Obit: olddudes Mom

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: gnu
Date: 28 May 13 - 06:52 AM

Ditto again... over and over.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Severn
Date: 28 May 13 - 03:42 AM

Thanks for sharing the good memories with us. My thoughts are with you in coming to grips with what's happened and its consequences. She sounds like a wonderful lady.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 May 13 - 09:44 PM

From all you've shared with us, it sounds like she was indeed something else--something else that was wonderful.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 27 May 13 - 11:51 AM

Mom was so much fun. One other letter she wrote to us kids ended like this... "as a family we been through good times, bad times and everything else in between. We survived and got through it all, except this last time cause I am gone but no worries"

When you go, I will be waiting with your aunt and your dad sitting at the table drinking coffee and smoking cigs.. I know, but it makes no difference now if I want a cig"

She was something else.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: David C. Carter
Date: 27 May 13 - 05:56 AM

Dan,I bet God himself does'nt know what he's in for when mom arrives in Heaven with her cans and brushes!

God bless you Dan,you've made us all laugh even in the saddest of circumstances!

You sure are somebody!

David

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: frogprince
Date: 26 May 13 - 10:28 PM

Dan, we set out on a journey the day before you posted the word about your Mom, and just got home today. Our condolences, plus thanks for the belly laughs. Obviously the lady was "something else".
      
                  Dean (and Judy)

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: bbc
Date: 21 May 13 - 07:51 PM

Yup, gnu. It does. olddude, glad the service went well. The one I attended was wonderful--completely planned by the departed & very meaningful. She lived well & fully!

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: YorkshireYankee
Date: 21 May 13 - 01:08 PM

I don't know you, olddude, but have an idea what you are like from your posts. Your Mom must have been so proud of who you turned out to be. I - along with so many others - am enjoying your lovely stories about her. I wish you healing from the shock (even though you knew it was coming) and pain of losing her.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 May 13 - 12:05 AM

I'm glad the service was good, and I am sure that great-grandchild is right. She is with the angels.

Anything from the eulogy (eulogies?) you want to share with us?

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: GUEST,Lizzie Cornish
Date: 20 May 13 - 06:43 PM

Much love to you, Dan..and to your Darlin' Mum too.

I wouldn't have expected her to be any less wonderful than you've told us she was, for we've see her reflected in her caring, kind son for many years now.

If the tears come, that's OK
If they don't, that's OK too

Either way, you know how much you're loved and that everyone is here for you if you need us.

Again, much love to you and your Beautiful Mum.
Lizzie :0) xx

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: gnu
Date: 20 May 13 - 04:54 PM

BBC... "The main thing I'm noticing, these days, is that I can't ask questions of the previous generation & that I can't call Mom to chat. I miss that."

Don't that suck BIG time?

Rhetorical whine eh.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 20 May 13 - 02:10 PM

What a beautiful service. And the luncheon afterwords with all the little great grandkids playing she was beaming I just know it. My nieces little boy 4 years old said GG over there with angels ... I believe she was

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: topical tom
Date: 18 May 13 - 10:39 AM

All my sympathy and prayers for you. Dan. Your mother sounds like a lovely lady. May you gain strength from your wonderful memories of a wonderful mother.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: bbc
Date: 18 May 13 - 08:30 AM

So sorry for your loss, Dan. I lost my dad 6 years ago & it took about 3 years, till I stopped crying regularly. My mom passed, last October, after a painful time of aging & delusions. By the time she died, it seemed a blessing. I am confident that both are with the Lord & I'll see them, by & by. They were great parents & I feel blessed by the heritage they gave me. The main thing I'm noticing, these days, is that I can't ask questions of the previous generation & that I can't call Mom to chat. I miss that. Today, I am attending the memorial of a dear friend from church. She finally lost her 3 1/2 year battle with cancer, but she fought valiantly & lived her life till the end. I saw her, twice, in her last week & there was a peace about her. She was a faithful wife, mother, friend, church member. Her life was well-lived. May we all say the same! I'll think of you, today!

love,

Barbara

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 May 13 - 05:44 AM

I'm so pleased I made the effort to read every post in this profoundly moving thread. Came to it far too late...sorry Dan. Ann & I send Love & thoughts of comfort. It's intriguing that your belovéd Mother felt the desire to paint, just as you have 'painted' the most glorious & endearing portrait of her with your lovingly written stories & anecdotes. I've laughed & cried my way through the entire thread.
                         By your side, Dan,
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Neil D
Date: 18 May 13 - 03:32 AM

Ah Dan, so sorry for your loss. I admire the memories you share of her. The next time you see a rainbow your heart will know, your mom painted that one just for you.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 May 13 - 09:43 PM

It sounds like you think you "should" cry. That's not necessarily so, and your not crying doesn't mean you loved her any less than if tears came in buckets. Tears may come in time, or they may not. Your mind, body, and spirit are all working to help you cope with your loss. Each of us responds differently. Your love is evident in your posts.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: alanabit
Date: 17 May 13 - 05:00 PM

My condolences Dan. You are right - celebrate her life.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 May 13 - 12:44 PM

Dan, thanks for sharing your memories.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 17 May 13 - 12:04 PM

Dave thank you for your kindness

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 17 May 13 - 12:04 PM

The wake is tomorrow. Mom had one heck of a feed put on in the church social hall after the Mass. She was all about feeding everyone. thank goodness she is not doing the cooking. Cooking (I should say) burning was not one of her strong points. Good thing we didn't have a smoke detector back then. Nobody would have gotten any sleep.

The golden gates of Heaven are now covered in a muddy green paint .. There is a little old lady with a brush saying to God .. I like to paint

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 17 May 13 - 10:52 AM

My later years conversations on the phone with mom
"hi mom how are you doing" .... reply "what" I repeat then I get "what"

Oh how are the kids Dan ... I reply she says "what"

"Mom a meteor hit my house and blew it up" ... "that's nice I am glad the kids are ok"

"Mom you have to turn the hearing aid on if you expect it to work"

Oh ... laughter ... sorry .. I keep forgetting

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 17 May 13 - 10:48 AM

Condolences, olddude. There will be tough times, but just remember that you have some real friends to help you though them. Keep those memories to the fore and keep us smiling as well. It will help us all eventually and you take great comfort from that.

Thanks for the fine example you give.

Cheers

Dave

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 17 May 13 - 10:41 AM

ron thank you my friend.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Ron Davies
Date: 17 May 13 - 08:33 AM

"quite the woman"    That's clear--and it's also clear why you miss her.   Too bad the rest of us never met her--she does sound absolutely delightful.    It's great you have all these wonderful memories, though they of course can't take her place.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 16 May 13 - 11:30 PM

Yea she wrote us all a letter, I read it today ... basically how much she loved us all and to take care of each other. To take care of others we encounter in life ... tore my heart out for sure but again I still can't cry ... I suspect when one hurts so bad, something inside just shuts down. I miss her. She was quite the woman. I was a very fortunate kid to have her as a mom

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 May 13 - 11:14 PM

Oh, Dan, I'm sorry about your mom. She sounds like a wonderful woman. She kissed the Blarney Stone? Well, that explains a lot! Although it sounds like she was full of fun even before that. I am glad you have so many great memories of her. As I recall, she kept the hospital staff in good cheer with her humor.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 16 May 13 - 09:32 AM

One time her and aunt Gracie were sitting at the table drinking coffee and talking about how cute Tony Bennett is. I came down the steps and said you two realize he has a wife. Mom without missing a beat said "yes that's ok Gracie and I plan on out living her" LOL

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 16 May 13 - 09:07 AM

However, she also loved the song "Honey" I said mom that is a terrible song ... "it reminds me of your dad". Mom dad never planted a tree in his life, he cut em down with a chainsaw .. she laughs yea that is true

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 16 May 13 - 08:58 AM

She loved music. She thought I was a great song writer. She was biased for sure. In HS I brought home (for myself) Bridge over Troubled waters the Album ... She stole it ... I bet she played that thing for 20 years. Love it .. Now my dad was all about "hillbilly" and "cowboy"
mom was more modern. I wanted to go to a "Vanilla Fudge" concert in Pittsburgh. She drove me and my friend Sam and went with us. She said those guys are good .. LOL what mom does that

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: billybob
Date: 16 May 13 - 07:21 AM

The Rainbow crew are there waiting for you Dan,
Wendy x

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 May 13 - 06:51 AM

Let's hope she teams up with Kandinsky, and maybe Vincent as well, then we'll get some really cool sunsets!

It'll be a long time before I get the image of the yellow bath tub out of my mind. Great stories. What a woman.

Pete.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: ragdall
Date: 16 May 13 - 06:24 AM

Dan,
Thank you for sharing the stories about your mom. She lived a long life to the fullest with grace and good humour. Now she lives on in your memory and in the traits that she has passed on to you.

You have the assurance that, when it's time, you will see her again. Until then may the love of your family and your friends here comfort you and enrich your days.

Big hugs,
   rags

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 May 13 - 05:13 AM

olddude - why not wander over to Jane's rainbow when you have a moment, there's a lot of love, sorrow & wisdom there.

sandra

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: open mike
Date: 16 May 13 - 04:25 AM

thank you for sharing stories of your mom....colorful ones, at that!
the suffering is over. there is no right or wrong way or time to grieve.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Janie
Date: 16 May 13 - 12:03 AM

Sending love and thoughts of loving kindness to you and all who loved your mom, Dan.

Janie

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: gnu
Date: 15 May 13 - 11:37 PM

Dan... "I don't why I can't cry ... Just lost and empty .. I don't get it"

I think it's simple. You also said, "I miss you so but like you said no tears. We just remember I will see you again"

I think you are already seeing her again and I am sure she appreciates it. I know I certainly do because when you tell us these small snippets about her she comes to life in my mind and heart. Thank you, Dan, for sharing. And don't be concerned about the way you grieve. If tears flow, even when she said they shouldn't, it's okay. I am sure she would understand.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 15 May 13 - 10:45 PM

Oh how beautiful Kat thank you

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 May 13 - 10:38 PM

I knew she had to be extra special to turn out such a kind gentle-man for a son. What a wonderful childhood yours must of been. My mom loved flowers a lot, too. My sis, long-ago Mudcatter "bet" wrote about mom, her passing and flowers which Jeri turned into a song:

Song for My Mom

original thread by bet: click here

and, here's a note about IvanB performing it for us a few years ago: Clickety.

Enjoy and my condolences to all.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 15 May 13 - 10:30 PM

ya know, my hearts broken. I know it was time but still ya know ya just hang on ... I don't why I can't cry ... Just lost and empty .. I don't get it

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 15 May 13 - 10:26 PM

I love you Mom, thank you for being a great Mom to us all. I miss you so but like you said no tears. We just remember
I will see you again

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 15 May 13 - 10:24 PM

She saw Daisy Sandra ... my daughter brought Dom home a few months ago so she visted with him also

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 May 13 - 09:43 PM

Sounds like the funeral & wake will be full of laughter & mom stories! I hope at least one of these ceremonies will be in a brightly painted room!

Was she able to see pics of her new great-grandbaby?

condolences, hugs & more laughter to you, olddude.

sandra

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: SINSULL
Date: 15 May 13 - 07:10 PM

You are very lucky, Dan. You lived long enough to understand how wise and funny your mother was. Plus, she was presented with a great grand child aching to be painted. Mourn your loss but treasure the gift you were given.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: JennieG
Date: 15 May 13 - 06:20 PM

What wonderful memories she has left behind! And now you have that new little grandie to enjoy. As one door shuts, another opens.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: gnu
Date: 15 May 13 - 06:12 PM

Read em all. As said above by others, I was shocked and saddened to read the thread title but.... then... what a wonderful thread... a celebration and remembrance. Thank you, Dan, for sharing these memories and stories of such a wonderful woman.

"...I think she did stuff just to make us laugh."

I think ya got that right, buddy. What a treasure!

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: gnu
Date: 15 May 13 - 05:59 PM

Only read the first post... my sincerest condolences, Dan.

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: olddude
Date: 15 May 13 - 05:48 PM

My friends my mom would have loved you all. And please she would be delighted that you are laughing at her antics. sometimes I think she did stuff just to make us laugh. It was important to her. I was told in no uncertain terms that no grief, just love and laughter because that is what she was all about.

My grandpa and I had massive vegetable gardens. My grandma loved flowers. Grandpa hated them because you can't eat them but he always made a beautiful flower garden for her. Well the apple didn't fall far from the tree. My mom's backyard vegetable garden went like this. A row of tomatoes, a row of flowers, a row of lettuce a row of flowers. I would say what kind of vegetable garden is that, she would say a pretty one. Then I would respond well at least ya didn't paint it

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: GUEST,kt, not logged in....
Date: 15 May 13 - 05:30 PM

Dan, my heartfelt sympathy to you and yours. Perhaps you'll see a wee bit of your mom in that darling new lassie... Whole lotta Mudcat love coming your way....
KT

Subject: RE: Obit: olddudes Mom
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 15 May 13 - 05:07 PM

she seemed to have wardrobe malfuncions, remember when I told you about losing her wig kissing the blarney stone and it went sailing over the edge of the castle. I caught her hair my girls were grandma grandma your hair your hair. she was priceless. She really did never meet anyone that didn't call her a friend. She was greatly loved