped. Take care.

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: Ebbie
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 09:46 PM

Isn't it nice that it is not for us to judge?! Bless his heart and yours.

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 09:55 PM

(((Frank)))

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: olddude
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 10:16 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I been there myself. My best friend , my brother as I saw it one night drove his car into the side of my house. He misses a turn and rolled it into the side of my house. I ran out after I heard the crash .. he died in my arms as I was holding him after he was thrown through the windshield ... I understand that kind of pain. I was 20 years old at the time.

I am so sorry .. so very sorry for your loss.

You are in my thoughts and prayers
Dan

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 10:22 PM

You gave him what he needed and he was able to learn a bit and do better from your help and example. Good friends can do that and it sometimes brings a contentment mixed in with any sadness which comes along. My condolences on your loss, Frank.

kat

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: LilyFestre
Date: 25 Feb 11 - 11:02 PM

There are some people who are taken far too soon. Your friend sounds like one of those people. I lost my best friend when he was 31 years old...it was way too early. It's now 12 years later and I can't think of a day that has passed that he still isn't in my thoughts. Sometimes the universe sends out little twinklings of my friend.......I bet you'll have that too. I don't think love ever ends or separates us from one another (friend, family, spouse).

I'm so sorry for your loss Frank.

(((((((((((Love to you))))))))))))))

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Feb 11 - 12:07 AM

Frank my old friend, I am so sorry.............I can only echo many of the above thoughts, especially Sinsull's............I'm sure he leaves a hole in your heart but I can tell you are already filling it with great memories..........that's as it should be.

All My Best


Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 26 Feb 11 - 11:46 AM

(((Frank))) So sorry for your loss xxx

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: Dorothy Parshall
Date: 26 Feb 11 - 06:10 PM

The physical loss is hard but those who love beyond death cannot be separated by it. They live in our hearts for always. We still commune with them. They are still an important part of our lives.

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: Bobert
Date: 26 Feb 11 - 07:28 PM

Hey, this absolutely sucks...

I mean, the guy cleaned up and was makin' a decent run at life and then this happens??? Sometimes stuff bad happens to good people that we don't understand and, IMHO, nor does God Himself...

I am so sorry for your loss...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: I'll miss my friend
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Feb 11 - 07:38 PM

I'm sorry for your loss, but you & his family are fortunate to have good memories to go with it

sandra