BS: Absolute weirdness

Subject: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: ranger1
Date: 09 May 05 - 02:50 PM

In the past four days I have found out that BOTH of my parental units are getting re-married (and, no, not to each other, THANK GOODNESS!) Is there something in the water? Is the madness spreading? It's not that I mind either one of them finding someone who makes them happy to settle down with. It's the suddeness of it all. Neither parental unit has known their prospective mate for very long. Not to mention I get the news of both impending new hitchings in such a short span of time. Not long enough to process the first before I get hit with the second. Yep, I'm completely weirded out here.
ranger1, just venting

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Peace
Date: 09 May 05 - 02:57 PM

Insanity is hereditary. We get it from our kids.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Ebbie
Date: 09 May 05 - 02:57 PM

Sounds like they have more in common than they thought!

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: ranger1
Date: 09 May 05 - 03:00 PM

Et tu, Brucie?
LOL, Ebbie. That makes TWO things they have in common now. The other being me, of course :)

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: GUEST
Date: 09 May 05 - 03:21 PM

Spring is in the air and a young man's thoughts turn to ...you know.

Same with women.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Bunnahabhain
Date: 09 May 05 - 06:46 PM

Are you sure absolute wierdness is a good thing to vent to Mudcat? there might be some horrible feedback effect, and you end up worse than when you started....

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: The Fooles Troupe
Date: 09 May 05 - 07:03 PM

... there's enough of it here already....

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: SINSULL
Date: 09 May 05 - 07:26 PM

They aren't expecting bridal showers and limousines are they? Somehow I can picture you as Maid of Honor in pink ruffly frou frou tripping on high heels and hems. Hee hee
Be happy for them, Tami.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: hilda fish
Date: 09 May 05 - 07:58 PM

It's a strange one isn't it, when marriage is 'wierd'? Given that you are talking about your parents and the suddenness of it all which is a bit of a shock to the system I gather - I am always very wierded out these days at any impending nuptials. Yet I was raised with the idea that this was a 'normal' course of events and any variation was 'wierd'. By the same token, friends who have hitched in recent years have made intelligent decisions, I respect them, and also very happy for them. It's just ....... well they were okay anyway. Why spend all the money to get a relationship that existed anyway approved by the state? Or is my era showing?

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Bill D
Date: 09 May 05 - 08:07 PM

parental UNITS? Can't those things just be re-programmed? Open a panel and switch some wires?

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: John O'L
Date: 09 May 05 - 08:11 PM

Absolute weirdness Ranger1?

Sounds more like relative weirdness.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: dianavan
Date: 09 May 05 - 08:35 PM

Wierd, yes, but I applaud anyone who wants to give marriage another chance. Its not easy to find someone who will accept all of your baggage (that includes children) and agree to a life partnership. Just be happy that they will not grow old alone and depend on you for all of their love and affection. Its much healthier. Wish them the best and bury your doubts, they probably have enough of their own.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Azizi
Date: 09 May 05 - 10:06 PM

Amen to Dianavan's comments.

Ranger1, try to be happy for them. And if you really aren't feelin it, at least try to do no harm.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Don(Wyziwyg)T
Date: 10 May 05 - 05:47 AM

If I read your post correctly Ranger1, your main worry seems to be that they have known their prospective new spouses for a very short time.

It doesn't always take very long to establish a relationship, and the old adage "marry in haste, repent at leisure" usually applies to young people with little or no experience of what is required for a successful marriage. Remember that your parents are not looking into a sixty or seventy year future any more.

I met my wife on a Saturday evening, and proposed on the Sunday. She said yes, and in April 2005 we celebrated our 40th anniversary with our two chidren, their spouses, three grandchildren, my parents, and my wife's mother. I've never had the inclination to repent, hell, I've never had the TIME.

Be happy for them
Don T.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Dave Hanson
Date: 10 May 05 - 10:08 AM

Parental units ? if you'd had a mother and father like the rest of us they wouln't be doing wierd things.

eric

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: GUEST,Clint Keller
Date: 10 May 05 - 03:41 PM

Weird, weird, weird.

I before e except in weird words, as we pedants say.

clint

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Kim C
Date: 10 May 05 - 03:47 PM

That's much more pleasant than my weirdness. I have had three deaths in my circle of friends (in their families) within a week's time.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Azizi
Date: 10 May 05 - 04:24 PM

Don(Wyziwyg)T,

Your wife and you are blessed.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 10 May 05 - 04:48 PM

There were some good Saturday night parties in the sixties...
Congratulations, Don(Wysiwyg)T!

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: GUEST,Peter Woodruff
Date: 10 May 05 - 04:59 PM

If this happened to me. I would simply resolve this as a destiny thing?

Peter

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: ranger1
Date: 10 May 05 - 08:22 PM

Hey, I'm cool with parental bliss. It was just a shock to the system, that's all. And to find out in the same week that they're both re-welding was a little much. My former step-mum passed away 10 years ago, and if my dad's happy, that's great. I'm really close to the guy who raised me (my step-dad, not my biological dad), so that may be the hang-up with mum's decision. They've only been split up a couple of years. Anyway, I'm a little calmer about this today--I've had a couple of days to process (not to mention a Guinness or two).

However, I don't do pink frou-frou frilly gowns. If you want that story, it'll be on another thread!

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: SINSULL
Date: 10 May 05 - 08:41 PM

pink frou-frou and a tiara with dangles. hee hee

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: ranger1
Date: 12 May 05 - 06:41 PM

SINSULL, you are cruel, very cruel.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 12 May 05 - 07:05 PM

With DANGLES?!?

Ach du lieber!

(Tami, how about camo? I know some people who did a camo wedding, including wedding night attire -- now try to find THAT at Victoria's Secret!!!)

Linn

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: LadyJean
Date: 13 May 05 - 12:19 AM

I am very much alone in the world, and likely to stay that way. But I'm not entirely happy about it. It might be nice to have someone who was pleased to see me when I came home, besides my cats. Your parental units probably see things the same way.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: GUEST,leeneia
Date: 13 May 05 - 11:15 AM

Marriage is not weird, it's weddings that are weird in this day and age.

I used to work in a fabric store. One day my manager asked if I would come in the next day, although I had not been scheduled. I said, "I will on one condition."

"What's that?"

"That somebody else handles the brides and the brides' mothers."

"Oh, darn, who else can I ask?"

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: dianavan
Date: 13 May 05 - 10:17 PM

I agree with leeneia -

Marriage is O.K. if that's what the couple wants. Weddings, on the other hand, can be a bit strange in this day and age with all the ex's and steps, halves and various religions. I think the happy couple should just elope and throw a big party for all their friends and family after the honeymoon. Sure would save alot of money and angst.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: GUEST,crazy little woman
Date: 14 May 05 - 10:53 AM

I once met a woman who was a guest at a wedding to be held on a Carribean beach. (I live in Kansas City.) The bride and groom had decided to have a "Disney wedding," and all the guests had been told to come dressed as a Disney character.

Me, I would have developed a case of "fictional flu" before doing something like that.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: matai
Date: 15 May 05 - 08:23 AM

Right now I'm making my daughter a wedding dress. This feels really weird because the last Wedding-dress I made was my own when I was about 18. I couldn't possibly imagine wanting my mother to make one for me. My daughter has so much faith in my ability to make a dress that is right for her that it is quite difficult for me to take it in (sickening) I've been sewing in some kind of dream like I'm living inside a fairy-tale or something, being the fairy-godmother, magicking up some gossamer gown. (if only I had a wand) I still can't really figure it. Especially when she could catch the Train down to New York and buy something fabulous off the peg. Perhaps I'm just a snob and want her to have something more than home-grown or maybe its just that I hate sewing (and weddings) but it is too late to tell her that now. And she probably wouldn't believe me. How does one get 'fictional flu' I think I need a long term dose or one of those spindles that put you to sleep for a hundred years.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: Charley Noble
Date: 15 May 05 - 10:44 AM

Range1-

Wish them all well and try to get to know these new step-parents, step by step so to speak. Be caution, though. You never know when they'll liable to snap or claw. Maybe you should consider mellowing them down with some catnip. They may even be terrified of you, and scuttle under the furniture to hide.

My parents hung out together for some 70 years, so I really don't speak from experience.

Do you want a ride to the Press Room Shanty Sing next Saturday, pick-up at the usual spot at or around 2:15 pm?

Cheerily,
Charley Noble

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: dianavan
Date: 15 May 05 - 01:07 PM

matai - I would feel honored if my daughter wanted me to sew her wedding gown. I think this wedding means alot to her and she's making sure that it is all about family ties. Wedding or no wedding - its up to the bride. I'm sure she will be beautiful!

The rest of us endure and cater to her 'fancies'.

I'm pretty sure that when the time arrives, my own daughter will want all the trimmings and then some. I'm actually dreading the day. My best hope is that it will be a small family affair with only the immediate family. I doubt that what I want will influence her in any way at all. Its her day.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: GUEST,crazy little woman
Date: 15 May 05 - 04:39 PM

My theory is that you should give a girl some fancy clothes while she's growing up. Perhaps that way she won't spend her childhood longing for her wedding day, because that is the only day when she is beautiful and important.

So give her a pretty dress for Christmas, for Easter or a concert. Don't have her live her whole life in jeans and T-shirts. It will pay off in self-esteem later on.

I'm convinced that many of the young brides I deal with are far more interested in the wedding than in the marriage.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: matai
Date: 17 May 05 - 10:04 AM

It is interesting that you should say this, clw because it is precisely what I did. I gave, sometimes made my daughter fancy clothes while she was growing up. Now she is very grown she wants another fancy outfit, made by her mum, to wear on her wedding day. BTW she is already married in the small registry marriage sense. This is the big ceremony where she invites all the friends and family going right back into her deepest memories of past, she's an historian afterall. I guess she is pulling together all the threads, so to speak.

Subject: RE: BS: Absolute weirdness
From: GUEST,leeneia
Date: 18 May 05 - 09:21 AM

Congratulation, matai! I think it will be a beautiful and meaningful event.

At my mother's funeral, I listed the outfits she had made me and my sister as girls in her eulogy. I realize now that those pretty dresses were her way of showing her love.