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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 08 Apr 02 - 12:30 AM www.mudcatblues.org |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: JeZeBeL Date: 07 Apr 02 - 02:57 PM Beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex..........get the idea?? |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 07 Apr 02 - 01:42 PM Never ask me to explain, I can bullshit for my country. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Catherine Jayne Date: 07 Apr 02 - 06:59 AM Good explanation LtS I enjoyed it. I have asthma but dont consider it a disability however I do think it should be taken into account. Because I work in a smokey environment my employer makes sure I have regular check ups at the asthma clinic. If my peak flow drops too far I get taken out of the club and put on reception until it rises. cat |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 07 Apr 02 - 03:38 AM What don't you get....? The 1950's tiled fire surround - a shit brown coloured ceramic tile and concrete structure, bordering an open fire place for coal/log fires. They were very popular in the 1950's, when the fashion was for ripping out anything Victorian and replacing it with souless, non functional ugly stuff. The whole thing was less than 6" wide which made it useless as a mantlepiece, as the clock is 7" wide, it obscured the original art nouveau tilesss and stuck out 2' into the room. Being concrete and tile, an unsteady 2 yr old had already fallen over it several times, and the risk of serious injury was increasing as the top was about level with her head when she got to 3 years old. Newham Council were my former employers. They had a purge of those with high sickness levels. They sacked several people, two of whom were asthmatic. The full time asthmatic got reinstated on appeal. Despite proving that my manager massaged my sickness figures (doubling them pro rata to my part time status, thus giving me a 6 day working week once a month and twice as many sick days as actually taken), my appeal failed, simply because I was part time. To give an example... if I worked 3 days one week, and took the middle day off sick, my manager would work it out as if I were full time, thus giving me a 6 day week and 2 days off sick, regardless of which days I took. Obviously, if I were at work Wed, off Thurs but back Fri, I would have worked the same if I'd been full time. Get it? In the UK, despite being a life threatening illness, more so than diabetes or epilepsy (stats show more people die in a year from asthma than the other two) asthma is not considered a disability. Were it so, I'd still be there. Pickaxe and a 5lb lumphammer - a pickaxe is a large digging implement, a wooden handle with a curved blade fixed at one end. The handle is fixed to the middle of the blade, one end of which is pointed, the other flattened out to make a cutting edge some 2-3 inches across. Commonly used for breaking concrete, levering up paving slabs and other physical labour. A lumphammer is a sturdy wooden handle bearing a solid metal head, roughly rectangular in shape, weighing between 2lb - 8lb. The commonest is 5lb. Used in conjunction with a wedge or chisel, it is heavier than the common hammer and is used for tougher substances such as concrete. Clearer now? It cheered me up no end. LTS
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 07 Apr 02 - 01:42 AM What are you talking about?
>I christened our 1950's tiled fire surround 'Newham Council' (they'd just sacked me for being asthmatic and part time), then beat the crap out of it with a pickaxe and a 5lb lump hammer |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Catherine Jayne Date: 06 Apr 02 - 11:56 AM Any good ideas would be grateful. I tried going out for a walk in the glorious sun today but it hurt too much. I've run out of cigarettes and I've nearly finished off the JD. I think I need to curl up with my cats and watch a girlie film............OR I would like to beat the crap out of something but snails can move faster than me at the moment. Oh well fake smiles all round I think!!! cat |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 06 Apr 02 - 04:14 AM GUEST - it's a bad time when not even a dead bunny gets me cheered up.... I feel the need to rip something up... last few times that's happened, I christened our 1950's tiled fire surround 'Newham Council' (they'd just sacked me for being asthmatic and part time), then beat the crap out of it with a pickaxe and a 5lb lump hammer, or took the same 'implements of destruction' to the patio, temporarily renamed 'that bastard from work' and ended up with a 3ft deep, 4ft square pond. Heaven only knows what will happen this time.... we may end up with a serving hatch in the dining room wall or a bedroom with suspended bed and gothic roof beams (I want to move a ceiling light..... we may end up with no ceiling.....) LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 05 Apr 02 - 11:16 PM dead easter rabbits and chickys
because they are in my belly
chocolate and mellow of course
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Deckman Date: 30 Mar 02 - 04:14 PM Bride Judy's tongue in my ear! CHEERS, Bob(deckman)Nelson |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: MichaelAnthony Date: 30 Mar 02 - 12:16 PM Eating a can of tuna with triskets. Changing my sleeping pattern. Interacting with someone I find intelligent and sensitive. Guthrie. Doing something small that I've been putting off for a while, like slightly organizing the dresser. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: lady penelope Date: 30 Mar 02 - 10:16 AM Hi Liz, I'd forgotten about that! Was that at the Towersy when you pegged me out in my army surplus poncho? I have just aquired a different poncho with no convinient peg holes.........<20>: ) TTFN M'Lady P. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CarolC Date: 30 Mar 02 - 03:10 AM Maybe it's his eyes, LtS. He's able to use his eyes to communicate an amazing amount of stuff. Especially devilishness. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 30 Mar 02 - 03:04 AM I watched Cheers yesterday morning... I can't see why I thought it was so funny 20 years ago.... except for Carla. I want to be Carla (and not just because she's married to Danny DeVito... I've no idea why I find that man attractive, but I do..... is this another symptom of impending fruitcakeness?). LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: MichaelAnthony Date: 30 Mar 02 - 03:04 AM Midchuck, Are you sure about the exercise? I guess it varies. Sometimes, it does me some good. Othertimes, even after doing it when I really don't feel like it, it doesn't seem to make much of a difference. Or is this just me making exuses? |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST,DL Date: 30 Mar 02 - 02:41 AM Cheers the tv show Cheers |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CapriUni Date: 29 Mar 02 - 02:36 PM Four neighbor children running up my front walk and ringing my doorbell for no other reason than to hand me freshly picked daffodills, and then running off again. : - ) Makes my worries about relationships with grown-ups much less important. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 29 Mar 02 - 01:33 PM And to round of a very pleasant day,a rather lovely hug from a leatherclad man!!!!!!! Diva |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 29 Mar 02 - 12:38 PM raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST,mg Date: 28 Mar 02 - 03:58 PM I am grateful that I don't have this problem. I suspect a large percentage of it in many people is biological, and one place to look is fatty acid intake..both quality and quantity. Don't get on the low-fat or no-fat or no saturated fat bandwagon if you are depressed, especially if you are from Irish, Scandinavian or Native American ancestry. I have read in several health books that we do not convert certain fatty acids right because of our ancestors' easy access to and dependence on seafoods. So eat your seafoods, several times a week. Salmon is especially good they say..or fish oil tablets. Read up on depression and fatty acid imbalances. Read Krispin Sullivan (I think) on Vitamin D deficiencies which are rampant..get in the sunshine, unless contraindicated. Read up on trans-fats and the havoc they are wreaking in people's nervous system and circulatory system structure. Anyway, what cheers me up..whenever I realize I have enough to eat and there are no bombs falling on me I am basically slightly happy. To get really happy I get a real coke (which I shouldn't) and a National Enquirer. If I was really sad I would put on a Linda Rondstadt album and blare it till the neighbors complained. mg |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 28 Mar 02 - 02:40 PM Eating a whole Easter egg. That won't surprise you. What will surprise you is that it was one of last years!!! Discovering the Mississippi Mud Pie Muller Corner Yoghurt. It's a yoghurt, it must be doing me good. Chocolate doesn't count when it's a yoghurt. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 28 Mar 02 - 12:56 PM Kind friends who send me hugs and good advice from afar. And old friends who know I'm in the doldrums and come out of their way to visit and drag me round Jedburgh and feed me huge cream teas,then make me walk it off!!!!!!! Diva |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CapriUni Date: 28 Mar 02 - 12:45 PM Jerry -- Then again, sometimes the happiness comes from the pursuit itself -- doing something, anything, often fights off dispair. Especially when the dispair comes from feeling powerless. I truely believe that the purpose of life is to experience joy (whether that purpose is granted by a Divine being, or arose out of the evolutionary process is irrevelent, as far as I'm concerned). But that doesn't mean we ever come by joy easily. After all, the purpose of a cactus's roots is to find water in the desert. But even so, keeping joy as the focal point of my thoughts and actions is a big help, even when that focal point is on the distant horizen. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Jerry Rasmussen Date: 28 Mar 02 - 07:04 AM Doing something for someone who is worse off than I am. Just because you have the inaleinable right to pursue happiness doesn't mean you're going to catch it. Jerry |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 28 Mar 02 - 03:49 AM How long you got Squeaky?? Even the thought of Ian Bruce in his leather trousers isn't denting this....and I'm going to the folk club to see him tonight Diva |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 28 Mar 02 - 02:57 AM Hey Diva, what about a whingefest one evening....? I ate a whole easter egg yesterday. Didn't help. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Murph10566 Date: 27 Mar 02 - 11:27 AM Invariably: my beautiful wife, Patricia... Brilliant post, Celtic Soul... (and so many others)... By logic: oft-times lately - The Mudcatters... Thanks to all, M. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 27 Mar 02 - 10:49 AM Not a lot at the moment. Not even chocolate. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 27 Mar 02 - 10:12 AM To drag this screaming and kicking back to music....
Hit the prozac, Thank you Lady P, have used this so much recently..... LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Catherine Jayne Date: 24 Mar 02 - 05:50 AM I agree with Liz about the photo albums.....only having a handful of photos of my familiy and actually looking at them makes me feel even worse when I feel down. I havent seen any of my familiy apart from my 18 year old night club mad brother since christmas. I find listening to my favourite cd, a hot bubble bath surrounded by candles, a long chat whether over the phone or in person and a hug helps. If all of the above fail then a huge bar of chocolate, a pack of 2o cigarettes and a bottle of Jack Daniels!!!!! catsPHiddle x |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Mrs Cobble Date: 23 Mar 02 - 05:44 PM ......Daffadills in the little wood next to my house....... Mrs C |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Ebbie Date: 23 Mar 02 - 04:43 PM 'Misery loves company'? Nope. I remember from years ago when I was really depressed, hearing someone else's sad story didn't cheer me at all. It just made me realize all over again that the world is a really, really sad place. In recent years (20 or so), it's much easier not to get into that space at all. In fact, when I do, I have created it myself. I call it 'poisoning my own well'. Like not being able to keep your tongue from a wobbly tooth. For me, since I evidently don't have a chemical imbalance, it's easier just not to go there. What cheers me the most, and most quickly, is throwing a jam or song circle in my own home. Even when I'm not up to participating myself, as after recent surgery, just immersing myself in live music among friends is a nurturing, absorbing experience, something I hope to honor the rest of my life. Ebbie |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 23 Mar 02 - 02:52 PM The sight of 5 fairy wing clad pink and white lacy things called children having a whale of a time dancing the can can, dropping the whole of the party table onto the floor, minus birthday cake, thank heaven!!, and knowing I don't have to do it for another year, that has cheered me up!!! Hearing Manitas clear up the remainder of the mess has cheered me up even more!! LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Celtic Soul Date: 23 Mar 02 - 12:27 PM Sharon A penned: "I dunno, I found Night Owl's thread depressing. Not because of the stories of tragedy in her life, but because of the stories of all the things she has done with her life. Makes me think, "Geez, I'm 45 and I haven't done sh** with mine!!!!" (I'm not sure how true that really is, but one tends to think in absolute negatives when one is in a funk!)" I hear that! Recently (in terms of my whole life) I learned something to help with this one, though. In order to change your perception/self image for the long haul (so that it carries through even during the tough times), you have to make a habit of looking at what is good and right in your life. The things you have done well, and try not to make many comparisons. Even when faced with internal or external judgmental behaviour, you have to continue looking at what it is you have done that is good and right. I learned this by looking at my kid, and watching when she *really* learned and grew the most. It is always when she is positive, and is recieving positive reinforcement, especially in moments of stress. When she is feeling bad about herself, or when she is being criticized, she learns how to feel bad, but nothing really changes. In order for her to move beyond it, she needs to be positive. And I discovered that, even though I am 40 years of age, I am no different. What is different for me though is that I am cognizant of the fact that I play the primary role in my own happiness, and that the worlds opinions are simply that, their opinions, and not necessarily "the truth". Now if I could just make my heart believe it 24/7, I'd be doing really well. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Uncle_DaveO Date: 23 Mar 02 - 08:16 AM Singing for an audience, anywhere from one to you-name-it in size, whether in actual presence or on Paltalk. I never feel so alive as when performing. Dave Oesterreich |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: lady penelope Date: 23 Mar 02 - 07:30 AM Parker wearing the "Hat of a thousand smiles" My cats Damn loud sing Watching an over emotional film ( tears streaming down my face "I'm so happy!" ) Walking round in Parkers shoes (my feet are size 6, Parker's are size 11 ) Free wheeling down a bloody great big hill, Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Blowing bubbles Spontainiously improvising dance routines in the kitchen Watching the sun rise out in a field or something, reassures me that the world hasn't ended during the long dark night! TTFN M'lady P.
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: fat B****rd Date: 22 Mar 02 - 02:16 PM Finishing work at 6 o'clock this morning and looking forward to a weeks holiday with lots of time to myself. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Jimmy C Date: 22 Mar 02 - 01:31 PM When I am down and need a little tonic a visit from my grandchildren does it every time. Next ,just lazing around picking and grinning, either alone or with friends. Some times I just want to get to a calming plateau with "a bottle of wine and Patsy Cline", or a Guinness, or a Bushmills, or a vodka, or a Jack Daniels, or the whole damn lot, God I am so easy to cheer up. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Bearheart Date: 22 Mar 02 - 12:49 PM Great thread. Sometimes singing the saddest song I can think of will help, because what I really need is a good cry. But it's different every time. Almost always, being touched (sex or other wise) by someone who really cares. It gets you back in your body, out of your head and you don't feel so alone. (A big depression trigger for me.) It's helpful to find out what's at the root of it-- feeling 1)alone/abandoned, 2)overwhelmed, 3)useless, 4) uncreative, 5)general low self-esteem, 6) powerless 7) not in control (perhaps because of something horrible going on in the world. Interesting, there are often physical causes. I liked Celtic Soul's comments. There are herbs that help if it's hormonal or to tonify your nervous system. (Find a good herbalist or read up on it.) But also it's now well documented that people who are blood type O are metabolicly prone to depression especially when stressed, and many of us can combat the depression simply with dietary changes and proper excercise. (For Os that means really getting the blood up-- walking, running, biking, dancing, even vigorous drumming.) See "Live Right For Your Type", the latest of the blood type diet books for lots of info. I found that just getting wheat out of my diet and substituting other grains made a tremendous difference. Bekki
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Gervase Date: 22 Mar 02 - 10:25 AM At the moment, bugger all. But cooking is good, especially if there's someone to share it with. Getting out into the elements helps too - the past two days with their hint of sun after what seem like weeks of rain have bucked me up no end. Grow something - anything; a dope plant in a pot, a row of beans or a windowbox full of herbs. Play with the cat. Laugh at the dog. Don't look backwards. And it can sometimes help to recall that, however shitty things seem at the moment, for someone, somewhere, life is hugely shittier. Buy the Big Issue every week and practise random acts of kindness. And did anyone mention music and song? Then, one fine day, you'll find that the black dog has gone. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Mickey191 Date: 21 Mar 02 - 07:50 PM Been working for years-Put on Joplin doing Me & Bobby McGee-Open the window and breathe Deeply-Roll around with the Barking Pomeranian-and lastly coffee. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Kim C Date: 21 Mar 02 - 05:58 PM When Mister acts like a big goofball, most of the time that will make me laugh. However, there are those times when foolish behavior backfires and only makes me more annoyed. I like cooking an extravagant (well, for me, anyway) meal. It's usually still cheaper than going to an extravagant restaurant, plus I get to take part in the creative process. The bathtub, as others have mentioned, is also good. I usually take a glass of wine in with me. However it isn't always a good idea to partake of alcohol when you're down. In those instances, cocoa will suffice. Pet a dog. Buy a new lipstick. Go for a drive or a walk. Make something. Several years ago my wallet was stolen, with a large amount of cash, and a couple of credit cards, which were promptly used by the perpetrators. I had just got paid, and that was all my money. I sat in the floor and made a beaded necklace, one bead at a time, and it distracted me for awhile. I never wore it, and later on took it apart to use the parts for something else. I realized in this instance it wasn't the finished product that was important, but the process of making it. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Hollowfox Date: 21 Mar 02 - 05:58 PM I dunno, Sean Connery's kinda furry on the chest for chocolate. Still, I'll get in line with the rest of you. Well, Dorrie, now I know you're not the girlfriend I had when I was seventeen! The good news is you have the good sense to ask, and the wisdom to not follow all the advice given. *g* Now for my two bits..drinking alone is generally a bad idea when you're feeling down, as alcohol is a depressant. Having a dram with a friend (when it becomes legal for you) is one thing, then it can be a relaxant. Of course you know that drinking won't solve the problem, etcetc.. enough of that lecture. Physical movement, like all that advice above to take a walk, is a very good idea. Part of this is because, if nothing else, you're changing the scenery, and you're actually doing something. Even if you're "too tired", some movement of some kind helps. Maybe it's an aid to circulation or something. Back in the 1600's, Robert Burton wrote a (now) delightfully goofy book called Anatomy of Melancholy on this very subject. This is one of the things he got right. Also (educated guess on my part), get your school work and household chores out of the way. If they pile up on you, you'll feel overwhelmed and really depressed. This lasts well past school, Hon. I'm still trying to grow up enough to follow this advice, and I have a son your age. (Don't tell him, I'm trying to keep up the illusion that I'm a good example!) That being done, do a little something you enjoy, nothing elaborate. I have some needlework I can always pick up. I even do a bit of coloring, in one of those museum gift shop coloring books I got for just such times as this (I can't draw). And of course, there's the music. If you're not making some, put on the radio or a CD, rather than listen in the silence to your own bummed out mood. When silence and solitude are the right thing, you'll know. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 21 Mar 02 - 05:01 PM I have a copy of his biography (Sean Connery) sadly no pics of him covered in chocolate. Damm!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CarolC Date: 21 Mar 02 - 04:28 PM ...although sex can be the reason one needs cheering up, if one isn't getting any. So I'm sticking with laughter. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 21 Mar 02 - 04:18 PM JudeL - refer back to John Gray's post, add Sean Connery covered in chocolate..... There you go... but remember, I thought of it first. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: bflat Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:43 PM Positive thinking; music; friendships; serving an ace; my grandson's voice; humor(I have some funny friends, natural comics); doing things for others and lots of happy memories works for me. Ellen |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: SharonA Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:31 PM Diva: I dunno, I found Night Owl's thread depressing. Not because of the stories of tragedy in her life, but because of the stories of all the things she has done with her life. Makes me think, "Geez, I'm 45 and I haven't done sh** with mine!!!!" (I'm not sure how true that really is, but one tends to think in absolute negatives when one is in a funk!) |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: JudeL Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:27 PM LtS ... Chocolate & Virtual Sean Connerys ..... sounds good to me .....it must be a really good friend who knows you well ... the only thing is what's this about never riding side-saddle again? |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Dorrie Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:25 PM guys please bear in mind i'm only 17!!!!!!! i'm far too young for sex!!!! hahaha no its true. chocolates, singing and laughing are ace d xx |