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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: katlaughing Date: 18 May 02 - 10:49 PM Thanks, Nathandarlin'...it's getting pretty bad when I cannot even remember the name of one of my own threads! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Mudlark Date: 18 May 02 - 10:50 PM Wesley, I remember Joe Bzsflqk very well, and am sending you an umbrella of smiles until the cloud finally lifts. Hang in there...
I don't post often so doubt anybody would miss me on Mudcat, but I have left instructions with 3 different friends, also have a copy on my computer desktop. And, since I have very little family, except for a sister I don't have any contact with and a stepdaughter I love dearly I've been working up a will to make as sure as I can that my "estate," such as it is, goes where I think best.
I've made sure that friends I'm in contact with continue to want my dogs, and have promised to keep them together. I care about what happens to them a million times more than any "thing" I own.
Thanks for starting this thread, Kat.I don't think it morbid at all. My husband died quite unexpectedly in his sleep, which has made me think about this sort of thing a lot over the past year. It's a great idea to not only pass along "things" but words of love and appreciation. I, too, give them freely while alive, but it doesn't hurt to say it one last time as well. One thing, tho....I'm taking my Martin WITH me! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Jeanie Date: 19 May 02 - 03:16 AM Love and a Hug to you, Mudlark. I went on a course last year, where we were encouraged to complete any "unfinished business" - as a result of which I wrote a letter to my parents, saying all the things I'd never said. I had to write it : I could never have spoken it, my words would have been too incoherent with tears. (As it was, the pages were splashed a bit). My dad died three months later, and I am so glad I had sent that letter. So, I would urge everyone: say it now, do it now. Amos - I'm going to show your post to my daughter (when she gets up - I go online in secret when she's asleep, so as not to get told off !) - she'll appreciate it !! Isn't it good when old threads like this get revived ? I've only been on Mudcat for about a year, and would never have seen this - would have missed that beautiful poem by EJ. (Do look at it, it's higher up the list somewhere). So...in the spirit of this thread: Love and Thanks to ALL of you on Mudcat. (No, I'm not planning on disappearing anywhere..) - jeanie |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Amergin Date: 19 May 02 - 12:30 PM well..truth be told, katdarling....I have been thinking on this thread a bit myself lately...can blame it on Sharon's story... |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Liz the Squeak Date: 19 May 02 - 12:35 PM Funny reading the posts of a year back and seeing how much has changed since then..... and not for the better either. So much for promises. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Steve in Idaho Date: 19 May 02 - 12:45 PM Odd thread - and I'm going to creep a bit. Living on a working ranch really keeps us in tune with how fragile life is. I have to have my old saddle mare shot tomorrow. Her kidneys gave out on her and she's in a bit of pain. I'm just grateful for the friends I have as I don't have to pull the trigger. I think I could but Ms. J won't let me - she says I've killed enough in my life.
Sorry for the creep - and Ms. J will let you all know when my turn comes to explore the other side.
Steve |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Mudlark Date: 19 May 02 - 03:13 PM Thanks, Jeanie for the love and hug...a great thing to read, first thing in the morning!
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Amos Date: 20 May 02 - 12:30 AM "Bring down the walls, and bring in the river", saith the Bard. ML, I think you hit the bull's eye again; we take up residence in the Collegiate Eiditon of Webster's. and lose all contact with the heartbeats in the world. Primary sin, IMHO -- to stop the ears from hearing the realities singing around us. A |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Bert Date: 20 May 02 - 03:16 AM ...Give them freely while alive,... Good point! Here goes. I love the whole damn silly lot of you! Bert |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Rt Revd Sir jOhn from Hull Date: 15 Oct 02 - 04:03 AM refresh |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: mack/misophist Date: 15 Oct 02 - 08:38 PM I have attended the deaths of far too many creatures. Some want all the company and re-assurance possible, some turn their backs on the world, and some retreat from it. All are natural. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Rick Fielding Date: 15 Oct 02 - 11:44 PM Hmmm, interesting thread. I'd forgotten about it entirely. So back when this was started I had no idea that I'd soon be faced with EXACTLY what this discussion is all about. When I was diagnosed with kidney cancer in May of this year, I really didn't know WHAT to tell anyone, let alone the good friends I'd made at Mudcat. I wasn't actually being TREATED for anything....I was just waiting for an available operating date for something that I was told would be VERY risky...not just the removal of a kidney, but trying to stop things from spreading. I continued to post in my normal 'tongue in cheek' way, and only told a couple of folks that I was feeling 'a bit under the weather'. Same thing in real life. Only Heather and her sister knew how grave the situation was. My feeling was that telling folks the extent of my illness would have been a colossal downer, and no matter WHAT the outcome, would have changed the nature of all my relationships forever. I chose to be as cheerful as my situation allowed, and I got lucky in that I had a superb surgeon and the operation date came through in time (I'm fine now), but I WAS getting to the point where I was going to write a 'farewell' to my fellow Mudcatters, and a separate one that would have gone on my website. Guess I would have made quite a few phone calls as well....and tried to keep them as "up" as possible. I look at the situation now, and I don't see it as morbid....just a part of the process.....but BOY!! Am I glad I didn't HAVE to write that final post!! Ha Ha! Cheers, and good thread kat. Rick |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: katlaughing Date: 16 Oct 02 - 12:16 AM Thanks, I'd forgotten about this thread, too! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Marion Date: 16 Oct 02 - 12:42 AM I used to take lessons from Rick; one day this spring Heather called to cancel, saying that Rick had to go get a pain in his side checked out. Next time I saw him, I said, "Did you get yourself sorted out?". He pauses and says, "Yeah, pretty much." Geez! As for myself...I'm not sick or old so if I died it would probably be sudden, so no time to go through a process. Maybe my Mom would think to call Willie-O, or maybe he'd see it in the paper, but I guess there's no other likely way that Mudcat would know. Marion |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: Liz the Squeak Date: 16 Oct 02 - 01:17 AM Somehow I posted a negative feeling here... Blame it on the depression... although there have been a lot of changes this year, and yes, some of them were pretty drastic and not exactly sensible, but things are looking brighter - at least all my marbles are in the same container now! The thing is, it's not a depressing thread, more a celebratory one, especially Ricks' last postings... I'm sure there are many here who thought he might not post again, including him! It would do people good to read this thread over again. Or better still, print out bits of it and stick it up around their lives. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Facing Mortality & Keeping In Touch From: MAG Date: 16 Oct 02 - 10:20 PM My sister has instructions to notify everyone in my flip file -- adding M for Mudcat.org, please post in forum seems easy enough. Mind you, my family is long lived and you're going to have me around for a very long time. -- MA |