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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: hesperis Date: 24 Jan 01 - 10:12 PM Sorry Allan, it's named similarly. People recognize threads better that way. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Allan C. Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:58 PM Could someone please click a continuation of this thread. It is getting really difficult to load. BTW, it appears that we have gone way past Internet Romance. So why not just call the next one Romance? |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: kendall Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:42 PM When we look into a mirror, we see two people Our best friend, and, our worst enemy. (me) |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Bert Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:27 PM OK here tiz in text...
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: CarolC Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:25 PM Thanks, bert. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Bert Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:20 PM Try this http://www.mudcat.org/bert/songs/well.html |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: CarolC Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:11 PM bert, I can't get your clicky to work on my computer. Could you post a URL or something? I'd like to read that. Thanks. Carol |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Amergin Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:09 PM Matt, the reason they pick on you is only because they are insecure about they're own sexuality....people hate that which they see in themselves. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Matt_R Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:06 PM They don't think I'm gay because of the fact that I've never been within 10 feet of a woman. It's because of my voice. All I get is "You sound gay" "Are you gay, you sound like it." And DAMN I feel like 1000 maggots are eating away at my stomach right now. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Little Hawk Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:03 PM Good story, Spaw. I was always avoiding going to bat, cos I figured there was no hope anyway! Talk about a self-defeating attitude. Then I'd finally work my nerve up (after months of slowing going mad over some female) and try some tentative tactic...and it would totally not work. Aaarrggghhh! Then I'd retreat back into my shell and sing bitter Dylan lyrics. I almost started to hate women, but not near as much as I hated myself... I hated the other men too, specially the ones who went out with the girls I liked. It was just one big hate-fest. Okay, enough of that...I'm getting depressed just thinking about it. Kat - Yeah, most of them. No apologies. I don't mean they lack confidence in every way...just in this way or that way. In my experience, 97% of the women in the world, for example, think their nose isn't shaped right...or their hair isn't curly enough...or straight enough...or thick enough...or it's too thick. They commiserate with their girlfriends for hours about this kind of stuff. They wonder why they keep going out with jerks. I've heard them. That's lack of confidence in a specific area. The girl might be entirely confident in several other areas. Doubts? We've all got 'em, to some extent. Like I'm feeling insecure right now, cos I don't think I spelled "commiserate" right, and I don't have a dictionary handy. Aaaargh! I'm gonna talk to my shrink about it tomorrow, if possible. :-) - LH p.s. Yeah, I know there's an online dictionary somewhere, but I don't know where, and I'm too lazy to look for it right now. Double Aaarghh! |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Amergin Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:03 PM Well, LH, I thanks you for correcting my grammar...now as I'm sure alot of folks here knows, I is just a poor North Idaho boy who's grammar was learned him by the Canadians who would go south on day trips. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: catspaw49 Date: 24 Jan 01 - 07:41 PM Well allan, I'm not trying to prolong this, but a good story is always a good story and even Ol' Hawk will appresiate this one since Dylan's in it. I also have talked with Bert and we have some things in common outside of the CRS. When I met Karen, I immediately knew. There was something inside her that James Dickey described once as a "small flame, dimly flickering, that I had been looking for....and when I met it, I married it." Our meeting is well documented around here.....'nuff said. HOWEVER........I ran across this story on an old thread somebody refreshed and its worth repeating. We can all miss the chances in life through shyness or other idiocy......Spaw included. From the other thread: This thread is a hoot isn't it? It reminds me of a friend's courting experience. I am certainly no expert on courting as I didn't marry til I was 36. But I was pretty good at pick-ups generally. Then again, I'm not overly bright either as I will never forget a time when I was about 30, the money was rolling in nicely, and I was out for a drive in my yellow 'Vette roadster. It's a beautiful summer evening and I stop at a light. At the crosswalk is a lovely and leggy young thing...corn fed, midwestern prime. Not a hooker mind you, just a nice suburban girl with a pretty smile and a nice bod. She looks at me with a smile and says, "Hi...that's a really nice car." And boy did I have a comeback: "Uh yeah, I think so. Thanks." That was it. Nothing more. If I'd had a gun handy, I'd have shot myself right there. Is it possible she later related her story about this to a friend who came up with Homer Simpson? Me and the 'Vette just slunk off into the night. Which brings me to my friend. If I couldn't get them with 'Vettes, there was no way a folk song was gonna' do the job. However, my friend Mac, at about this same time (age 30) meets his future wife and begins courting her with Dylan lyrics for Chrissake. He doesn't play any instrument, doesn't really sing, basically just a fan and she had no idea who Dylan was to begin with. And Mac can't use any vaguely romantic Dylan lyric...NOOOO!!! He's courting her with lines like: "I'm a good ol' boy but I been sniffin' too many eggs" "Idiot wind. Blowin' every time you move your teeth" "Dogs run free, why not me?" Twenty years later, they have nice kids and a loving marriage...but somewhere here there is some brain damage or something I don't understand. Can one of you romantic devils explain any of this to me? One thing though........You can't have a batting average if you never take go to bat. Spaw
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: hesperis Date: 24 Jan 01 - 07:29 PM Most _people_ lack confidence in at least one area of their lives... sex appeal, love, and money have to top the list, though. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: katlaughing Date: 24 Jan 01 - 07:20 PM Most of them?!!! C'mon, LH, give me a break!! |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Little Hawk Date: 24 Jan 01 - 07:15 PM You're right, Kat. Plenty of women lack confidence. Most of them, in fact. I was just looking at it from the lonely male's perspective. Even the unconfident girls seem to like the confident guys....generally. And, hey, I take pride in my tendency to generalize. Like Bob Dylan, I'm good at "keeping things vague" (Joan Baez said that...). :-D - LH |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: hesperis Date: 24 Jan 01 - 07:15 PM Lack of confidence is ok. Shyness is actually sort-of appealing, if the guy just lets himself be awkward, and doesn't run from you because he thinks you're judging him........ Lack of basic self esteem is totally not ok. Shyness is a different thing from low self esteem, but is often mistaken for it. Putting everybody else on a pedestal, and yourself way down in the mud, is not ok. (And it's not shyness!) Seriously, get a life! And I don't mean that in a bad way. Just start treating yourself like you're a greeat guy to hang out with. Make yourself wonderful meals, because you're special too. You know what the problem is? Perfectionism. People either think that they have to be perfect, or they think that everybody ELSE has to be perfect, or both. And that is just a sign that, no matter how much you may WANT to be in a relationship, you are not ready for it yet. You know what the other problem is? In this society, people consider it RUDE to think that one's own self is special. Like it subtracts from other people's brilliance or something! As if nobody else can be special if one person is special already..... That's just totally dumb! If you really think you're "all that", you spread specialness to all the people around you. (HEL-lo!) And you know what else? There are always going to be people who don't like you. There are also always going to be people who really like you. Who are you going to hang around with? More importantly, whose opinion are you going to care about? L I V E W I T H I T !!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Allan C. Date: 24 Jan 01 - 07:01 PM While I see a certain amount of wisdom (perhaps a lot) in what has been said in the past few posts, I can't help but feel that this is not the way to present these thoughts. No matter your intentions, Matt cannot help but feel picked upon when such comments are placed out here for the world to see. Sure, whatever wisdom might be contained within could quite possibly be good for many of us to hear. But directing it publicly at Matt is, in my opinion, just not right. If anyone has more to say on this subject, kindly PM your remarks to Matt. If you want to say something to me about it, PM me. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: katlaughing Date: 24 Jan 01 - 06:57 PM LH, there ya go with the generalisations, again!**BG** You said, "Females are great at spotting lack of confidence, and they tend to go the other way when they do." Believe it or not, a lot of women lack confidence and men are just as likely to spot that and run the other ways(lol), too. But, then, they are often intimidated by women who do have confidence and, so, still run the other way! kat |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Little Hawk Date: 24 Jan 01 - 06:46 PM You ignore me at your peril, Matt. :-) As for you, Amergin, there is no such word as "anyways". The correct term is "anyway". And if you see something that's far away from you it's NOT "a long ways off", it's "a long way off". Hah! I can be snide and snotty with the best of them...So there, you insidious knave! Now back to Matt - Actually, Homeless makes some good points. I had an utterly miserable time with the opposite sex all through my teens and twenties...for a variety of reasons, but mostly just lack of confidence and lack of experience...due to previous lack of confidence and experience...you get the idea... Females are great at spotting lack of confidence, and they tend to go the other way when they do. Solutions? Well, the solution is obvious, but that doesn't mean it's easy. You just gotta bite the bullet and try, try, try, and then try again. Chances are you will be rejected many times (I certainly was), called gay by various idiots who have nothing better to do than denigrate someone they think is vulnerable in some way, and that generally you will have disappointments. We all did. Most of us still do from time to time, and maybe more often than not. Nothing really valuable is generally all that easy to achieve. On the other hand, being a loudmouth jerk who calls somebody else gay because he doesn't have a girlfriend, is very easy to do. That's why the biggest (and most insecure) jerks in school do it routinely. They're probably deathly afraid someone might think THEY are gay. The sad truth is that most men who are gay are way smarter and more interesting than those aforesaid jerks, and can talk and think circles around them. Ironical, isn't it? Not that it's of any help to you, but I do think it's highly ironical... You just gotta roll with the punches, Matt. And if you feel that nobody understands you...well, geez, I still feel like that on certain days...but what the hell, why should they understand me? I'm weird. Harmless, but weird. I accept that they don't understand me. Hell, most of them don't even understand themselves! Oh...the best way to meet a great girl and form a great relationship is to have common interests with her. You like music? Go where people are playing it. You like a sport? Go play it. You like books? Go there. Whatever. It helps to have common ground to work from, and gets you a lot farther than fixating on a certain type of "look" and falling in love at "first sight" with some girl in the cafeteria about whom you know nothing. Hey, but what do I know? I struck out so many times that I oughta be in the baseball hall of fame by now...in the greatest losers of all time section, that is. Ah! The sorrows of a squandered youth!!! Too soon old, and too late smart, that's what they say. - LH |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Bert Date: 24 Jan 01 - 05:39 PM Hey Mrs Duck, I met Tree in a pub. Read all about it here |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Homeless Date: 24 Jan 01 - 02:16 PM When you decide to quit riding your high-horse, read it again. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Matt_R Date: 24 Jan 01 - 01:41 PM Well! |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Homeless Date: 24 Jan 01 - 01:31 PM Matt- Please keep an open mind as you read what I have to say. I don't mean it to be mean, but it is pretty harsh, and I'm not much for tact. That being said, going back to one of your earlier comments... That may be all fine and dandy for YOU people, but these things are TOTALLY foreign to me. Live and in person SUCKS. It does nothing for me whatsoever. What's so great about watching people walk away from you all the time? Plus, I recently foundout that a lot of people 'assumed' I was gay. So, I wish all you "beautiful people" would stop knocking something you don't understand.
Life sucks for you sport 'cause you ain't got the balls to face it. Period. Remember the turmoil you went thru leading up to the Ren Faire? How it was so bad, you'd never driven that far, parents wouldn't let you, etc.? And the shit everyone was blowing you for it? Really SUCKED didn't it?
It is a real pisser when people walk away or reject you. It's even worse when someone laughs in your face. I've been there, I know.
I've been accused of being gay because I never went out women. I've never gone on date with a guy, but I've never been accused of being hetero because of it, go figure. And don't fall into the whiny adolescent trap of "no one understands me." Last night I went down to the local college where there was ballroom dance going on. What I know about ballroom dance could be written on the back of a business card. I spent the first half of the night too chickenshit to ask any of the girls to dance, because I knew from watching that they were infinitely better than I. Finally, one of the hosts noticed and came over and forcefully prompted me to ask a young lady to dance. Once I got cojones to actually get out on the floor we had fun. Granted I didn't know much beyond the basic, but what we did was enjoyable. I've lived my whole life fearful of dealing with other people, and still go thru it. But when I do finally overcome my fears and act, I enjoy it. BTW - the only place you'll ever see "beautiful people" is in some fiction they put on the TV. What's your life expectancy? You got another 50 years or so, right? Are you gonna waste it whining about how awful things are, or are you gonna act to make them better? You've got a lot of people here that care about you. Me, for one. Tho I must say that I'm sick of every other one of your posts being whining about one thing or another. But all these people have a LOT of diverse experience that you could learn from, if you just ask. But your first step is to break out of that little room you've locked your mind in. Carpe diem, my friend. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: GUEST,Roger the skiffler Date: 24 Jan 01 - 11:09 AM Yes, Allan, I was thinking of ,among others,my cousin. Her best friend was married to an airman who was shot down and in prison camp in Germany in WW2. In one of his letters he asked if she had a friend who would like to write to one of his buddies who was a New Zealander. My cousin wrote until his release, they met, married in a couple of weeks, she went out to NZ with him (she was a Birmingham city girl) to his mixed farm, raised 3 daughters and they had over 50 hard but happy years together before Parkinson's took him . RtS (no-one has ever accused one of my postings of being "interesting" before!) |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Little Neophyte Date: 24 Jan 01 - 10:46 AM Maybe that is how American settlers of the West got their name. They 'settled' for what they could get. Their needs were a lot different than our needs today. It was more of a working marriage (literally) they were seeking. Men & women needed each other to fulfill basic needs of existance. I think if I had been a settler way back when, I would have been much less particular about my mate than I am today. I would have checked his teeth to make sure he had a full set. Things like that. Mind you knowing me, I may still have worn rhinestones on my longjohns Little Neo |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Allan C. Date: 24 Jan 01 - 09:56 AM RtS brings up an interesting point. For centuries there have been successful relationships that have resulted from "pen pal" correspondence. While was as true then as it is now that people can always fabricate things about themselves, certainly not everyone did/does. There are countless stories of lonely male settlers in the American West who had such correspondences. Many of those resulted in successful marriages. Some Americans possibly have such a story within their families. But the bottom line is that in all of the stories I have ever heard of pen pals or email buddies or chatroom romances, face-to-face meeting was ALWAYS the next step. That step was the make-it-or-break-it for the relationship. We are humans. We need to see one another. We need to touch and to be touched. We can only hang in (cyber)limbo for just so long before needing to pursue this undeniable urge. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: GUEST,Roger the skiffler Date: 24 Jan 01 - 05:38 AM I recently saw a magazine article listing handy hints on ending an unsuitable blind date, such as "take a newspaper to read at dinner". One of them was musical: "Get out a harmonica and play the blues when he/she starts telling you their troubles". Herself was attracted to me by the size of my repertoire ( if not the quality of my performance -'Spaw, don't you dare misinterpret that) rather than my rugged good looks but different things work for different people. Internet "dating" is no real difference to starting off as penpals and I've known some successful marriages that started that way pre-'puters. RtS |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Amergin Date: 24 Jan 01 - 04:44 AM Good idea, Matt....most people do anyways..... |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Matt_R Date: 23 Jan 01 - 05:47 PM I'm going to choose to ignore you for once, LH. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: GUEST,bflat Date: 23 Jan 01 - 05:19 PM Change one word and change the meaning all together. Try it. Drop "internet" from the thread name and we could make this a very long thread with a whole new set of experiences. Ellen |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: mousethief Date: 23 Jan 01 - 05:11 PM Or killed a thread about starting a thread. As a sort of counter-concept. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Little Hawk Date: 23 Jan 01 - 05:11 PM Omigod, no... Someone shut him up and do it NOW!!!! BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE! - LH |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Allan C. Date: 23 Jan 01 - 05:01 PM Hey, now there's an idea. What if you started a thread about killing a thread? Wow! What a great concept!! |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Little Hawk Date: 23 Jan 01 - 04:56 PM Hey, I thought it was funny! Geez! Now I've gone and killed the thread. Phooey! I am well and truy depressed about this, and I am going to go off and sulk. Grrrrr... - LH |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Little Hawk Date: 23 Jan 01 - 12:58 AM Hesperis - you wrote: "nobody really wants someone who's desperate to be saved from their own company." Wow! That ought to be sculptured in letters of gold and shown to all would-be romantics, specially the young and inexperienced! Well said! ******* OKAY...at the risk of causing this thread to go TOO FAR... (too many postings, I mean...) Let me say... INTERNET ROMANCE IS FRAUGHT WITH PERIL!!! Case 1: (1996) Man in Alaska freezes lips to monitor screen while attempting to kiss jpeg of internet paramour in sub-zero conditions! Jpeg turns out to be phony anyway, and guy gets frostbitten lips for nothing. Turns out that real woman looks like Maggie Thatcher's dog! Case 2: (1998) Man in Houston attempts intercourse with jpeg on computer screen, suffers static charge, and is unable to perform for 6 months afterwards! Woman in Hawaii does essentially the same thing and experiences continuous orgams for 14 hours and then spontaneously combusts at her computer terminal. Case 3: (1999) 260 people in 13 different countries attempt to hold a virtual orgy over the net and precipitate a systems crash that shuts down over 15,000 servers, and interrupts an important liason between Bill Clinton and an unnamed member of the White House staff. Case 4: (2000) Jilted Internet ex-lover distributes false jpegs purporting to show his ex-flame cavorting with Spaw in a hot tub filled with grape jello. Pictures turn out to be faked...fortunately...they were pretty tasteless. Downright offensive, in fact, specially because of the possums, which were digitally altered. Moral: DON'T LOOK FOR LOVE ON THE NET!!! LIVE A REAL LOVE LIFE, NOT A VIRTUAL ONE! Need I go on? No, I thought not... - LH |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: kendall Date: 22 Jan 01 - 10:47 PM Thats much better Matt. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Jande Date: 22 Jan 01 - 10:07 PM So far, it looks like I'm in the 8% bracket. James and I "met" 2 years ago on a newsgroup I was a regular on and were immediately attacted to the heart and mind of one another. A year and a half of correspondence followed and then a meeting was arranged. Neither of us knew that the spark would ignite us when we met. The intensity of it was a huge surprise. Neither of us has seen age thirty in a very long time. We've been living together now for about six months and are extremely happy. As Hesperis knows, we've been through a lot of pain together, some bad luck and other things, and each time something happens, it renews and deepens our knowledge of what a fine person the other is, and how fortunate we are to have found one another. I have met others who have formed deep relationships from meeting someone first on the net. I have also met some individuals who rush rashly into meetings and end up stung. ~ Jande |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Matt_R Date: 22 Jan 01 - 08:12 PM ok, "Meg and he." Satisfied? |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: kendall Date: 22 Jan 01 - 08:07 PM correct it grammar expert! |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Matt_R Date: 22 Jan 01 - 07:48 PM Stow it, dimple-boy. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: kendall Date: 22 Jan 01 - 07:47 PM Him and her Matt? |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: hesperis Date: 22 Jan 01 - 07:24 PM I met someone in person, but communicated with him a lot over the net. It really deepened our understanding of each other. From the writings, we could see the values that the other holds. Sometimes, speech is confusing. Sometimes people wish to believe that they have they same values you do, especially if they're attracted to you. If they're lying to themselves too, you often can't tell it from their body language. I am clearer in writing than in speech, in fact, in person I am rather quiet and shy. And sometimes it is a struggle to keep any relationship going and still know who you are. That has nothing to do with internet or non-internet. You are more likely to find love that's deep, if you are not desperate about it. If you can be happy by yourself, doing your own thing. Maybe you are still lonely, but you are ok with that. Then you can meet another person as an equal, but different, human being. And sometimes love doesn't last. If it was a deep love once, it's still love. If you are desperate, work on enjoying yourself for who you are, because nobody really wants someone who's desperate to be saved from their own company. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: harpgirl Date: 22 Jan 01 - 01:20 PM ...I just meant Matt, that even when your love is by your side on a daily basis, staying together is a big struggle for at least half of the married people in the world. Trying to maintain a relationship over the internet without being in that person's presence day to day is very difficult, I think. But I am rooting for you if that is what you are doing!...your friend, harp |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: GUEST,Matt_R Date: 22 Jan 01 - 10:26 AM I know, Harpie. Him and Meg have been seperated for several months now. I read my Oasis news everyday. What that has to do with the internet... |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Katcina Date: 22 Jan 01 - 10:10 AM Because of many circumstances, not the least of which are my rural home and the fact that I do not go to bars unescorted, I have found the internet to be a most satisfactory means of meeting people of both sexes. I have met from the worst to the best and everything in between and find that people are just people no matter where you may meet them. I take everything told to me with a large grain of salt and then I am seldom dissapointed in the meeting atleast. Occasionally there is a spark that requires more investigating and future meetings, but even if that doesn't happen it is always fun meeting new people and learning a little about what they are about. I learned long ago to never take life too seriously or you forget how to have fun, and that should include any internet experiences. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: harpgirl Date: 21 Jan 01 - 09:55 AM ...Noel Gallagher's getting divorced, Matt... |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Matt_R Date: 21 Jan 01 - 09:44 AM Elle, I already found her. |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: Micca Date: 21 Jan 01 - 06:37 AM but also, lets not decry this medium as a means of keeping contact and sharing when you have already shared some of the face to face things , but are, for pragmatic reasons, separated in space. It means that you can carry on the dialogue, being close without being near, and also it encourages communication. Communication is the KEY to romance, and relationships, and lying is not communication, ever. I have made many friends here, and some I have met face to face and the preparation that the dialogue from here has made to the the real space meetings was crucial and made it very easy and wonderful things. " Love is you and love is me Love is a prison and love is free love's whats there when you're away from me Love is.... |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: CarolC Date: 21 Jan 01 - 05:51 AM But romance is not necessarily a good precursor to partnership, either. And at the end of the day, I'd rather have a good partner than a romance. Now, if I can have a good romance with a good partner, that's even better. Sometimes romance can get in the way of finding out the important little things about a person that are crucial to a good partnership. In a romance, the focus is more on superficial considerations, the things that make the heart race. A good partner will love you when you're at your least appealing, as well as when you're at your most appealing. I think that whatever method produces good results is a good thing. If some people find partners who are a good match for them on-line, and if good and satisfying relationships result, that's good. And good is good. We need more of it. Carol |
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Subject: RE: B.S. Internet Romance, watch out! From: JenEllen Date: 20 Jan 01 - 10:42 PM Once again, Allan captures it perfectly. Matt, it doesn't have a damn thing to do with being one of the 'beautiful people'--whatever the hell THAT is--*bg* There is a girl out there who will melt your heart. And if you are really lucky, you'll be in the same room when she does it. In the early days, you'll not be able to get enough of each other. Every grin she sends your way will make your socks roll up and down, and yours will do the same for her. Don't sell yourself short. But this also means that you cannot confuse an occasional thought or note as real romance. This medium allows you to put your best forward, to be sure, but that's not where the fun of romance IS. Internet romance would be the Tramp sending Lady an e-card of spaghetti. Real romance is that 'Bella Notte'. The two seperately, in and of themselves, are just fine. But I'd take a Ragu Nuzzle over the other any day of the week. I know someday you'll have the same choice. ~Luv, Elle |
