BS: Newlywed Advice?

Subject: RE: BS: Newlywed Advice?
From: LilyFestre
Date: 24 Nov 04 - 02:56 PM

I think Jimmyt is right on the money....my husband is my best friend as well...and as my husband likes to say, when you marry someone, you have agreed to ALWAYS consider the other person before deciding to do anything (my girlfriend calls this "deferring' but I think it's more of a common respect issue).

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Newlywed Advice?
From: el_punkoid_nouveau
Date: 24 Nov 04 - 02:53 PM

The only advice I remember us getting from my Mother-in-law was "Don't ride a motorbike in the last month of pregnancy".

We took it.

epn

Subject: RE: BS: Newlywed Advice?
From: jimmyt
Date: 24 Nov 04 - 02:31 PM

Learn to be best friends with your spouse. My wife and I have worked on our friendship over the years and it will help you weather whatever storm comes along. I can't imagine what could be more important on my marriage. Try to look at things wrom both perspectives. This is, of course, impossible, but at least try to see things from your partner's perspective as well as yours. You would be surprised how many confilcts this will help resolve.

Subject: RE: BS: Newlywed Advice?
From: DougR
Date: 24 Nov 04 - 02:27 PM

A drop is as good as a gallon.

DougR

Subject: RE: BS: Newlywed Advice?
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 24 Nov 04 - 02:26 PM

Don't go camping in a small tent for the honeymoon!
Giok [Don't ask]

Subject: RE: BS: Newlywed Advice?
From: LilyFestre
Date: 24 Nov 04 - 02:20 PM

Our first 6 months was AWFUL...we fought and bickered and carried on like two complete idiots. Why? Who knows...new job, the idea of being with someone FOREVER (the reality of it I suppose)....I could pin it on those kinds of things but the truth is, I don't know why we didn't get along...we just didn't. We had lived together and knew each others good points and bad so I can't blame it on that either...we just didn't mesh. We did a lot of yelling (which solved nothing) and eventually just both settled down. We learned to talk things out (never had a big fight before we got married), give each other space and exactly how much and when to compromise. It was a miserable time and to be quite honest, I asked myself MANY times just exactly WHAT HAVE I DONE?!?!?!?!?

It's now 12 years later and we are very happily married. It's not always daisies and sunshine but for the most part, we are indeed, very happy. I'm glad I didn't kill him....er...uh...I mean, um...I'm glad I stuck it out and learned how to get past all the initial bickering and ridiculous stuff that we fought about.

Chin up....you married him for many reasons...think of those and keep those things in mind when it gets rough.

All my best,

Michelle

Subject: BS: Newlywed Advice?
From: hesperis
Date: 24 Nov 04 - 01:59 PM

So, what horrible stories and blazing triumphs and nice quiet moments did you have when you were newlywed? What advice would you give to a couple starting out on this weird and wonderful strange trip through life?

Songs good too.

Thanks, I really need some Mudcat Cheer right now.