BS: Marriage

Subject: BS: Marriage
From: MBSLynne
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 05:55 AM

I have just been reading Jimmy T's thread about his 35th wedding anniversary and wondering, in these days of frequent partner-changes, how many people have actually managed to stay the course with their original partner. So...who is still on their first marriage, and how long has it been?

I'm on my second.....10 years, though we were together for five years before we got married and already had a four year old son. My first only lasted eight months.

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Wilfried Schaum
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 05:57 AM

26 years and still going on ...

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From: LilyFestre
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 06:59 AM

We've been married for 12 years and I am looking forward to many, many, MANY more years!!!!!!   :)

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Grab
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 07:00 AM

9 years this year. Got to make the most of having money now, bcos it's big expensive ring time next year! :-)

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From: GUEST,Sooz (at work)
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 07:06 AM

31 years at new year!

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From: Tinker
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 07:14 AM

19 years this month

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 07:14 AM

Actually married, 25 and counting. However, as we have been married twice (to each other), in the Greek and English churches, we actually celebrate the time we started going out together (and living together, pretty much from the start) - and that's 31 and counting...

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 07:28 AM

I manage 21 before the divorce this year.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Janie
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 08:43 AM

18 years next week.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: MBSLynne
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 08:45 AM

And I guess all you who have posted are first timers too? My cousin has just got married for the FOURTH time!

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 08:52 AM

Lynne, Been at your first wedding you cant really count that as a marriage,i have always thought Ted was the only one for your eyes!!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 08:57 AM

My wife is my first (and my last). I am her second. We're going strong at 22 years.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Rapparee
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 08:58 AM

First marriage for both of us. As of this past October 6 it's been 31 years.

Seems like 1973 was a pretty good year for Mudcat Marriages.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Cats at Work
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 09:02 AM

Jon and I haven't been married for 17 years which makes it longer than both of us were married to previous husband / wives added together!

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Mooh
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 09:46 AM

First for both, 20 years last July. Mooh.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 09:51 AM

First for both of us (Should be, I was 20 and Mrs was 19!) - 31 years now! Mainly good times. Some better that others:-D

A recent survey (where do they get them???) showed, apparantly, that any couple who are unhappy at any point in their marriage but stick it out will become happier than those who reckon it's all wine and roses!

Go for the rows and sulks, then get over it! You will last a lifetime then:-)

Cheers

Dave the Gnome

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From: Amos
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:10 AM

Good advice, DtG!!

My third, her second, 26 years strong and still breathing!! :D
We celebrated when our years together outnumbered all our prior years with anyone else!


A

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Dave Hanson
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:20 AM

Was happily married for 13 years, the other 6 were total shite.

how cane someone be in a bad mood for 6 years.

eric

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Bee-dubya-ell
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:39 AM

Susan and I will mark 16 years this coming Friday. That's a year more than wife #1 got and six more than her first hubbie. Looks like we'll hang in there until one of us croaks.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Sorcha
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:56 AM

Our first, last and only. 31 yrs.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:56 AM

I was with the now ex for 20 years, married for 12 of them. We are still on good speaking terms. I suppose that is the next best thing!

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: mack/misophist
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 11:13 AM

Time means little to me, so I've lost track. It's well over 30 years, though, might be getting close to 40. I don't really know or care. Old is old in any context.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: GUEST,Spot the Dog
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 11:29 AM

Married in 1969. Makes us 35 and a 'arf. You don't have to work hard at it when you haver a wife as nice as mine.

Spot

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: jonm
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 11:40 AM

Ten years. First time around. I'm one of the younger 'catters, from the survey a couple of weeks back.

When your wife is your best friend and your chosen partner for everything - conversation, dancing, music etc. - and when your mutual admiration is such that arguments and disagreements enable you to learn more about the other and strengthen the relationship, you are guaranteed never to be invited on Oprah.

She has recently started working where I am, which gives us opportunity for a chat at lunchtime and to actually take a break instead of working through. Nice to relax and talk without the kids for half an hour!

The fact that some people I work with think we're having an affair says a lot about us, I guess.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: GUEST,Chief Chaos
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 11:45 AM

Married for 16 years now, both of us our first.

"Marriage is a great institution,
but who wants to be institutionalized?"

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: GUEST,Chief Chaos
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 11:46 AM

ANother great quote

"People who get married are crazy,
Thats why they call it a commitment!"

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Don Firth
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 11:58 AM

Married in 1977 and doin' just fine. We both play music, we both write, and we both read voraciously. Most compatible. I got lucky.

Don Firth

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Bill D
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 12:30 PM

tried at age 19...lasted 4+ years...ah, youth!
tried at age 26...lasted 11+ years...lots of good and too much bad.
got it right at age 42....going on 24 years now and those early 'lives' are more like strange dreams I sort of remember, but I'm not sure that was me in them...

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: jimmyt
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 12:42 PM

Thanks for the kind words Lynne. 35 today! It helps if you are also best friends, which we are. A good foundation is valuable when rocky times come which they probably do to every couple. Just as I have always been envious of people who always knew what they were going to do with their lives at an early age, I am also appreciative of being one of the lucky ones who has been blessed with a great companion and best friend, who is also my wife.

Many people question her mental condition for hanging out with me, and also suggest that she is certainly eligible for sainthood.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Janie
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 12:49 PM

Yeh, first and only.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 12:57 PM

Even though i am divorced we are closer now than we were when we were married for those 21 year.I think marriage can often put a strain on the relationship and its make or break .

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Uncle_DaveO
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 01:06 PM

My Beautiful Wife had been married previously, for seven years. I was thirty-three, and had been actively looking for a wife since I was twenty-five. The girls who interested me were either already taken or weren't interested in me.

Dorris and I met on July 16, 1963, and on Labor Day she agreed to marry ne. We got married on December 21, 1963. Longest night of the year; we were no fools!

We've been ecstatically married for nearly forty-one years now.

I told her when we got married that I'd give her seventy years to straighten herself out, and if she hadn't done that in seventy years, out she'd go! Looks like she might make it, too!

Dave Oesterreich

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Wesley S
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 01:06 PM

Eight years and 2 weeks. My first and only.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Tannywheeler
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 01:13 PM

Married in early Aug., 1966. Still married to same man. We've surprised alot of our relates.

As I've learned, in bits and pieces, some family history of each of us I've seen at least 2 other scenarios which, if either had continued its play, would have brought us together almost 10 yrs. earlier than we actually met (which was in college). We might have done jr-hi & high school together, too. Even when we are not in perfect agreement I don't waste time fantasizing about divorce-leaving. I figure I couldn't manage a life that doesn't include Bob. That keeps me in line for the times I'm falling on my knees to thank God for putting Bob in my life -- not believing how lucky I am to know him. (3 kids, 4 grandkids -- how could I leave that!!??)    Tw

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 01:47 PM

Managed to stay single for almost 42 years, but still got hooked. We're at about 20.9 years now. I have no intention of letting this gal get away, so unless I finally aggrevate her until she actually has to kill me, we're in it for keeps. I write 'em, she sings 'em.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: SINSULL
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 02:00 PM

Always a bridesmaid, never a bride. Almost a few times, but they always wanted me to change - "once we're married you will have to stop..." Like that was going to happen.

I envy the ones who manage to make it work and pity the ones who didn't know they were happier single.
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: MBSLynne
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 02:08 PM

What a lot of romantics you all are!! And what sweet comments on your spouses!

Now what about all the others??

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Carly
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 02:29 PM

I married at 26, was widowed at 33. My second, and joyful, marriage has so far lasted 18 years. I consider myself to be amazingly fortunate in my husband and my son.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Peace
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 02:35 PM

Married for 27 years. Got divorced. She's a nice woman. I am hard to live with.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Dahlin
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 02:49 PM

39 years of friendship and caring. Still going strong

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Chris Green
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 03:36 PM

I was engaged when I was 21. I didn't know about it until she told a bunch of our mutual mates. Yes, she was a fruitcake. I am now single and 27 (wow, I almost made that sound like a choice!) :)

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: GUEST,Chief Chaos
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 03:43 PM

Forgot to mention,
We got married on April first.
That's right, April Fool's Day.
We didn't realize it until much later.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 04:40 PM

Forty years last July, and she hasn't chucked me out yet.

I remember on our 25th anniversary we were out, feeling like rcord breakers, and we ran into a couple we knew, and they'd been married 60 years.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: *Laura*
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 04:47 PM

my great grandparents recently celebrated their 70th anniversary! 75 years of being together - and my grandpa (age 97) on the day held her hand and said 'and not a day too long'

I want to be like that when I'm in my 90s!

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: kendall
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 07:35 PM

One month yesterday. I think I got it right this time.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: jets
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:19 PM

She was 17 when I met her. I married her when she was 20.That was 55yrs ago . Her laugh and her smile are the same as when I first meet her. Therin lies her beauty.   Joe

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Gypsy
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:27 PM

25 years in June. First time for both of us. We both play, perform, and for the most part, work together. Renewed the contract for another 25 years. Having loads of fun!

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: mousethief
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 10:46 PM

We're both on our 2nd. Her first lasted 15, mine 10; we've been together 7.

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: Padre
Date: 15 Nov 04 - 11:22 PM

29+ years - doesn't seem that long ago.

Padre

Subject: RE: BS: Marriage
From: JennieG
Date: 16 Nov 04 - 01:27 AM

His first - my second - so far we have been married for 28 years. But I am still aged only 29 and some months......I was a child bride......

Cheers
JennieG